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Priest objecting to marriage?

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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,011 ✭✭✭Tim Robbins


    CTU_Agent wrote: »
    what give this priest the right to suddenly say im not good enough to get married in church.
    Because he is following the rules of the organisation.
    Why do expect him to do? Break rules for you. Why should he break rules for an organisation he has made a lifetime commitment to, for someone who has made no commitment to it.
    The bible does not stipulate I must go to mass every week otherwise marriage is not an option.

    As a christian its my right to get married in a church, not my right as a person, its my god given right.
    The RC Church is a apostolistic faith. It has more rules besides those in the Bible.
    If you want Bible based Christianity go for one of the Protestant Churches.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,559 ✭✭✭DublinWriter


    Hypocrisy to me. If you dont go to mass and are part of the church body how can you expect the priest to roll over and compromise his values for your convenience?
    Easily - just tell him that you're both converting to the Church of Ireland and watch that paperwork fly-on through the Archbishop's House.

    It's all part of the hypocrisy; the Catholic church allows married Protestant priests with kids who convert to practice as Catholic priests and also recognises the legitimacy of the children.

    Basically OP, you made the big mistake of being truthful to your local PP. Just tell him whatever guff he wants to hear and get on with the serious business of planning the reception.


  • Posts: 0 CMod ✭✭✭✭ Paloma Attractive Stone


    CTU_Agent wrote: »
    what give this priest the right to suddenly say im not good enough to get married in church.

    The bible does not stipulate I must go to mass every week otherwise marriage is not an option.

    As a christian its my right to get married in a church, not my right as a person, its my god given right.

    oh come off it and stop being a spoilt hypocrite
    go find another church and lie to them instead, eh

    if you were that worked up about being a christian you'd go to mass

    and if you dont agree with one of the basic precepts of the church dont get married in it :rolleyes: and no, we don't care about what everyone else is doing becuse your wedding should not be about what everyone else gets that you don't so that you feel left out

    aie


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,534 ✭✭✭Soul Winner


    I'm with everyone else. If you don't like the rules of the RC Church then do what I did and excommunicate yourself from it. There are plenty of other ways to get married in the eyes of God. In saying that though you won't get a big Church wedding and won't be able to impress your friends. But if that is what's motivating you to be married in a Catholic Church in the first place rather than because you love the person you are marrying then lying about your motives to the Priest will not make any difference in the eyes of God, you are already lying to yourself anyway.

    But I do think it is a bit rich of the Priest to get all Holy on your ass when nearly everyone I know of that has gotten married in a RC Church care nothing for it from one end of the year to the other so I fail to see why he's being so pedantic about it with you :confused:


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,245 ✭✭✭✭Fanny Cradock


    I'm with everyone else. If you don't like the rules of the RC Church then do what I did and excommunicate yourself from it. There are plenty of other ways to get married in the eyes of God. In saying that though you won't get a big Church wedding and won't be able to impress your friends. But if that is what's motivating you to be married in a Catholic Church in the first place rather than because you love the person you are marrying then lying about your motives to the Priest will not make any difference in the eyes of God, you are already lying to yourself anyway.

    But I do think it is a bit rich of the Priest to get all Holy on your ass when nearly everyone I know of that has gotten married in a RC Church care nothing for it from one end of the year to the other so I fail to see why he's being so pedantic about it with you :confused:

    From my understanding, the premise of a Christian marriage extends greatly beyond that of loving your spouse, SW. It is a relationship not based merely upon loving your better half but also on God. More learned Christians can expand on this, I'm sure. With this in mind, and given the OPs lax attitude towards the Church's rules (I'm not judging, btw), it is entirely reasonable for the priest to refuse the OP and his fiancée a service in the Church. Given the sentiment of your previous paragraph it is contradictory of you to criticise the priest for his actions. Actions that you have assumed he is not consistent in applying to others.

    Since the OP has failed to adhere to some of the more basic principles of Catholicism (again, I'm not condemning him), I would question why he and his fiancée feel the need to have a wedding in a Catholic Church at all.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,534 ✭✭✭Soul Winner


    From my understanding, the premise of a Christian marriage extends greatly beyond that of loving your spouse, SW. It is a relationship not based merely upon loving your better half but also on God.

