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The Online Dating Thread Part II **Mod Warning** Read First Post/or Post 7389

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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 9,463 ✭✭✭KTRIC


    awec wrote: »
    So why is she on a dating site?

    No idea but she just disabled her profile because there was a guy on the site she previously dated and told him she didn't want a relationship, so for him not to see her profile she disabled it !!! I'm really confused. :confused:

    I don't know why you would string a guy a long on a dating site to be "just friends" :rolleyes:


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,000 ✭✭✭andreac


    KTRIC wrote: »
    No idea but she just disabled her profile because there was a guy on the site she previously dated and told him she didn't want a relationship, so for him not to see her profile she disabled it !!! I'm really confused. :confused:

    I don't know why you would string a guy a long on a dating site to be "just friends" :rolleyes:

    To me its just a cop out or easy way of saying i dont fancy you. Or could be seeing how it goes and then waiting for something better to come along or meeting up with several people.


  • Registered Users Posts: 8,247 ✭✭✭Maguined


    But sure he only injured it the night before? Could've been out drinking, and only injured it after he'd been talking to her. Because he rang her after, I'd be inclined to give him the benefit of the doubt here. :)

    You are more forgiving than I am so. She texted him at 10pm the night and he didn't mention it. She posted up here shortly after receiving the text from him around 5pm on the date night if he hurt his ankle the night before I would still expect someone to tell me before 5pm for some consideration. At 5pm you are finishing your day and might have been getting excited about the date all night so to only be told at the last minute he is cancelling when he hurt it the night before still smacks of inconsideration to me.

    But maybe I am just getting bitter and cranky in my old age. :pac:


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,107 ✭✭✭booboo88


    JimBob777 wrote: »
    dont feel sorry for yourself, its not healthy..instead look at the things your doing wrong potentially, choice of pictures, is your profile interesting enough, are you trying too hard to impress someone with it or your messages?
    theirs always room for improvement, if somethings not working, nothing to lose by changing it up a bit...
    hope this helps :)
    Im not feeling sorry for myself, I just know when something doesnt work, and Im not one for flogging a dead horse.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,040 ✭✭✭Armaghmagic


    Is there a way of checking out people with your profession (teacher in my case)?

    Also has there been any cases of 2 boards.ie members "getting it together"??


  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    There's been many cases of boardsies hooking up. But just be wary that it is somewhat frowned upon (when done in "open" - I say open, as opposed to the private forums) as boards isn't a dating site.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    Galvasean wrote: »
    Date for tomorrow confirmed. Looking forward to that.

    That went well. Had a few drinks in the sun. Haven't gotten any word back from her after I texted her on the way home saying it would be nice to do something like that again. Will probablyend up adding this to the list of 'enjoyable first dates that did not lead to a second'. Was still a fun though. Not like I had any other plans (audition notwithstanding).


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,040 ✭✭✭Armaghmagic


    There's been many cases of boardsies hooking up. But just be wary that it is somewhat frowned upon (when done in "open" - I say open, as opposed to the private forums) as boards isn't a dating site.

    How do you get onto the private forums.......women are messing with my head on POF at the minute! Meeting up a few times and then NOTHING!!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 8,390 ✭✭✭The Big Red Button


    Maguined wrote: »
    You are more forgiving than I am so. She texted him at 10pm the night and he didn't mention it. She posted up here shortly after receiving the text from him around 5pm on the date night if he hurt his ankle the night before I would still expect someone to tell me before 5pm for some consideration. At 5pm you are finishing your day and might have been getting excited about the date all night so to only be told at the last minute he is cancelling when he hurt it the night before still smacks of inconsideration to me.

    But maybe I am just getting bitter and cranky in my old age. :pac:

    But sure maybe he was hoping all day that it would improve enough that he wouldn't have to cancel?

    I do get where you're coming from, but if I liked the guy, I'd probably give him a second chance!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,844 ✭✭✭Honey-ec


    But sure maybe he was hoping all day that it would improve enough that he wouldn't have to cancel?

    That's what he said alright.
    I do get where you're coming from, but if I liked the guy, I'd probably give him a second chance!

    I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt this time, but if it happens again, I'm cutting him loose!


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 9,463 ✭✭✭KTRIC


    Had a date last night and another date with a different lady tonight. Very keen about this one :D


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 10,762 ✭✭✭✭ecoli


    booboo88 wrote: »
    Im not feeling sorry for myself, I just know when something doesnt work, and Im not one for flogging a dead horse.

    I think it depends on the approach you take. If you see OD as the primary way to meet people you are going to be consumed by over analysing of non responses and profile visits.

    Better to live your life as normal and drop in occasionally on your page. Its should supplement your social life not become the focal point.

