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The Online Dating Thread Part II **Mod Warning** Read First Post/or Post 7389

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  • #2652
    Pembily
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,404 ✭✭✭✭Pembily


    johnr1 wrote: »
    So I had a date towards the end of last week. :(

    I'm trying to find a way of saying this that doesent sound incredibly shallow.
    Let's just say her definition of curves and mine don't line up.
    What's with this crack of putting up photos from when you used to be good-looking, or before you ate everything in sight :confused:

    Like FFS, it's not like we're not going to spot the difference.

    Before I get jumped on for being shallow, - actually no, go ahead, I just don't care anymore.

    Ouch, that sucks!!! It's not shallow, it's the truth, you went on the date based on the pic and she mis-lead you! Bad start in my book!

    People ask me when my photos are from and I say a year ago but then email a new one and there's no difference!!! But I have seen photos where people are really different and never know which one is current! It's very confusing...


  • #2653
    KTRIC
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,463 ✭✭✭KTRIC


    Got asked out for a coffee last night, not sure when but its a start :D


  • #2654
    hollypink
    Registered Users Posts: 1,508 ✭✭✭hollypink


    I've never had a date with anyone who was very different from their photos thankfully; it's always something I worry about when I'm heading into the coffee shop/bar to meet them. I don't know why you'd bother putting up misleading photos; you'd want to be fairly deluded to think your date wouldn't notice. I'd be mortified if I thought he was thinking 'wow she's much older/more overweight/whatever than her pics'. On a date recently I was told I look better in real life than my profile pics which was nice to hear but I thought I looked quite nice in my main photo which is why I picked it!


  • #2655
    johnr1
    Closed Accounts Posts: 965 ✭✭✭johnr1


    Dovies wrote: »
    Lol happens to us all at some point I think! Tall, dark and handsome?? I think not! :eek:

    Who in f**k's name describes themselves in those terms ?

    I got a message yesterday from another gal with an interesting profile, seems smart, profile isn't the usual etc, but she's probably a size 24, or whatever, judging by the photos.

    I'm now trying to decide whether to reply or not, I'm not in the slightest bit attracted to someone that size, but I appreciate her honesty in having the photos up.
    I'm thinking the best thing is to just not reply,- itd be just platitudes if i did, but then I'm left feeling like a cnut after she made the effort, and is clearly someone who understands what size she is, and the implications of that.
    Is knowing that I'm someone with manners going to make her feel better when I've made it clear that I'm not interested anyway? I doubt it.

    .


  • #2656
    Pembily
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,404 ✭✭✭✭Pembily


    Boards is gone funny again for me, I can't see the new posts :rolleyes:


  • #2657
    Dravokivich
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Music Moderators, Politics Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 22,360 CMod ✭✭✭✭Dravokivich


    Pem,

    I thought I was going nuts not being able to see the responses in here the last 30 mins.

    I have to click on reply to see the extra posts I'm missing :pac:


  • #2658
    stargazer 68
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,144 ✭✭✭stargazer 68


    Me too but I think we are back on track now!
    I have a tentative date for Thursday!! :eek:


  • #2659
    awec
    Administrators Posts: 54,087 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭awec


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  • #2660
    Pembily
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,404 ✭✭✭✭Pembily


    Phew, I thought I had gone insane!!


  • #2661
    Otis Driftwood
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,925 ✭✭✭Otis Driftwood


    A girl asked me out on a date last night for tomorrow night which I accepted.We were then talking on the phone for a bit afterwards and she told me she will be bringing her own vodka in her handbag.

    I emailed her today and cancelled the date.

    :/

    I think my recent delving into online will be over sooner rather than later.

    And before anyone asks,hot girl dropped all contact about a week or so ago so thats dead in the water.


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  • #2662
    stargazer 68
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,144 ✭✭✭stargazer 68


    Otis Driftwood wrote: »
    A girl asked me out on a date last night for tomorrow night which I accepted.We were then talking on the phone for a bit afterwards and she told me she will be bringing her own vodka in her handbag.

    .

