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Moments you'll never forget

Hersheys

We all have those moments that we'll never forget and will stay with us forever. I've a few:

1) Breaking up with my on/off "boyfriend": We were together through final year, nothing serious just a bit of fun for both of us, but we stayed having fun when we finished college. I moved to the opposite end of the country and we kept the fun going. He wanted to just keep it as fun because of the distance, and that was fine with me. Then he dropped the bombshell that he had a girlfriend. Who was living in America. So I stopped contact. Over Christmas I was back up at home and he called and asked if we could meet for coffee as friends, I agreed, cos before we were having fun we were friends and I missed him, but one thing led to another and yeah, well I don't need to say what happened

I felt awful for his girlfriend, but I got over it. We met for a drink again, and he kept trying to lob the gob, but I just kept avoiding it. We were walking through town and he took my hand, looked into my eyes and told me how much he loves spending time with me and how much he misses me, and went to kiss me. I muttered "you have a girlfriend" and that stopped him. We talked for a while, and then had a goodbye kiss - and I have to say, that kiss will stick with me FOREVER. It was so emotional - so many feelings behind it. It was perfect - just the best kiss ever, knee's buckling, the lot! - until I remembered it was a goodbye kiss, and I had to go. I cried the whole way home in the taxi. I'll never forget that kiss. I still get butterflies when I think of it.

2) Holding my nephew for the first time: And looking into his eyes and thinking that he was the most precious thing ever. Knowing that this little dude was going to be a major part in my life (his mom had PND so I was minding him for the first few months) and knowing that I was unconditionally in love with this 6 hour old lump. He signalled a turning point in my life - it wasn't on track, but knowing he was going to rely on me made me get things back on the straight and narrow, and now he has an aunt he can be proud of. I love that kid, and some day I'll have my own and give him some cousins.

3) Hearing my first serious boyfriend had died: His sister rang me to tell me he'd had a brain hemmorage and was in ICU. We'd been together for almost 5 years and had broken up over the summer, but were back talking and had spent the previous weekend together (yes, in the biblical sense!) and were discussing if we could move on from our break up (we broke up because I'd lost his baby) and we decided that we should give it another go. He had the stroke on the Tuesday and died on the Thursday. I got a phonecall on my way home from work to tell me he was gone. I never got to say goodbye. The weekend together we'd spent listening to Snow Patrol's "Final Straw" albumn, and "Run" was on my ipod as I took the call - that song always reminds me of him.

That's all I can think of for now! I'm sure as others share I'll remember more!

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Uriel.

ok,having read through the thread and eventually getting my own thoughts together..here's my moments.

Grandfather's Death:
I spent quite a bit of my childhood (most of it) with my Grandparents. I loved my grandfather like a father and I'd do anything for him. And he'd do anything for anyone. He was a remarkable, strong, kind and loving man. I have never met anyone like him in all my life. He was completely family orientated, only really ever went out with family. Anyway, he wnet downhill health wise about 3 years ago. He couldn't do stuff properly like shower himself etc... So I looked after him as much as I could.

He eventually got too sick and had to go to hospital. He's spent the last 9 months of life in hospital. It was agonising to watch such a strong man go so down hill that he couldn't get outta of bed. BUt he never complained, not once about anything. Eventually he slipped into a coma for 3 days and died in his sleep 36 hrs before last Christmas Day. Christmas was his favourite time of year, such a strong family time. I always feel that he tried to hang on as long as possible so he could have one last Christmas with us but that realising he wouldn't be able to spend a proper christmas with as he done before he decided to slip away. We had never missed a Christmas with him for 25 years. Last Christmas was the worst of my life. I will never forget the funeral home. the day before New Years Eve. His birthday would have been New years day. I am stil not over it.

Happier Times:
Meeting the girl of my dreams, someone who completely rocked my world, and it seemed I rocked hers. Every single day I spent with her was amazing But the first night I met her I will never forget, sitting on the rocks on the sea front in Clontarf, chatting away at 5am in the light of an almost full moon, I think I fell in love with her that moment.

Another time, was fiinishing 9 weeks of hard work of refurbishment of my very first house and moving into the finished product a week or two later. It was an amazing feeling of achievement and the place was like a palace for me.

Sadder Times again:
Saying goodbye to the said girl above as she embarked on a new life on the other side of the world. We spent her last night in Ireland together and saying goodbye was terribly hearbreaking.

Closing the door on the said house above after having to leave it to move home to live with my granny last January to look after her after my grandads death. I miss my palace but my grandparents looked after me so well when I was younger, I owe it to look after my granny. My grandad would have wanted it

It's weird it seems some of the greatest moments I've had turn around and become the saddest. C'est la vie. THere's probably hundreds more moments in my life, but these are fresh in my head as they've all happend in the past 10 months. It's been a tough year.

