Anxiety and/or depression discussion.

greenfrogs · 30-06-2015 1:54am

scrimshanker wrote: »

I just want a break from the inside of my own head, just a little bit of peace and quiet. No different to everyone else here I guess.

I have felt like this so many times. Hopefully you'll get somewhere nearer that goal soon.

Today I was thinking of all the things I have given up due to this illness. I was reading the thread in after hours about regretting having children. It makes me realise that a big part of why I don't want children is because I am afraid they would turn out like me, that they would have a similar life to me. That this illness would have a negative affect on them and also that I just couldn't cope. That's a pretty ****ty deal. I don't want anyone to argue that this may not be true. Does anyone else feel similar on other areas of life. Or is this topic just too depressing.

One More Toy · 30-06-2015 1:57am

greenfrogs wrote: »

I have felt like this so many times. Hopefully you'll get somewhere nearer that goal soon.

Today I was thinking of all the things I have given up due to this illness. I was reading the thread in after hours about regretting having children. It makes me realise that a big part of why I don't want children is because I am afraid they would turn out like me, that they would have a similar life to me. That this illness would have a negative affect on them and also that I just couldn't cope. That's a pretty ****ty deal. I don't want anyone to argue that this may not be true. Does anyone else feel similar on other areas of life. Or is this topic just too depressing.

I don't think any topic that's bothering anyone should be off limits

Why not bring about a mindset where your mission is to make your future children happier than any of us ever were?

NicoleW85 · 30-06-2015 8:44am

Focus on getting 'better' or well enough to believe you can cope - don't rule out having kids! You can beat this illness! That's what I'm doing

mg1982 · 30-06-2015 11:45am

greenfrogs wrote: »

I have felt like this so many times. Hopefully you'll get somewhere nearer that goal soon.

Today I was thinking of all the things I have given up due to this illness. I was reading the thread in after hours about regretting having children. It makes me realise that a big part of why I don't want children is because I am afraid they would turn out like me, that they would have a similar life to me. That this illness would have a negative affect on them and also that I just couldn't cope. That's a pretty ****ty deal. I don't want anyone to argue that this may not be true. Does anyone else feel similar on other areas of life. Or is this topic just too depressing.

Theres no way i will be having kids, i can barely look after myself nevermind a baby.

scrimshanker · 30-06-2015 12:00pm

Still alive. Not having a good anxiety day. I get so angry about how long the wait is to be seen, not at the staff who are obviously doing their best, but at the people who spout on about how all people have to do is reach out and help will be there. Bull.

Comfy and more relaxed in bed. But that messes up my sleeping routine. But when I got up I was frantic. Pacing and stuff.

SillyMangoX · 30-06-2015 12:16pm

Has anyone been for councelling before? My mam keeps saying it'll help with my panic attacks and I'm finally in the right fame of mind that I can cope with my panic and acrually go out in public more so I'm considering it now. Like, what is it compared to going to say a psychiatrist? How do you find a good one? I'm just so new to all this but I really do need help!
I'm not going into full blown attacks anymore but keep getting to the "pre attack" stage which can be very disconcerting. I just want to find a way to not let it get to that and actually be able to live normally!!

runningbuddy · 30-06-2015 12:21pm

Have been taking 50mg Trazadone for 2 weeks....not helping with the sleep....meeting gp on thurs morning....he may up the dose. I can't get night sleep without popping a Xanax and a sleeping tablet....and even then I could be awake from 5am.....I'm beginning to lose hope now folks.....am crippled with anxiety during the day and night now....just don't know where to turn now....

mg1982 · 30-06-2015 12:22pm

SillyMangoX wrote: »

Has anyone been for councelling before? My mam keeps saying it'll help with my panic attacks and I'm finally in the right fame of mind that I can cope with my panic and acrually go out in public more so I'm considering it now. Like, what is it compared to going to say a psychiatrist? How do you find a good one? I'm just so new to all this but I really do need help!
I'm not going into full blown attacks anymore but keep getting to the "pre attack" stage which can be very disconcerting. I just want to find a way to not let it get to that and actually be able to live normally!!

Counsellers can be a bit hit and miss but if you can find one that you click with then you could make progress.

runningbuddy · 30-06-2015 12:47pm

Sillymango....re:counselling...always get a recommendation. If you have. Good relationship with your gp...ask him/her to recommend or refer you x

greenfrogs · 30-06-2015 1:57pm

mg1982 wrote: »

Theres no way i will be having kids, i can barely look after myself nevermind a baby.

That's my thinking too. But I guess I have plenty of time yet to see how things pan out.

scrimshanker · 30-06-2015 3:39pm

Id actually love to foster kids, but that would require me to be at home all day, which would require a partner willing to be the sole breadwinner. Unlikely to happen, cos I don't see myself settling down with anyone long term.

Hugo Stiglitz · 30-06-2015 4:52pm

I wouldn't be able for kids at all. I'd fear that being depressed etc would result in a crap childhood for them. Also, I think I'd be far too selfish too.

mg1982 · 30-06-2015 5:41pm

Hugo Stiglitz wrote: »

I wouldn't be able for kids at all. I'd fear that being depressed etc would result in a crap childhood for them. Also, I think I'd be far too selfish too.

Id be thinking the same hugo. I would feel guilty bringing up a child if i wasnt able to be a good parent and im pretty selfish at times myself.

heyday30 · 30-06-2015 5:52pm

I'm with ye guys. Although sometimes ill admit I would get a yearning or want. I'm good with babies n children.

But wouldn't be fair or right.

mg1982 · 30-06-2015 6:02pm

heyday30 wrote: »

I'm with ye guys. Although sometimes ill admit I would get a yearning or want. I'm good with babies n children.