    You are joking! OMG!! :eek:


  • #2663
    awec
    Administrators Posts: 54,087 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭awec


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  • #2664
    Otis Driftwood
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,925 ✭✭✭Otis Driftwood


    Dovies wrote: »
    You are joking! OMG!! :eek:

    Nope.

    Now she is out of work atm which is fine,Ive been there myself but why suggest going for a few drinks if she would have to resort to that.I would generally pay for the drinks on a first date anyway but the thought of sitting there while she filled her glass was just a massive noooooo.


  • #2665
    stargazer 68
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,144 ✭✭✭stargazer 68


    Otis Driftwood wrote: »
    I emailed her today and cancelled the date.

    .

    What did you say to her? Did you just cancel or tell her the truth as to why?


  • #2666
    Otis Driftwood
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,925 ✭✭✭Otis Driftwood


    Dovies wrote: »
    What did you say to her? Did you just cancel or tell her the truth as to why?

    I just said "based on our conversation last night I dont think we would be compatible so its pointless meeting,best of luck with the site"

    Twas grand,she mailed back and said no worries.


  • #2667
    awec
    Administrators Posts: 54,087 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭awec


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  • #2668
    stargazer 68
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,144 ✭✭✭stargazer 68


    awec wrote: »
    Imagine the embarrassment if you got asked to leave the bar cause she got caught. :o

    Oh God the brass neck! Have to ask how old??


  • #2669
    Pembily
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,404 ✭✭✭✭Pembily


    Otis Driftwood wrote: »
    A girl asked me out on a date last night for tomorrow night which I accepted.We were then talking on the phone for a bit afterwards and she told me she will be bringing her own vodka in her handbag.

    I emailed her today and cancelled the date.

    :/

    YIKES, nutso!

    If I am on a night out I may bring my own vodka, but when on a date NEVER!!! I always buy every second drink and it's rarely that many as getting hammered = NNONO!!!


  • #2670
    kingtut
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,488 ✭✭✭kingtut


    I have a date tomorrow night, 7pm :)


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  • #2671
    awec
    Administrators Posts: 54,087 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭awec


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  • #2672
    Otis Driftwood
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,925 ✭✭✭Otis Driftwood


    Dovies wrote: »
    Oh God the brass neck! Have to ask how old??

    She was only 24 so its somewhat forgivable but its a big no no from me.


  • #2673
    Dravokivich
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Music Moderators, Politics Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 22,360 CMod ✭✭✭✭Dravokivich


    awec wrote: »
    Buying a round on a date would be really awkward if someone brought their own drink.

    I wouldn't feel right just buying them a mixer. Especially seeing as a mixer usually lasts 2 drinks.

    Well, I'd be thinking "If we're only going out for a couple of drinks in the middle of the week, why is she looking to sneak in some drink?"


  • #2674
    timewilltell
    Registered Users Posts: 505 ✭✭✭timewilltell


    Dravokivich wrote: »
    It'll all be down to wether or not you want to. Don't worry about how soon it may seem to be that he's asked you out.
    I suppose so, I'm just not used to the up frontedness!
    Dovies wrote: »
    Have to agree. I would rather meet sooner than later - saves mailing for ages, building up a rapport and an image and then it all going wrong on the first date!
    Pembily wrote: »
    It's actually another boardsie :o



    Sometimes the mailing gets boring, I like guys who are up front and ask fairly quickly.

    Both really good points, suppose I'll go for it! ;)


  • #2675
    timewilltell
    Registered Users Posts: 505 ✭✭✭timewilltell


    Otis Driftwood wrote: »
    A girl asked me out on a date last night for tomorrow night which I accepted.We were then talking on the phone for a bit afterwards and she told me she will be bringing her own vodka in her handbag.

    I emailed her today and cancelled the date.

    :/

    I think my recent delving into online will be over sooner rather than later.

    And before anyone asks,hot girl dropped all contact about a week or so ago so thats dead in the water.

    What a class act! Was she planning on drinking in a field beforehand? :pac:


  • #2676
    Rastapitts
    Closed Accounts Posts: 187 ✭✭Rastapitts


    Otis Driftwood wrote: »
    Nope.