Dave147

Lots of very sad memories here, have some of my own but rather than depress anyone further I'll try and jot down a good one, and it all started on boards.. kinda.

So it's January 2008, I'm 22 and having just been in 2 car crashes 2 Christmas' in a row not feeling the best

however besides a very bad back and neck I was ok, could walk around, drive etc, just no sports. Started spending alot of time playing cards in those couple of years due to my inactivity, and started frequenting a local card club. They always had very pretty female staff and one dreary January night there was a new girl after starting.

I remember distinctly walking in the door and nearly falling to my feet after witnessing her beauty, if there was a such thing as love at first sight this was it.. I had to have her, and she consumed all my thoughts from then on. After a few weeks I got to know her little by little, I found out she was from Slovakia and other small details.. Things progressed very slowly from here, I would often call in for a coffee after work or at the weekend after a few pints, she was always glad to see me but she was just so beautiful I thought I haven't a chance in hell!

Fast forward a few months and I sneakily got her number from her one night when I was half steamed, I would text her occasionally but with her limited English at the time the texts would be brief, also she had a boyfriend back home, BUMMER! Still, I wasn't going to let that ruin my summer as I went to Boston and California for 3 months. However, the night before I left I got a big huge hug from her, one of the squeezy hugs, all of a sudden there was hope?

In Boston I sent her a text asking her how was her holidays and I cheekily asked her if I could take her out for her birthday in September.. Apparently women like when you listen because she mentioned her birthday was in September months previous, and I remembered! She replied saying we could go out for her birthday and I was ecstatic.

So I arrived home Saturday the 6th September 2008 and met up with the buddy and we went out, afterwards we went to the Casino and of course she was working, we were flirting mad and I told her I'd text her when I went home, so I did, and I asked her out on a date. She texted back and we arranged to meet the next Saturday night (her 21st, oh the pressure). At this stage I was semi confident, but I wasn't sure if I was 'in' or not yet, and that was quite worrying.

Fast forward again to the next Saturday and I met her in a cocktail bar in the city, there was her best friend and a friend of hers with her, perfect I thought, I gave her a gift and got a round of drinks, mad flirting ensued again and out of nowhere she just held my hand, the butterflies were flying around the stomach at this stage as the realisation of me finally getting the girl set in. A little while later we went off to the nightclub and after a few minutes I plucked up the courage to go in for the kill and give her a birthday kiss, I remember going into the toilet shortly after and the feeling of elation was the best I feeling I'd ever felt in my life.

2 years on, after celebrating 2 years together last Monday and I still can't believe it, how lucky I am to have the girl of my dreams, been to Slovakia 3 times already, met the whole family and love them all, hoping to marry her in the future, it's amazing what can happen when you just go for it..

Anyway, here's where boards, and more appropriately the Ladies Lounge comes in, as I started a thread about what to get her way back then ---> http://boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055372657 she still hasn't used that bloody voucher though.

Apologies for it being so long, and for those of you who actually read all the way to the end I hope you enjoyed a happy ending for once, kinda wrote it down for myself aswell anyway. I've just tucked her into bed while I catch up with the days snooker

cdaly_

Uriel. wrote: »

Sadder Times again:
Saying goodbye to the said girl above as she embarked on a new life on the other side of the world. We spent her last night in Ireland together and saying goodbye was terribly hearbreaking.

Go. Follow her. Make a life together...

cdaly_

Given Up on her. wrote: »

I too have an alcoholic mother.

...

I feel obliged to look after her and constantly forgive her because she's my mother and one of my best friends when sober.

This must be such a hard situation for you but you must look out for yourself in all this. Looking after her and forgiving her all the time is enabling her behaviour. It allows her to be drunk 'cos you'll tidy up after her. I don't know if you're living with her but I hope not.

You don't want to cut her out of your life (though this might be the best thing for you) but you should totally ignore her except when she's sober. If there's any hint of drink on her, walk away. Don't get into a row about it, maybe don't even say anything, just walk away. Tell her when she's sober that you will not tolerate any drink but that you will be there if she's sober. Then stick to it. You don't deserve the sh1t.

It's not a very enjoyable type of life to live, always restraining your emotions and pretending to everyone that your happy and grand, always covering up for her, whilst secretly feeling like **** and depressed over the fact that your entire family is destroyed.

Don't do this. Don't cover up for her, that's just the same enabling behaviour. Tell people how you're feeling and why. You tell people your mother's an alcoholic and that's why you're not inviting them over and they'll understand. You can ruin yourself and your life trying to cover up for her. Live your own life, not hers.

