Lets all be anxious/depressed together.

Kaching · 11-02-2013 10:04pm

neemish wrote: »

Hey Kaching and Cloud! How are you keeping... Know what you mean about feeling like a stranger.

Tired at the moment, well not tired drained. It doesn't matter how much i sleep, i never feel rested

Know what you mean . Not great tbh

neemish · 11-02-2013 10:39pm

Kaching wrote: »

Know what you mean . Not great tbh

Its one foot in front of the other time. My appetite is gone. Everyone thinks i'm fine but.... I call it the x-factor and its just not there

Hersheys · 11-02-2013 10:41pm

Missed you Neemish, how you doing?

neemish · 11-02-2013 10:47pm

Hersheys wrote: »

Missed you Neemish, how you doing?

Hanging in there. Good days but feel like i'm dragging myself around. Lots of migraines and not feeling well. Flashbacks are taking over my life. Trying to get them back under control.

How are you doin?

Hersheys · 11-02-2013 10:55pm

neemish wrote: »

Hanging in there. Good days but feel like i'm dragging myself around. Lots of migraines and not feeling well. Flashbacks are taking over my life. Trying to get them back under control.

How are you doin?

Bit of a struggle the past while, bad thoughts and a bit of self harm. My abuser is pretty much back in my life & I can't avoid it. Doc has been amazing but genuinely feel like I can't get thru the next few weeks.

neemish · 11-02-2013 11:09pm

Hersheys wrote: »

Bit of a struggle the past while, bad thoughts and a bit of self harm. My abuser is pretty much back in my life & I can't avoid it. Doc has been amazing but genuinely feel like I can't get thru the next few weeks.

Hugs

Kaching · 11-02-2013 11:16pm

neemish wrote: »

Hugs

We need a meetup . Thing is most of ye are probably from Dublin .hmmm

neemish · 11-02-2013 11:21pm

Kaching wrote: »

We need a meetup . Thing is most of ye are probably from Dublin .hmmm

Def. i'm in dublin. What abt other people? Even mention north/south etc

loveisdivine · 12-02-2013 11:41am

Anxiety was better yesterday. Didnt have any panicky feelings at all. I think its cos I'm generally busier during the week. Its at weekedsn when I've less to do that they creep up.

Read some more of my Overcoming Worry book last night. Set some goals. Just need to work out how to achieve them now.

I'm just so scared of becoming depressed. How do you know if you're depressed?

titan18 · 12-02-2013 5:56pm

These last few days have been awful. Was hoping all this crap was gone away, but it just feels like before all over again

Da Shins Kelly · 12-02-2013 6:05pm

Haven't had a great week. Been struggling with exams and deadlines and have also moved out of my flat this week because I was at the end of my tether with my housemate. It was like living with Sheldon Cooper except not nearly as amusing, and he just made me very frustrated all the time, having to tip-toe around him, which only increased my stressing and worrying. However, the people I'm living with now seem super laid back and very friendly, they're all bringing me out with them tomorrow night after I do my last exam, so that has lifted my spirits a bit!

Lightbulb Sun · 12-02-2013 6:22pm

Da Shins Kelly wrote: »

Haven't had a great week. Been struggling with exams and deadlines and have also moved out of my flat this week because I was at the end of my tether with my housemate. It was like living with Sheldon Cooper except not nearly as amusing, and he just made me very frustrated all the time, having to tip-toe around him, which only increased my stressing and worrying. However, the people I'm living with now seem super laid back and very friendly, they're all bringing me out with them tomorrow night after I do my last exam, so that has lifted my spirits a bit!

Were you tied down to a lease with the previous housemate?

Da Shins Kelly · 12-02-2013 8:28pm

Lightbulb Sun wrote: »

Were you tied down to a lease with the previous housemate?

I sublet the room, so I got my deposit back, which was the terms of the agreement. Thank God. I needed to get out of there. I think I would have left anyway even if I didn't get the deposit back. He was a bullsh*t housemate.

Hersheys · 13-02-2013 2:22am

Oh god the panic is so bad tonight. I can't stop my mind racing at all. I need someone to be my person.

Lightbulb Sun · 13-02-2013 2:34am

Hersheys wrote: »

Oh god the panic is so bad tonight. I can't stop my mind racing at all. I need someone to be my person.

Anything that you've tried before to calm it down? I find that interacting with computer screens just keeps it racing. Reading helps wind it down.

Hersheys · 13-02-2013 9:09am

Lightbulb Sun wrote: »

Anything that you've tried before to calm it down? I find that interacting with computer screens just keeps it racing. Reading helps wind it down.

I eventually switched off. But only after I did something stupid

I hate myself right now & I've to go to the doctor today & convince her I'm ok when I'm the opposite.

