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Stalking

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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,763 ✭✭✭✭Crann na Beatha


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 44,080 ✭✭✭✭Micky Dolenz


    SheFiend wrote: »
    As i was typing that i wondered how long it would be before a double entendre was implied. Congrats on getting first place, with merits :-)


    I like the way you think.


    A women walked into a bar and asked for a double entendre so the bar man gave her one. :P


    stalking must be painful and is probably way more accessible and more common place due to the internet.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 362 ✭✭SheFiend


    It might sound stupid to some, but it really is so frustrating. My sympathy to Teddy.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 178 ✭✭Paddy Bateman


    Has anyone ever had, well basically it's beginning to seem like stalking.
    I'm getting constant texts every day. They ring my phone time and time again and then text me asking why I never answer. I've explained to them 3 times now in person. I'm receiving very weird messages of poetry. I've been followed to a nightclub. It's getting beyond obsessive. I was woken up in the middle of the night last night at 4am with phone calls.
    I don't want to have to change my number but I might have to. Luckily they don't know my exact address.
    What can you do in these situations? I'm really getting sick of it.
    Find out where they live and have your friends and family blast them with pissy piss


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,510 ✭✭✭hadepsx


    'rustles in the bushes'
    what you on about,there's no such thing as stalking


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,144 ✭✭✭Katgurl


    Ok seriously

    where the f*** is teddy?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 491 ✭✭doomed


    Text them back saying you welcome their call and that if they send bank account details they could win a holiday.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,251 ✭✭✭bonzodog2


    Depending on your phone, you could maybe give them a customized ringtone of a short mp3 of silence.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 20,919 ✭✭✭✭Gummy Panda


    Katgurl wrote: »
    Ok seriously

    where the f*** is teddy?

    Probably dead...










    ... tired. Being stalked ain't easy


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 34,418 ✭✭✭✭hondasam


    SheFiend wrote: »
    It might sound stupid to some, but it really is so frustrating. My sympathy to Teddy.

    Teddy is an attention whore, he is probably sitting back lapping this up.

    Hey Ted:)


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,300 ✭✭✭HazDanz


    I bet she has a little Teddy voodoo doll and is trying to have a romantic night in with it watching you've got mail. I know that's what I would do if I was a creepy committed stalker


  • Registered Users Posts: 105 ✭✭treborflynn


    RIGHT YOUR SERVICE PROVIDER, THEY CAN BLOCK THE NUMBER. HAD TO DO IT MYSELF CAUSE IM SUCH A SEXY FOCK.........


  • Site Banned Posts: 2,037 ✭✭✭paddyandy


    You can gauge people well by knowing what they find funny .


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,933 ✭✭✭holystungun9


    If you don't like it at least say it to my face! Yoohoo! I'm at the window.


  • Registered Users Posts: 3,108 ✭✭✭RachaelVO


    Katgurl wrote: »
    Ok seriously

    where the f*** is teddy?

    See, I'm not the only one, he's been desperately quiet, Teddy did she get to ya on Valentines? Did she skin ya and make herself a bunch of skin roses?

    C'mon Tedster, let us all know she didn't got totally mental...

    God lads, it's the valentines massacre all over again:(:(:(


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,758 ✭✭✭✭TeddyTedson


    hondasam wrote: »
    Teddy is an attention whore, he is probably sitting back lapping this up.

    Hey Ted:)
    Hey
    RachaelVO wrote: »
    See, I'm not the only one, he's been desperately quiet, Teddy did she get to ya on Valentines? Did she skin ya and make herself a bunch of skin roses?

    C'mon Tedster, let us all know she didn't got totally mental...

    God lads, it's the valentines massacre all over again:(:(:(
    Fortunately for me there's been no contact since...Unfortunately it makes the story kind of boring. I did nearly have a panic attack though at about 1am when I got a text but fortunately it was just from one of the lads drunk on a rant.

    To be honest I wouldn't go to the gardai about much unless I really had to.
    A last resort would be to change my number.
    There seems to be a lot of nut jobs out there.