Best of luck for the future. I hope you get what you want...

Susie_Q

I vividly remember the moment that I realised I no longer loved my (now ex) boyfriend. I was sitting at the Pav in Trinity on a blazing hot May afternoon and I told my friend I was thinking of taking a break from my relationship. She asked me why and I said something like 'I just don't think I want to be with him anymore'. As soon as I said it out loud I knew it was true and tears sprang to my eyes. I was in my early 20s and we had been together for about 4 years and and I remember feeling so terrified of being single again and having to start all over again.

A much happier memory was of meeting my current boyfriend . We met just two weeks after I finally broke if off with the above-mentioned ex-boyfriend. We slept together on our first date and when we woke up in the morning I sheepishly explained that I was just out of a long-term relationship and wasn't really looking for anything serious. To my shock he said that only three weeks ago he had broken up with his girlfriend of 7 years so he wasn't looking for anything either. I didn't leave his house for the whole weekend - three years later we are still together and madly in love!

Uriel.

cdaly_ wrote: »

Go. Follow her. Make a life together...

Wish it were that simple. I have a house, a career and a life here that I can't leave at the moment, notwithstanding the fact that I wouldn't get a visa for the country she is in.

Anyway, time has moved on, while I think about her very often, she's living her dream life now and is having a ball. She deserves that and it wouldn't be fair for me to add whole lotta complication into her life now.

LegacyUser

Firstlove wrote: »

First love: I met this girl a few years while on holidays, we didn't exactly hit off that night but she did keep in touch with a friend of mine. Fast forward to last year when came to Ireland on a holiday with her friends. I agreed to go into town and meet them with my friend for a few drinks but planned on meeting up other friends later on in the night. I spotted her walk through the doors of the pub and our eyes just fixed on each other that seemed to last for hours. I ended up staying and had a great night but nothing happened between is, we talked alright and i walked her back to her hotel. I didn't see her again as she was going home the next day and I was dying with a hangover ( i get them bad ). I got number of my friend and texted her one night i was out, from that moment on we texted each other every day 20 times or more and started talking on the phone everyday that continued through, e-mails and chatted on MSN. This went on for 7 months 24/7. I was smitten, she was an amazing, independent, funny and so caring and thoughtful. I thought at times I was falling for her but I knew I couldn't with the distance so fought it. We spent many hours on phone at night talking and more if one of us was out that night, the difference in time was 8hrs but it added to the excitement of waking up to a drunk text message or even when I arrived into work in the morning I would have a new e-mail from her and I would have the biggest grin on my face for the rest of the day. I even found myself enjoying work and life more; I had a spring in my step.

She asked if I would come visit her, we always knew had to or we would end up wondering what if. I booked flights and was departing a couple of days after Christmas. I sent her a text and she was more excited then I was, she thought I wouldn't plus I wasn't sure if I would get the time off work. I went over and she met me at the airport, I saw her for the first time in 9 months and I was gobsmacked, she looked amazing. We spent 10 amazing days, going out to places together and going out to the pubs together with her friends. I wasn't myself really, why? I think it’s only now that I know why. I had fallen for over and yes you might ask yourself how you can, well that’s what I asked myself. I was out one night and her best friend kept asking me how I really felt, she was fishing for information or so I thought. The time had come to say good bye and I was in the room packing listening to music and are song came on, I was getting tears in my eyes but I held it together as I was man and we don't express are emotions. I have never got emotional before, I never felt likes this through out all the girls or the few girlfriends I was it but this time it felt different about her. She came and we had a cheeky dance to our song that was playing and just gazed into each others eyes, I knew then I should have told her at that moment how I really felt but I bottled it like I always do. She drove me to that airport that evening and we said goodbye, we hugged and kissed and that was it. It wasn't until I was in the airport that I realised how I really felt sitting there having a drinking to myself and get yet again emotional about having to leave her, she was the same when we said goodbye. Unfortunately that was the last time I would see her, I struggled with the distance and my feelings. We started to argue over the most stupid of things ever and I pushed her further away so much so she met someone else.

I remember her friend that night fishing for information telling me how she was thinking of moving to Ireland but wasn’t sure how I felt and was afraid to ask or tell me the truth in case she pushed me away, that scared me but because I was shocked but she had a few to drink. To this day I regret not telling her t at that moment in her room dancing to our song and I was in love with her and thought she was amazing. I didn’t tell her enough how I felt and she pushed me at times when she was drunk or had a drink but I got all defensive and put this wall up. I still am in love with her even though months have passed not a day goes pass I don’t think about her. I will regret that moment for the rest of my life. I told her I loved her in a text but it’s not the same as telling someone face to face.

