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Ruining a wedding

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Has anyone here ruined a wedding or been to a wedding that was ruined? Let us say, someone has stood up during the mass service and said that this person should not marry him or she.

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lawred2

Leg End Reject wrote: »

It's done at the wake and after the burial when everyone goes for refreshments.

I know that. But the poster specifically highlighted the procession of handshakes... And it is very Irish for every Tom, Dick and Harry to join that queue.

There's no stories being told.

I like the late night story telling where you're really only in the company of family and friends but there's a lot of horrible protocol to get through before that.

Anyway, we're going off topic:)

Notmything

Ubbquittious wrote: »

Kind of. Twas me that did the ruining. Won't go into any more detail than that. Great satisfaction from it though

What did you take to sh1t so much???? Did you know they were fellow boardsies?

Leg End Reject

lawred2 wrote: »

There is no way the procession/lineup for handshaking allows for stories to be told... Try to dawdle for longer than a couple of sentences and you get told to move along quick enough..

It's done at the wake and after the burial when everyone goes for refreshments.

lawred2

spakman wrote: »

From my experience, it's a great comfort to the family to have people come and pay their respects. They could be people they haven't seen in years and it means a lot when they take the time to be there. And yes, there's a great social aspect to it which also helps and leaves many fond memories as stories are told etc

There is no way the procession/lineup for handshaking allows for stories to be told... Try to dawdle for longer than a couple of sentences and you get told to move along quick enough..

banie01

Santan wrote: »

Anybody else reading through this thread hoping not to read a story and suddenly realise, uh oh this is about me

No...
Are you? Feel free to share, this is a safe space with zero judgement!

lawred2

cj maxx wrote: »

So many times I've seen families standing there , dumb struck shaking hands ,with people who are for the most part , strangers. Awful tradition for the most part.

The queue to shake hands thing is horrible alright but I doubt it's uniquely Irish..

cena

Hi, Folks. OP here. I was not expecting this many replies.

So brother got married 8 years ago. Uncle and his come over from England the day before the wedding. The hotel was 30 minutes away from where we all lived. They wouldn't even come out to the brother and his wife the night before.
Day of the wedding we get to the hotel and they stayed in the room while the photos are been taken. It left a bad atmosphere for the day the way they treated my brother, they were also heard to be saying they didn't want to come to the wedding.

We also had an aunt come over from England. She stayed with us the night before and kept going on about staying in the hotel. We didn't stay at the hotel and we only lived 30 mins away and I was driving (non-drinker), Anyways the whole day of the wedding she kept going about us staying there for the night. We kept telling her no due to living so close. The night rolls on and the aunt is very fond of the drink and gets plastered. She makes a show of the family jumping on the chairs and making a fool of a much older cousin.

Anyway, we go home and my mother lets loose in the aunt and uncle her (sister and brother) how bad they acted over the weekend and the uncle couldn't even come to the house the night before. The aunt got her wish and stayed at the hotel after been told she was no longer welcomed back to the house.
I arrived back to the hotel the next morning with her suitecase and she gets in the uncle's car to get onto the same boat home as the uncle and wife. He only came for the day
We have another aunt in England who wouldn't come over for her first nephew of 3 to get married. That took the biscuit altogether with the brother and mother

Santan

Anybody else reading through this thread hoping not to read a story and suddenly realise, uh oh this is about me

Leg End Reject

spakman wrote: »

From my experience, it's a great comfort to the family to have people come and pay their respects. They could be people they haven't seen in years and it means a lot when they take the time to be there. And yes, there's a great social aspect to it which also helps and leaves many fond memories as stories are told etc

It's lovely to meet people who know the deceased when they were younger too, you get a greater sense of the person. Especially if they were a parent, we only ever know our parents when they're parents.

spakman

cj maxx wrote: »

So many times I've seen families standing there , dumb struck shaking hands ,with people who are for the most part , strangers. Awful tradition for the most part.

From my experience, it's a great comfort to the family to have people come and pay their respects. They could be people they haven't seen in years and it means a lot when they take the time to be there. And yes, there's a great social aspect to it which also helps and leaves many fond memories as stories are told etc

cj maxx

Sebastian Dangerfield wrote: »

Off topic but I think I prefer their attitude to funerals to be honest. The use of death as a social activity in this country really gets on my t1ts.

So many times I've seen families standing there , dumb struck shaking hands ,with people who are for the most part , strangers. Awful tradition for the most part.

