Stranger giving kind advice - oh fcuk off

paralysed · 13-11-2016 01:43PM #1

This lady, who was by herself, came over uninvited and got talking to me and my mother and I one day outside a cafe. She came over uninvited and since my mother (who's early dementia) talked away to her, I said I'd leave it. She then started complementing me on my looks. She then went on to say that "he'll go far - he's the sort that doesn't need to brag". She then started complementing my mother acting like a psychic: "and you're not the kind who'd be arguing with people" etc.

I then said "well it was nice meeting you" hoping she'd realise she was being told to go. She then went in for the hand shake to make a big deal out of the goodbye. I realised she didn't care whether I wanted her to leave or not. She gave me the fingers handshake and starting talking more. I eventually said "look, we'd like some time to ourselves" and she finally left.

When I went in to pay she was at the bar. It was just me and her, and after a moment of silence I knew she'd have to say something. "You know, you'll go really far in life". I said to her "how to you know I haven't already?". "Because you're young, but don't worry it'll take time". "Really, and what makes you the expert?" I said to her. Without hesitation she said "oh I'm not claiming to be an expert... blah blah" didn't hear the end of it, but gee people like that annoy me.

It'd be naive to think she's just some kind stranger. She was arrogant and didn't care that she was imposing.

Giblet · 13-11-2016 01:45PM

You kind of sound like a dick man, no need to get upset with random encounters like this.

Flint Fredstone · 13-11-2016 01:49PM

Giblet wrote: »

You kind of sound like a dick man, no need to get upset with random encounters like this.

Meh. Some people need to know their place and not impose on others.

wakka12 · 13-11-2016 01:49PM

Lots of elderly people like that go up to people because theyre lonely. God, theres worse people to give out about than old ladies telling you youll go far in life

Fair enough telling her you guys wanted some time alone. But when you met her again at the bar, it was you who was just flat out rude, completely unnecessary

Advbrd · 13-11-2016 01:52PM

Yeah, you should have nutted her. Fcuking cheek of her to have a chat and compliment you. Pure b1tch.

lawred2 · 13-11-2016 01:54PM

paralysed wrote: »

This older lady, who was by herself, got talking to me and my mother and I one day outside a cafe. She came over uninvited and since my mother (who's early dementia) talked away to her, I said I'd leave it. She then started complementing me on my looks. She then went on to say that "he'll go far - he's the sort that doesn't need to brag". She then started complementing my mother acting like a psychic: "and you're not the kind who'd be arguing with people" etc.

I then said "well it was nice meeting you" hoping she'd realise she was being told to go. She then went in for the hand shake to make a big deal out of the goodbye, which gave me the impression she wasn't leaving soon. She gave me the fingers handshake and starting talking more. I eventually said "look, we'd like some time to ourselves" and she fcuked off.

When I went in to pay she was at the bar. It was just me and her, and after a moment of silence I new she'd have to say something. "You know, you'll go really far in life". I said to her "how to you know I haven't already?". "Because you're young, but don't worry it'll take time". "Really, and what makes you the expert?" I said to her. "oh I'm not claiming to be an expert... blah blah" as I took the change and walked off.

Didn't hear the end of her retort, but gee people like that annoy me. It's be naive to think she's just some kind stranger. She was arrogant and didn't care that she was imposing. Wouldn't trust her as far as I'd throw her.

You're some miserable arse

Clarebelly · 13-11-2016 01:54PM

paralysed wrote: »

This older lady, who was by herself, got talking to me and my mother and I one day outside a cafe. She came over uninvited and since my mother (who's early dementia) talked away to her, I said I'd leave it. She then started complementing me on my looks. She then went on to say that "he'll go far - he's the sort that doesn't need to brag". She then started complementing my mother acting like a psychic: "and you're not the kind who'd be arguing with people" etc.

I then said "well it was nice meeting you" hoping she'd realise she was being told to go. She then went in for the hand shake to make a big deal out of the goodbye, which gave me the impression she wasn't leaving soon. She gave me the fingers handshake and starting talking more. I eventually said "look, we'd like some time to ourselves" and she fcuked off.

When I went in to pay she was at the bar. It was just me and her, and after a moment of silence I new she'd have to say something. "You know, you'll go really far in life". I said to her "how to you know I haven't already?". "Because you're young, but don't worry it'll take time". "Really, and what makes you the expert?" I said to her. "oh I'm not claiming to be an expert... blah blah" as I took the change and walked off.

Didn't hear the end of her retort, but gee people like that annoy me. It's be naive to think she's just some kind stranger. She was arrogant and didn't care that she was imposing. Wouldn't trust her as far as I'd throw her.

I'm sensing a pattern..........

paralysed wrote: »

After an incident that happened recently, I've realised that I must learn the art of not ending up seated next to the person you don't like.

At a wedding last year, there was girl I clash with. The same person is incredibly rude and says nothing to me, but after a few drinks she'll all talk. It just seems so phony! Anyway, I was at another wedding this year, and after I sat down, she later sat in the seat next to me. I remember saying to myself "one in a hundred", as in 10 seats on both occasions, by 10 = 100

There are a few tricks alright. For example I remember once, me and three other fellas were getting a taxi, and none of us wanted to sit in the middle. One fella took the initiative to get in first and got shotgun. Me and another fella arrived next, while the 4th guy was still coming out of the house. He got in first and slid over to the far side (ah ha you're thinking), then I got in next and what da ya know!

Anyway, I've another bloody wedding in a few months, and I've a feeling that that girl will be there too. If she is, I'm telling ya, I will not sit until she does.