  • Moderators, Entertainment Moderators Posts: 10,439 Mod ✭✭✭✭xzanti


    I had a jealous, crazy ex stalk me for about 6 months after a breakup.. I was 17 at the time and he was a complete pr1ck.. had to get a barring order on him after a while..

    Luckily enough my next door neighbour was a Garda and he overheard some of the threats I was being subjected to in my garden from him.. So he stood as a witness for me when I went to report it.

    He would do some seriously freaky sh1t to scare me.. including pulling up my Mother's flowers and arranging them like a wreath on the roof of our car.. moving our wheely bin around the back garden while we were sleeping at night, just let us know he'd been..

    And of course the mandatory hang up phone calls.. We had to get a caller ID installed..

    Oh he'd call to my Friends' houses when he couldn't get to me and tell them a load of lies about me bitching about them behind their backs etc.. just to try and turn them against me but thankfully they knew he was a screwball and didn't fall for it..

    Also threatened to kill our dog and cat..

    In a way I'm thankful that it happened as I am a much stronger person for it and I know the signs of a possessive, obsessive person early on and in relationships now.. it will never happen to me again.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,758 ✭✭✭✭TeddyTedson


    HazDanz wrote: »
    I bet she has a little Teddy voodoo doll and is trying to have a romantic night in with it watching you've got mail. I know that's what I would do if I was a creepy committed stalker
    If I believed in voodoo and all that crap I'd be freaked out now after picking up an injury.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,758 ✭✭✭✭TeddyTedson


    xzanti wrote: »
    I had a jealous, crazy ex stalk me for about 6 months after a breakup.. I was 17 at the time and he was a complete pr1ck.. had to get a barring order on him after a while..

    Luckily enough my next door neighbour was a Garda and he overheard some of the threats I was being subjected to in my garden from him.. So he stood as a witness for me when I went to report it.

    He would do some seriously freaky sh1t to scare me.. including pulling up my Mother's flowers and arranging them like a wreath on the roof of our car.. moving our wheely bin around the back garden while we were sleeping at night, just let us know he'd been..

    And of course the mandatory hang up phone calls.. We had to get a caller ID installed..

    Oh he'd call to my Friends' houses when he couldn't get to me and tell them a load of lies about me bitching about them behind their backs etc.. just to try and turn them against me but thankfully they knew he was a screwball and didn't fall for it..

    Also threatened to kill our dog and cat..

    In a way I'm thankful that it happened as I am a much stronger person for it and I know the signs of a possessive, obsessive person early on and in relationships now.. it will never happen to me again.
    It seems to more blokes that do it then women.
    I remember actually a girl who my sister was friends with being stalked by this bloke, who was badly obsessed by her.
    He used to ring her landline and not hang up the phone so when she hung up he would still be on the line for a few mins so if she picked up again he'd try talk to her again. He also gave her little brother who didn't know any better letters to give to her. I'm not sure what happened in the end but I see the guy around the area a bit. He's a junkie.


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  • Registered Users Posts: 553 ✭✭✭mysteries1984


    Katgurl wrote: »
    Everytime my phone beeped I'd a feeling of dread.

    +1 to this. It's one of the worst feelings I've ever encountered. I can laugh about it now (parts of it) but at the time it had me in tears. Every time I went to the letterbox I'd pause before looking to try psyche myself up a bit. It's funny to look at it in a light hearted way but when someone literally won't listen it's just awful. I didn't know what to expect. He obviously wasn't as stable as I thought he was so that made me wonder what else he was capable of.


  • Registered Users, Subscribers, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,585 ✭✭✭✭antodeco


    Teddy, give your network provider a ring. They will block all incoming attempts from the number. It's free and simple!


  • Registered Users Posts: 3,108 ✭✭✭RachaelVO


    Hey

    Fortunately for me there's been no contact since...Unfortunately it makes the story kind of boring. I did nearly have a panic attack though at about 1am when I got a text but fortunately it was just from one of the lads drunk on a rant.

    Awww, this was just getting interesting, had the potential to be like the thread where a flatmate was trying to kill a fellow boardsie!


