Why do you like being single?

Will · 06-11-2008 10:31pm #1

Just in contrast to the other thread

This isn't to say that I don't want a relationship, just observations.

I don't miss the following from relationships;

rows over nothing
communication breakdowns which lead to the above
Not having my own space
Being expected to like all of her friends, hoping they will like you
Meeting the parents for the first time, nerve racking.
The akward time at the beginning when you're still getting to know each other. Usually it's fine, but there are occassions.
When she asks you for your opinion on something and you dunno how to respond

Things I like about being single;

My own space
just gotta look after myself
Uhm dunno what else

:o:o

RacoonQueen · 06-11-2008 10:35pm

Being able to see who I like, when I like without anyone getting jealous or possessive
Not having to deal with his moods just because he has jealousy issues

Niamho! · 06-11-2008 10:40pm

i don't know... people always say its great, no rows and you can do whatever you want to do. i dont see how that would drastically change in a relationship, i would never want to be like that - do what ya wanns do for god's sake! but everyone is different. I'm practically forever single though amd i dont mind being single, but i'm getting a bit sick of it now:(. Bring on the relationships!! haha

you always want what you dont have though...

Rozabeez · 06-11-2008 10:40pm

Not having to worry if you behaviour would upset the OH

Being selfish, having more time, not having to share so much of your life with one other person, not having to put up with jealousy, controlling boyfriends, arguments, sulkers...

Creamy Goodness · 06-11-2008 10:42pm

cooties.

fits · 06-11-2008 10:44pm

Rozabeez wrote: »

Not having to worry if you behaviour would upset the OH

Being selfish, having more time, not having to share so much of your life with one other person, not having to put up with jealousy, controlling boyfriends, arguments, sulkers...

yes I agree with these. I like being able to make plans without really needing to consider others too.

Reku · 06-11-2008 11:07pm

Not having someone else suffer because of me.

mud · 06-11-2008 11:08pm

being able to feck off on adventures at the drop of a hat

being able to suit myself and use my time all for me, to do what i need to or want to

being able to eat dinner or not whenever I like

having full use of my car

duvet domination!

Rozabeez · 06-11-2008 11:16pm

Oooh, girly holidays!

what2do · 06-11-2008 11:33pm

Being totally self centered ... however then when I'm in a relationship this is a bad thing - hence why I end up being single again :-(

Censorsh!t · 06-11-2008 11:37pm

i dont like getting to know their friends, especially when their friends make no effort whatsoever. arrrgh!

my own space.
not having to worry if you look ok or the awkwardness of having a bad cold when they keep kissing you, yugh, haha.
you can actually concentrate on things.

pseudonym1 · 06-11-2008 11:39pm

Not having someone else dominating how I live my life
(this is cause I am a twat)Feeling that someone elses happiness is more important than my own
Always second to a computer game
Someone else making me feel insecure (well able to do that myself - ta)
Waking up in the middle of the night freezing
Dirty Bathroom
Always doing the dishes (still am but at least they are my own)
Forced family occasions
Lies
Fighting

cheerio · 06-11-2008 11:41pm

Having more time to spend with friends.
Having the option of going travelling or moving away.
Feeling more independent.

ChewChew · 07-11-2008 12:04am

i'm too selfish to think about anyone else so I love:

my time to myself.
i can do what i want. . when i want. . .
no rowing
no extra pressies to buy
no anniversaries and birthdays to remember cause i'm worse than a bloke for date!

cjmcork · 07-11-2008 12:24am

not having to deal with horrible in laws
spending my money without worrying what someone else will think of what I do with it - I spent my SSIA on diamonds and a jeep (instead of the wedding it was started for!)............LOVE my jeep!!!

pseudonym1 · 07-11-2008 12:29am

Oh and not forgetting misinterpreted text messages..

Madge · 07-11-2008 12:29am

cjmcork wrote: »

not having to deal with horrible in laws

+1

jellie · 07-11-2008 1:07pm

- not having to deal with irrational jealousy
- no drunken phonecalls at 3am (yay sleep)
- no getting worried hes dead in a ditch somewhere if i dont get the drunken phonecall (yes i am a complete worrier, but in my defence my ex was from a dodgy area & i always worried)
- watching what I want on tv
- watching girly DVDs without being moaned at about "watching that sh*te"

Reku · 07-11-2008 1:16pm

sar84 wrote: »

- no drunken phonecalls at 3am (yay sleep)

lol, I had friends who were prone to that (hence why I now turn my mobile off at night:D), but none of my partners were.

jellie · 07-11-2008 1:23pm

farohar wrote: »

lol, I had friends who were prone to that (hence why I now turn my mobile off at night:D), but none of my partners were.

in fairness, i had a habit of doing it too..

i still occasionally have missed calls from him in the middle of the night but ive learnt how to use the silent option on my phone

fonpokno · 07-11-2008 2:58pm

Ahh the single life. I love being single! (even though i'm not at the moment)

Total freedom to do whatever you want without having to consider someone else.