Lightbulb Sun · 13-02-2013 10:16am

Hersheys wrote: »

I eventually switched off. But only after I did something stupid I hate myself right now & I've to go to the doctor today & convince her I'm ok when I'm the opposite.

Please don't pretend you're ok when visiting the doctor Hersheys. Tell her everything that's on your mind and how bad you're feeling.

Call Me Jimmy · 13-02-2013 5:04pm

Hersheys I definitely understand the whole doing something stupid and having to minimise it after the fact but really do try to just be honest. If you knew me you'd realise how possibly contradictory this statement is but honesty and truth will make your life easier.

Hersheys · 13-02-2013 6:55pm

I tried to be honest. But we ran out of time. So kind of bummed out about that.

Gremlinertia · 13-02-2013 8:37pm

Too many funerals on top of anniversaries on top of funerals - i'm goin crazy here.. Hospital tomorrow if i can get there. Least it's crappy weather out so no one can convince me to go do anything.. :mad:

Hersheys · 13-02-2013 8:42pm

Gremlinertia wrote: »

Too many funerals on top of anniversaries on top of funerals - i'm goin crazy here.. Hospital tomorrow if i can get there. Least it's crappy weather out so no one can convince me to go do anything.. :mad:

Omg I thought I was the only one with funerals up the yazoo.

Gremlinertia · 13-02-2013 8:47pm

Hersheys wrote: »

Omg I thought I was the only one with funerals up the yazoo.

No, not at all, in the last six months i've lost six friends. You?

Hersheys · 13-02-2013 9:14pm

Gremlinertia wrote: »

No, not at all, in the last six months i've lost six friends. You?

There's a lot of death & terminally ill people in my life. I can't escape death & I can't explain my curiosity with it.

Gremlinertia · 13-02-2013 9:25pm

Hersheys wrote: »

There's a lot of death & terminally ill people in my life. I can't escape death & I can't explain my curiosity with it.

It's strange isn't it, friends have been ill or dying the last few years and not it's like death is part of the air i breathe. I've 'broken' the news so many times to people that now i hate calling in case they think it's bad news..

Hersheys · 13-02-2013 9:32pm

Gremlinertia wrote: »

It's strange isn't it, friends have been ill or dying the last few years and not it's like death is part of the air i breathe. I've 'broken' the news so many times to people that now i hate calling in case they think it's bad news..

Every year for about 10 years someone in my life has killed themselves. The last suicide hit me hard. Other deaths were expected. Doesn't make them easier.

I can't wait for today to be over. Very bad day.

Kaching · 13-02-2013 9:38pm

I give up trying

Gremlinertia · 13-02-2013 9:51pm

Today is near over, there'll be no poking me nose outside door anyway.. Try keep ok peeps.

Call Me Jimmy · 14-02-2013 12:26am

Hersheys wrote: »

Every year for about 10 years someone in my life has killed themselves. The last suicide hit me hard. Other deaths were expected. Doesn't make them easier.

I can't wait for today to be over. Very bad day.

Jesus that is tough. My genuine sympathies are with you for what its worth. I find slowing my body down almost walking in slow motion around the house leading up to bed time and becoming aware of all the tightness in my body (oooh kinky :P) helps me relax before bed and realise that at the very least I will be comfortable physically as I go to bed.

But I also know that I find it very difficult to even bother when I'm in the sort of mood you might be in now.

titan18 · 14-02-2013 1:30am

Rather odd, as I wasn't really expecting, but been having some trouble lately with this stuff, as I posted a few days ago, but asked a girl I liked out tonight, she said no, didn't see me the same way, and it actually lifted me even though I was rejected.

Might be different if I see her with a bf, cos I'd be wishing I was that guy, but even though I got rejected, as of now, I actually feel better

I think it's probably cos I knew I'd get rejected, and just had to do as a what if, and it wasn't something I regretted in the future

Kinda interested to see if it hits me in a few days or something, and I start thinking about it too much

Tom_Cruise · 14-02-2013 1:44am

phi3 wrote: »

Hi. Welcome. If you have been feeling down for a very long time, it might be best that you talk to your GP. There's no point suffering unnecessarily. Even if it may go away on it's own eventually, you will be miserable while you wait. And it's likely you will need a bit of help to get rid of it. Doctors see it every day

Thanks.

I have been thinking about it, but i don't really see what my GP can do to help me apart from prescribe medication, i don't like the thought of having to take tablets just to function (i really don't mean to come across as being arrogant or better than the situation, sorry if i do as i know medication helps many people).

I am pretty clueless as to what course of action to take, but talking to my GP is a start. Thanks again for your advice.

RubyXI · 14-02-2013 11:01am

Tom_Cruise wrote: »

Thanks.

I have been thinking about it, but i don't really see what my GP can do to help me apart from prescribe medication, i don't like the thought of having to take tablets just to function (i really don't mean to come across as being arrogant or better than the situation, sorry if i do as i know medication helps many people).