    Now she is out of work atm which is fine,Ive been there myself but why suggest going for a few drinks if she would have to resort to that.I would generally pay for the drinks on a first date anyway but the thought of sitting there while she filled her glass was just a massive noooooo.

    My female friends do all the time cant see what the problem is


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  • #2677
    timewilltell
    Registered Users Posts: 505 ✭✭✭timewilltell


    Rastapitts wrote: »
    My female friends do all the time cant see what the problem is
    I just think a first date should be where you try to make an impression.

    I think I would get the impression that this girl was a bit cheap. Sure she's out of work and I totally appreciate that but still. I know I've done it myself before but that would be on college nights out, not a date.


  • #2678
    awec
    Administrators Posts: 54,087 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭awec


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  • #2679
    missbelle
    Registered Users Posts: 494 ✭✭missbelle


    johnr1 wrote: »
    So I had a date towards the end of last week. :(

    I'm trying to find a way of saying this that doesent sound incredibly shallow.
    Let's just say her definition of curves and mine don't line up.
    What's with this crack of putting up photos from when you used to be good-looking, or before you ate everything in sight :confused:

    Like FFS, it's not like we're not going to spot the difference.

    Before I get jumped on for being shallow, - actually no, go ahead, I just don't care anymore.

    I've got 7 or 8 photos up, and I change them about a bit. I've got one full length one included, as well as one where I'm sitting and the rest are pretty much face shots. I'd hate to think someone was disappointed meeting me IRL, compared to my photos :eek:
    I'm not a skinny girl, just an average 12, but I believe not all men want skin 'n' bones ;)


  • #2680
    Pembily
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,404 ✭✭✭✭Pembily


    Rastapitts wrote: »
    My female friends do all the time cant see what the problem is

    On a date :eek:
    timewilltell wrote: »
    I just think a first date should be where you try to make an impression.

    I think I would get the impression that this girl was a bit cheap. Sure she's out of work and I totally appreciate that but still. I know I've done it myself before but that would be on college nights out, not a date.

    Yup on nights out with friends, not a one-on-one date!!! Was she planning on being hammered?
    awec wrote: »
    I wouldn't say cheapness is the real issue, I'd say it's the awkwardness.

    1. Her having to sneakily fill her glass
    2. The potential for getting caught
    3. The strange way you'd be buying rounds.

    Exactly... All odd!


  • #2681
    timewilltell
    Registered Users Posts: 505 ✭✭✭timewilltell


    Pembily wrote: »
    On a date :eek:



    Yup on nights out with friends, not a one-on-one date!!! Was she planning on being hammered?



    Exactly... All odd!

    I just have visions of her doing shots out of her naggan!
    Hahaha sorry, too funny!


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  • #2682
    missbelle
    Registered Users Posts: 494 ✭✭missbelle


    Speaking of spotting boardsies online, think I have too... which prob means I've been spotted too ;)


  • #2683
    bordsie
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 145 ✭✭bordsie


    i was tired last night so couldn't be bothered reading through profiles and coming up with thoughtful messages that wouldn't even be opened, so instead i sent the below message to as many profiles as possible....

    "well helllllllllllllllllooooooooooo there babes...."

    only got a few replies :confused:


  • #2684
    awec
    Administrators Posts: 54,087 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭awec


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  • #2685
    bordsie
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 145 ✭✭bordsie


    awec wrote: »
    The fact you got a single reply shocks me. :)

    must of been you so? ;)


  • #2686
    awec
    Administrators Posts: 54,087 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭awec


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  • #2687
    bordsie
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 145 ✭✭bordsie


    awec wrote: »
    I don't get messages. :o

    that's too bad, would you feel better if i had messaged you heeelllllllllllllooooo babes?? :eek:


  • #2688
    stargazer 68
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,144 ✭✭✭stargazer 68


    I have on my profile that you must at least be prepared to send me a pic if you dont have one up. One blind date was enough.

    Fair enough?

