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Embarrassing problem at work after a drunk night out

Niamhy_Li

Hi been following boards for a number of years and thought now is a good a time as any to ask for some advice.

One of the girls finished up in work on friday so we finished up early and headed for a few drinks in town but as always a "few drinks" turned into a whole afternoon and night of drinking. We were all quite merry come 9 o'clock, some girls called it night while me and 4 others carried on to a couple more pubs. As the night wore on I really was beginning to feel the effects of the drinks but the rest of the group were the same so I wasn't too concerned. As the night was coming to an end the ridiculous amount of drink really hit me i.e Hiccups, swaying and stumbling back and forth between the smoking area and bathroom every 5 mins.

The taxi home is still all a bit of a blur I knew I was very pissed which the killer hangover told me the next morning. But as I looked at my phone the next morning I was tagged in a video on facebook, one of the girls had taken a video of me getting out the taxi and stumbling the whole way up my street which also shows me trying to put my key in the front door in my drunken state, I'll also add I had a bit of a wardrobe malfunction (My belt was undone which caused my trousers to slide down below my hips) when I got out of the taxi which is clearly visible in the video.

My question is how to I tell her i'm really not happy with her putting it on facebook, im so embarrassed over the whole situation as it's most definitely the drunkest iv'e ever been! I've already asked her to remove it and she just txt back numerous laughing faces saying "but it's so funny" we are both in our early 30's so I can't understand why she can't see how mortified I am. Any advice from fellow women would be very much welcomed.

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Niamhy_Li wrote: »

Thank you for the advice will facebook take long to look into the issue? I really wan't it gone asap

It's reviewed and action take which is usually fast.
You will get an email from them

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Text her and tell her if its not taken down within an hour your going to HR to report her. Tell her youve looked up the companies bullying and harrasment policy and because it happened on a work night out they can get involved.
It might scare the shyte out of her if shes on a/l and wont have access to the policy.

Edit, beaten to hr while I was typing

Niamhy_Li

TG1 wrote: »

The fact that you can see your bum should be enough to get it taken off Facebook if you want to go down that route... Report it for explicit content...

Thank you for the advice will facebook take long to look into the issue? I really wan't it gone asap

Story Bud?

She sounds like an absolutely horrible person. Horrible horrible horrible person. Jesus Christ.

You could threaten her with going to HR about it if she doesn't remove it. I know that you probably don't want HR to see it and to be fair they might not have any interest in it, but it might do the trick.

I cannot believe people would do this to a friend/colleague/anyone. It's out and out nasty. I feel sick for you tbh.

TG1

Niamhy_Li wrote: »

What's annoying me just as much is the fact she didn't even attempt to help me towards my my house like I said I take full responsibility for getting that drunk I'm a grown woman, but the fact that I was clearly legless, I was basically stumbling around in circles trying to stand let alone walk. And not once did it dawn on her that actually this is really not that funny and maybe I should help her in case she might fall. The fact that you can see my bum in the video should have been enough of a reason not to put the video up!!

I'm not looking for sympathy I just wan't to find a solution to this problem as soon as possible and find out why she's behaving like a teenager, this is a married woman were talking about!!

The fact that you can see your bum should be enough to get it taken off Facebook if you want to go down that route... Report it for explicit content...

Niamhy_Li

sadie1502 wrote: »

I would actually track the bitch down sorry but I'd go mental. It's not on you need to pick up the phone and ring her and tell her take it the f@@k down now. What an idiot

What's annoying me just as much is the fact she didn't even attempt to help me towards my my house like I said I take full responsibility for getting that drunk I'm a grown woman, but the fact that I was clearly legless, I was basically stumbling around in circles trying to stand let alone walk. And not once did it dawn on her that actually this is really not that funny and maybe I should help her in case she might fall. The fact that you can see my bum in the video should have been enough of a reason not to put the video up!!

I'm not looking for sympathy I just wan't to find a solution to this problem as soon as possible and find out why she's behaving like a teenager, this is a married woman were talking about!!

sadie1502

I would actually track the bitch down sorry but I'd go mental. It's not on you need to pick up the phone and ring her and tell her take it the f@@k down now. What an idiot

mickmackmcgoo

You might have to up the Ante to get her attention. Have you anything incriminating on her that you can suggest to her that you are going to put up on her page.

mojesius

Jaysus OP she sounds very immature. I have a friend who would upload the most hideous drunk 5am pictures of people and when I'd ask her to take them down, I'd be told the same thing 'lighten up, they're hilarious'. No they're really not, especially when work colleagues see them!

You have to be very blunt about it and tell her to take it down, also ask her not to post videos/pics of you at the end of a night again. Ask her if she'd be happy if her friends, colleagues and family saw a video of her hammered doing the same? (Although maybe she's one of those people who like posting drunk videos and pics of herself).

On another note, things like this are why i leave work nights out when I feel myself getting tipsy. Don't want Frank the Tank to come out

You can also control who can tag you or pre-approve tags on fb in privacy settings (I have this set up due to said friend). Still that doesn't stop morons posting videos but it's a bit more control!

Niamhy_Li

sadie1502 wrote: »

Oh god this is why I hate Facebook and phones. I would tell her take it down now. That's just embarrassing what kindof person posts those videos what age is she 10 ? Just ring her and tell her take it down now. It's majorly embarrassing and you do not want it on Facebook. Would she like it if the tables were turned.

I have txt her numerous times since it's happened she is currently on annual leave until Thursday which makes things worse, I've even privately messaged her sister to get in touch with her still to no avail.

I absolutely accept full responsibility for getting that drunk but the video is 3 minutes long and i'm constantly stumbling in it, have the hiccups and my trousers are down closer to my knees than my hips in it which i'm deeply ashamed of I really don't think she could of got a worse video of me if she tried.

I am absolutely livid about the whole situation and can't see myself being anything but confrontational towards her when I see her.

I'm normally a person who see's the funny side of things but i'm actually in shock as to why anyone would find this funny

msshono

You've already asked her and she has laughed back at you.

I would read the t&cs on Facebook and community charter then report the post and make sure you outline how it breeches same (to strengthen your case for having it removed). Then text her to tell her you've done this to demonstrate how annoyed you are about the whole situation and tell her she needs to remove it immediately.

Then change your security settings immediately on FB so nobody can tag you etc without your permission.

PlainP

Untick yourself in the video. Can you still do that on FB? Dont use it myself but was on it a few years ago and you could untag (that's the word) yourself.

blackcard

Very poor form from your colleague. I would be livid with her and demand she take it down. It will blow over however

TG1

I'd take her aside and just say you're really embarrassed by it and worried about who else might see it in the future and would she mind deleting it... Don't be confrontational about it, that will only add to the juvenile enjoyment she is getting from it...

antodeco

I think you just need to approach it head on.

"Hey X, is it possible to take down that video? I am really embarrassed by it, and I'd rather it not going any further than it already has. I appreciate there is an element of humour to it, but Im honestly embarrassed and disgusted at how I behaved. I hope you understand, thanks"

Even send it as a message/text if you don't have the courage to say it face to face.

Humour Me

Definitely call her, some people just need to be told to cop on.

uck51js9zml2yt

You can use the report button on Facebook.

sadie1502

Oh god this is why I hate Facebook and phones. I would tell her take it down now. That's just embarrassing what kindof person posts those videos what age is she 10 ? Just ring her and tell her take it down now. It's majorly embarrassing and you do not want it on Facebook. Would she like it if the tables were turned.