_Redzer_ wrote: » The thread is gone on to talk about people expecting young people just out of school to pay their share -so much so to go on to say they should be doing it, forgetting their are other circumstances and that it is a long road. Some people who might've thrown money down for rent while at home might not chip in to treat their parents down the line or be as generous back to them, while the ones that didn't, now that they're in a position to be more given do so regularly. I know some of my cousins who are very, very generous to their parents in return. And in the long run, don't they both equal each other anyway? I wouldn't move out if it was under €100 a week, if it was €100 a week I'd be gone, I'd rather put a bit extra with it and have my independence. Paying that much to live at home without your privacy and own space isn't worth it to me.
helimachoptor wrote: » I also bought a house during the boom.. I'm not that safe a bet!
Recondite49 wrote: » Hi acon, I would suggest that you charge €150 for bed and board for someone working a 35 hour week on minimum wage. While this sounds a large amount, you will be giving your kid a realistic sense of how much it costs "out there" - indeed some people pay a good deal more than this! Also you don't have to spend the full amount. Anything left over each week you can put into a savings account for your kid for when they move out - they'll need to come up with a deposit and one month's rent after all. I know other posters may feel that saving up is the young person's responsibility but at least this way they'll have something when they leave. Also if you don't charge an amount commensurate with the cost of living there's not much incentive for them to fly the nest! :-)
Recondite49 wrote: » Well said Joey, also this emphasises the point that others have made earlier, myself included - if the parent doesn't charge something in line with the cost of living then the adult child hasn't much incentive to move out. However as I said, there's nothing preventing the parent from putting a portion of that money aside e.g into a savings account to help their child move into their own place when the time comes.
Frank Lee Midere wrote: » Their home? Nonsense. They don't own it.
oppenheimer1 wrote: » Nonsense. If I lived at home I wouldn't have to help out (though I would) and I still wouldn't move back home unless I was broke. There are plenty of incentives to leave the nest, having your own space is one of them.I really don't understand the mentality of some parents, get out once you're 18. It's unnecessarily harsh and alienating IMO.
Awkward Badger wrote: » Doesn't matter if they don't own it, its their home, where they live, where they have likely lived all their lives. You'd want to be one stingy cúnt to turn around and make them rent their own room in their own home off you. They are still your children ffs. Asking them to pay their way is one thing, taking them for whatever you can get is something else.
darkpagandeath wrote: » When do you cut the apron strings ? When your 35 still living in your room playing wow ? Most people of my age when they were 18 wanted to get out of the family home asap.
professore wrote: » Someone too mean to see that they should help out with bills when they have loads of disposable income won't give back a cent later on when they have mortgages and bills to pay.
acon2119 wrote: » How much is the average amount of money grown up kids living with their parents pay towards their keep per week. I have a 20 year old who had a few part time jobs with varying amounts of hours per week and I have never took money from them so far but now they are starting a job working 35 hrs per week at minimum wage and I really could do with them contributing to their share a bit as money is very tight. This 20 yr old has a car which the running of it is fully financed by themselves. I would love to hear an opinion from other parents in this situation.
Kash Noisy Room wrote: » +100 Never heard of people paying to live in their own home in their own room until I say threads about it on here. It very much surprised me that it happens. There is no way I'd be allowed to pay "rent" if I was living at home (nor did I when I lived at home), if I tried I'd find it transferred back into my account.
Lia_lia wrote: » I don't understand how people live at home by choice after they finish college/school. I know people in their late 20s living at home even though they have a job. Their parents do their cooking and cleaning and everything for them! Sorry to be harsh but do people just not want to get some independence and grow up?!
darkpagandeath wrote: » How has this gone from being asked to pay your fair share when you are working. To parents standing outside your bedroom door going on about some kind of hall tax. No one has suggested any more than paying for what you use.
Recondite49 wrote: » If you want to help your kids, like I said, charge them an amount they would realistically pay if they renting their own place - you can always keep some back to give them when they finally move on... ... €150 a week is fair for someone on the minimum wage. If as a parent you put 100 towards essentials and keep 50 back- that means after six months you'll have 1200 to pay towards the deposit and first month's rent on a house share or apartment. That means after six months you can enable your adult child to take control of their own life. Of course if your kid wants to save more than this out of their wages and move out sooner, so much the better! :-)
helimachoptor wrote: » I don't think that's extreme, once you're a "grown up" when you add in rent, gas, electricity, food, TV, BB etc that in a lot of cases will be more than 30%. And those bills still have to be paid if you are on hols!
darkpagandeath wrote: » When do you cut the apron strings ? When your 35 still living in your room playing wow ?
Kash Noisy Room wrote: » I would look on my home house as mine (as would my parents) and would think it was the height of madness to even suggest paying rent, they would much rather I kept the money and saved it or spent it on things I wanted myself.
Magaggie wrote: » I really don't see the need for a set lump sum per month that could be worth more than their share.
Young Blood wrote: » Isn't there a legal aspect to all of this. Say if a child decides to live at home and pay rent for 5-10 years and the parents die and leave the house to be distributed to all the children, won't that child who was paying rent claim a larger equity in the house? If that is the case, then some parents might have to reconsider accepting rent from their children.
Hotfail.com wrote: » Do people actually call this money "rent" though? All I'd consider it is paying mam and dad so I can have the privilege of staying at home, wouldn't consider it paying rent tbh.
Ranchu wrote: » If you're handing over €300 quid a month I'd consider it rent. Don't think it would legally be considered rent unless the parent is registered with the PRTB and is paying tax on it though.
oppenheimer1 wrote: » Nonsense. If I lived at home I wouldn't have to help out (though I would) and I still wouldn't move back home unless I was broke. There are plenty of incentives to leave the nest, having your own space is one of them. I really don't understand the mentality of some parents, get out once you're 18. It's unnecessarily harsh and alienating IMO.
Magaggie wrote: » I really don't see the need for a set lump sum per month that could be worth more than their share. Payment towards their share of bills and other household expenses is more than enough. Let them set up their own bank account for savings. I'm not sure how handing money up to parents for them to save for you is "helping"; seems like a form of dependency to me. And is very much treating an adult like a child. But the person who's on holidays isn't there for bills that cover the duration of their holiday. Parents overcharging their kids because "that's what they'd be charged in rented accommodation" are completely screwing their kids out of money.
The Mig wrote: » I pay €300 a month to my mother. I get dinner everyday, washing done, my own room with UPC digital. I'll be there for as long as possible :pac:
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