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First Date-iquette

leggo

Having a conversation with a gal I know the other day and we were talking about first dates and how awkward they can be. Now, I consider myself a good first date because I don't shut up unless interrupted and am also the type of guy who actually takes an interest in stories about what they dreamed about last night and why yer wan outta work is gonna get hers sooner rather than later.

But the one thing we both agreed on is that the most excruciating part is when you first walk up to them and say hello. Shaking hands is too formal, you obviously don't go straight in for a sloppy French kiss, hugging is a bit...needy ("HOLD ME!")...and not everyone can pull off the 'chat show' hug/kiss on the cheek.

Personally, I usually go for the last one if I get the vibe they weren't outwardly-nervous and awkward. If I do, I just won't do anything and be friendly, get walking where we're going and start chatting about something we've already talked about (so they remember "Oh yeah, I know this person!" and the awkwardness just disappears). Plus you can write the latter off as 'playing it cool'. Then, later, when you hold their hand...girl feels like she's done good and achieved something! :cool:

But what does everyone reckon the best way is? Let's pick a generic scenario where you've kissed while both locked in a pub/club, texted casually for the week and this is your first time meeting sober properly. You spot each other and...

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stupidusername

It's so long since I had a date I can't remember what I did ;_;

I'd say run at her shouting piggy back! And see what she does.

Blitzkrieger

doovdela wrote: »

Not a very good move though...

I don't think you're getting in the spirit of AH doovdela. No serious replies expected here

--Kaiser--

Throw her over your shoulder, fireman style, then carry her back to your cave

Orando Broom

Pints - chips & burgers - the ride

Ledger

hug and kiss on the cheek a definite, then cover her mouth with the cloraform....

Orando Broom

leggo wrote: »

But the one thing we both agreed on is that the most excruciating part is when you first walk up to them and say hello. Shaking hands is too formal, you obviously don't go straight in for a sloppy French kiss, hugging is a bit...needy ("HOLD ME!")...and not everyone can pull off the 'chat show' hug/kiss on the cheek.

This is an example of initial greeting technique from the Dutch School. Note the informality of limb and trunk interrelationships.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wztTL7GNzFo

listermint

leggo wrote: »

Having a conversation with a gal I know the other day and we were talking about first dates and how awkward they can be. Now, I consider myself a good first date because I don't shut up unless interrupted and am also the type of guy who actually takes an interest in stories about what they dreamed about last night and why yer wan outta work is gonna get hers sooner rather than later.

But the one thing we both agreed on is that the most excruciating part is when you first walk up to them and say hello. Shaking hands is too formal, you obviously don't go straight in for a sloppy French kiss, hugging is a bit...needy ("HOLD ME!")...and not everyone can pull off the 'chat show' hug/kiss on the cheek.

Personally, I usually go for the last one if I get the vibe they weren't outwardly-nervous and awkward. If I do, I just won't do anything and be friendly, get walking where we're going and start chatting about something we've already talked about (so they remember "Oh yeah, I know this person!" and the awkwardness just disappears). Plus you can write the latter off as 'playing it cool'. Then, later, when you hold their hand...girl feels like she's done good and achieved something! :cool:

But what does everyone reckon the best way is? Let's pick a generic scenario where you've kissed while both locked in a pub/club, texted casually for the week and this is your first time meeting sober properly. You spot each other and...

You seem to know alot about first dates OP, is it that you are not that type of guy who has any interesting stories of quips about the office......

Second dates anyone ???

Poor OP

KTRIC

I'd go for no physical contact, a handshake is too formal and the kiss on the cheek is too intimate on the first date.

However if everything is going well, walk her to her bus / car and then when parting ways a peck on the cheek is sufficient. Leaves her wanting more and then you look like a proper gent

bazza1

Look lovingly into her eyes...hold her hand...gently, mind and ask...

"Here! any particular flavoured condom d'ye like?"

leggo

listermint wrote: »

You seem to know alot about first dates OP, is it that you are not that type of guy who has any interesting stories of quips about the office......

I don't get this paragraph? Why would someone have an interesting story about a quip (an off-the-cuff joke)? And what does that have to do with first dates?

Troll fail due to an inability to speak English. Do not pass go. Do not collect €200.

listermint

leggo wrote: »

I don't get this paragraph? Why would someone have an interesting story about a quip (an off-the-cuff joke)? And what does that have to do with first dates?