I am pretty clueless as to what course of action to take, but talking to my GP is a start. Thanks again for your advice.

I know what you mean about the medication. I'm the same. Maybe you could try one of the books I posted somewhere above? In the UK these books are actually prescribed to people instead of anti-depressants. I am currently reading "Overcoming Social Anxiety". It's quite good. Maybe you could try the "Overcoming Depression" one. I downloaded it on my phone so I can read it away on the bus or wherever so no-one knows I'm reading it.

titan18 · 14-02-2013 11:59am

titan18 wrote: »

Rather odd, as I wasn't really expecting, but been having some trouble lately with this stuff, as I posted a few days ago, but asked a girl I liked out tonight, she said no, didn't see me the same way, and it actually lifted me even though I was rejected.

Might be different if I see her with a bf, cos I'd be wishing I was that guy, but even though I got rejected, as of now, I actually feel better

I think it's probably cos I knew I'd get rejected, and just had to do as a what if, and it wasn't something I regretted in the future

Kinda interested to see if it hits me in a few days or something, and I start thinking about it too much

Well, that was short term anyway. Not even 12 hours

Hersheys · 14-02-2013 12:32pm

I feel utterly dejected today.

RubyXI · 14-02-2013 5:55pm

Hi Guys. Need a bit of advice please! I've been texting this guy and have met up with him once. He really likes me (he says) but I can already see my anxiety getting in the way. Should I be up front with him and mention that I do have depression and anxiety? I think he might understand it but I'm not sure it's something I want to tell him so early on. Thanks

Call Me Jimmy · 14-02-2013 6:55pm

phi3 wrote: »

Hi Guys. Need a bit of advice please! I've been texting this guy and have met up with him once. He really likes me (he says) but I can already see my anxiety getting in the way. Should I be up front with him and mention that I do have depression and anxiety? I think he might understand it but I'm not sure it's something I want to tell him so early on. Thanks

Imo depends on how severe it would be, I find that even though people don't necessarily judge someone with depression and anxiety it can have a 'boring' effect on early relationships. I mean, it could possibly get too walking on edge shells nicey nicey if ye know what I mean?

Unless you are expecting panic attacks I'd say leave it out for now.

My 0.02 euro

NegativeCreep · 14-02-2013 7:00pm

For the last few weeks I've been self medicating with all manor of drugs. I'm just now starting to feel the negative effects from it. It's probably too late to stop now but fuck it.

Anyone else been in the position of self-medicating (probably the wrong term) with harder drugs than alcohol?

I'm not condoning this by the way. Don't start, By the time yoou realise it's a bad thing, it's too late to stop.

Crimbouser · 14-02-2013 8:06pm

I would be kind of cautious about telling someone you didn't completely trust. As much as depression is misunderstood, I think people in general find it much more difficult to understand anxiety e.g. what have you to be worried about and sure, we all get a bit anxious etc.

Lightbulb Sun · 14-02-2013 8:23pm

NegativeCreep wrote: »

For the last few weeks I've been self medicating with all manor of drugs. I'm just now starting to feel the negative effects from it. It's probably too late to stop now but fuck it.

Anyone else been in the position of self-medicating (probably the wrong term) with harder drugs than alcohol?

I'm not condoning this by the way. Don't start, By the time yoou realise it's a bad thing, it's too late to stop.

No, never have done. Would never see using recreational drugs as self medicating myself.

titan18 · 15-02-2013 2:05am

Just attempted something horrible, and upset the one person I trusted and felt cared about me

This has been the longest and worst week of my life, even worse than when I had it before

Call Me Jimmy · 15-02-2013 3:08am

Titan I think it is inevitable that we will hurt the ones close to us, sometimes in a big way but I think it usually brings people closer together in the end after the dust has settled.

titan18 · 16-02-2013 2:01am

Call Me Jimmy wrote: »

Titan I think it is inevitable that we will hurt the ones close to us, sometimes in a big way but I think it usually brings people closer together in the end after the dust has settled.

Hopefully, it's the only true friend I've got atm

theidiots · 16-02-2013 2:40am

I find it difficult at the moment, new job in Limerick. Thought I got on with everyone but everone in the office went for pints tonight and not one of them asked me

Everyone went, even hinted at someone I got on well with that I'm mad for pints and guess what the reply was "sure go back home to Kerry if you want a pint". Hinted at another person and said oh we only have the pub booked for 10 people :rolleyes: Its a public pub. Why do I find it hard to make new friends. This has happened a lot. I have 10 or more friends back home in Kerry who I always go on the lash with and always ring me and sometimes get looky with the ladies but whenever I move to a new place no one wants anything to do with me. Happened numerous times, I guess there is something wrong with me :mad: I am depressed, trying to build a life for myself but no one wants anything to do with me in other counties. Really annoying me at this stage :mad:

