Problem with homophobic girls

NewCorkLad wrote: »

So now you are saying who you are or arent attracted to is instilled into you by the society you are brought up in. That is a strange attitude from you I must say.

We were brought up in a society were we were supposed to be disgusted by homosexuality. I've witnessed it all growing up from primary school onwards that that stuff is sick, except for lesbians, that's hot.

Obviously that has an effect on you. I had to overcome my own irrational disgust of gay sex just so I could grow up and be a healthy gay man.
I've friends who are ok with homosexuality, but some are disgusted by gay sex. Why? There's actuality no good, logical reason as to why, it's the culture we grew up in.

You might say it's not their preference, so it's ok, but I'm not disgusted my women and straight sex -because I never grew up in a world which told me to.

KingOfFairview wrote: »

I'm disgusted by plenty of straight sexual practices which society never mentioned to me, much less taught me to hate, even though I'm straight. It's taste, not bigotry. Logic is irrelevant to this discussion. Logic is irrelevant to sexuality. If it wasn't, we'd all be bisexual but we aren't.

That's fine, but compare like for like.

How is a man sucking a dick something to be put off by, if a woman does the same thing?

In like for like situations, there's no good reason to. If you think about it, and yes, logically, you can overcome your irrationalities involving basic sex, speaking generally. I'm one who was disgusted by gay sex, and for no good reason. I thought about it and realised what's the big deal -a man and a woman can pretty much do what two men can, so what's the issue?

I'm betting in a few decades such ideas will be long forgotten and people honesty won't care or second guess going out with a bisexual person.

Wibbs wrote: »

I've heard that more than once. A couple of my long term exes were bi with longterm relationships with women previous to me and they said the same thing*. There was a suspicion about bi folks. Low level enough, but definitely present. TBH I think I can see why. They might be wary of people they think might be doing a bit of sexual "tourism" and wouldn't be relationship material. Maybe that's part of it?

On the one hand I can see gay girls' point because women are more likely to do a bit of experimentation and I don't think anybody wants to get emotionally involved with someone who views them as an experiment. You see some awful blue-boxing bitches messing with people's heads and not realising the hurt they're causing.

On the other hand, that gets turned into "bi people don't exist" or "you'll grow out of it" and other really frustrating condescending stuff. I've been in conversations where gay and straight people have felt entitled to ask pretty detailed questions about my sexual history in order for me to "prove" to them that I was bisexual.

And the kind of things that have been posted here about not wanting to be with someone who's put a cock somewhere you wouldn't personally put a cock works against bi girls too. Everyone's just cockphobic really :pac:

Maphisto wrote: »

Good word I'm going to use it it more.

It's surprisingly difficult to work into a conversation!

DeadHand wrote: »

Refusing to have sex with you doesn't make a girl homophobic.

that's the difference between a 'b*tch' and a 'sl*t'....a sl*t will sleep with anyone, a b*tch with anyone but you....

(ducks 'n runs, bobs 'n weaves....)

And please stop comparing having sex with a goat to being bi sexual...we get enough bad PR.

Wibbs wrote: »

*Given that relationship history the joke is I may be one of the few straight guys out there who doesn't get any jollies from the idea of two women together. It's actually a bit "eh... no. No thanks" for me.

I dunno is it really that rare though outside porn tbh. I mean, it's a common fantasy for a reason - because the guys with these sorts of fantasies usually have the idea of two or more femme lesbians that want them, a bit like the girl that thinks she's all that and a bag of chips that she can 'convert' gay guys. It's an ego trip that very rarely plays out in reality the way the guy saw it going in his head.

For me personally, I like my women like my whiskey - straight up. I'm not into doubles or mixing, that just complicates things. All these arguments about 'logic' and 'bigotry' are pure nonsense that ignores the fact that nobody is just a cum receptacle, they're human beings with thoughts, feelings, fears and preferences of their own, and arguing 'logic' when it comes to sex is just bollocks, because it's trying to justify taking the fun out of sex and reduce it to some sanitary biological process.

There's a time for science, and logic, and rational thought, and certainly it has it's place, but I don't want to be thinking about evolutionary and reproductive processes and chemical reactions when I'm having sex, just takes all the fun out of it!

And if not being attracted to men means I'm homophobic in some peoples eyes, then they're the person with the issue, and not me.*





*The only issue I have is that I seem to have a disproportionate amount of femme lesbian friends because it's only after chatting to them I find out they're lesbian or bisexual.

Muise... wrote: »

but the smiley had no cock in its mouth.

Tilly wrote: »

I'll put in a request to DeV to have a cock smiley included.

Help Yeselves. :cool:

Czarcasm wrote: »

I think the OP is working off the misguided notion that every woman should be turned on by the idea.

I think the OP is sitting back watching everyone arguing and being delighted with himself.

It is something that a lot of women find to be a turn on in fairness. Pair of hot lads going at each other? OK! (probably nsfw)

Czarcasm wrote: »

N'awful difference electro between "a lot", and "every"...

As for the OP, just like people can smell desperation, they can also smell delusional coming a mile off

To be totally honest I just wanted an excuse to google that gif...

Mckenzie Large Teaspoon wrote: »

To be totally honest I just wanted an excuse to google that gif...

At least it wasn't as bad as the other GIF above, any guy with an inflamed penis that red would want to be seeing his GP stat!


Hmm, where's the vom GIF?

Wibbs wrote: »

Yea that's just all sorts of wrong.

as if whiskey can be measured in units, :cool: g'way with yeer millilitres!

Joeytheparrot wrote: »

I actually think if you dont fancy a person BECAUSE they are bisexual then it is homophobia/biphobia.

I'd have to question that, simply because a phobia is commonly understood to be an irrational fear, and there's nothing irrational or fearful about the fact that I'm turned off a girl because she is bisexual. They're called deal-breakers.

I'm also not attracted to someone if they're only sponging drinks off me all night, and we wouldn't call that a phobia.

When you start using umbrella terms for perfectly normal human behavior, that's when things get a bit silly and people are justified in thinking you're being needlessly petty and unreasonable.

Homophobia used to actually mean something, before it became a label for everything.

--LOS-- wrote: »

I wish I believed that there's no prejudice in being almost revulsed by bi people. Do you not get that they're the same people no matter who they're dating/having sex with. It's not something that defines them, and it's not going to have any bearing on your relationship no more than any other monogamous relationship. So I really can't understand being put off by it. Of course you will like what you like but when there's so many people that feel so strongly against dating a bi person, it just says that people still don't accept them.

Would a vegan be put off by a meat eater?


That's not a euphemism btw :pac:

wexie wrote: »

And therein (I think) lies the crux for many people : 'but if they like willies and pussies and I only have a willy/pussy.....how will they ever be satisfied with just me?'

No doubt that'll be counteracted by someone suggesting that you could never be sure either that your partner will be satisfied with just your willy, and while that might be true, you at least know from the outset there's a better chance they will be.


(of course I'm fairly vanilla in my sexual antics anyway at my age, you're unlikely to catch me swinging from the rafters any time soon, I have a phobia about breaking my neck... such is the price of being a square/prude/<insert other term I couldn't care less about here>).