CaraMay wrote: » It's at a level of privacy that the bride & groom as happy with and given it's their day, you should respect that. My sister in law lives her life out on Facebook and once my son was born I asked her not to post photos of him on Facebook as I don't agree with it. She had no issue and respected my request. It's the same thing.
sporina wrote: » got a wedding invite the other day and on the back is printed : "x & y request kindly for guests to refrain from posting wedding pic's on social media site's" not seen this before - is this a common thing now?
BabysCoffee wrote: » It's not a common thing. Posting on Social Media on the other hand is becoming the norm. Guess there will be interesting times ahead.....
amdublin wrote: » You are right, it is becoming the norm. Does that mean everyone has to conform though? No of course not. But be prepared for the reaction when you go putting directions like this on your invitation.
CaraMay wrote: » Be 'prepared for the reaction' lol. Are you going to scribble on her homework
mrsbyrne wrote: » There won't be any "reaction". Amdublin just has a reactionary, bolshie streak in her which means her instant retort to ANY instruction is "don't f**king tell me what to do!". She's not going to deny that! Its no harm either! She has said that obviously she will comply with any such request, but her response is confrontational. That's just the way she feels.
CaraMay wrote: » Be 'prepared for the reaction' lol. Are you going to scribble on her homework I just think it's common manners, when people ask you not to put photos of them on social media, to follow their wishes. What kind of a friend would have an issue with that?
amdublin wrote: » I just think it's common manners not to give your friends rules to follow at a party.
rainbowtrout wrote: » Would you object to being asked not to smoke in somebody's house if they were having a party there? Assuming you were a smoker. It's a rule plenty of people impose on visitors to their house and people generally don't object.
ronjo wrote: » Or what about if a friend told you something in confidence at the party? Would you think it "common manners" that they expect you to keep it to yourself?
amdublin wrote: » Umm I think cancer causing cancer sticks are a bit different from a few photos don't you. Lads a bit of perspective please!!
BabysCoffee wrote: » There's a sensible way to get the word out about the rules that you are imposing. Writing the whole "no social media" crap on your invite is not the way to go. Same way you wouldn't put a sign on your door listing all your rules (including the no smoking one) for all your guests to see as they enter. You'd use a bit of common sense and when you see someone light up you'd ask them to go outside. With the facebook request there is no need to print it on the invites - unless you think your grandmother or your in-laws are going to put stuff up on FB??? You just appear like a crank (telling people not to do something that they weren't going to do anyway), it looks tacky and I think you will regret it down the line when you are looking back at your invite in a few years time.
rainbowtrout wrote: » Less of the personal attacks please. And for the last time I'm not getting married. And on the invites. If I was getting married I wouldn't be keeping them. Just more clutter taking up space. I don't keep anyone else's invites either, it's kept until the wedding so I remember where the church is if it's not a town I'm familiar with, after that it goes straight in the bin.
Princess Peach wrote: » If in 20 years time I'm looking at my wedding invitation and filled with regret and sadness at the wording of it, rather than celebrating a long and happy marriage, I'll know I have lived my life wrong :pac:
amdublin wrote: » ??? Oh come on!!!!! Perspective!
amdublin wrote: » Well that's just it. If you're worrying before, or mad after, about a few pics on the internet wouldn't you be better off celebrating this happy and wonderful time.
ronjo wrote: » Its incredibly rich for you to talk about perspective after saying you would resent someone for asking you not to put their picture on facebook on their wedding day. RESENT THEM !! Come on ! Perspective!
amdublin wrote: » It'd be handy if you used the quote button when quoting someone because I never said id RESENT THEM. I said I would resent that they asked me that.
Dolbert wrote: » A friend whose wedding I attended had asked that no wedding photos of her be uploaded publicly, and I heard lots of grumbling 'who does she think she is' about it. Most people knew the reason for this, she'd had a hard time with an online stalker type for a few years, and as a result had no identifiable pics of herself up on FB as well as a modified version of her name. She had a very real reason not to want all and sundry tagging and uploading pics of her but still had lots of snide 'saving the pics for Hello magazine' type comments about it. I just don't get how people can get annoyed about being asked not to do this? I honestly think the people who get most put out are the ones living their lives though FB, and are miffed that now they won't get to be 'first' to upload pics. It doesn't impact the guests at all BTW I didn't give a fiddler's what was uploaded to Facebook on my wedding day, I loved looking through them until the official photos arrived. It doesn't mean that everyone will feel the same way!
irishguy1983 wrote: » Interesting story but what about people who don't have a story like that and simply don't want photos from a private day up on internet? People who don't have a story like that? I just don't like social media and I would rather people didn't put up photos from a private,family day really. Ummmmmm....