Troll fail due to an inability to speak English. Do not pass go. Do not collect €200.

Okay you got me on spelling, But Soon Soon, Leggo you shall be owned

:pac:

Mickey H

Kevin Duffy wrote: »

Slap her on the arsé and tell her to take me to bed or lose me forever.

Goose's OH: Hey Goose you big stud.
Goose: That's me honey.
Goose's OH: Take me to bed or lose me forever.
Goose: Show me the way home.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DKgcThjYBHs

RichieC

doovdela wrote: »

No don't not on a first date wait at least till second date or a few dates after! Being forward and too full on is a turn off! Depends on date!? Everyone is different...

Thanks, Data!

The Master

Dont forget to tell her all about your nunchuck skills, bowhunting skills, computer hacking skills... Girls only want boyfriends who have great skills.

Caveman1

Take her to the cinema and try the aul popcorn trick

Teyla Emmagan

BOHtox wrote: »

" Heya, oh you have something on your jumper!" * point to invisible dirt
" Where?" Girl looks down
*Run your finger up her chest, neck and face.
They love it!

You are joking?!?!

--Kaiser--

Teyla Emmagan wrote: »

You are joking?!?!

Welcome to AH. Enjoy your stay, emergency exits are located here, here and here. Should you need assistance at any point please call a stewardess

HazDanz

Lean in, administer the soft kiss on the cheek and apply pressure on the handcuff ratchet to make sure it's secure.

Borat_Sagdiyev

KTRIC wrote: »

I'd go for no physical contact, a handshake is too formal and the kiss on the cheek is too intimate on the first date.

However if everything is going well, walk her to her bus / car and then when parting ways a peck on the cheek is sufficient. Leaves her wanting more and then you look like a proper gent

While all this sounds good, being a gent is waaaay over-rated. You will be put firmly in the "too nice" category.

IMO greet with a smile and the hug / cheek kiss combo. You've kissed before ( according to the given scenario), so it shouldn't be a big deal.

KTRIC

Borat_Sagdiyev wrote: »

While all this sounds good, being a gent is waaaay over-rated. You will be put firmly in the "too nice" category.

IMO greet with a smile and the hug / cheek kiss combo. You've kissed before ( according to the given scenario), so it shouldn't be a big deal.

Not necessarily. Never let me down so far.

Anyway "too nice" is just stupid. Would you rather be slapped around ?? At what point is the line drawn ?

Borat_Sagdiyev

KTRIC wrote: »

Not necessarily. Never let me down so far.

Anyway "too nice" is just stupid. Would you rather be slapped around ?? At what point is the line drawn ?

What I meant was that in the scenario given, the person you are meeting and you have already kissed, so it shouldn't be a big deal the next time you meet them. You're supposed to be meeting up with someone you like considering you've been texting them for a few days.

Don't get me wrong, I think the "too nice" thing is idiotic too - it's something women label somebody with. I wasn't saying that I would apply that thinking, I was just saying that IMO the girl would put you in that category if you're too much of a gent.

SoWatchaWant

KTRIC wrote: »

Not necessarily. Never let me down so far.

Anyway "too nice" is just stupid. Would you rather be slapped around ?? At what point is the line drawn ?

It's drawn at being comfortable with giving her a kiss on the cheek.

Kanoe

bring friends and keep them within visual range

wobbles-grogan

Id just do this:

"Hi there! LIGHTNING BOLT"

Mickey H

Borat_Sagdiyev wrote: »

While all this sounds good, being a gent is waaaay over-rated. You will be put firmly in the "too nice" category.

Nice guys finish last in the shower. So I'm told.

NothingMan

The Master wrote: »

Girls only want boyfriends who have great skills.

Skills, ah that makes way more sense. And here I was showing off my awesome window sill collection. Wasn't getting anywhere.

Anyway, I have been on one first date in the last 5 years, no previous kiss and went for the hug/slight peck on cheek. It's casual, confident and as long as you're not awkward, should be grand.

smash

NothingMan wrote: »

Anyway, I have been on one first date in the last 5 years, no previous kiss and went for the hug/slight peck on cheek. It's casual, confident and as long as you're not awkward, should be grand.

No sneaky finger?

NothingMan

smash wrote: »

No sneaky finger?

Yeah, but I didn't like it so I asked her to stop.