I was reading OP thread today and it had me thinking of her so i posted this down but i would like to stay anonymous if Mods i don't mind.

After posting this and thinking about her over the weekend i found out this morning that she is planning on coming over on holiday in two weeks. I'm still friends on FB with her and the odd text now and again but after reading this morning i feel sick to my stomach and can't concentrate. I feel like i just want the world or whatever to open up and swallow me up. Why the hell do we put ourselves through this crap. I have no intentions of meeting her if she ask which will probably happen. I'm trying to move on met someone but after three months i felt nothing for her so i explained myself as it wasn't fair to her.

reallyrose

I was in an accident when I was 16, I burned myself quite badly in a chip-pan fire. I remembered my first-aid lessons, and put myself in the shower because I had burned too much of myself to just run it under a tap.
I burned my legs and feet, among other places and I remember standing under a cold shower, half in shock, all the pain quite quite distant watching skin and blood flow away from me down the bath thinking "oh god, I'm really properly hurt"
I went off down to a neighbour's house then, my parent weren't home, and they tried to call an ambulance. After my neighbour was told that it would be *at least* an hour before one could be sent, he threw the phone through the window!

RacoonQueen

1) Finding out that my aunt had cancer. She was pretty much a second mammy to us, her kids and us all grew up together and mum and her were the best of friends. Their other sister had died of cancer aged 20 so they were very close after that. It really threw all of us to see how ill she got, but what an incredibly strong woman she was. It never got her down, she battled through it and never moaned or bitched or gave out, she just fought. When she was diagnosed with seconds 2.5 years later, I was devastated. Put on a pair of running shoes and vowed to run the Dublin marathon and raise money for the Irish Cancer Society. I was fit enough at the time but did very live cardiovascular exercise - started running properly on the 6th of June 2007 and completed the marathon at the end of October, going from 0 to 26.2 miles in less than 5 months(yeah, that was pretty stupid, I haven't learnt from that). By the time we found out that the cancer had spread to her brain in 2009 I'd already run a few more races and had registered for the Connemara Ultra(39.3 miles). She was meant to travel with me and my support crew to cheer me on but she had treatment on the day we travelled so had to pull out. Shortly after I got home from Connemara she was rushed to hospital and one of the last things she asked before she drifted away 2 weeks before her death was how my marathon went, in fact, she asked anyone who she talked to. Without me even telling her she always knew I did it for her, any time things got tough in training I alway thought of her and the struggles she went through, I know no pain I can experience mentally or physically will ever match what she battled through. She's been my inspiration since day one.

2) Another cancer story. An ex of mine was diagnosed with cancer around the time my aunt got ill. Although he was actually engaged at the time, the first person he came to when he found out, was me. We always remained close after we split and were the best of friends, I will never forget him breaking the news to me. You don't expect your exes and friends to start dying at my age.

3) Running 50 miles two weeks ago, just for them.

I could go on with horrible memories, I have a lot of them from over the last few years

These are things that are hopefully going to happen over the next few months so I'm going to put them in now to save me looking for the thread.

4) Meeting my godson/first nephew for the first time

5) Signing the papers for my first house. Unfortunately the parentals will still be living with me and I'm making big sacrifices to do this, but it means the world to me that I can provide for the people I love.

6) Breaking 3:30 for the marathon.

7) Everything finally clicking into place for me. This WILL happen, one day!

dublingal80

bad things:

finding out when my dad had cancer. i was out having food with a friend, my parents had been over to the house, i didnt know and i walked in and my sister told me and i just bawled

Being with my dad the night he died. my mam and bro and sister were all there with him. We were all very calm and quiet as we watched him take his last few breaths. Heart breaking

Being with my ex and his family has his dad died. Heartbreaking

My ex telling me that he wasnt sure about us anymore and we were over. I literally looked out the window of the car, trying so hard not to laugh because i couldnt believe it. He cried which made me realise he was serious and I cried. I felt sick for days. Utter heartbreak

I cant really think of any good things at the moment.... Let me think about it for a while

curlzy

The day I left my first relationship (5 yrs): The guy was 14 years older and cried like a baby, defo one of the worst feelings ever!

The day I found my cat after she had been hit by a car: I couldn't miss work so had to go in. I spent the day on and off the phone to the vet, had to go in at around 3 and hold her while she was put to sleep, one of the worst days ever but I'm glad I got to say goodbye.

The day I was diagnosed with MS: One of the worst days but funnily enough it got me off my ass to turn my life into what it is now: happy and funfilled, so in a weird way one of the best days.