    Marriage is merely a union between two people that is blessed by God. It’s just a contract (all be it a very special contract to the individuals involved) that two people agree to be faithful to until death in the sight of God. If God exists at all isn’t everything in His sight anyway? What escapes Him? Shouldn't they love God regardless of whether they are married or not? If they don't love Him already then how will getting married to each other change that?
    With this in mind, and given the OPs lax attitude towards the Church's rules (I'm not judging, btw), it is entirely reasonable for the priest to refuse the OP and his fiancée a service in the Church.

    I never said it wasn't reasonable, just very double standard-ish given that there are thousands of people in this country that don't care a dime about the RCC from one end of the year to the other even after they are married? They are not God centred people. They are self centred people. I've nothing against that per se but loose the holy marriage thing and just live with each other and be faithful to each other. God will still bless you if you just ask Him to. He doesn't need a Church building to do that. If you don't believe in Mass and all that RCC stuff then have the gonads to get out of it and live your convictions. Give me an outright atheist any day, I can respect them for at least being honest to what they perceive to be truth and living by it.
    Given the sentiment of your previous paragraph it is contradictory of you to criticise the priest for his actions.

    If the RCC are going to be serious about people going to Mass etc before allowing them to be married then why don't they do it to everyone across the board? Or maybe they do but people just lie to them? Hence my previous point.
    Actions that you have assumed he is not consistent in applying to others.

    Yes I have assumed that and I’m open to correction on it. Do you assume I am wrong? Then I assume that you are probably right. ;)
    Since the OP has failed to adhere to some of the more basic principles of Catholicism (again, I'm not condemning him), I would question why he and his fiancée feel the need to have a wedding in a Catholic Church at all.

    So do I. If they don't like the way the RCC does things then my advice is simple; tow the line and shut up or stop being a so called Catholic living a lie and just get out of it.

    If you’re gonna be a Roman Catholic then BE ONE. To me a Roman Catholic is someone who goes to Mass every week, prays the Rosary at whatever time they pray the Rosary, pauses for the Angeles, observes Holy days like Ascension Thursday and Good Friday, who get ashes on Ash Wednesday and so on and so on. I can respect Catholics that do those things because that is what being a Catholic is, actually being one. If you are not doing these Catholic things when it is the Catholic time to do them then you are not a Catholic despite what it says on your Baptismal cert. There is no such thing as a non practising Catholic who call themselves Catholic IMO. To me you’re just non Catholic. It’s no big deal, just stop confusing yourself about who and what you are and just be who you really are and let the chips fall where they may. Like the atheists, at least they know what they are and what believe and don’t believe.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 705 ✭✭✭CTU_Agent


    I'm with everyone else. If you don't like the rules of the RC Church then do what I did and excommunicate yourself from it. There are plenty of other ways to get married in the eyes of God. In saying that though you won't get a big Church wedding and won't be able to impress your friends. But if that is what's motivating you to be married in a Catholic Church in the first place rather than because you love the person you are marrying then lying about your motives to the Priest will not make any difference in the eyes of God, you are already lying to yourself anyway.

    But I do think it is a bit rich of the Priest to get all Holy on your ass when nearly everyone I know of that has gotten married in a RC Church care nothing for it from one end of the year to the other so I fail to see why he's being so pedantic about it with you :confused:


    I have absolutley no interest in getting married in a church to impress friends and family. If I wanted to impress i would have booked a castle and had a civil ceremony instead. My reasons for getting married in a church are because I am catholic and I want our marriage to take place in the house of god. Simple as that.