    Glad your all right, for alrights sake, just disappointed for the sake of entertainment ;)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,758 ✭✭✭✭TeddyTedson


    RachaelVO wrote: »
    Awww, this was just getting interesting, had the potential to be like the thread where a flatmate was trying to kill a fellow boardsie!


    Glad your all right, for alrights sake, just disappointed for the sake of entertainment ;)
    She sent me texts last night asking what was wrong with her and other strange things. I just didn't reply. It's really annoying me at this stage. I'm still getting these texts and phone calls that I never answer.
    How can someone be so mental. Does she actually expect me to answer now and meet up with her again, WTF! :rolleyes:

    It's beginning to feel like a movie, I can't believe there are actual real stalkers out there who follow you to night clubs on their own!


  • Registered Users Posts: 3,108 ✭✭✭RachaelVO


    She sent me texts last night asking what was wrong with her and other strange things. I just didn't reply. It's really annoying me at this stage. I'm still getting these texts and phone calls that I never answer.
    How can someone be so mental. Does she actually expect me to answer now and meet up with her again, WTF! :rolleyes:

    It's beginning to feel like a movie, I can't believe there are actual real stalkers out there who follow you to night clubs on their own!

    STILL??????? Holy sh1t she's as a thick as two very short planks! I mean seriously...

    Mind you, may you really are all that with a cherry on top ;););)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,758 ✭✭✭✭TeddyTedson


    RachaelVO wrote: »
    STILL??????? Holy sh1t she's as a thick as two very short planks! I mean seriously...

    Mind you, may you really are all that with a cherry on top ;););)
    I wish! No, I'm just a regular bloke.

    I'm just going to hope it ends soon. I don't want to change my number, I've always had the same one.
    If I even answer one call and explain everything again I will just be encouraging her now I think.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,417 ✭✭✭ToddyDoody


    Its a tricky one. Stalking is a bit like being addicted to a person. How do you kick an addiction? (same methods should apply.. Devise a plan to help beat it, i'm sure there's info / steps online)


  • Registered Users Posts: 3,108 ✭✭✭RachaelVO


    I wish! No, I'm just a regular bloke.

    I'm just going to hope it ends soon. I don't want to change my number, I've always had the same one.
    If I even answer one call and explain everything again I will just be encouraging her now I think.

    Do not answer her, unless you get a female friend to answer/call her and ask why she keeps calling her husband. Or take it to take it to the local cop shop and ask them to call her!

    From the sounds of it though, you may need to take some action, she's being very persistent and she ain't going anywhere!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 800 ✭✭✭a fat guy


    RachaelVO wrote: »
    Do not answer her, unless you get a female friend to answer/call her and ask why she keeps calling her husband. Or take it to take it to the local cop shop and ask them to call her!

    From the sounds of it though, you may need to take some action, she's being very persistent and she ain't going anywhere!

    "You did NOT just call mah man hunny! You lookin' for a new set of sunglasses? Cuz you gonna' get 'em if you don't back up and check yo'self before ah wreck yo ass!"


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,758 ✭✭✭✭TeddyTedson


    RachaelVO wrote: »
    Do not answer her, unless you get a female friend to answer/call her and ask why she keeps calling her husband. Or take it to take it to the local cop shop and ask them to call her!

    From the sounds of it though, you may need to take some action, she's being very persistent and she ain't going anywhere!
    I actually think she might use this site because the last time when I was describing it in detail it seemed to stop. But I've never got any PMs or anything so I'm probably being paranoid now. Imagine though she knew my username with me being oblivious to it all.
    I've posted my photo on here a few times and taken it away quite quickly so it actually could be a possibility....that's actually weirding me out a bit now. creepy.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,635 ✭✭✭eth0


    She sent me texts last night asking what was wrong with her and other strange things. I just didn't reply. It's really annoying me at this stage. I'm still getting these texts and phone calls that I never answer.
    How can someone be so mental. Does she actually expect me to answer now and meet up with her again, WTF! :rolleyes:

    It's beginning to feel like a movie, I can't believe there are actual real stalkers out there who follow you to night clubs on their own!

