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What's the craic (pun intended) with anal sex?

Porklife

Morning folks,

As this is AH, I'm expecting a plethora of vulgar answers but I'm genuinely wondering, what's the story with men and anal sex? Every guy I've been with over the last few years has asked for it. I can't think of a single guy who hasn't asked me if I'm up for it. Nothing at all wrong with that, I have done it in the right circumstances when the mood has taken over but I definitely don't enjoy it. I'm just wondering why men like it so much. I think the.. for want of a better word, normal way, is much nicer. Is it because its a bit taboo (or is it even?), is it because it shows the girl has a dirty side? Also.. And this hugely worries me, are you put off by a girl who does it? Do you judge her in some maybe even subconscious way?

Sorry to be so vulgar at breakfast time on a lovely Christmas Saturday folks but I have my reasons for asking ðŸ˜‰ðŸ˜‘ðŸ˜œ

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Wibbs

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts wrote: »

I didn’t really think it was much of a taboo anymore, especially as it’s how gay men have penetrative sex all the time.

So what? What does what gay men do have anything to do with what straight men and women do?

RWCNT wrote: »

Maybe I'm wrong tbf, I'm only going by the fact that any lads I've ever discussed this with look at me like I've two heads when I tell them I'm not into it.

Aye but many lads will also claim to have big mickeys and to have shagged x amount of women, when their experience amounts to four and a fumbled drunken hand drop out the back of the pub. I have long found what people say they do/like and what they actually do/like often quite different. There can be a large dose of what's expected among peers too.

nthclare

Pauliedragon wrote: »

No. Never interested me to be honest but I used to work with shall we say a bunch of people who had a very liberal approach to sex so anything went so I heard a lot of stories.

Where was that ?
I kandi in Limerick

RWCNT

Javier Fierce Moon wrote: »

Extreme minority? Don't know about that.

Not surprised seeing you in this thread with your incredibly apt username! Maybe I'm wrong tbf, I'm only going by the fact that any lads I've ever discussed this with look at me like I've two heads when I tell them I'm not into it.

Porklife wrote: »

Does it hurt if its too tight or just not feel good? If you don't mind me asking!

Doesn't hurt, I just can't move as freely as when I'm in the other yoke. I feel impeded.

neonsofa

RWCNT wrote: »

I'm not a fan, and I know I'm in the extreme minority for it. A bit too tight for my liking. P in v is just the business.

I'm alright taking it though. Apparently I'm quite rare as a bi man that mainly sleeps with women but exclusively bottoms for other men. Makes me feel special.

I never understand the gay/bi men not wanting to bottom. Or straight men not wanting anal play either, it's supposed to be most enjoyable for men.

I've been told that vaginal is tight all the way like a tunnel whereas anal is very tight at the door but kinda like an open room once through the door. I dunno how true that is though as I don't have a penis.

Op I'd never not do something for fear of seeming like a slut to the man engaging in the very same act. If you don't want to do it then don't though.

Gimme A Pound

RWCNT wrote: »

I'm not a fan, and I know I'm in the extreme minority for it.

Extreme minority? Don't know about that.

Gimme A Pound

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts wrote: »

I assumed lots of couples have done anal? Hubs and I haven’t because it appeals to neither of us but I didn’t really think it was much of a taboo anymore, especially as it’s how gay men have penetrative sex all the time. I’m surprised that people think porn has much to do with it. Some of the replies on this thread have surprised me.

I don't think it's anal sex in and of itself (particularly between a couple) that's causing such replies, but a perceived increase in expectation of it on a date/casual encounter, to the point of a frosty reception if she would rather not. Also the OP saying she doesn't enjoy it but has still agreed to it anyway on a date.

Porklife

RWCNT wrote: »

I'm not a fan, and I know I'm in the extreme minority for it. A bit too tight for my liking. P in v is just the business.

I'm alright taking it though. Apparently I'm quite rare as a bi man that mainly sleeps with women but exclusively bottoms for other men. Makes me feel special.