    I approached it this way in the past but since then have lightened up. Only pop on once every few days have a gander around send a mail or two if I come across someone I like but expect a non response (due to fact I would say IMO there is about 1 in five chance of a response). These days If I get converstation out of it or even a date its a bonus but my life doesnt stop because of it.

    The more involved in it you become the more it dents your confidence so why let yourself get into that situation

    At the same time though what harm is it leaving it up even if you dont check that often. Only takes one random matchup on them sites to find someone worth finding (better chances than the lotto without any work:D)


  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    How do you get onto the private forums.......women are messing with my head on POF at the minute! Meeting up a few times and then NOTHING!!

    Depends on the private forum. Some you have to PM the mod of and others you have to be invited to.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 35,954 ✭✭✭✭Larianne


    How do you get onto the private forums.......women are messing with my head on POF at the minute! Meeting up a few times and then NOTHING!!

    You're not going to be let into a private forum just to access female boardsies. :cool:

    POF messes with most peoples head (Have you read this thread?!).

    Maybe take a break from the online dating for a while. It does get to most people after a while.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 51,342 ✭✭✭✭That_Guy


    Just wondering would it be easier to meet people off this then get chatting on POF?

    Male, 25, Louth

    Deal breaker tbh. :pac:


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 51,342 ✭✭✭✭That_Guy


    Usually Larianne asks it but.....

    Who's got a date lined up this weekend then?


  • Registered Users Posts: 713 ✭✭✭tatumkelly


    Not yet... but I'm hopeful :D


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 9,463 ✭✭✭KTRIC


    Just in the door from a date and dammmmn , she's fine :D intelligent, bubbly and well edumacated . Me thinks there'll be more.


  • Registered Users Posts: 713 ✭✭✭tatumkelly


    YAY....delighted for you :D


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 35,954 ✭✭✭✭Larianne


    That_Guy wrote: »
    Usually Larianne asks it but.....

    Who's got a date lined up this weekend then?

    Damn you!!!!
    KTRIC wrote: »
    Just in the door from a date and dammmmn , she's fine :D intelligent, bubbly and well edumacated . Me thinks there'll be more.

    Ah, that's great. :)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 21 Anny Hall


    Hi there,

    Hope you don't mind if I join in here. Have really enjoyed reading some of the posts. Am so glad that it's not just me who finds the whole online thing a minefield!

    Thought I had hit the jackpot when first guy seemed great. We emailed everyday for a week and then arranged phone call which never happened and zero contact since. The going suddenly cold thing is a pain but guess to be expected!

    One thing about internet can disguise poor social skills easily. Was in touch with this guy who seemed well rounded, lots of interests etc but when we met he was as dull as dish water, with nothing to say for himself! Heart sank, zero social skills.

    All in all a mixed bag. Keep expectations low!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 51,342 ✭✭✭✭That_Guy


    KTRIC wrote: »
    Just in the door from a date and dammmmn , she's fine :D intelligent, bubbly and well edumacated . Me thinks there'll be more.

    Glad to hear mate. Best of luck. :)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    The awkward moment when one of your best friends' little sister views your POF profile...


  • Registered Users Posts: 8,247 ✭✭✭Maguined


    Galvasean wrote: »
    The awkward moment when one of your best friends' little sister views your POF profile...

    She is cute isn't she for extra bonus awkward points.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,838 ✭✭✭doncarlos


    Galvasean wrote: »
    The awkward moment when one of your best friends' little sister views your POF profile...

    Hope you didn't click in to her profile or it'll look like your interested! :D


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    Maguined wrote: »
    She is cute isn't she for extra bonus awkward points.

    It doesn't matter.
    doncarlos wrote: »
    Hope you didn't click in to her profile or it'll look like your interested! :D

    No no no, girls look at your profile when they're interested in the hope that you mail them back. Boys send 17 messages when interested in a girl. That's how it works!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 37,314 ✭✭✭✭the_syco


    doncarlos wrote: »
    Hope you didn't click in to her profile or it'll look like your interested! :D
    Oh, I'm betting he did, "to make sure it's her" :P


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    the_syco wrote: »
    Oh, I'm betting he did, "to make sure it's her" :P

    More like, "Hello potentially cute thumbnail girl.. let's have a looksie... ah no!"
    Like when someone you went out with before changes their profiler and you don't realise it's them and then you look all stalkery >_<


  • Registered Users Posts: 8,247 ✭✭✭Maguined


    Galvasean wrote: »
    More like, "Hello potentially cute thumbnail girl.. let's have a looksie... ah no!"
    Like when someone you went out with before changes their profiler and you don't realise it's them and then you look all stalkery >_<

    Yeah I must look like a total stalker as whenever bored in meetings in work or work in general I sit back and look at profiles on my phone for a bit of a browse, so many people change their photos regularly enough that I don't realise I have already seen their profile before I open it up. I must have checked out some profiles a couple of times a week by accident. :o


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 753 ✭✭✭Semele


    Rather entertaining date last night with someone I didn't have high hopes for but turned out to be both better-looking and nicer than he'd seemed online. It was only a quick drink as he had to be somewhere else after but there was lots of flirting and a bit of a kiss from him at the end- admittedly very soon but pulled off in such a light-hearted and cheeky way it made me laugh:D No firm plans to meet again but I'm sure we will be...

