LCD wrote: » no parents sulking off to bed at 11am
Arbiter of Good Taste wrote: » I reread your post and I admit I read something into it that you probably did not intend. I apologise for that. As a general point, there is a school of thought, of the view that if you don't want other people's children, to whom you are not related, at your wedding, then you're some kind of uptight, a$$hole. I personally don't think that's fair.
anncoates wrote: » The next morning? Pretty hardcore.
Angie Early Mineral wrote: » A good friend of mine is getting married in a few weeks and sent the invitations out just after Christmas. She has heard back on the grapevine that a couple of invited guests are bitching because their children weren't included in the invite. She's quite upset about it. I've told her they're the ones who are in the wrong, most people do not assume their kids will be invited to a wedding unless it's a very close relative. And even then, very small children often aren't included. I haven't been to a wedding in about three years, but I presume that's still the case? Or has it now become the norm to include friends' and colleagues' children on wedding invitations?
billie1b wrote: » We are a big family, numerous of weddings over the last few years, all but one with kids invited. The weddings with the kids were brilliant, kids and adults both had a great time dancing and having fun with each other. The one wedding that no kids were invited was so unusually boring. The bride and groom brought their 2 kids, naturally, but told everyone else kids were not invited, the two kids that were there had a dreadful time, no one to play with, no one to dance with, got bored with the DS's after an hour, spent most the night lolling around bored. At breakfast the next morning, the bride and groom admitted it was a big mistake on their part, every wedding after that has had kids at it and couldn't of been better. The bride and grooms no kids wedding is still the talked about wedding at other weddings for being the worst ever
Electric Sheep wrote: » Ignoring the typo, what is it with "sulking off to bed" at 11pm?
Angie Early Mineral wrote: » Seriously, the wedding was boring simply because the children weren't there? I can understand the bride and groom's children being bored. But why would the other adults be bored, unless they were determined to be because they were annoyed their children weren't included.
whatdoicare wrote: » I had no kids bar the one flower girl at my own wedding yet one fecking far off cousin of the husbands send us back an rsvp with two extra names on it. We hadn't a clue who Owen and Niall were and they were uncontactable as the couple had fecked off on holiday. Turns out they invited their own kids - one of which was only a month old at the time - to our wedding without asking us. We didn't even know they had had kids!! Cue one very awkward phone call to the cousins parents (as we couldn't contact them) to explain no kids allowed. Very, very flippin awkward. Gets worse though - They brought them along anyway! Yup, that's right. They didn't bring their cherubs to the mass part, not because they weren't going to but because we supplied a bus from hotel to venue and my dad caught them boarding and told them to step off. They did bring them to the dinner without our knowledge though - we didn't know until we got the bill for two extra dinners - not the kids dinners either, two full adult dinners!!:mad: They also didn't give us a wedding present- even the 100 euros to cover the kids dinners would have been cool. Nope, nothing in the envelope. Cheeky bastards. Must explain - we didn't invite kids coz we are both from huge families and there would have been hundreds of kids that had to be invited if we invited one. So we decided to invite none.
alchemist33 wrote: » I think you care a lot more than your username suggests
Boombastic wrote: » It's amazing and quite funny how pretencious people get about weddings Oh my god, a child at a wedding - they should be seen an not heard
Candie wrote: » Yes. If you don't like spending time with kids, avoid going where you know kids will be. People can be as attentive to their kids as possible and even the best behaved kids will have bad days, wet nappies, be overwhelmed at the crowds, or any combination of the above. Expecting the best behaviour from small children in your presence shows a basic lack of understanding of how kids operate.
suicide_circus wrote: » One of the most pretentious posts i've ever read :pac:
I Heart Internet wrote: » How did the one month old eat a dinner? In fact, having a a month old at a wedding is fine. The baby will need feeding anyway so is likely to need to be with Mom, and they don't make much of a fuss. It's the toddlers and giddy 7 year olds that are a hassle. Babes-in-arms are fine. i would agree that inviting cousin's kids is a nonsense....but forcing them off the bus once they've turned up...that's harsh (though they're asshats for bringing them).
lazygal wrote: » You don't have to bring kids to a wedding because you're breastfeeding or don't have a babysitter. I've not gone to weddings for both reasons, or else me or my husband goes alone.No one has to bring them, they want to bring them. You can always decline.
MadsL wrote: » There is nothing pretentious about preferring the company of adults, especially if you are the one picking up the bill. You just made the case for me thinking of other guests and avoiding having kids at the evening event. Not everyone likes kids at an event. Pretentious, moi?
MadsL wrote: » Perhaps, if we had no contact with classical music prior to the wedding, but my wife is classically trained, her maid of honour formally worked for a major symphony orchestra, there were two members of the NSO in attendance and many of our friends are huge opera fans.
MadsL wrote: » Perhaps it would be seen as pretentious to someone with no understanding of why we hired them.
mauzo! wrote: » I had a 2 week old baby at my sisters wedding, and I was a bridesmaid. He was good as gold though. Didn't cry once and slept for most of the day. I went to bed early with him, as I was wrecked too. My sister was annoyed with me over that, I told her she could replace me as bridesmaid if she wanted, but she chose not to. Now she'll have an 18m old at my wedding! We'll have my fiancès 4 nieces and nephews, my 4 nieces and nephews and my 4 year old there on the day. So 9 kids under the age of 7. I can't wait to see them all having fun and dancing. They are all well behaved kids and the parents won't let them in peoples way or let them scream the place down. Ill see about hiring a babysitter for after the dinner to keep them amused with a DVD or something.
jmayo wrote: » I think the horseriding, shooting, golf reminded me too much of a company team building/bonding/ar** licking the boss away event. And what was wrong with paintball ? And you claim you aren't pretentious. :pac:
Did you never think that some people might not be opera fans ?
Were they that desperate for a gig ?
jmayo wrote: » Just to warn some folk .... Please turn on sarcasm detector.
MadsL wrote: » You may also wish to turn down your sarcasm ray gun.
whatdoicare wrote: » Wowee...you're like the first ever person to mention my username in the form of some sort of insulting comeback, how original of you....sarcasm:rolleyes:
ronjo wrote: » You told him he couldnt bring his kids to the wedding didnt you?
homemadecider wrote: » A room full of adults with music and booze and you were all bored? Simply because there weren't kids there to entertain you? That sounds like a group of very very boring people who don't know how to enjoy themselves.