Pawwed Rig

I had a guy arrive at my wedding in the evening time. He was invited to the whole thing but decided just to come to the afters. Noone else was just invited to the afters so he decided he was well behind in the alcohol consumption stakes so started lashing it back. By 1 am he was out of his head and was trying to (hamfistidly) hit on every girl in the place, insulted one of my cousins by telling her she looks like a man, used racial slurs against my best man and just being a general messy drunk. At that stage he was forcibly ejected from the hotel. He was staying in a B&B close by and went in to bed but then decided he needed a cigarette so went into a kind of courtyard area in the B&B to smoke. Unfortunately for him he was in his underpants when he did this and managed to lock himself in to the courtyard where he was stuck until the B&B owner arrived a couple of hours later to start breakfast.

Tool :pac:

malinheader

Cilldara_2000 wrote: »

Irish funerals also beat Irish weddings.

Can't really disagree with you, Last few I went to before covid were a long drawn out day. Might be as i am getting older but the hotels seem to hold out on the dinner as late as possible now so to make as much on the drinking before dinner. As far as I can remember the food was served anywhere between 6 and 9.
Anyhow that's a different topic.
Have to say some of the stories on this thread are brilliant.

Cilldara_2000

malinheader wrote: »

I'm totally the opposite think the way alot of funerals were celebrated here before covid were a whole lot better than the one across the pond.
There's a saying where I am from that an Irish funeral is better than an English wedding.

Age and circumstances taken into consideration of course.

Irish funerals also beat Irish weddings.

fergiesfolly

Sebastian Dangerfield wrote: »

Off topic but I think I prefer their attitude to funerals to be honest. The use of death as a social activity in this country really gets on my t1ts.

Disagree, although it depends on the age of the person deceased.
It's often a meeting point for old friends or extended family who mightn't have seen each other for months or even years.
I've been to funerals where the deceased family were very happy to see people congregate outside and have a chat. It's like losing someone close is eased by having drought so many together.
It's why I've felt desperately sorry for people going through a funeral right now. Losing a loved one and not having the larger community around to help them mourn must be very difficult.
It's something we Irish do better than a lot of other cultures.
Plenty of funerals I've been to were better than weddings.

malinheader

Sebastian Dangerfield wrote: »

Off topic but I think I prefer their attitude to funerals to be honest. The use of death as a social activity in this country really gets on my t1ts.

I'm totally the opposite think the way alot of funerals were celebrated here before covid were a whole lot better than the one across the pond.
There's a saying where I am from that an Irish funeral is better than an English wedding.

Age and circumstances taken into consideration of course.

Sebastian Dangerfield

NewbridgeIR wrote: »

Their funerals are similarly bad. Shockingly impersonal and cold. Held ages after the death, very few people there etc.

Off topic but I think I prefer their attitude to funerals to be honest. The use of death as a social activity in this country really gets on my t1ts.

Elliejo

poisonated wrote: »

I know someone who was getting married and the groom was in the British army and was shot at by an Ira guy known as “the fox”. I’m sure that ruined

I know the one you mean.ðŸ™

[Deleted User]

SCOOP 64 wrote: »

Going by the last 2 post all weddings in the Uk must be the same then.

I've been to weddings in England and Wales and yes, both quite dry and sedate compared to Irish shindigs. The Welsh one was over by 11.00pm and no-one seemed to be bothered. It was held in a marquee in the middle of nowhere so couldn't go onto any other pub.

Their funerals are similarly bad. Shockingly impersonal and cold. Held ages after the death, very few people there etc.

Jimmy Bottlehead

PGE1970 wrote: »

One of my pals was Best Man for a pal of ours. Rural wedding down the country.

He proceeded to entertain the congregation with tales of the groom including those of his "lively" past life.

Including this belter of a line which stunned the room apart from our table who were crying with laughter.....

"He never went to bed with a dog. But he certainly woke up with a few!"

Which part of the country was this in?

tea and coffee

Sebastian Dangerfield wrote: »

The stand mixer story! Remember it well

https://touch.boards.ie/thread/2057355848/1

Its a great read.

I got confused: the paying for your own meal was a separate wedding https://touch.boards.ie/thread/2057262110

nibtrix

tea and coffee wrote: »

I dimly recall a thread on here from an artist who was invited to a wedding and as a gift was asked to/ going to paint a picture of the cpuple. The bride and her mother also tried to strong arm her into buying an expensive blender (or similar) as the painting wasn't deemed a "real present "
Think the day was shambolic enough as well where is dawned on people that the menu in the venue had prices and they were being asked to pay for their meal.

Must have a look for it

Enjoy!
https://touch.boards.ie/thread/2057355848/1

screamer

Sebastian Dangerfield wrote: »

I have left out a lot of detail due to an irrational fear that someone in attendance will read it, and easily identify it. It was pretty unique!

Fawlty Towers the Wedding
Complete with Manuel the barman

Sebastian Dangerfield

tea and coffee wrote: »

I dimly recall a thread on here from an artist who was invited to a wedding and as a gift was asked to/ going to paint a picture of the cpuple. The bride and her mother also tried to strong arm her into buying an expensive blender (or similar) as the painting wasn't deemed a "real present "
Think the day was shambolic enough as well where is dawned on people that the menu in the venue had prices and they were being asked to pay for their meal.