    Some guy has just emailed me to say sorry that it didnt work out for me but I really should say 'visually impaired' and not 'blind' date! :eek:

    I really dont have the patience today!! :)


  • #2689
    Dravokivich
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Music Moderators, Politics Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 22,360 CMod ✭✭✭✭Dravokivich


    Dovies wrote: »
    I have on my profile that you must at least be prepared to send me a pic if you dont have one up. One blind date was enough.

    Fair enough?

    It doesn't bother me because I have a picture up and only look at profiles with pictures.

    I just find it a bit of a nusinace seeing my face in the message histroy all the time when someone sets a requirement for a pic.

    Not that I have a problem looking at myself :P


  • #2690
    bordsie
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 145 ✭✭bordsie


    Dravokivich wrote: »
    It doesn't bother me because I have a picture up and only look at profiles with pictures.

    I just find it a bit of a nusinace seeing my face in the message histroy all the time when someone sets a requirement for a pic.

    Not that I have a problem looking at myself :P

    there is bound to be some hotties there with pics on private though.

    A hot girl just viewed me but then didn't message, im going to mail her now asking what her game is.


  • #2691
    Pembily
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,404 ✭✭✭✭Pembily


    bordsie wrote: »
    there is bound to be some hotties there with pics on private though.

    A hot girl just viewed me but then didn't message, im going to mail her now asking what her game is.

    Guys do this to me and I message and get no response :confused: Ye men are odd :P


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  • #2692
    awec
    Administrators Posts: 54,087 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭awec


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  • #2693
    Pembily
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,404 ✭✭✭✭Pembily


    awec wrote: »
    Pembily wrote: »
    Guys do this to me and I message and get no response :confused: Ye men are odd :P
    Us men are easy!

    Message us and don't come across as nuts and you've got yourself a date! :pac:
    If only it was that easy!


  • #2694
    stargazer 68
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,144 ✭✭✭stargazer 68


    Pembily wrote: »
    If only it was that easy!

    Exactly - although we wouldnt have this thread if it was! :D:rolleyes:


  • #2695
    johnr1
    Closed Accounts Posts: 965 ✭✭✭johnr1


    Pembily wrote: »
    Guys do this to me and I message and get no response :confused: Ye men are odd :P

    I'm often surprised by the opposite tbh. If a gal checks out my profile and doesent message me, I'd take it that she was initially interested in the photo, but read something in my profile that she didn't like.
    Same if I check out some girls profile but see stuff I don't like, - then she messages me two days later and I'm wondering why? If I was interested in the first place I'd have messaged.

    .


  • #2696
    stargazer 68
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,144 ✭✭✭stargazer 68


    johnr1 wrote: »
    I'm often surprised by the opposite tbh. If a gal checks out my profile and doesent message me, I'd take it that she was initially interested in the photo, but read something in my profile that she didn't like.

    .

    I often click on profiles that I like the photo of. Then something in the profile isnt for me or the photo was better in the distance! :D
    Men do the same thing to my profile I guess too. Have lots of views and no mail. :(


  • #2697
    awec
    Administrators Posts: 54,087 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭awec


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  • #2698
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    timewilltell wrote: »
    Mailing one guy...one night in and he asked about meeting up.



    Hmmm...

    I messaged a guy the other day asking him (joking) to marry me in my first message. He replied, and seemed nice and funny, so I asked him on a date!

    He wasn't put off, and actually seemed pleasantly surprised! We're meeting up this weekend. :)

    In my opinion, if someone has a decent profile, you can have a fair idea from that if you're interested in meeting up in person. I think it's too easy for things to get lost in translation in text, particularly when you don't know the person and don't know their mannerisms and sense of humour. That's why I'd always much rather arrange to meet up face-to-face as soon as possible.


  • #2699
    bordsie
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 145 ✭✭bordsie


    I guess also sometimes a girl will view a guys profile hoping that will make him message her as she doesn't want to make the first move. that's why if she is hot ill ask her what her game is


  • #2700
    awec
    Administrators Posts: 54,087 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭awec


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  • #2701
    stargazer 68
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,144 ✭✭✭stargazer 68


    awec wrote: »
    Yis must be messaging the wrong guys! :D :pac:

    Clearly! :D:(


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