The day a relative tried to OD: Spent 24 hours in the hospital holding their hand coz the rest of the family was really angry at them and wouldn't come in, defo the worst day of all time. Their doing well now though.

The day I "scored" my current OH: not ashamed to tell you I did a bit of running for this one, 4 years in and it's still heaven.

curlzy

Firstlove wrote: »

After posting this and thinking about her over the weekend i found out this morning that she is planning on coming over on holiday in two weeks. I'm still friends on FB with her and the odd text now and again but after reading this morning i feel sick to my stomach and can't concentrate. I feel like i just want the world or whatever to open up and swallow me up. Why the hell do we put ourselves through this crap. I have no intentions of meeting her if she ask which will probably happen. I'm trying to move on met someone but after three months i felt nothing for her so i explained myself as it wasn't fair to her.

Is she with someone now??? Even if she is for god's sake's tell her how you feel!!!! For all you know she's still pining after you, do what you didn't do before, open yourself up!!!! Whatever happens you'll get rid of the "what ifs". You say men don't show emotions, you're wrong, the best men show emotions, boys don't.

curlzy

Susie_Q wrote: »

I vividly remember the moment that I realised I no longer loved my (now ex) boyfriend. I was sitting at the Pav in Trinity on a blazing hot May afternoon and I told my friend I was thinking of taking a break from my relationship. She asked me why and I said something like 'I just don't think I want to be with him anymore'. As soon as I said it out loud I knew it was true and tears sprang to my eyes. I was in my early 20s and we had been together for about 4 years and and I remember feeling so terrified of being single again and having to start all over again.

A much happier memory was of meeting my current boyfriend . We met just two weeks after I finally broke if off with the above-mentioned ex-boyfriend. We slept together on our first date and when we woke up in the morning I sheepishly explained that I was just out of a long-term relationship and wasn't really looking for anything serious. To my shock he said that only three weeks ago he had broken up with his girlfriend of 7 years so he wasn't looking for anything either. I didn't leave his house for the whole weekend - three years later we are still together and madly in love!

That is eerily similar to my story, age off by a year or two but other than that same!!!!

1c1a

Wow this is a fantastic thread, Ive had a few unforgettable experiences too some good some bad but all have made me become who I am today.
Some of the good
1, The day I bought my first car and was too afraid to drive it.
2. The night I moved out of home for college
3. Doing a bungee jump
4. The day I got my final year exam results
5. The day my ex boyfriend asked me out
6. Getting my new horse after being away from horses for years

Some of the bad
1. The day my parents told me my mother had cancer
2. The days my grandparents died.
3. Finding out aforementioned boyfriend was cheating on me for most of our 4 year relationship
4. Being called home recently to be told my uncle had passed away at a young age and wishing I could count on said boyfriend for support
5 Watching my house burn down.

Maple

Firstlove wrote: »

After posting this and thinking about her over the weekend i found out this morning that she is planning on coming over on holiday in two weeks. I'm still friends on FB with her and the odd text now and again but after reading this morning i feel sick to my stomach and can't concentrate. I feel like i just want the world or whatever to open up and swallow me up. Why the hell do we put ourselves through this crap. I have no intentions of meeting her if she ask which will probably happen. I'm trying to move on met someone but after three months i felt nothing for her so i explained myself as it wasn't fair to her.

Tell her how you feel. This might sound odd but do you know how lucky you are? You've actually found someone you could love, whereas alot of us are still searching for that person. Geography is geography, long distance is very tough but you could always move or she could move. You need to discuss this with her and get a chance for yourself at living a happy, fulfilled life because from the sounds of it you're only living a half life and that's just horribly sad.

And btw that's complete boll0x about men not showing their feelings, a real man imho can show his feelings and not give a stuff what anyone thinks. It takes strength to be honest about how you feel, it takes courage and guts to go after what you want.

Just tell her.

Maple

Wonderful thread by the way OP, some really powerful stories here.

Personally I shared the ones that made me smile, as I've lived through the
sh1t and would prefer to leave them in the past but some of the honest and heartwrenching stories shared here have amazed me.

LegacyUser

maple wrote: »

Tell her how you feel. This might sound odd but do you know how lucky you are? You've actually found someone you could love, whereas alot of us are still searching for that person. Geography is geography, long distance is very tough but you could always move or she could move. You need to discuss this with her and get a chance for yourself at living a happy, fulfilled life because from the sounds of it you're only living a half life and that's just horribly sad.

