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The Online Dating Thread 3..**READ 1ST POST Oct 2012**
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Sigh, tried again, must have sent about 20 messages in the last few days - not one response, although a few viewed my profile. It seems to me if online dating doesn't work for someone, it most certainly makes them feel worse about themselves! I know all the tricks with sending tailored messages etc but no joy at all. I'm obviously hideously ugly and haven't a hope
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BraziliaNZ wrote: »Sigh, tried again, must have sent about 20 messages in the last few days - not one response, although a few viewed my profile. It seems to me if online dating doesn't work for someone, it most certainly makes them feel worse about themselves! I know all the tricks with sending tailored messages etc but no joy at all. I'm obviously hideously ugly and haven't a hope.
Try something of the wall, something random, that nobody else has picked up on yet ..
Make it witty, funny, take your time and really craft it so it will prompt a response ..
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BraziliaNZ wrote: »Sigh, tried again, must have sent about 20 messages in the last few days - not one response, although a few viewed my profile. It seems to me if online dating doesn't work for someone, it most certainly makes them feel worse about themselves! I know all the tricks with sending tailored messages etc but no joy at all. I'm obviously hideously ugly and haven't a hope.
When you don't get a response you'll always think it's because of whatever you're most insecure about, causing you to reinforce that insecurity and lose confidence.
I find it very hard to figure out what Irish women want generally. Or rather, it seems like everyone wants the standard tall, sporty, good looking "life of the party" type guy but I find it difficult to accept that.
I'm not certain that online dating "works" in Ireland. By that I mean my expectation is that online should be a way for people to find each other that otherwise wouldn't because they're not into the general social scene, they live somewhere a little remote, they're not especially outgoing, stand out in a crowd etc etc. It seems to me that the people that experience success online are the same people that experience it through other means anyway. They're online mostly to expand their already successful social/dating circle.
I think it's extremely unlikely you're hideously ugly or have any type of major fault that makes women run in terror. More likely you're just an average looking guy with an average personality in an environment where everyone is looking for above average. Being online encourages men to contact as many women as possible while encouraging women to hold off and wait for a better prospect.0 -
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BraziliaNZ wrote: »Sigh, tried again, must have sent about 20 messages in the last few days - not one response, although a few viewed my profile. It seems to me if online dating doesn't work for someone, it most certainly makes them feel worse about themselves! I know all the tricks with sending tailored messages etc but no joy at all. I'm obviously hideously ugly and haven't a hope.
It's only been a few days, don't give up yet! I doubt you're hideously ugly.
if it's any consolation, even if you get into a conversation and they say they like you and theres talk about meeting up.. sometimes it still goes nowhere I think thats worse than if no-one ever replies initially, 'cos you have formed a connection to someone when you're chatting to them for a while and when nothing happens it feels like such a waste of time 0 -
Christie Rainbows wrote: »It's only been a few days, don't give up yet! I doubt you're hideously ugly.
if it's any consolation, even if you get into a conversation and they say they like you and theres talk about meeting up.. sometimes it still goes nowhere I think thats worse than if no-one ever replies initially, 'cos you have formed a connection to someone when you're chatting to them for a while and when nothing happens it feels like such a waste of time
Officially the most annoying this ever to happen alright !! silence as they say is head wrecker0 -
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Christie Rainbows wrote: »yeah and sometimes it's not the silence, it might be they've changed their mind or think there's no point in meeting 'cos they MAY be moving somewhere else. You can tell I'm a bit miffed over the last buck I was chatting to!
It wasnt me so
i'm always up front.. but generally it's silence, altho more so i've started to say, after i send a pic, i say, if ure not interested just say so .. no harm done, and no feelings hurt !! 0 -
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blacklilly wrote: »Im being sarcastic about the good looking part! he's old enough to be my dad!
.. i assumed as much
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