Call Me Jimmy · 16-02-2013 2:50am

theidiots wrote: »

I find it difficult at the moment, new job in Limerick. Thought I got on with everyone but everone in the office went for pints tonight and not one of them asked me Everyone went, even hinted at someone I got on well with that I'm mad for pints and guess what the reply was "sure go back home to Kerry if you want a pint". Hinted at another person and said oh we only have the pub booked for 10 people :rolleyes: Its a public pub. Why do I find it hard to make new friends. This has happened a lot. I have 10 or more friends back home in Kerry who I always go on the lash with and always ring me and sometimes get looky with the ladies but whenever I move to a new place no one wants anything to do with me. Happened numerous times, I guess there is something wrong with me :mad: I am depressed, trying to build a life for myself but no one wants anything to do with me in other counties. Really annoying me at this stage :mad:

Ah that's not on. How long are ye in the job that they already seem to know they don't want you at the pub?

theidiots · 16-02-2013 3:26am

round 2 months, just really annoys me, was in galway before, same thing happened

I'm only 27. Sitting at home alone in a 2 bed apartment gets me more depressed. I'm always up for the banter dunno what it is, serioyusly considering qutting my job now and go back on the dole to people that actually like me. Feel like i'm waisting my life working for other people. I also have to work weekends which doesn't help so don't get home too much

Call Me Jimmy · 16-02-2013 3:30am

theidiots wrote: »

round 2 months, just really annoys me, was in galway before, same thing happened I'm only 27. Sitting at home alone in a 2 bed apartment gets me more depressed. I'm always up for the banter dunno what it is, serioyusly considering qutting my job now and go back on the dole to people that actually like me. Feel like i'm waisting my life working for other people

Well that's what I would do myself but it must be something about the way you present yourself to new people/colleagues if it is a common occurrence that has a negative impact, seeing as you have a group of friends already. Are you possibly too eager?

Either that or you could be unlucky on two occasions

I couldn't handle relationships with work colleagues because I felt like I had to water-down my personality into some banal stereotype.

theidiots · 16-02-2013 3:36am

Call Me Jimmy wrote: »

Well that's what I would do myself but it must be something about the way you present yourself to new people/colleagues if it is a common occurrence that has a negative impact, seeing as you have a group of friends already. Are you possibly too eager?

Either that or you could be unlucky on two occasions

I couldn't handle relationships with work colleagues because I felt like I had to water-down my personality into some banal stereotype.

No not eager at all, bit quiet with new people at first but usually have the craic, don't come on strong are ask people to go outfor a pint, id wait for them to ask first. I do have a quiet look to me though which is not my personality whatsoever. I guess if I looked different they would ask me but oh well

Hersheys · 16-02-2013 9:17am

theidiots wrote: »

No not eager at all, bit quiet with new people at first but usually have the craic, don't come on strong are ask people to go outfor a pint, id wait for them to ask first. I do have a quiet look to me though which is not my personality whatsoever. I guess if I looked different they would ask me but oh well

Maybe next week you should invite them for pints? Just say you're gasping for one and would anyone be up for it - even just to one or two people that you feel closest to. Might help a little.

Feathers · 17-02-2013 12:14am

Hersheys wrote: »

Maybe next week you should invite them for pints? Just say you're gasping for one and would anyone be up for it - even just to one or two people that you feel closest to. Might help a little.

Or centre it round a match or something that's on? Might make it seem a little more casual, especially if you're new in the place — 'I'm heading to watch the match at XX tonight if anyone's up for it' type thing? Would also be less pressure to be conversational; no-one minds lapses in conversation while watching football, moreso than if you're just out for a few pints.

Gremlinertia · 17-02-2013 3:15pm

You could "accidentally" run into them in the pub, just don't overdo the dutch courage

NegativeCreep · 17-02-2013 3:18pm

theidiots wrote: »

I find it difficult at the moment, new job in Limerick. Thought I got on with everyone but everone in the office went for pints tonight and not one of them asked me Everyone went, even hinted at someone I got on well with that I'm mad for pints and guess what the reply was "sure go back home to Kerry if you want a pint". Hinted at another person and said oh we only have the pub booked for 10 people :rolleyes: Its a public pub. Why do I find it hard to make new friends. This has happened a lot. I have 10 or more friends back home in Kerry who I always go on the lash with and always ring me and sometimes get looky with the ladies but whenever I move to a new place no one wants anything to do with me. Happened numerous times, I guess there is something wrong with me :mad: I am depressed, trying to build a life for myself but no one wants anything to do with me in other counties. Really annoying me at this stage :mad:

Pubs are public places. Go there anyway. If you feel nervous, have a naggin before you go in. That's what I do anyway. It's confidence in a bottle.

Lets all be anxious/depressed together.

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