jimgoose wrote: » Do you know what "nemesis" means? A righteous infliction of retribution manifested by an appropriate agent. Personified in this case by an 'orrible cunt... me.
lainey_d_123 wrote: » I've noticed that those who should feel guilty, don't. I know a guy who is incredibly toxic and has left a long line of destruction behind him. He has a track record of ditching people going through a hard time (including his best friend when her new husband was diagnosed with terminal cancer, myself when going through severe depression and various ex-girlfriends when they displayed any kind of emotional need), he's done some really sketchy things (pressured women into sex to the extent of it almost being predatory, used sex workers in developing countries...) and he still manages to create a narrative in his own head that he's a good person. He's obscenely selfish and callous, but good fun to be around, so people try to believe the best of him until they can't anymore. I tried to point out to him once how much he'd hurt me by ditching me during a terrible time, and he just didn't answer or engage. Mad.
Deleted User wrote: » I don't think having others tell how they see you is a good idea. Their opinion may be shaped by their own prejudices and of course projections. It can also give a sense of power to the "teller" if they are that way inclined. No it's far better to develop our own inner eye and be sure of who we are without input from others. I am not a bad person certainly but I do feel there are aspects of myself which aren't very pleasant. Funnily enough I'm suspicious of those who hold themselves to lofty heights of "I am so kind and caring and haven't a bad bone in my body". I believe we all have what Jung termed "the shadow self" and its vital to be aware of this part of ourselves. Edited to clarify what I meant by input from others. Sometimes we do need help getting to a deeper understanding of ourselves but that's different to having someone say "I think you are x and y".
Deleted User wrote: » Oh I could be a nemesis! Don't have the nerve though to exact the retribution needed and would ultimately be the loser I'm sure.
Tell me how wrote: » The premise of what I was suggesting was that the other people would talk to the therapist on the subject of you. The therapist would guide the questions and conversation in order to try to gain an understanding (to some degree) of how others perceive you in real life. It would be a conversation which would not include direct questions such as "Are they a good person" "What are their strengths" but would be down to the skill of the therapist to build a picture of the person who is not in the room in order to help working with them when they do return. As I said previously, I can see pitfalls with such an idea but I think it would have potential to fill in a lot of gaps which could ultimately benefit the person seeking help. I think so many people end up in therapy because of a lack of clarity of their place in the world and the 1 to 1 environment means that everything is understandably tailored from just one persons view. Having more opinions may allow for consistent views to emerge more quickly.
hgfj wrote: » Sounds like a bit of a sociopath.
Agricola wrote: » I'm a bit of a strange character. On the one hand, I'll give homeless people a couple of quid routinely and will help any little old ladies who need to get across the road. But if you cross me...... I will rain down an un-Godly fúcking firestorm upon you. You're gonna have to call the fúcking United Nations and get a fúcking binding resolution to keep me from fúcking destroying you. I'm talking scorched earth, motherfúcker! I will massacre you! I WILL FÚCK YOU UP!
Tell me how wrote: » What happens to old ladies who cross slowly in front of you as they try to get across the road?
Tell me how wrote: » I was discussing this to someone recently. Instead of going to therapy for x number of sessions, imagine if you could send in 3 or 4 people individually who know you and have them speak honestly as to how they find you. Your strengths, weaknesses etc. I think that that might be very progressive for a lot of people in therapy who are consumed by a lack of identity or feelings of self doubt as to their place in the world. Trouble is, how truthful would these people be. Would they just try to make you look good? Or would they tailor their stories so as to make them look better where relevant as they might feel they were being judged. Interesting concept if likely unworkable.
Mad_maxx wrote: » There is nothing I could do to one particular individual on this earth which would even out what they did to me, twenty one years after last speaking to them and not a day goes by that they don't cross my mind once Some scars don't heal
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