And btw that's complete boll0x about men not showing their feelings, a real man imho can show his feelings and not give a stuff what anyone thinks. It takes strength to be honest about how you feel, it takes courage and guts to go after what you want.

Just tell her.

Maple, i appreciate your words of encouragement but like i said she has met someone else shortly after. I probably should have done more at the time and telling her how i felt through text was not exactly how i planned it but i did and it is something i regret a lot, I'm not sure if she even believed me or not. I knew how lucky i was at the time and even now but i kinda messed it up and pushed her away or so she told me, maybe her feelings had changed but i didn't really get into any of that. When she told me at the time it honestly broke me and took me weeks to try and move on, even now i find it hard and i have no interest in meeting anyone else because i'm not fully over her. She has met someone else and as far as i know she is more then likely happy.

I know its b0lloc about men not showing their feelings and i should have been more open and honest with her but we learn from our mistakes and i did the hard way.

daveyboy_1ie

Excellant thread and after reading all of it some posts really upset me, some made me smile. Its amazing how these memories still affect our emotions all this time later, and even reading others peoples memories reminds me of something similar that happened to me. Here are are a few of mine that come to mind:

- day I decided after 3 years of constant bullying in my old job I had had enough of my ex boss making himself trying to look big in front of the women we worked with and I handed my notice in there and then to go travel for a year. Had not even planned it, just sat there for 10 seconds after the jibe and said 'yeah I meant to tell you, I am handing my notice in'. Will always remember his face as he begged me to reconsider. No one in the office believe sit was a spur of the moment decision. but it felt GOOD.

-the day I met my girlfriend, and the day I proposed to her on a private beach in Thailand this year. Different days three years apart but still they are the best days of my life.

- the night we were in hospital and told my gf had miscarried. Took me hours to even think, all I remember is consoling her and then later that night it hit me and I physically shook.

- the very first time I seen my nephew, he was born in America and I only met him after 6 months and all I kept thinking was 'thats what I remember my bro looking like when we were kids'.

- the day I was told my gran died when I was 16, still remember walking in a daze for hours. She was a special lady.

As everyone says, I am sure there are more but these jump out at me for now.

kwalshe

This thread is really good and helps you connect back to your human side

for me
The moment 6 years ago when my first child was born , I cried
another moment 2 years ago when my little man was born , I cried
8 weeks ago when another little man was born , I cried
The moment when my Father in law smirked at me when I took his beautiful daughters hand at the top of the aisle, I was crying.

Reading through the happy, sad and powerful storys on this thread, yep, I'm kinda crying...

Maple

Firstlove wrote: »

Maple, i appreciate your words of encouragement but like i said she has met someone else shortly after. I probably should have done more at the time and telling her how i felt through text was not exactly how i planned it but i did and it is something i regret a lot, I'm not sure if she even believed me or not. I knew how lucky i was at the time and even now but i kinda messed it up and pushed her away or so she told me, maybe her feelings had changed but i didn't really get into any of that. When she told me at the time it honestly broke me and took me weeks to try and move on, even now i find it hard and i have no interest in meeting anyone else because i'm not fully over her. She has met someone else and as far as i know she is more then likely happy.

I know its b0lloc about men not showing their feelings and i should have been more open and honest with her but we learn from our mistakes and i did the hard way.

For what it's worth I still think you ought to tell her, properly and face to face when she's in Ireland.

I always feel that if something affects you so profoundly then you owe it to yourself to try and resolve it as best you can one way or another.

And you don't know how she feels either, you're doing her thinking for her, projecting your own worries onto her.

It might work and it might not, but either way you will actually know once and for all and can try to draw a line under it and move on with your life. And you will also know that yes, you fcuked up but you tried your best to fix it and that takes courage.

RacoonQueen

Firstlove wrote: »

Maple, i appreciate your words of encouragement but like i said she has met someone else shortly after. I probably should have done more at the time and telling her how i felt through text was not exactly how i planned it but i did and it is something i regret a lot, I'm not sure if she even believed me or not. I knew how lucky i was at the time and even now but i kinda messed it up and pushed her away or so she told me, maybe her feelings had changed but i didn't really get into any of that. When she told me at the time it honestly broke me and took me weeks to try and move on, even now i find it hard and i have no interest in meeting anyone else because i'm not fully over her. She has met someone else and as far as i know she is more then likely happy.

I know its b0lloc about men not showing their feelings and i should have been more open and honest with her but we learn from our mistakes and i did the hard way.

I agree with maple. You should tell her. What's the worst that can happen? She says she doesn't feel the same way. The best way for you, to get over her is to tell her exactly how you feel. Long distance relationships can work. One day one of you may have to make the ultimate sacrifice and give up their life to be with the other but if you both feel the way you feel about her, the ultimate sacrifice will be very easy to make.