    Just tell her to fuck off at this stage, this has been going on far too long now


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,758 ✭✭✭✭TeddyTedson


    eth0 wrote: »
    Just tell her to fuck off at this stage, this has been going on far too long now
    I basically have already done that ages ago. I don't want to respond again.
    Is there a way to block incoming texts and phone calls from even reaching the phone. I often am out with people and my phone starts ringing and ringing with calls from this nutter and people ask me why I'm not answering and I don't want to tell them.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,635 ✭✭✭eth0


    I basically have already done that ages ago. I don't want to respond again.
    Is there a way to block incoming texts and phone calls from even reaching the phone. I often am out with people and my phone starts ringing and ringing with calls from this nutter and people ask me why I'm not answering and I don't want to tell them.

    Did you use the exact words "fuck off"? if you are too nice they let on to themselves that there is a glimmer of hope and you wouldn't want them to be getting the wrong message


  • Registered Users Posts: 1,735 ✭✭✭dirtyden


    I basically have already done that ages ago. I don't want to respond again.
    Is there a way to block incoming texts and phone calls from even reaching the phone. I often am out with people and my phone starts ringing and ringing with calls from this nutter and people ask me why I'm not answering and I don't want to tell them.

    There is a silent function on most phones. You can respond to any non-stalker calls you have missed in due course.

    This does mean your phone bill will go up though.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,758 ✭✭✭✭TeddyTedson


    eth0 wrote: »
    Did you use the exact words "fuck off"? if you are too nice they let on to themselves that there is a glimmer of hope and you wouldn't want them to be getting the wrong message
    No, I was always polite. I don't want to tell them to **** off either though because then I'll end up saying sorry about how rude I was ect some time I'm locked and they'll get the wrong idea again.
    I don't know, this time last year everything was perfect.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,758 ✭✭✭✭TeddyTedson


    dirtyden wrote: »
    There is a silent function on most phones. You can respond to any non-stalker calls you have missed in due course.

    This does mean your phone bill will go up though.
    I always have my phone on silent anyway but if I could stop the calls getting through it would be like they weren't calling me.
    Do networks offer that service? Surely they must!?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,390 ✭✭✭IM0


    eh just bloc their number :confused:


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,758 ✭✭✭✭TeddyTedson


    IM0 wrote: »
    eh just bloc their number :confused:
    how?
    Can I block them so I won't even know if they've tried to contact me by call or text?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 606 ✭✭✭Jammy Donut


    New simcard, give her the new number and say its your new number..... Chat with her through that for a few days, then put that phone on silent and into a drawer, charging it every few days.

    If it works, she'll be texting/calling the new phone leaving your current phone alone......

    Could always try it, get a free o2 sim card (If they still do that offer) and spare phone, use web texts to text her then so it'll cost you nothing.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 372 ✭✭UL_heart_throb


    If you actually want to block a number from being able to ring you or text you full stop you can get this done by your network, but they will only do it at the request of the Gardai. So you will have to make a formal complaint. Usually when this happens, the Gardai ring the offending number, make a fuss, and the 'stalker' stops.

    If they don't, they can request the number be blocked. However, nothing stopping the offending person getting a new number to ring you from.

    If you're only link to this person is your mobile number I'd just ****ing change it and be rid of it.

    Some new phones I beleive have a local function that you can divert all calls from a specifc number to voice mail and text messages to delete but i don't know how to do that.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,635 ✭✭✭eth0


    No, I was always polite. I don't want to tell them to **** off either though because then I'll end up saying sorry about how rude I was ect some time I'm locked and they'll get the wrong idea again.
    I don't know, this time last year everything was perfect.

    New sim card would be the only fool proof method id say. Pain in the arse to change number but this seems to have been tormenting you for far too long now


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,758 ✭✭✭✭TeddyTedson


    If you actually want to block a number from being able to ring you or text you full stop you can get this done by your network, but they will only do it at the request of the Gardai. So you will have to make a formal complaint. Usually when this happens, the Gardai ring the offending number, make a fuss, and the 'stalker' stops.

    If they don't, they can request the number be blocked. However, nothing stopping the offending person getting a new number to ring you from.

    If you're only link to this person is your mobile number I'd just ****ing change it and be rid of it.