Does it hurt if its too tight or just not feel good? If you don't mind me asking!

facehugger99

Blitzkrieger wrote: »

Like others I suspect the attraction is down to porn. Jimmy Carr made a joke years ago that the birth rate is going to go way down because people learn about sex from porn. "Well I shag her in the arse then cum on her tits, but we just can't seem to get pregnant!"

I do worry about that there's a chauvinistic element to it; that it can be uncomfortable to women and seen as submissive, but maybe some men are just conditioned to think that it's a natural part of sex and something they should want. Personally I've only done it a couple of times (at the ladies request) and it wasn't my favourite experience.

The bottom line OP is if you're uncomfortable with it, it's your choice, and no man should keep pestering you over it. If they can't respect your decision, get rid.

Well played Sir.

RWCNT

I'm not a fan, and I know I'm in the extreme minority for it. A bit too tight for my liking. P in v is just the business.

I'm alright taking it though. Apparently I'm quite rare as a bi man that mainly sleeps with women but exclusively bottoms for other men. Makes me feel special.

Porklife

holystungun9 wrote: »

Comedian Chris Rock said it best. Men can’t go back sexually and women can’t go back financially. Once a woman has had a boyfriend with money, going out with a broke guy is much less desirable. Once a guy has got used to more adventurous sex with a woman, he doesn’t want to go back to just the rudimentary stuff

That's interesting but not necessarily true. I went out with a real estate agent years ago and a broke ass musician after we broke up. Had way more love for the musician.

He said he's never done it before and has always wanted to. He's big though so that's a concern but... I'm definitely tempted. I really like him and would like to give him what he wants. I'm worried he'll think I'm tacky or something though, not tacky... slutty I guess much as I detest that word and wish I wasn't worried!

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts

I assumed lots of couples have done anal? Hubs and I haven’t because it appeals to neither of us but I didn’t really think it was much of a taboo anymore, especially as it’s how gay men have penetrative sex all the time. I’m surprised that people think porn has much to do with it. Some of the replies on this thread have surprised me.

Plumbthedepths

Remember this from Viz magazine. 'Snookered on the Pink by the Red, go for a difficult Brown'.

1800_Ladladlad

If the river is red I do tend to take the dirt track.

Franz Von Peppercorn

holystungun9 wrote: »

Comedian Chris Rock said it best. Men can’t go back sexually and women can’t go back financially. Once a woman has had a boyfriend with money, going out with a broke guy is much less desirable. Once a guy has got used to more adventurous sex with a woman, he doesn’t want to go back to just the rudimentary stuff

I’ve known quite a few horn dogs who’ve married the quiet librarian types. Long term isn’t the same as a fling or even a youthful enough dalliance.

holystungun9

Comedian Chris Rock said it best. Men can’t go back sexually and women can’t go back financially. Once a woman has had a boyfriend with money, going out with a broke guy is much less desirable. Once a guy has got used to more adventurous sex with a woman, he doesn’t want to go back to just the rudimentary stuff

Franz Von Peppercorn

sk8erboii wrote: »

Well ****. Arrest every teenager i guess.

It happened already. A stupid and sexist law tbh. Only the guy is culpable.

sk8erboii

Murray TheDemonic TalkingSkull wrote: »

Definitely still is illegal

Well ****. Arrest every teenager i guess.

TheValeyard

sk8erboii wrote: »

Nah its not if ur both minors

Definitely still is illegal

sk8erboii

Purple Mountain wrote: »

You do know that was illegal yeah?

Nah its not if ur both minors

TerrorFirmer

Mostly it's just pure human curiosity though there is zero excuse for any of the carry on described by a few people in this thread, definitely not solely due to porn as it's a practice that stretches back to the dawn of time....in general, sex has become a much more liberal topic and activity in the past few decades which also plays a part.