Tell her to her face. Tell her how you feel. Don't sacrifice your chance to be happy just because you're scared.

Hersheys

Wow, I started this thread and then (stupidly) misplaced my laptop cable so didn't have internet.

I read through all of the stories and wow, I am touched by most of them. The challenges that everybody has faced head on are amazing, and it's brilliant that so many people shared theirs.

Will have to get thinking of more of mine!

johnr1

Bad ones,
Breaking the news to my then wife that her father whom she adored had terminal cancer.

The day we looked at one another and agreed to seperate

The moment my phone rang from my most recent OH to tell me that she was moving abroad to re unite with her former boyf whom she never got over :-(

Good ones.
Winning our first Irish title with a dance team. I knew at that moment what the guys who win All Irelands with their counties feel.

The moment my most recent ex put down a tray of tea & biscuits in front of me and looked into my eyes. I fell for her instantly !

The day I copped on and quit drinking, got my life back and never looked back.

Almost all these moments caused mixed emotions though.

Daisy03

Really nice thread. The main ones that stick out for me are:

1. Getting my Leaving Cert results - I had to get my best friend to double check my points as I was in shock and thought I made a mistake. I remember ringing my Mum and feeling so proud and relieved.

2. Going into the funeral home when my friend died - She was only 16 and had been in an accident while I was on holidays. I had no idea about it and literally 30 mins after arriving home I was standing in front of her coffin. At 15 years of age it felt so surreal. I remember just wanting to rewind back to when everything was normal.

3. Seeing my aunt for the last time before she died. She had been terminally ill but fought hard. The doctors gave her three months but she lasted over two years. I remember feeling so sad but in a way relieved that her pain would finally end.

4. Seeing Kings of Leon in Hyde Park this summer. They played my favourite song ( a song which they rarely play) and it was amazing.

5. Going home after my work placement. As a student, it was the first time that I lived away from home and had been nervous at the beginning. I ended up absolutely loving it and was sad to leave the company but I remember sitting on the train home as it pulled away from Dublin and being so contented. I felt like I could achieve anything and it made me appreciate my family and friends so much more.

Sorry for the long post. Brilliant idea for a thread.

Limerickgal82

Wow some of your moments made me cry ! Out of bad moments come the good

BREAKING UP WITH MY FIRST SERIOUS BOYFRIEND:

I will never forget this moment i actually couldnt breath. Together for 5 years. He turned around and said i don't think i love you anymore. Worse still he had my clothes packed in a bag in his boot

LOOKING FOR MY BROTHER WHEN HE WENT MISSING :

I will never forget the night my little brother went missing he suffers from depression. He had a fight with my parents and ran away with no shoes , money or phone. Me and my dad spent an entire night looking in rivers and ditches for me. Hoping that we would not find him dead. Thankfully he was found ok. It is still the worst feeling i have ever felt !:(

FIRST DATE WITH MY BOYFRIEND:

He made such an effort!! Took me to dinner brought me a sunflower and walked on the beach

Amazing feeling and we are still together 3 years later !

TELLING SAID BOYFRIEND I LOVED HIM :

This was a funny rather than romantic moment

Told him in a tent surrounded by loads of snoring people ha ha

I have loads more but this is all im able for right now:p

you*ess*bee

Standing in a queue outside the door to work, searching my handbag for my ID card, pulling it out, and a feminine product flying out and landing on the security guards feet. Wish I could have died right there.

Finding out my grans alzheimers had gotten so bad she didnt recognize any of us, and had to go into a home.

My first real orgasm.

Winning the fee to finalize my divorce, on a scratch card!

BrookieD

Wow loads of great stories here, my few

Bad:
1) Sitting with my now wife in Harold's Cross hospice overnight as my granddad was dying of cancer. I had a feeling that day to leave work and head over to him. As i walk in they were moving him into a private ward and were just about to call me.

I then made sure he was settled, went for my nan and tod her it was time to say goodbye. Took her home and my self and wife sat all night watching the Olympics through the night while my mum came home from the UK.

He held on all night, Mum arrived and i left at 8am, and 8:10 he passed away, I swear he waited for my mum to arrive for the final goodbye.

2)6 weeks later my sister in law died from a brain aneurysm at 32. The saddest event i have seen, the girl had just got everything in her life she ever wanted, good job, 6 weeks in a new house, just recently engaged and was so happy. It was all gone in a matter of 2 days. The fall out and effect this had on the family was tremendous. If my marriage survived this event it will survive anything thrown at it.