But wouldn't be fair or right.

Im sure you will make a great mum someday H and it sounds like your a natural with them. Your still a young woman so plenty of time yet.

alaskayoung · 30-06-2015 8:02pm

Euphoria Intensifies wrote: »

I didn't do my DBT homework and I've my app tomorrow. Feels like being back at school. I'll have to do it on the bus tomorrow I guess, for the real old-time experience.

My psychologist just signed me up for a new DBT group starting in my area. Is it a big commitment? I'm actually pretty excited for the group aspect of it, kind of worried I'm going to be far the youngest one there though

Gremlinertia · 30-06-2015 8:21pm

alaskayoung wrote: »

My psychologist just signed me up for a new DBT group starting in my area. Is it a big commitment? I'm actually pretty excited for the group aspect of it, kind of worried I'm going to be far the youngest one there though

Hey there i'm bout three months into a dbt course, people aged from 18 to 40something, it is a commitment, as it looks at patterns of thought and attempts to retrain your brain, that takes practice and work outside group. I'm finding it good if tough at times.

NicoleW85 · 30-06-2015 8:37pm

Can anyone give me a heads up on CBT? I'm starting in the morning and I can't believe how much I'm looking forward to it! The things I want to focus on are stress management/ unhealthy relationship with food / gaining & maintaining stability. Basically I want to be perfect lol

scrimshanker · 30-06-2015 8:45pm

I wish I had more of a social circle. I know Roquiten raised a good point about the idea of beers in this thread, maybe for anyone who's up for it might be interested in a cup of tea or coffee? I'm in Dublin, anyone else nearby?

greenfrogs · 30-06-2015 8:55pm

NicoleW85 wrote: »

Can anyone give me a heads up on CBT? I'm starting in the morning and I can't believe how much I'm looking forward to it! The things I want to focus on are stress management/ unhealthy relationship with food / gaining & maintaining stability. Basically I want to be perfect lol

I've done cbt and it is catered to the individual. For me when I started I was extremely depressed. The therapist spent one session on my background. In the next session I talked about what issues I wanted to focus on first. You are given homework but it's usually quite achievable.

greenfrogs · 30-06-2015 8:59pm

scrimshanker wrote: »

I wish I had more of a social circle. I know Roquiten raised a good point about the idea of beers in this thread, maybe for anyone who's up for it might be interested in a cup of tea or coffee? I'm in Dublin, anyone else nearby?

Unfortunately I'm from the opposite end of the country. I'm sure there are others from Dublin though.

I only saw improvements in myself when I started increasing my social activities. It's difficult to do but I am lucky in that I joined a sports team which is very close knit and friendly. I also have used meetup from time to time. Meetup is hard though. But I have seen people make great friends in it. It just didn't really happen for me.

Anon2013 · 30-06-2015 9:46pm

scrimshanker wrote: »

I wish I had more of a social circle. I know Roquiten raised a good point about the idea of beers in this thread, maybe for anyone who's up for it might be interested in a cup of tea or coffee? I'm in Dublin, anyone else nearby?

Scrimshanker is there any Athletic or fitness groups in your area starting up over the summer like a fit for life and a couch to 5k, these groups can be a great way to socialise with people.

Hugo Stiglitz · 30-06-2015 10:25pm

mg1982 wrote: »

Id be thinking the same hugo. I would feel guilty bringing up a child if i wasnt able to be a good parent and im pretty selfish at times myself.

If I had my way I'd definitely get the snip! LOL (Seriously!)

scrimshanker wrote: »

I wish I had more of a social circle. I know Roquiten raised a good point about the idea of beers in this thread, maybe for anyone who's up for it might be interested in a cup of tea or coffee? I'm in Dublin, anyone else nearby?

Same here Scrim. I feel it'd help out so so much.

I'm down in Waterford unfortunately so it wouldn't be too easy to attend. That being said, it might not be totally impossible. The big city scares me alas, I'm putting off a different Boards meet up because of that fear too.

heyday30 · 30-06-2015 10:37pm

mg1982 wrote: »

Im sure you will make a great mum someday H and it sounds like your a natural with them. Your still a young woman so plenty of time yet.

Thanks mg, but I wouldnt be able for it just the biological want pops up every now and again...... Grand to spoil nieces n nephews n give them back

scrimshanker wrote: »

I wish I had more of a social circle. I know Roquiten raised a good point about the idea of beers in this thread, maybe for anyone who's up for it might be interested in a cup of tea or coffee? I'm in Dublin, anyone else nearby?

I'm in tipp unfortunately. Like hugo big cities n crowds aren't my thing though I'd like to challenge it sometime.

scrimshanker · 30-06-2015 10:45pm

Jeepers we're a very spread out bunch! Anyone find that meds made them slowly and progressively more tired?

Hugo Stiglitz · 30-06-2015 10:50pm

scrimshanker wrote: »

Jeepers we're a very spread out bunch!

There's a good train line down to Waterford, Scrim!

I could show ye all the local sites!

Gremlinertia · 30-06-2015 10:57pm

I'm very disconnected again tonight. Can't figure it..

Hugo Stiglitz · 30-06-2015 11:03pm

Gremlinertia wrote: »

I'm very disconnected again tonight. Can't figure it..

You wanna talk it out here Grem?

heyday30 · 30-06-2015 11:05pm

There's a full moon. Was wondering why I've been a little 'off' yesterday and today. I'm convinced it plays havoc with my moods.

mg1982 · 30-06-2015 11:20pm

heyday30 wrote: »

There's a full moon. Was wondering why I've been a little 'off' yesterday and today. I'm convinced it plays havoc with my moods.

As long as ya dont start growing a tail and paws you should be ok H.

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