    Some new phones I beleive have a local function that you can divert all calls from a specifc number to voice mail and text messages to delete but i don't know how to do that.
    That's annoying. You'd think if I rang my network they'd block the number at my request. I don't really want to get the gardai involved.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,390 ✭✭✭IM0


    how?
    Can I block them so I won't even know if they've tried to contact me by call or text?

    yes. just find the option in your phone [mine has it but its a 'real' phone :p]
    it will be like they cant ring you. you wont have any notification or knowledge of them trying to ring or get their texts because...you know...its blocked!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,390 ✭✭✭IM0


    If you actually want to block a number from being able to ring you or text you full stop you can get this done by your network, but they will only do it at the request of the Gardai. So you will have to make a formal complaint. Usually when this happens, the Gardai ring the offending number, make a fuss, and the 'stalker' stops.

    If they don't, they can request the number be blocked. However, nothing stopping the offending person getting a new number to ring you from.

    If you're only link to this person is your mobile number I'd just ****ing change it and be rid of it.

    Some new phones I beleive have a local function that you can divert all calls from a specifc number to voice mail and text messages to delete but i don't know how to do that.

    very true :( you'll have to kill them so teddy :D


  • Registered Users Posts: 47 Laalaaa


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,758 ✭✭✭✭TeddyTedson


    Laalaaa wrote: »
    tedm.jpg
    Lol, I'm being completely honest about this though by the way, I'm not joking. As I said, if I could go back in time to about a year ago. Life was pretty much perfect. Actually that's depressing to think about.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,635 ✭✭✭eth0


    Maybe this person reminds you of the better times and you still have a slight bit of a soft spot for them.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10 skin the goat


    Total fustrating, I had a Stalker for years and had to change my number, tried asking my network for help but they said it had to go through the Gardai, mine was a unknown person to me and the help you get is very limited, it is very scary.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,619 ✭✭✭ilovesleep


    There is an application you can get called Call Control. I only have a basic thing because I didn't pay. It was free and it does the job.

    Once on phone, enter the application. Go to blacklist and enter phone number into your blacklist. Your blacklist are the numbers you don't want to hear from. Then go into the settings of the application and you have some options as to what to do with your blacklist.

    1) send number straight to voice mail
    2) pick up and hang up number
    or 3) mute number.

    1) the call will still come through but it will go straight to voicemail. You will receive a missed call sign but don't worry it went straight to voicemail.

    2) pick up and hang up number
    When a call comes from the number it will ring for 1 sec and the phone/app will pick up the call and hang up straight away. Pick up and hang up
    Missed call icon will appear also

    3) mute
    You can have your phone on loud but when/if the number calls it will be muted.

    Works also for unknown calls.

    Don't know if it works for incoming messages. Calls anyways


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,526 ✭✭✭dublinman1990


    My own Mother was stalked by a guy while both of them were working in Sandyford when I was only 5 years old. Whilst getting the bus home; after that he would follow us all the way down to the house as we tried not to notice him. We didn't have any mobile phones at the time as it was in the mid 90's. We still see him still lurking around on the streets very rarely now; it is only a couple of times per year.

    He went to my house unannounced a few times just to stay around a have a cup of tea or whatever. The only way of throwing him out if there was arguments was through my younger uncle. I am in my early 20's now and we both in our minds still hate him for it. Everytime that he sees my mother and I; the only decent he thing he does is to F*** off somewhere else and to leave us alone.

    I've had a similar problem as I was stalked by a guy possibly in his 50's in ginger hair who I had seen on a local bus route for which I was only going for 3 stops. He got off at the next stop after being forced off by two Guards while two other girls were with him drinking alcohol and attacking two women on that same bus. I'd seen him again a few years ago as he was only stalking right only metres behind me while walking into a Tesco store. I have not seen that same guy in years as he is a sick wierdo and probably dead.

    There are just some scumbags out there that won't leave you alone. I am glad to have some of that life disappear.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,372 ✭✭✭im invisible


    So he used the same bus as you once, and didnt get off at your stop, and then he was shopping in the same shop as you at some point, possibly years later?


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