Dragan wrote: » And how do you know the kid was not making the parents life hell as well? So, we have a whole community who allowed local kids to run amoke and cause terror and they want to blame the parents for their own inability to stand up for themselves?
Dragan wrote: » I went through my teenage years with a complete inability to deal with what was going on in my life and i turned to drugs, to violence and all the usual ones. Why? Because i wanted to. Eventually i would get back onto the straight and narrow but i put my parents through hell, and all they ever wanted for me was to be safe and happy and to have opportuinity, so when i see rubbish like "it's the parents fault" being trotted out i take that as a direct insult to my parents who were good, honest, hard working people. .
Mairt wrote: » I could have typed all that too!.. Almost the same here, although my son is only 17, but is hoping to study business management too. Bad parenting has a huge amount to do with our social ills, but las Dragan posted earlier (and I've often thought Dragan to be wise beyond his years and life experience) teenage boys are the stupiest, the dumb things to grace shoe leather (ok not his EXACT words, but I got his meaning). How in gods name a child got his hands on a gun beats the sh*t out of me, but I doubt Daddy gave it to him.
gurramok wrote: » Kids with guns in this country, you only hear that sh1t happening in the likes of London. That victim could of been anyone, hands up who has chased youngsters after their home been attacked in the past? You wouldn't now, fear rules. :mad:
oceanclub wrote: » Sorry, but there seems to be a huge contradiction here. If the community do indeed take action into their own hands - even only as far as protesting - they are being referred to as vigilantes. Yet you're saying it's their fault, and not the parents, when the children run amok and murder people, and that therefore they should do something. Which is it? P.
gazzer wrote: » Thats very interesting. I have met you a few times in the gym and you seem to be very focused and grounded so its good to hear an example of somebody that went through the bad times and was able to come out the other end. When you were going through your bad period do you think that you would ever have used a gun on somebody if you had have had one in your possession?
Neither? Both? I am saying that the community needs to accept there own responsibility if they wish to push back on the parents as some people here are saying it is right to do.
Wicknight wrote: » I'm a "bleeding heart liberal", and I would say that East Wall is a poor area and he probably never was taught right from wrong. I imagine the kid who shot this man is a severely damaged individual, everything from terrible parenting to a bad diet. I wouldn't say he is a "victim" of his environment though, simply a product of it. People get too wrapped up in the blame game in these situations. Blaming someone only works if the person cares what they have done and cares that you disapprove. I doubt this child cares. Ultimately blaming him is pointless. It might make you feel better but it doesn't actually do anything. There is no way to force him to feel guilty. You either stick him in prison forever where he can't harm others, or you try and rehabilitate him.
oceanclub wrote: » Well, why don't you suggest what the community should do, since some people here seem to regard even a protest as heavy-handed and fascist. P.
Dragan wrote: » And where is the precedant for protest? Peoples kids go astray all the time, granted nmot often leading to this level of crime but it happens. What good is marching on the house of parents who are mourning the same loss as the rest of the community, with the added problem that it was their CHILD who was involved?
Dragan wrote: » LoL, and you didn't go to school with a single kid who was a little cnut but had decent parents, and if you turn around in 5 years time and, for whatever reason, turn to crime then that is your Father's fault? Will you please get real Darragh.
oceanclub wrote: » Fine, so tell me what the community should do. P.
dlofnep wrote: » I love how people came in here with their swords of judgement attacking liberals on what we MAY think. I have a few questions. How is it that a 13 year old was provided a gun? I hung out in some rough areas when I was 13, but the WORST a 13 year old could access anywhere in my city was probably a few cans of beer or a nodge. How on earth this 13 year old got a gun is beyond me. So what do we do about it? All express our distaste for a little 13 year old scumbag and tell what we'd like to do to him? Lovely. But we all know that won't happen. He will be kept in youth detention until he is 18, and will come out a worse or better person for it. I tell you, maybe he has no moral or soul - but carrying the weight of murder at 13 is a big thing to carry. Why is nobody screaming to find out the source of this problem - and that's whoever provided a gun to this child. Was the child a ruthless little scumbag? Absolutely. But is he the sole problem in relation to this incident? Absolutely not.
Dragan wrote: » Neither? Both? I am saying that the community needs to accept there own responsibility if they wish to push back on the parents as some people here are saying it is right to do. There are many legal ways to take action against anti social behaviour. In all honesty, i don't know. Truth be told i don't go home very often because there is somebody there that i just cannot trust myself to be around. Even now, typing this, something deep inside me wants to kill that person. If i had access to a weapon, through any means, when i was young and off the rails, would i have killed that person? Possibly. And that is being completely honest with you.
Dragan wrote: » Why? I don't live there, i don't know the community well enough, or it's problems, to be able to advise them on what is the correct course of action. I can happily point out that the INCORRECT source of action is gun jumping, finger pointing and publically putting the blame on two parents when we don't have a clue what they went through with their kid.
Guya wrote: » http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eyQ2qcO6F5Y
oceanclub wrote: » Right, so you say the parents are not at fault at all, claim its actually the community is that at fault, but criticise any possible action they might take and offer no opinion as to what action they should take. Are you a social worker for Haringey Council? P.
Bambi wrote: » As I said earlier, give scumbags the environment in which they'll thrive and they will turn borderline kids into scumbags too. I've seen it happen when i was a kid and I see it now. We ignored it for 20 years and now we're reaping the benefits. Having said that, my solution is to string a large percentage of the f***ers up on lamposts..
Guya wrote: » http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eyQ2qcO6F5Y .
the Gardai can round up and charge every little toerag in the country but whats the point if the courts can't deal with them appropriately.
do we not need to take action of some description and i am not taking baying crowds roaming the streets! I mean politicians, gardai, legislation, educational system, communities as a whole, parents etc etc
Dragan wrote: » Sweet suffering jesus have you actually read what i have been typing or just hinging on the beats that suit you? My contributions to the thread so far. 1) There is no point in turning on the parents and blaming them publically when we have no idea how they interacted with their kid. 2) The community can be up in arms all the want but they were happy enough to let things get to this point. 3) I am not aware of the community, nor it's basic workings, so i would not hazard to guess what they might or might not be willing to do to help this issue going forward. Thats about it.
The community can be up in arms all the want but they were happy enough to let things get to this point.
oceanclub wrote: » You haven't exactly rebutted anything I said. You're just repeating the words in a different order, and managing to contradict yourself into the bargain. You say you would not "hazard to guess what they might or might not be willing to do", but that doesn't stop you saying the community "were happy enough to let things get to this point". So, you obviously feel you know the community enough to collectively blame them for this incident, while not knowing them enough to offer any suggestions. P.
Dragan wrote: » LoL, so you are attaching two unrelated quotes to each other?
oceanclub wrote: » How on earth are these unrelated quotes? In one quote, you feel confident in collectively blaming the community for the incident. In the other, you say that don't know enough about the situation to offer any suggestions. You're contradicting yourself. Don't get annoyed with me for pointing this out. P.