Must have a look for it

The stand mixer story! Remember it well

tea and coffee

I dimly recall a thread on here from an artist who was invited to a wedding and as a gift was asked to/ going to paint a picture of the cpuple. The bride and her mother also tried to strong arm her into buying an expensive blender (or similar) as the painting wasn't deemed a "real present "
Think the day was shambolic enough as well where is dawned on people that the menu in the venue had prices and they were being asked to pay for their meal.

Must have a look for it

shesty

I wouldn't say ruined, but I did attend a wedding where the groom's father gave a speech that was bordering on extremely insulting to the bride.Worse, once he had finished that bit, he launched into a 30 minute bewildering ramble where he basically explored various branches of his family tree, making out that his family were far better than hers (she is absolutely classy, the groom got very lucky).There was also a priest in attendance who was a family friend and he made a short speech that also left me shocked, it was really belittling of her.

She didn't notice on the day, but a few months later I was talking to her about the day in general and the realisation had sunk in that neither speech had been appropriate at all.

shtpEdthePlum

Red Silurian wrote: »

I heard from the priest that did my wedding, he was conducting a ceremony a few weeks earlier and the groom had a bit too much whiskey that morning, legally speaking the priest couldn't marry them because it's the signing of a legal contract and you can't be under the influence

That's bollocks, if the wedding was planned for a year beforehand that is a tacit agreement that the contract was going to be signed. It would be next to nigh on impossible to prove he was drunk when it was signed. He was just looking for another fee the prick.

Sebastian Dangerfield

Odyssey 2005 wrote: »

There's a film in that !

I have left out a lot of detail due to an irrational fear that someone in attendance will read it, and easily identify it. It was pretty unique!

Odyssey 2005

Sebastian Dangerfield wrote: »

I was at a wedding abroad whereby all travelling Irish guests were told the venue was a central venue with lots to do, and we should stay there. It turned out to be a ****heap in the middle of a forest, €70 in a taxi from where we thought it was. I genuinely think they got a discount for filling it, and there were blatant attempts to fleece us while there that I think they were complicit in.

There was nothing to do, and the ceremony wasn't til 5, so every Irish man and half the women ended up having breakfast and going to the bar. This is day 3 for most people. There was a barman with very little English who noticed they were tipping freely, so starts giving out a one shot bottle of Jager with every pint. I got there at 2 and everyone was ruined. 10 to 5, the bar is still full and half the place are still in jeans, and the bridesmaids are going crazy trying to round people up so the bride can do her dream walk down the hotel stairs with people in awe gasping at her beauty either side. She can wait no longer, so ends up walking down the stairs in tears while half the men push past her up the stairs to get ready, now the bar has been closed.

Church is no better - an Indian man with little English saying mass, so people start chatting among themselves, bar one gee eyed uncle, who gets down on his knees, arms outstretched like he's seen the blessed virgin, while they're saying their vows. It didn't get much better as the night wore on.

The next day we all broke free and got taxis to the city, which caused ructions as there was a dinner planned that we all thought was laid on by them, but they were actually expecting us to pay for as a contribution to their wedding "package" (in addition to gifts). Lots of people fell out in the months to come.

There's a film in that !

Sebastian Dangerfield

I was at a wedding abroad whereby all travelling Irish guests were told the venue was a central venue with lots to do, and we should stay there. It turned out to be a ****heap in the middle of a forest, €70 in a taxi from where we thought it was. I genuinely think they got a discount for filling it, and there were blatant attempts to fleece us while there that I think they were complicit in.

There was nothing to do, and the ceremony wasn't til 5, so every Irish man and half the women ended up having breakfast and going to the bar. This is day 3 for most people. There was a barman with very little English who noticed they were tipping freely, so starts giving out a one shot bottle of Jager with every pint. I got there at 2 and everyone was ruined. 10 to 5, the bar is still full and half the place are still in jeans, and the bridesmaids are going crazy trying to round people up so the bride can do her dream walk down the hotel stairs with people in awe gasping at her beauty either side. She can wait no longer, so ends up walking down the stairs in tears while half the men push past her up the stairs to get ready, now the bar has been closed.

Church is no better - an Indian man with little English saying mass, so people start chatting among themselves, bar one gee eyed uncle, who gets down on his knees, arms outstretched like he's seen the blessed virgin, while they're saying their vows. It didn't get much better as the night wore on.

The next day we all broke free and got taxis to the city, which caused ructions as there was a dinner planned that we all thought was laid on by them, but they were actually expecting us to pay for as a contribution to their wedding "package" (in addition to gifts). Lots of people fell out in the months to come.