    Got rather excited yesterday at having 2 new messages- checked them and one is from a guy I ill-advisedly kissed at a party 3 years ago (and still shudder at the thought of) and the other was from the guy my friend is currently dating:rolleyes: Gah.


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  • Registered Users Posts: 713 ✭✭✭tatumkelly


    Ah why do people use sites like that if they're in a relationship :rolleyes: Cheaters disgust me.... I'd be happy out with one gorgeous, rich, funny, charming heir to the throne... simple tastes :o

    I came across my best friend's boyfriend on the site before, I'd only met him twice at this stage so he didn't recognise me and mailed me. I rang my friend so fast!!! :eek:


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    ^^ Wow, that's horrible. You did the right thing though.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 9,463 ✭✭✭KTRIC


    tatumkelly wrote: »
    Ah why do people use sites like that if they're in a relationship :rolleyes: Cheaters disgust me.... I'd be happy out with one gorgeous, rich, funny, charming heir to the throne... simple tastes :o

    I came across my best friend's boyfriend on the site before, I'd only met him twice at this stage so he didn't recognise me and mailed me. I rang my friend so fast!!! :eek:

    What did she say?


  • Registered Users Posts: 713 ✭✭✭tatumkelly


    She ripped the piss out me for being on POF, and then got rid of him :p


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 35,954 ✭✭✭✭Larianne


    That_Guy wrote: »
    Usually Larianne asks it but.....

    Who's got a date lined up this weekend then?

    I may have one tonight.

    Maybe.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 9,463 ✭✭✭KTRIC


    I have one for tomorrow :-)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 35,954 ✭✭✭✭Larianne


    KTRIC wrote: »
    I have one for tomorrow :-)

    Same girl from last night's date?


  • Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional Abroad Moderators Posts: 6,485 Mod ✭✭✭✭silvervixen84


    I've just confirmed one for Sunday :D


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 9,463 ✭✭✭KTRIC


    Larianne wrote: »
    KTRIC wrote: »
    I have one for tomorrow :-)

    Same girl from last night's date?

    Yup, she hadn't coped on I'm nuts yet thankfully


  • Registered Users Posts: 40 roro_utd


    I've a picture of me with 3 other mates and rarely get many replies, do people generally reply to users who have a picture of just themselves more?


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 35,954 ✭✭✭✭Larianne


    roro_utd wrote: »
    I've a picture of me with 3 other mates and rarely get many replies, do people generally reply to users who have a picture of just themselves more?

    Yes. I wouldn't waste my time trying to guess who's who in a group photo. :cool:


  • Moderators, Category Moderators, Music Moderators, Politics Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 22,360 CMod ✭✭✭✭Dravokivich


    Would of been the same meself as Lari said above.

    If you want to attract someone you need to show them who you are.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,080 ✭✭✭foxinsox


    :-)


  • Moderators, Category Moderators, Music Moderators, Politics Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 22,360 CMod ✭✭✭✭Dravokivich


    Don't know anything about nuns habits, sorry Fox. :(


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,949 ✭✭✭Samich


    No dates, woooooooo.


  • Registered Users Posts: 73 ✭✭JimBob777


    no dates but im going to a 21st, stealing the 21st kiss should suffice :D


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,040 ✭✭✭Armaghmagic


    Congratulations, I dont have any dates this weekend myself! :(


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    tatumkelly wrote: »
    She ripped the piss out me for being on POF, and then got rid of him :p

    1. Make fun of friend
    2. Dump cheating boyfriend

    IN THAT ORDER


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 9,463 ✭✭✭KTRIC


    Galvasean wrote: »
    tatumkelly wrote: »
    She ripped the piss out me for being on POF, and then got rid of him :p

    1. Make fun of friend
    2. Dump cheating boyfriend

    IN THAT ORDER

    3. xxxxxx xxxx
    4. Profit


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  • Registered Users Posts: 779 ✭✭✭ChannelNo5


    Sweet baby Jesus and the orphans!! Took the plunge. Finally got back on POF and Oh my fcukin GOD!!

    A deluge! Deluge i tells ya! Of complete weirdo's and a few 22 year olds.... :( Fresh meat is right! Lots of wants to meet and added as favourites... If that's a line i ain't biting;)

    Not had any mickey pictures yet though :rolleyes:


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