Happy stuff
1) The day i met my wife, i knew she was the one in a heartbeat. 13 years later my heart still skips a beat every time i see her, Truly a stunning, strong beautiful women and a fantastic mother.

2) The birth of our two boys, Number one was a surprise but number two took a lot of hard work and worry. A miscarriage and some major worry but Liam arrived and is a bundle of joy and the funniest baby boy.

3) Seeing son number one play football for his local team. there something as a dad that makes me burst with pride when he is on the pitch playing out of his skin.:D

Ectoplasm

Amazing thread. Despite many stories being sad, it's incredible to read what people have been through and coped with. So to share a few of mine:

- Visiting my mam in hospital and seeing her getting very upset as a song 'Steal Away' came on the radio. I was 11 and had never seen her cry. I found out later that day she had cancer.

- Our last Christmas together - my mam was very ill but she came home for Christmas and none of the family left the house for about a week. It was just incredibly special.

- The day she died. It was surreal. I'd spent the night in a neighbours house (my dad and older brothers were in the hospital with her). I woke up and it was after going-to-school-time. I heard my brothers voice downstairs and I just knew. That day seemed to last a week.

- Graduating from college. I'd been a bit of a mess after leaving school - did a course, dropped out etc. but funded myself to return to do another course and graduated fifth in my class. I remember looking at my Dad and he was just bursting with pride.

- Holding my godchildren for the first time. The first, my nephew, was the first baby in my family. I was mesmerised and surprised by the instant fierce love I felt. The second, my friends beautiful daughter and I just looked at her and fell in love again.

- The day my brother told me that my Dad had Motor Neurone Disease. I was devastated. It rocked my foundations completely. I'm an only girl who had only had my Dad since age 12 and at 25 was facing his loss. I just could NOT believe it was happening. I remember sending a text to my best friend saying 'I need you' and 20 mins later she turned up at my doorstep. She had walked out on a date, got in a taxi and was at my front door holding me as I sobbed. I don't think I have ever been more grateful or more aware of the power of friendship.

- My Thursdays with my Dad. Towards the end as he got weaker and weaker he needed someone with him all the time. Thursdays were my 'day' and it was just me and him talking, watching tv, eating. It sounds dull but I was so aware every week that this might be the last that there was real meaning in the mundane.

- About three weeks after my Dad died it was Christmas. I'd been coping ok as his death really was a release for him and it had been coming for so long. Then Christmas came and I realised all the things that I'd never have a chance to do again and that both my parents were now gone. I felt so rootless and shaken again, but it reminded me how important my brothers and their families are to me.

fasty

I have a few moments that stick with me. A lot of them are sad but most these days are good.

First the good:

Passing my driving test despite making a series of mistakes that resulted in grade 2s on the way back to the bloody test center!

A date with a friend of my sister that I'd fancied for years and years but didn't have the guts to do anything about it. We talked and talked then went back to my place. Watching her undress infront of me was a surreal moment. I felt like a teenager again! It didn't work out but I still remember that night.

Walking into my room to find my girlfriend trying on my coat, scarf and gloves for no reason and realising I loved her.

The bad:

Getting rejected by a lot of my friends around the time of the leaving cert, then spending the summer working in a job where I was bullied by my supervisor. That clouded my view of the world for years and years.

Getting a call from my Dad, who was crying, the only time he's ever cried around me. He had to tell me that a friend of mine had been murdered.

Lorrs33

Meeting my current boyfriend: We were in second year of secondary school. Didn't actually get together until third year of college, but I love that I remember the first time I saw him.

Getting into college: I received a letter from the CAO and I foolishly thought it was just a confirmation of the choices I put down, so I put it away. Then, I don't know why, but I took it back out and decided to double-check all my choices were correct. Then I saw the 'course offered' and I knew the course code of the course I wanted to do off by heart, so there was no need to double-check!

First kiss with my boyfriend: It was a disaster, my teeth whacked off his at least twice, but we made up for it quickly enough.

My sister telling me she was pregnant: It was just after my Leaving Cert results were published and I just was not expecting it. I screamed the house down with excitement.

My 21st birthday celebration: I don't drink, therefore I don't go clubbing and didn't want a 21st party. But my friends rallied together and we celebrated in one of their apartments. It was casual and quiet, but I loved it and I felt like I finally belonged, having spent most of my life friendless.

My mam starving herself as a result of sudden depression: My brother's ex stopped us seeing my niece, who was just a few months old at the time, for two weeks after seeing my brother with his now-fiancee. My mam couldn't deal with it and just stopped eating and functioning. It was awful. Seven years later, the ex is still not making our lives easy.

Plenty more memorable moments, but I'll stop there