  • Registered Users Posts: 520 ✭✭✭Bduffman


    Personally I hope the catholic church would enforce their rules if they truly believe they are that important. Then we'd see how many catholics there actually are in the country. I am always amazed at how many people call themselves catholics yet don't believe in the basic beliefs of the church eg the bread used at being actually converted into flesh?? How many people truly believe in that?? I'll bet its far few than is stated on the last census thats for sure. As I said, if the catholic church insist on strictly applying their rules then it'll die off far quicker than its happening now. If you limit marriages to only 'true catholics' we'd see very few church weddings. Keep it up boys you're only speeding up your own demise.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,011 ✭✭✭Tim Robbins


    CTU_Agent wrote: »
    My reasons for getting married in a church are because I am catholic and I want our marriage to take place in the house of god. Simple as that.
    Unbelievable. The organisation has told you the rules, the price for breaking them. Perhaps if you really were Catholic, you'd actually know them.

    Do you have a problem with rules in general?
    If you don't like the rules, and wish to remain Christian join another Church.
    You can't have it both ways, with respect you sound like a spoilt little child.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,011 ✭✭✭Tim Robbins


    Bduffman wrote: »
    Personally I hope the catholic church would enforce their rules if they truly believe they are that important. Then we'd see how many catholics there actually are in the country. I am always amazed at how many people call themselves catholics yet don't believe in the basic beliefs of the church eg the bread used at being actually converted into flesh?? How many people truly believe in that?? I'll bet its far few than is stated on the last census thats for sure. As I said, if the catholic church insist on strictly applying their rules then it'll die off far quicker than its happening now. If you limit marriages to only 'true catholics' we'd see very few church weddings. Keep it up boys you're only speeding up your own demise.
    +1
    Especially the sacraments. Most people who called themself Roman Catholic haven't really much a clue about what any of its believes are. If the Roman Catholic Church actually stuck to its rules, this OP's dilema would be the rule not the exception. Then people might actually tell the truth on the census, the government would have better data and we actually have more secular schools and multi-denomial schools.

    My sister wanted a Church wedding, got it and seemed perturbed by the idea she had to go to Mass and Church wedding course. Now pretty much the same is happening because she wants to baptize her child. She asks the Priest for info, Priest says: "Why are you asking me this? I made an announcement about this at mass last weekend? Where you not there?"
    "No"
    "Well I'll be making them again this weekend?"
    I say fair play to him. All this pretending to be Roman Catholic just to keep up with Jones, is nothing more than lies. Religions thrive on truth. Why should they facilitate things they know are lies?


  • Registered Users Posts: 520 ✭✭✭Bduffman


    "Religions thrive on truth.
    Would agree with everything you said - except the above ;)


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 25,848 ✭✭✭✭Zombrex


    CTU_Agent wrote: »
    My reasons for getting married in a church are because I am catholic and I want our marriage to take place in the house of god. Simple as that.

    You seem to be slightly missing the point that according to the Catholic Church, and by your own admission, you aren't a very good Catholic, and as such they don't really want to marry you.

    It is, after all, their church. It is private property. You don't have a right to get married in a Catholic church if the Catholic Church determine that you are not acting in a way that is in tune with the teaches of the Church.

    Has it occurred to you that, while you may be a Christian, you don't actually believe in Catholicism, you don't actually believe in the teachings of the Catholic Church?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,011 ✭✭✭Tim Robbins


    Bduffman wrote: »
    Would agree with everything you said - except the above ;)

    :-)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,534 ✭✭✭Soul Winner


    CTU_Agent wrote: »
    I have absolutley no interest in getting married in a church to impress friends and family. If I wanted to impress i would have booked a castle and had a civil ceremony instead. My reasons for getting married in a church are because I am catholic and I want our marriage to take place in the house of god. Simple as that.

    How can you call yourself a Catholic when you don’t and won’t even go to Mass? I'm really starting to side with the Priest on this one and I never like it when that happens :D Why is getting married in a Church building so important to you when 52 Sundays out of every year Church buildings hold no importance to you at all? If you were a committed Catholic and this was happening to you I would be outraged for you but you're not so I have no empathy or sympathy for you I'm sorry.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,196 ✭✭✭BrianCalgary


    In Nov 1992 we moved across country and my son was born at the end of te month. We lived in rural Ontario, the closest church was an Anglican church which we all went to.

    When it came time for my sons baptism we went to the closest RC church and he refused mu son baptism. We were a little miffed because of teh inconvenience to us, his reason was that he didn't know us nor had he ever met us or seen us at mass.

