Why is dating so hard
Just wondering if im alone in feeling this way? Any suggestions, opinions or thoughts are appreciated.
Im in my early 30's, always been told that im attractive, a good listener, genuine and a big hearted person. I dont cheat, lie or play games, I take good care of myself, I love animals and children and consider myself to be a caring person. Im also introverted and love my own company, I like going out and having fun too, that said if I didnt see my friends for weeks at a time, id be ok as im often busy doing my own things, I do make time for people and never let my friends down but I dont need to be around people all of the time. Ive also got a high level of education and work full time.
Im not perfect by any means, I have flaws like anyone else but im always trying to better myself in different ways and im learning more each day. One of my flaws is probably my level of introversion, im much more of a listener than a talker and I can be mistaken for a doormat which causes problems in my relationships but over all, im not a bad person and always try my best.
Basically im sick of dating and finding it so hard to connect with anyone. All the men I meet have ridiculous expectations and high standards, its like they have this idea of their perfect woman and if you dont meet those standards they nearly get offended, they treat you like you did something to them, its like they feel entitled to their ideal woman. Im aware that this might sound extreme but its just my view of the situation as I see it.
Lately ive been reminiscing about my younger years before social media and how much the dating scene has changed since then.
Guys who where interested used to let you know and tell you straight out, now they either behave like creeps and scare women away or they 'befriend' women in the hopes that something will progress and turn into more then becoming offended and self entitled when it doesn't. They also expect women to be mind readers in these situations.
Men also used to take their time getting to know women and make a genuine effort, now they seem to just play mind games and bolt at the smallest, insignificant little mistake or 'flaw' when they realise youre not perfect. I also have noticed that men seem to get really weird when the woman makes the first move or texts first, they get a really big head and start messing you around convincing themselves youre obsessed with them when all you said in the text was hello or asked how their day was.
Years ago if you texted a lad you fancied he'd either tell you straight out he wasnt interested and there'd be no awkwardness or he'd text you for a while before asking you on a date. It doesnt seem to work that way anymore.
I also notice how everything constitutes as stalking now, ive talked to so many men and overheard men with their friends talking about women 'stalking' them or women being desperate when all theyve done is text them or shown a bit of interest. Its so draining, do they expect women to sit by the phone waiting for men to text while in the mean time they complain about women not making the first move?
Its all just so draining.
What strikes me as the most confusing part is all the women I know who have children to different men, dont work, have no education above junior or leaving cert, obsess over the kardashians, instagram models and taking selfies and live in free houses get so much interest from men, theyve got partners who they cheat on, lie to and use their partners for money but still have no problem finding relationships.
Can anyone explain this to me? It just feels like being an attractive, decent person with your own money and independence doesn't tick any boxes for men. I dont even know what the expectations are anymore? Instagram model?
