Whats the one (negative) thing you'd love to change about yourself...

My overwhelming lack of self confidence and how it prevents me from having normal relationships with family, friends and men.

I would love to change my attitude to alcohol. lately, I don't drink that often or that much at all but I am always thinking about it.

I have started going to the gym recently and that has really curbed my alcohol intake but I am very aware of it and always feel like I wouldn't mind a glass ofwine .

Candie wrote: »

It's really great that you're aware of it though, you should be delighted with yourself for that. It's the most important thing.

Thank you I am boycotting paddys day this year for that very reason. This time last year I already was drinking cans! Instead I went to the gym this morning and am now drinking soup.

Things I would change about myself:

My anxiety and shyness, my bad temper, my writer's block, my weak and painful joints, my fairly bad hearing, my tendency to stick with friends who treat me like crap and drift away from the nice ones, my self-destructive streak, my sweet tooth, my bad memory and my clumsiness.

Foxhound38 wrote: »

My depression.

Ditto

I have too much empathy for people, I'd love to tone down that if I could.

Having empathy doesn't make you a good person.

My sensitivity to negative situations and confrontations. If I have a row with someone it will sit in my head all day, often as long as it takes until the dispute is resolved. I need to learn skills to handle confrontation better, and just let things go. even after all is forgiven and forgotten I still get flashbacks of what was said in various moments and it affects me all over again.

On a smaller scale I would also like to be more able to embrace change. my older brother's first child is due shortly , my initial reaction of the news was one of shock and uncertainty, not total happiness, like someone had died rather than a birth.
Whilst I am happy for him and find myself excited at the prospect, I don't want this to change him for the worst, his life to be consumed by the exhaustion of childcare and balancing other things, it's a massive step and Im hoping it's not too much too soon, as he's settling down quite young . I'm nervous but excited about greeting this new person into our family.

I find myself being too naive when it comes to believing obvious lies from people I'm close to, and often end up putting far too much effort into keeping a friendship with people that don't deserve it, when I should be putting more focus on the people that do deserve my time. I also feel sometimes I'm far too generous and trusting, I'm the type of person who(depending on cash, of course) would happily pick up the bill if I went out for food with a friend, whereas some of them would be looking for 2 euro back if I borrowed it from them, I don't think being generous is a flaw, but I do need to be more selective with how generous I am and to who.

im the type that has to be shocked into taking action - im usually the most proactive when under some sort of threat or pressure, though it shouldn't take that much to get me, or anyone, focused. say I was a smoker/drinker, I would have to have a doctor plonked in front of me with my lungs/liver in dire shape telling me to stop , before I actually do anything about it. its the only thing that truly works with me. I procrastinate until its dangerously close to getting me into sh1t.