    Fair enough, my boy was baptised in teh Anglican church, what a happy bunch, first infant baptism there in recent memory, quite a celebration.

    Then off we went to the priest who married us, a 2 hour drive away, and he baptised the boy.

    There are ways to do it. Go to your former priest who knows you, could be one solution.


    PS, my son then chose to be baptised as a 13 year old giving his own testimony. :D


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,011 ✭✭✭Tim Robbins


    There are ways to do it. Go to your former priest who knows you, could be one solution.
    But what if he doesn't even know one RC Priest?
    What would that say?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,196 ✭✭✭BrianCalgary


    But what if he doesn't even know one RC Priest?
    What would that say?

    Then how could one be expected to be married in and RC church or participate in any of teh sacraments without ever knowing a priest?:confused:


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 21,035 ✭✭✭✭Stark


    Then how could one be expected to be married in and RC church or participate in any of teh sacraments without ever knowing a priest?:confused:

    And there you have it in one.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,245 ✭✭✭✭Fanny Cradock


    Wicknight wrote: »
    Has it occurred to you that, while you may be a Christian, you don't actually believe in Catholicism, you don't actually believe in the teachings of the Catholic Church?

    Oh my goodness! I actually agree whole heartily with you here, Wicknight.

    What's happening :eek:


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 22,479 ✭✭✭✭philologos


    Oh my goodness! I actually agree whole heartily with you here, Wicknight.

    What's happening :eek:

    Absolutely I'm just as astounded as you are to see theists and atheists agreeing on an issue in the Christian forum for once. :eek:


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,245 ✭✭✭✭Fanny Cradock


    These are strange times, Jackass!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,175 ✭✭✭✭Sangre


    On a completely unrelated note there are these four weird horsemen standing outside my window...


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 797 ✭✭✭Michael G


    Jakkass wrote: »
    Absolutely I'm just as astounded as you are to see theists and atheists agreeing on an issue in the Christian forum for once. :eek:
    And there are Christians agreeing with them as well. Actually I think it's just an outbreak of clear thinking on all sides, regardless of people's differing convictions.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,011 ✭✭✭Tim Robbins


    Michael G wrote: »
    And there are Christians agreeing with them as well. Actually I think it's just an outbreak of clear thinking on all sides, regardless of people's differing convictions.
    I think the common factor between all the Christians and Atheists here is that we try not to be hypocrites. We think about what we belief in and then try to live that way. The OP is bemused why he can't be a hypocrite.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 797 ✭✭✭Michael G


    Bduffman wrote: »
    I wonder how many church weddings there would be every year if this rule was strictly adhered to?
    There are already far too many. The currency is devalued. What I really find painful – having had to attend several of them – is the fact that these church weddings happen during Mass and that people who are certainly not observant Catholics, and many others who are at best nominal Catholics, receive Holy Communion. With apologies to the Protestant and non-Christian and atheist posters here, we believe that the Eucharist is, really and physically, the body of Christ. To take the Eucharist is one of the most serious things anyone can do, whether they believe in it or not. What happens at these marriages is extremely hurtful and offensive to those of us who believe in it, and no-one would think of doing anything comparable in a mosque, a synagogue or a Hindu or Sikh temple. I wish people who have chosen to turn away from the Catholic Church in every other respect would do us the courtesy of conducting their marriages elsewhere as well.


  • Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 24,420 Mod ✭✭✭✭robindch


    Michael G wrote: »
    With apologies to the Protestant and non-Christian and atheist posters here, we believe that the Eucharist is, really and physically, the body of Christ. To take the Eucharist is one of the most serious things anyone can do, whether they believe in it or not.
    Well, for an atheist, sharing the meat and drinking the blood of a human body in public is about as low as you can go.

    Why do you think that your belief should be respected above mine?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 22,479 ✭✭✭✭philologos


    Michael G wrote: »
    With apologies to the Protestant and non-Christian and atheist posters here, we believe that the Eucharist is, really and physically, the body of Christ. To take the Eucharist is one of the most serious things anyone can do, whether they believe in it or not.

