Wanderer2010 wrote: » I can only speak for myself but a lot of people out there still see a man/woman in their 30s who is single as almost an experiment and try to match them up with someone before......you die?
Wanderer2010 wrote: » Another con: This might be envy in disguise but I'm shocked by how some of my friends got a partner, one guy in particular is an immature, overweight and spoilt brat who would from outside look like the eternal loser in love and yet he has a very nice long term girlfriend who could do a LOT better and whats worse, he has a maddening sense of entitlement about being in a relationship, he never mentions how lucky he is or how hard he had to chase her: Its as if he gives off a vibe of "Of course I'm not single, why would I be". :mad:
Wanderer2010 wrote: » Its not so much of a con but I don find it a bit odd when people say to men or women in their 30s who are looking to hook up "Try the nightclubs". Now I know some clubs are designed for an older crowd but if I went into any nightclub in my area I would be too old by a factor of about 12 years ha ha:o
Confucius say wrote: » I don't know how old you are but as a 35 year old I've been out a fair bit lately and always meet girls (women??) in their 30s. Maybe you're going to the wrong places
SarahMollie wrote: » Possibly the difference here is specifically "nightclubs"...I don't think I've been in a nightclub (outside of work events where we've our own section or something) in years...My friends who are 29-31 mostly tend to go to late bars rather than actual night clubs. I mostly know Dublin but there are definitely bars with late licenses around the Camden St, Baggott St and Dawson St areas that are aiming at a late 20's/30s crowd.
Mister Vain wrote: » Ahh it depends on the venue alright. My local club has a young crowd on Friday nights but on Saturday nights there seems to be a lot more people in their 30's there.
SarahMollie wrote: » Are you in a rural area? Any time i've visisted friends from counrty towns and we've gone to the local club, it seems like a bit of an all ages dicso I find in Dublin because there are many more places, all trying to find their niche, that its actually much more segregated, not only by age but also places for the hipsters, culchies, people with notions etc.... take your pick!
notsayingmyname wrote: » 33 single, never had sex never kissed, held hands basically never spent any amount of time with a girl ever. To look at me I am not terrible looking, nor great, and have a decent job. Honestly have no idea how to change things. There is always someone doing worse as im sure there is someone just like me without a job and/or family etc..Still bloody torture thou.
Wanderer2010 wrote: » Pros: You can keep to your own timetable you can do what you want and have casual meetings with no strings. Cons: The amount of people who think they have the right to pry into your business "Aw still single, are we ever going to sort you out?" is an oft-repeated statement from family relatives, friends and even workmates, as If being single is a character deficit that must be filled asap. I find it incredibly rude when people feel the need to pry into your personal life. I mean, I would never ask another person to share their marital status, shame more people aren't like me.
Tigger99 wrote: » Well there hasn't been a TGC beers in a while
The Black Oil wrote: » Similar here in terms of non-experience and age. Tbh, I think as you get older you start to fall into 'and zero fups were given' approach on some days. I don't mean that in a self-defeating way, just that if someone were overly inquisitive about it the comments wouldn't get under my skin as much as in the past. Tbh, I've not had active friendships for quite a few years and family don't ask me about this topic. It's not really a priority for me at the moment and I've no expectation of meeting anyone.
SarahMollie wrote: » Do you mind me asking, do you think you never had the interest (ie asexual or v low desire) or its just the way things worked out?
TheBiz wrote: » I'm 18, never had a relationship longer than 2 weeks.. I've been meeting this girl on nights out, but when she tries to get to know me other than that (going to town etc) I can't really commit to it, never felt like I want for it to encroach on my personal time... I just like being on my own except for a little while every now and then. Some people find it weird, even the lads I know are taken aback by it...
Mister Vain wrote: » Being single for a long period of time is one thing, but being single for your entire life with no intimacy at all must be very difficult.
Galwayguy35 wrote: » I think it's worse having experienced being intimate and everything else that going with being involved with someone and then going years without any physical contact with the opposite sex. I don't think it would be as difficult to miss something you never experienced. Although it's hard to believe that any person could go their whole life being single but maybe it does happen.
Mister Vain wrote: » Well if I had a choice I'd pick the former. Better to have loved and lost as they say. I'm sure there are people that go their whole life without any intimacy.
Mister Vain wrote: » If its just sex you're looking for you can always use an escort. I know its not the same but I miss going for romantic walks and rolling around in the hay.
raze_them_all_ wrote: » Why would I pay for sex?? Weird thing is women like casual sex, no need to pay for it
Fukuyama wrote: » I'm a hypocrite when it comes to escorts, strip clubs and lap dances etc.... I'm all for legal adult entertainment and a safe prostitution industry. However, I don't think I could ever look at myself in the mirror if I forked over half a weeks wages just to have mechanical sex with some random woman. If anything it'd probably make me crave actual intimacy even more. I'm probably a panzy in that regard. It seems like escorts are becoming quite normal among even young lads.
zephyro wrote: » A minority do, with a horde of guys chasing them. There's a price (not just monetary) no matter how you get it, try working out what a typical relationship costs the average guy.
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