Not trying to be friends with their friends - friends of boyfriends can be the scariest people in the world. Especially when you meet them all at once and can't remember any names...

The stupid fights over nothing at all.

Meeting the parents - terrifying

The jealousy and the distrust of all other women that i develop.

Being able to lounge around the house dressed like a homeless person or in your pyjamas without the risk of the OH dropping in.

Singleness is fantastic! My OH will probably kill me if he sees this...

homerun_homer · 07-11-2008 4:35pm

Not having to think for 2.

07-11-2008 4:55pm

farohar wrote: »

Not having someone else suffer because of me.

You've been read up on PUA strategies haven't you.

Making bastards discover they have a heart isn't actually as alluring as those losers think.

It is more so. PM please.

biko · 07-11-2008 5:01pm

Having your own space
Stuff is where you left it
Not having to check with anyone before going away or to the pub
Not having to discuss serious **** when you're out or late at night
Having the remote control

John Mason · 07-11-2008 5:03pm

the only difference for me between being single and in a relationship she that i get more sex in a relationship

other then that nothing else has changed

Curlypinkie · 07-11-2008 5:44pm

*Slum around my PJ all day long
*Get up at crack of dawn if I feel like it
*Not having to tell anybody where I am or what I'm doing
*Kissing a helluvalot of cute Irish boys
*Farting in the morning (I'm such a bloke, really)
*Not having to smell his farts
*Not rowing over stupid, ridiculous things, then after the row NOT having make-up s*x because OH is still p-ed off at something not even he can remember
*Going out 2-5 times a week just because I like it
*Not having to "like" his friends
*Being able to listen to trance/house/electro from 2005 without anyone giving out (I love my neighbours)
*Walking around with morning breath untilo mid noon
*Eating in bed
*Doing my nails wherever I want

I can sit all day and write stuff down.

MizzLolly · 07-11-2008 5:57pm

When you're single you don't need to worry about:

His annoying friends
Tantrums
Jealousy
Possessiveness
Cheating
Lying
'fat' days (:P)
Your free time is your own, you go see whoever you want/do whatever you want!
You dont need to top up your phone as much :P
You dont have to worry about the plank causing a fight when you're out together
You dont get dragged along to see poxy films like James Bond :rolleyes:
There's no fear of his mother calling you his ex's name (yes, it has happened!)
You can let your bedroom get as messy as you want!
You can listen to whatever music you want without having to compromise

No stupid, stubble face! :mad::pac:
You can wear your silly star pyjamas all day long
You can go out with the guys and girls after work without having to ask permission
No weird, paranoid, drunken texts that are frickin impossible to try and decode!

RacoonQueen · 07-11-2008 5:59pm

Girls, why can't you wear your pyjamas around your boyfriends? I have no problem at all with lads seeing me in pjs with dancing cows on them.

ntlbell · 07-11-2008 6:00pm

pink fluffy bunny wrote: »

the only difference for me between being single and in a relationship she that i get more sex in a relationship

other then that nothing else has changed

If I was you I would probably stay single.

I can't think of anything worse than going out with someone that has absolutley no impact on my life in any other way rather just getting my hole.

Curlypinkie · 07-11-2008 6:06pm

mp1972 wrote: »

Girls, why can't you wear your pyjamas around your boyfriends? I have no problem at all with lads seeing me in pjs with dancing cows on them.

I have a problem with anybody seeing me in my PJ's all day. Unless I'm sick. But even then....
It's just not a good lok.

Piste · 07-11-2008 6:18pm

mp1972 wrote: »

Girls, why can't you wear your pyjamas around your boyfriends? I have no problem at all with lads seeing me in pjs with dancing cows on them.

I get jokingly given out to when I wear pyjama bottoms around the house instead of trousers!

I was happy when I was single, but since getting with my boyfriend all that's changed is I'm happier, there's nothing I can't do now that I could when I was single (aside from the obvious scoring other guys). I wouldn't be in a relationship if I felt it was restricting.

owenmakken · 07-11-2008 6:44pm

From a mans point - I like not having a redundant smelly blob of meat lyin in my bed for a week once a month

gcgirl · 07-11-2008 6:51pm

Not having to put up with someone constantly asking you ''where are you?'' or several texts while i am playing Gaa(like i have the phone with me when i'm playing?? I don't have to put up with his fecking moods or his 2 faced fecking family and i can go out as many times as i like and with whom i'm like without getting accused of being with every tom dick and harry!!

Piste · 07-11-2008 7:04pm

Ugh I couldn't stand someone who wanted to know constantly what I was up to or dissapproved of me going out- I have a mother for that!

Zaph · 07-11-2008 7:46pm

ntlbell wrote: »

If I was you I would probably stay single.

I can't think of anything worse than going out with someone that has absolutley no impact on my life in any other way rather just getting my hole.