    You don't need to apologise at all, the Eucharist is of pivotal importance in nearly every church that I know of.


  • Registered Users Posts: 520 ✭✭✭Bduffman


    Michael G wrote: »
    There are already far too many. The currency is devalued. What I really find painful – having had to attend several of them – is the fact that these church weddings happen during Mass and that people who are certainly not observant Catholics, and many others who are at best nominal Catholics, receive Holy Communion. With apologies to the Protestant and non-Christian and atheist posters here, we believe that the Eucharist is, really and physically, the body of Christ. To take the Eucharist is one of the most serious things anyone can do, whether they believe in it or not. What happens at these marriages is extremely hurtful and offensive to those of us who believe in it, and no-one would think of doing anything comparable in a mosque, a synagogue or a Hindu or Sikh temple. I wish people who have chosen to turn away from the Catholic Church in every other respect would do us the courtesy of conducting their marriages elsewhere as well.

    But surely thats up to the catholic church not individuals? For me, as an atheist, I have no problem going to a church (or synagogue or mosque for that matter) if I am invited to go to celebrate a wedding etc. My point is if the catholic church were serious then they would ban all non-catholics (& that includes those 'catholics' who don't believe that the eucharist is really is flesh - its amazing how many don't believe that). If they stuck to it I'd reckon you'd have less than 20% of the current (already low) attendance at mass. Bottom line - if everyone is allowed to marry in a catholic church then they will - but is the church brave enough to stand by their convictions for once?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,011 ✭✭✭Tim Robbins


    Michael G wrote: »
    With apologies to the Protestant and non-Christian and atheist posters here, we believe that the Eucharist is, really and physically, the body of Christ. To take the Eucharist is one of the most serious things anyone can do, whether they believe in it or not.
    When I have to go to Roman Catholic Church, I deliberately do not take Eucharist.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 22,479 ✭✭✭✭philologos


    Bduffman wrote: »
    But surely thats up to the catholic church not individuals? For me, as an atheist, I have no problem going to a church (or synagogue or mosque for that matter) if I am invited to go to celebrate a wedding etc. My point is if the catholic church were serious then they would ban all non-catholics (& that includes those 'catholics' who don't believe that the eucharist is really is flesh - its amazing how many don't believe that). If they stuck to it I'd reckon you'd have less than 20% of the current (already low) attendance at mass. Bottom line - if everyone is allowed to marry in a catholic church then they will - but is the church brave enough to stand by their convictions for once?

    Hm mass attendance is over 40% at the minute which isn't so bad.
    Also banning non-Catholics would be bad business practice (although I'm speaking from a COI perspective). Christ encouraged us to welcome others, and who knows maybe after a Church service an agnostic / atheist might turn to Christianity so I don't think booting them out is a good idea.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 20,009 ✭✭✭✭Run_to_da_hills


    Bduffman wrote: »
    But surely thats up to the catholic church not individuals? For me, as an atheist, I have no problem going to a church (or synagogue or mosque for that matter) if I am invited to go to celebrate a wedding etc. My point is if the catholic church were serious then they would ban all non-catholics (& that includes those 'catholics' who don't believe that the eucharist is really is flesh - its amazing how many don't believe that). If they stuck to it I'd reckon you'd have less than 20% of the current (already low) attendance at mass. Bottom line - if everyone is allowed to marry in a catholic church then they will - but is the church brave enough to stand by their convictions for once?
    The Catholic Church likes to think in numbers. It looks impressive if they can state that 1.2 Billion exist and that they are the largest "Christian" church on earth when infact only a fraction of that amount would be devout Cathiolics.

    They have a rubber stamp baptism system that stamps every kid born into a Catholic family without the childs opinion or concent. The result is that you have millions of these kids growing up who when they reach the age of reason (The correct age for baptism) they make their own minds up and become athiests or whatever but they still hold their "Catholic baptismal trump card" which they can use at weddings and funerals.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 797 ✭✭✭Michael G


    The Catholic Church likes to think in numbers. It looks impressive if they can state that 1.2 Billion exist and that they are the largest "Christian" church on earth when infact only a fraction of that amount would be devout Cathiolics.
    The present Pope actually takes a different view. He has said that numbers don't matter much; it is the vitality of the Church that counts.

