Princess Peach wrote: » Friend of mine has been with her boyfriend for 8/9 years. He spent most of the early years of the relationship hitting her. Often if we had nights out he would come early and take her away. She has broken up with him a thousand times but he just keeps calling her and going over to her house till she gets back with him. She's a dope, and I gave up a while ago giving her advice cause she won't listen.
Gummy Panda wrote: » Today he makes her drop out of college, tomorrow he'll have her selling her ass on a street corner. Give her a slap and tell her to cope on
eviltwin wrote: » Easy to say that on the outside looking in. This is not normal behaviour and any woman or man who allows themselves to be controlled like this has issues that need addressing not slagging off. She could come from a background where she was broken down by her parents emotionally to the extent that she was an easy target for this guy. We don't know. Either way she needs to get out before this guy gets violent or shuts her off from society completely.
Dudess wrote: » Confidence can be chipped away over time to the point that the abused party becomes dependent on their abuser for any crumbs they throw their way. Often they can't even see it - or refuse to.
Old Tom wrote: » eviltwin wrote: » Easy to say that on the outside looking in. This is not normal behaviour and any woman or man who allows themselves to be controlled like this has issues that need addressing not slagging off. She could come from a background where she was broken down by her parents emotionally to the extent that she was an easy target for this guy. We don't know. Either way she needs to get out before this guy gets violent or shuts her off from society completely. Easy to say, yeah maybe. I wouldn't be making such statements in "Personal Issues", however this thread isn't there (yet?). In "After Hours" I'm relaxed and I won't be debating about psychology of difficult relationships.
Old Tom wrote: » Easy to say, yeah maybe. I wouldn't be making such statements in "Personal Issues", however this thread isn't there (yet?). In "After Hours" I'm relaxed and I won't be debating about psychology of difficult relationships. You, of course, can go ahead sir.
eviltwin wrote: » Ask her to call Women's Aid.
Dudess wrote: » just throwing out any auld thing you feel like then? Isn't that kinda trolling?
wasislos wrote: » Jaysis il hold me hands up and say in myfirst serious ship I was controllin and abusive cos she was jus so good at socialising with other guys . I got so jelly.ive learnt my lesson if u get with a super hot chick ul have to live with that stuff. This case disgusting tho
steddyeddy wrote: » One of the smartest girls in my college has recently chucked in her degree course because her boyfriends jealous of a: her talking to other boys and b: her doing a course to further her career. Hes allowed to talk to other girls and do a course but sees no problem with the double standard there. I hadnt found out why she left college until today and having met the chap a few tiems it all makes sense. Do you have any friends who are controlled by their boyfriend/girlfriend and does it annoy you?
LilyCricket wrote: » where are her parents in all this? ff sakes
matrim wrote: » What can her parents do if she is over 18 and living away from home?
Dudess wrote: » Included in my assessment.
saa wrote: » I feel like I've lost all my friends and I've tried for years to support and offer ways for them to help themselves its not always possible but when it is man it is a struggle.
steddyeddy wrote: » Sorry for the reply both parents are dead unfortunatly. She lost them at an early age and she has no brothers or sisters
true-or-false wrote: » I can't believe the amount of people saying that to let yourself be controlled makes you an idiot. It's called being CONTROLLED for a reason. You have no control over it yourself. It's also not an insecurity thing. In my experience of being controlled, and from what I've seen of it happening to people I know, the person starts off being pretty popular, loud, sociable, and it's almost like it's those very qualities about them that makes their boyfriend jealous. I'm sure plenty of insecure people get controlled, but I really think it's ridiculous that some people here are blaming the person who slowly gets broken down into a scared wreck. The controller, however, is most definitely insecure. And idiotic, and at fault. Not the other way round.
Dudess wrote: » While there's nothing wrong with expressing concern to your partner if they're getting very overweight and to encourage them to live more healthily, that guy was just being a bullying, humiliating dick. If she was so huge, she was likely heavy when they met anyway, and hung up about it - jackpot to someone who likes to control and belittle.
TeddyTedson wrote: » People will say **** like that annoys me ect because we're all here on the internet and pretending to very open about things and all that crap when really a lot of are very right wing nut jobs in real life (I'm not saying everyone but definitely most) The truth is though you have to rule a partner with an iron first or else they stray, it's just human nature. Perhaps we just love them too much.
TeddyTedson wrote: » People will say **** like that annoys me ect because we're all here on the internet and pretending to very open about things and all that crap when really a lot of are very right wing nut jobs in real life (I'm not saying everyone but definitely most)The truth is though you have to rule a partner with an iron first or else they stray, it's just human nature. Perhaps we just love them too much.
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