Behave yourself please

owenmakken wrote: »

From a mans point - I like not having a redundant smelly blob of meat lyin in my bed for a week once a month

Interesting first post in this forum. Take a week off to consider what you'd like to put in your second. I'm already looking forward to it.

AlmightyCushion · 07-11-2008 7:47pm

gcgirl wrote: »

Not having to put up with someone constantly asking you ''where are you?'' or several texts while i am playing Gaa(like i have the phone with me when i'm playing?? I don't have to put up with his fecking moods or his 2 faced fecking family and i can go out as many times as i like and with whom i'm like without getting accused of being with every tom dick and harry!!

That's an advantage of not being in a relationship with a gobshíte not an advantage of being single.

Galvasean · 07-11-2008 8:18pm

I like the fact that I don't have to hide the fact that I'm actually evil.

Censorsh!t · 07-11-2008 8:51pm

Curlypinkie wrote: »

*Farting in the morning (I'm such a bloke, really)

Omg, i know how you feel. That's a definite point!:p

Creamy Goodness · 07-11-2008 9:49pm

Galvasean wrote: »

I like the fact that I don't have to hide the fact that I'm actually evil.

ohh that's a good one too.

/adds that to my list.

GirlInterrupted · 08-11-2008 9:36pm

pink fluffy bunny wrote: »

the only difference for me between being single and in a relationship she that i get more sex in a relationship

other then that nothing else has changed

It doesn't sound like a fantastic relationship, does it?

owenmakken wrote: »

From a mans point - I like not having a redundant smelly blob of meat lyin in my bed for a week once a month

I truly hope you are single forever.

Galvasean wrote: »

I like the fact that I don't have to hide the fact that I'm actually evil.

Oh no. The other thread had me feeling deprived. This one is just scaring me...

watna · 09-11-2008 10:27am

Hmm, the only advantage I could think of of not being with my OH is not putting up with my in-laws (they're seriously hard work) and a few of his friends I'm not a big fan of.

Otherwise I wear pyjamas all day, fart, have my own space if I need it, go where I like and see who I like, not eat dinner if I don't feel like it, go on girly holidays, don't wear make-up or wash my hair if I don't feel like it, watch girly films If I want (with compromise of course!)

I do, however have to smell his farts and clean the bathroom. I think he's worth it though! He's very good to me

Censorsh!t · 09-11-2008 12:41pm

Not waking in the middle of the night roooaaasting.
It's easier to get to sleep without someone half on top of you.

Blakfingernail · 09-11-2008 12:48pm

not being lied to,cheated on and stolen from is a plus.

tv3 · 09-11-2008 12:53pm

Did you ever hear the song "money money money";) hope that explains my view

Clare Bear · 09-11-2008 1:38pm

Agree with the easier to sleep thing, thank God we have a spare room in the new gaff because I'm going to need it. I find it hard to have a good night's sleep with someone else in the bed.

Another thing is you don't have to put up with certain friends of theirs that you don't like. I'm very much a person that if I don't like someone I won't put up with them for the sake of it, I only surround myself with people I like so when you're going out with someone and a couple of their friends are idiots (one in particular is a bitch but don't see her often thankfully) it's a pain in the arse having to put up with them for his sake.

And watching girlie sh1te on TV without seeing rolling of eyes or hearing tutting coming from the other side of the couch.

Reku · 09-11-2008 2:21pm

watna wrote: »

...Otherwise I wear pyjamas all day, fart...

I do, however have to smell his farts

Well it's only fair.:rolleyes:

I do find the girls being unwilling to fart around their SO's amusing though since as soon as you nod off odds are you're tooting away like a trumpet.:D
Sure if you can each hold it to get to the bathroom fair enough, but no sense being overly obsessed about it IMO.

Piste · 09-11-2008 9:04pm

Clare Bear wrote: »

Agree with the easier to sleep thing, thank God we have a spare room in the new gaff because I'm going to need it. I find it hard to have a good night's sleep with someone else in the bed.

At last, someone else who feels the same way, I thought I was just weird!

Clare Bear · 09-11-2008 9:15pm

Piste wrote: »

At last, someone else who feels the same way, I thought I was just weird!

Nope you're not alone. And it's not like he snores or moves around much or anything, just the fact that he's even there seems to keep me awake. I'll just have to get used to it I suppose.

I love my sleep

John Mason · 10-11-2008 10:03am

GirlInterrupted wrote: »

It doesn't sound like a fantastic relationship, does it?

wow, really, do you think.

personally, i think it is one of the best relationships i have ever had. i get to be me and i dont have to change and pretend to be someone else.

i though that was the whole point - obviosuly, got that complete wrong.

*** note to self, dump des for being perfect

Zaph · 10-11-2008 7:17pm

Des is perfect?

Weidii · 10-11-2008 9:16pm

Just being myself and not depending on someone/having someone depend on me.

Why do you like being single?

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