    But in any case what proportion of members of other Christian churches could be classified as "devout", even using the basic standard of acquiescing with the Apostles' Creed?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 20,009 ✭✭✭✭Run_to_da_hills


    Michael G wrote: »
    The present Pope actually takes a different view. He has said that numbers don't matter much; it is the vitality of the Church that counts.

    But in any case what proportion of members of other Christian churches could be classified as "devout", even using the basic standard of acquiescing with the Apostles' Creed?
    I would also say not many.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,002 ✭✭✭MargeS


    I think if you want to be in a club then you agree to abide by the rules and sign up. If you don't like the rules then leave...simple as! This applies to any religious organisation.

    You can't decide to obey/disobey the rules you like/don't like. RC church does not allow contraception, marriage without being open to have children, marriage without attending mass on a regular basis (i.e. practising catholics).
    If you don't abide by RC rules and just believe in Christ, that makes you a Christian - not an RC.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,770 ✭✭✭Bottle_of_Smoke


    Maybe he thought it was a bad idea for you who said you were going to raise your kids Catholic to be marrying a woman who didn't want to have kids.

    I think your fiancee should just pretend to want kids. It's not like the church is a hotel or whatever


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,196 ✭✭✭BrianCalgary


    Maybe he thought it was a bad idea for you who said you were going to raise your kids Catholic to be marrying a woman who didn't want to have kids.

    I think your fiancee should just pretend to want kids. It's not like the church is a hotel or whatever

    Then you would be bearing false witness. I admire the couple for being upfront with the priest. Th enext step is to determine whether or not the RC church is really for them?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 9,082 ✭✭✭lostexpectation


    CTU_Agent i don't think anyone really believes your are committed catholic, you claim not to be having the wedding for appearances sake but it does seem like you having it in a church for social reasons rather then relgious ones.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 460 ✭✭twanda


    This thread has certainly given me food for thought. Am due to marry my bfriend in the next 2 years and before coming across this I figured the usual church wedding was a given...not so sure now, as we are non-practising and also use contraception. I don't particularly want the ceremony to be based on falsity ...So we will have to have a sit down and think about our options..

    OP - did you meet with the priest again? What was the outcome?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,444 ✭✭✭Cantab.


    twanda wrote: »
    I figured the usual church wedding was a given...


    ...we are non-practising and also use contraception...

    I seriously hope you are not intending getting married in a RC church with this hanging over you. If you're serious about the Catholic faith, you need to start making ammends.

    But if you're not, I don't see why or how the Church should facilitate you.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,245 ✭✭✭✭Fanny Cradock


    If you consider yourself a Christian, but don't wish to get hung up on the contraception thing, you might consider a different denomination or even a non-denominational Church.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 22,479 ✭✭✭✭philologos


    At the same time I wouldn't encourage shopping around for churches which are more lenient than others. The Church is a place for 2 people who feel they want to become one under God through marriage. One should be serious about the commitment they are making to God as well as to the spouse they marry also.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,245 ✭✭✭✭Fanny Cradock


    Indeed!


  • Registered Users Posts: 8,711 ✭✭✭keano_afc


    Jakkass wrote: »
    At the same time I wouldn't encourage shopping around for churches which are more lenient than others. The Church is a place for 2 people who feel they want to become one under God through marriage. One should be serious about the commitment they are making to God as well as to the spouse they marry also.

    Good advice. Be careful not to fall into the trap of looking for a church where YOU tell God the way you want to worship.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 460 ✭✭twanda


    Cantab. wrote: »
    I seriously hope you are not intending getting married in a RC church with this hanging over you. If you're serious about the Catholic faith, you need to start making ammends.

    But if you're not, I don't see why or how the Church should facilitate you.


    - that was my whole point:cool:
    Am seriously doubting that will be the case now.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,373 ✭✭✭Dr Galen


    and is that such a disaster?


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