Some people are interested or into it, some are not, goes for both sexes. I think it's fair game that if somebody is asking a female partner to try, let them cast the first stone so-to-speak and accept a finger or two up the bum and see how enthusiastic they are then!

It reminds me of a thread I read here before and a woman was saying how her partner expects her to shave her public hair even though his is like a wild unkempt forest.

If you end up in a situation, though, as described in this thread where multiple casual partners are aggressively demanding anal sex, you really need to re-evaluate the sort of men you're attracting.

Purple Mountain

sk8erboii wrote: »

Anal sex isnt anything special. When i dated a girl in 2010 (we were 16) she was pretty ready to give it up on the first two weeks. Same with every girl since then. To be fair i tend to be friends with art types so theyre more liberal when it comes to sex

You do know that was illegal yeah?

Pauliedragon

nthclare wrote: »

Are you into bum sex yourself ?

No. Never interested me to be honest but I used to work with shall we say a bunch of people who had a very liberal approach to sex so anything went so I heard a lot of stories.

Gimme A Pound

KathleenGrant wrote: »

Me too. I must be so boring.

Give me boring any day! Thank feck I'm not a teenager - must be a cesspool for them at times.

chicorytip wrote: »

How could sodomy or oral sex, for that matter, ever be regarded as acceptable practices?

Oral sex is a perfectly pleasurable experience - once people keep themselves clean down there it's extremely enjoyable, it's not sore, you don't need lube. As with any sex act, best with someone you really like/love but how could something so pleasurable be unacceptable?

Deep Thought

Porklife wrote: »

Morning folks,

As this is AH, I'm expecting a plethora of vulgar answers but I'm genuinely wondering, what's the story with men and anal sex? Every guy I've been with over the last few years has asked for it. I can't think of a single guy who hasn't asked me if I'm up for it. Nothing at all wrong with that, I have done it in the right circumstances when the mood has taken over but I definitely don't enjoy it. I'm just wondering why men like it so much. I think the.. for want of a better word, normal way, is much nicer. Is it because its a bit taboo (or is it even?), is it because it shows the girl has a dirty side? Also.. And this hugely worries me, are you put off by a girl who does it? Do you judge her in some maybe even subconscious way?

Sorry to be so vulgar at breakfast time on a lovely Christmas Saturday folks but I have my reasons for asking ðŸ˜‰ðŸ˜‘ðŸ˜œ

It’s all down to porn and also that In the porn movie the woman always seems to enjoy it ,

When you did do it ,did you enjoy it?

Porn movies imply you would.

sk8erboii

Dial Hard wrote: »

Sure thing, Walter.

Lol what?

nthclare

Pauliedragon wrote: »

It's been a long time since sex was purely a token of love. Going by your logic sex should be only used as a tool for procreation. And don't forget when it comes to fingers 2 in the pink and 1 in the stink is the way to goðŸ˜œ

Are you into bum sex yourself ?

Dial Hard

sk8erboii wrote:

Anal sex isnt anything special. When i dated a girl in 2010 (we were 16) she was pretty ready to give it up on the first two weeks. Same with every girl since then. To be fair i tend to be friends with art types so theyre more liberal when it comes to sex

Sure thing, Walter.

Pauliedragon

nthclare wrote: »

Your arse is meant for the excretion of waste.

Not for accepting tokens of love.....

It's been a long time since sex was purely a token of love. Going by your logic sex should be only used as a tool for procreation. And don't forget when it comes to fingers 2 in the pink and 1 in the stink is the way to goðŸ˜œ

Avatar MIA

nthclare wrote: »

In the dawn of time humanity supposedly didn't exist, I seen it on startrek, Q took Picard to see amino acids starting up life or something...

Those amino acids got up to some freaky sheet.

nthclare

Avatar MIA wrote: »

And what's specifically wrong with consenting adults having oral sex? As for being normal, if practically everyone has done it since the dawn of time does that not make it "normal?"

In the dawn of time humanity supposedly didn't exist, I seen it on startrek, Q took Picard to see amino acids starting up life or something...