Motivator wrote: » it's probably bad - bad enough for her to be on an internet dating website.
catallus wrote: » She may be being strange with her words and suggesting something like depression. Or she may be a member of a gang. Who knows? You will OP. If we hear nothing back we can assume you're dead, right?
Legs.Eleven wrote: » Maybe she has debilitatingly massive mamos?
Czarcasm wrote: » "Comparable disadvantages"? Honestly OP, the only disability I can see here is your lack of self-esteem - "She's disabled but I'm ugly so we're both at a disadvantage". The idea itself is just laughable. Shouldn't you be looking to enhance each others lives, not point out each others faults! Genuinely it sounds like you could guilt trip each other into a relationship because you both have such low self-esteem you think all you deserve is each other!
Soft Falling Rain wrote: » Disabled or not, it's never a good sign when someone is telling you to "walk away" before anything has even really started.
Neeson wrote: » Maybe she doesn't have a vagina?
Maphisto wrote: » Firstly I don't believe there are "leagues" at all, other than in people's heads.
Wishiwasa Littlebitaller wrote: » It's a nice thought that leagues are all in the mind and it would be great if it were true, but the reality is that the vast majority of humans are quite shallow when it comes to looks. Truth is that most people have a fair idea of roughly where the reside on the aesthetic scale side of things and while it's a scale that we don't discuss, for obvious reasons, it's there, in our heads, all the time and in general when we are out and about, on the look out for someone that we would either like a possible relationship with or just a one night stand, we will automatically, and mostly subconsciously, filter out the people we see that are few points below where we see ourselves on that aesthetic scale. It's a not very politically correct to say this and people will get way more brownie points for saying things such as: looks don't matter, it's what's inside that really counts, just believe in yourself, the only person who limits you, is you, blah blah, Tony Robbins, blah blah blah.. but the cold hard truth is, that humans are a fcuking shallow lot and leagues do exist. Try and find a picture on the web of a tall dark, chisel faced, extraordinary handsome, blue eyed, model type guy, standing beside his little fat mong, confused headed wife and I'll give you a thousand euro. Or conversely, a Candice Swanepoel type schmoozing a Brian Cowen type (only stipulation being that they both are of the roughly the same financial standing as each other). In short: Leagues exist and we all know it. Attractiveness, or the lack thereof, is indeed similar to a physical disability and in fact, in many ways, it is actually more of a handicap, as if someone was in a public setting and joked about not touching someone with a ten foot pole just because they were disabled, it wouldn't go down very well at all, but say the same thing about someone just becsause they looked as if when they fell from the ugly tree, they hit most of the branches on the way, some twice, and you'll get nowhere near the same reaction, if indeed you get any negative reaction at all. Truth is that most of us would look around a room and dismiss at least 10% of the potential off just because aesthetically they were not close to being near the level which we see ourselves capable of attracting. That's the truth, suggesting anything else is pretense, let's be honest.
ratmouse wrote: » I do hear what you are saying and agree with alot of it. But is it back to the usual. Subjectivity v Objectivity argument? We all find different people attractive, plain and simple.
onrail wrote: » Nah. . its not immediately apparent from photos anyway! I can't go ahead and ask her like!
onrail wrote: » I should also add that I tried a bit of Facebook stalking (dont judge) and this disability wasn't apparent from photos on that either!
Magaggie wrote: » Good points undermined by terms like "little fat mong" (wtf?) and that scale out of 10 bullsh-t as if humans are akin to products in those brand comparison tests. I'd agree though it is delusion to believe anyone could end up with anyone (apart from rare exceptions). At the same time though, the vast majority of people are not hideous-looking.