You heard this one before OP?......

"If you run into an asshole in the morning, you ran into an asshole. If you run into assholes all day, you're the asshole." -Raylan Givens, Justified.

newacc2015 · 13-11-2016 01:54PM

Giblet wrote: »

You kind of sound like a dick man, no need to get upset with random encounters like this.

I find Irish people really dont know when to **** off. You could be in a bar and having a private conversation, yet someone close to you will have to chime in. Or you could be having a private conservation on the phone and someone eavesdropping will give you their two cents while they are at it.

At times you just want to have fun and chill with your friends/family, but people here just love to share their opinion that you havent asked for. I dont know any other nationality who those that. Dismissing politely doesnt make you rude or a "dick". Some old fart butting into your conversation in the first place is really rude

13-11-2016 01:56PM

paralysed wrote: »

This older lady, who was by herself, got talking to me and my mother and I one day outside a cafe...

She may not have been looking for anything other than the sound of a voice, a chance to engage, even if she was a bit pushy. I'd have put up with it, even if it was not exactly rivetting conversation.

The Specialist · 13-11-2016 01:56PM

You sound like the kind of guy who could start a fight with a monk OP. Was the elderly woman really such a threat to you with her kind words that you needed to react like that?

anewme · 13-11-2016 02:00PM

paralysed wrote: »
Didn't hear the end of her retort, but gee people like that annoy me.

That's not a nice way to speak about an old lady.

dodderangler · 13-11-2016 02:01PM

Elderly person gives compliments and is just looking to be nice. And you basically are a dick to her!???
Sorry dude but you're a bit of a tool!

Dirty Dingus McGee · 13-11-2016 02:02PM

I'm as anti social a person as you an get but I don't think I've ever been rude to anybody in my life.

It's nice to be nice particularly to an old person who can often be quiet lonely and just want to talk.

wakka12 · 13-11-2016 02:02PM

I wonder how quickly OP would start a fight with somebody who was actually rude and not an old dear showering with them compliments

Jimbob1977 · 13-11-2016 02:05PM

paralysed wrote: »

This older lady, who was by herself, got talking to me and my mother and I one day outside a cafe. She came over uninvited and since my mother (who's early dementia) talked away to her, I said I'd leave it. She then started complementing me on my looks. She then went on to say that "he'll go far - he's the sort that doesn't need to brag". She then started complementing my mother acting like a psychic: "and you're not the kind who'd be arguing with people" etc.

I then said "well it was nice meeting you" hoping she'd realise she was being told to go. She then went in for the hand shake to make a big deal out of the goodbye, which gave me the impression she manipulative. I realised she didn't care whether I wanted her to leave or not. She gave me the fingers handshake and starting talking more. I eventually said "look, we'd like some time to ourselves" and she fcuked off.

When I went in to pay she was at the bar. It was just me and her, and after a moment of silence I new she'd have to say something. "You know, you'll go really far in life". I said to her "how to you know I haven't already?". "Because you're young, but don't worry it'll take time". "Really, and what makes you the expert?" I said to her. "oh I'm not claiming to be an expert... blah blah" as I took the change and walked off.

Didn't hear the end of her retort, but gee people like that annoy me. It's be naive to think she's just some kind stranger. She was arrogant and didn't care that she was imposing. Wouldn't trust her as far as I'd throw her.

One day, you could be old and lonely. Craving any kind of human interaction.

sadie1502 · 13-11-2016 02:09PM

That woman elderly lady could be your mother. Jesus wept relax she could have been looking for a bit of company. Who's to know she may be in the early stages of dementia herself. Relax surly that sort of thing doesn't wind you up.

Advbrd · 13-11-2016 02:10PM

Clarebelly wrote: »

I'm sensing a pattern..........

You heard this one before OP?......

"If you run into an asshole in the morning, you ran into an asshole. If you run into assholes all day, you're the asshole." -Raylan Givens, Justified.

Raylan Givens, class act. They really should not have cancelled Justified or Deadwood for that matter.

Advbrd · 13-11-2016 02:12PM

anewme wrote: »

That's not a nice way to speak about an old lady.

Just got that, I like gee people.

Donal55 · 13-11-2016 02:12PM

paralysed wrote: »

This older lady, who was by herself, got talking to me and my mother and I one day outside a cafe. She came over uninvited and since my mother (who's early dementia) talked away to her, I said I'd leave it. She then started complementing me on my looks. She then went on to say that "he'll go far - he's the sort that doesn't need to brag". She then started complementing my mother acting like a psychic: "and you're not the kind who'd be arguing with people" etc.

I then said "well it was nice meeting you" hoping she'd realise she was being told to go. She then went in for the hand shake to make a big deal out of the goodbye, which gave me the impression she manipulative. I realised she didn't care whether I wanted her to leave or not. She gave me the fingers handshake and starting talking more. I eventually said "look, we'd like some time to ourselves" and she fcuked off.

When I went in to pay she was at the bar. It was just me and her, and after a moment of silence I new she'd have to say something. "You know, you'll go really far in life". I said to her "how to you know I haven't already?". "Because you're young, but don't worry it'll take time". "Really, and what makes you the expert?" I said to her. "oh I'm not claiming to be an expert... blah blah" as I took the change and walked off.

Didn't hear the end of her retort, but gee people like that annoy me. It's be naive to think she's just some kind stranger. She was arrogant and didn't care that she was imposing. Wouldn't trust her as far as I'd throw her.

What are '..gee people?

andekwarhola · 13-11-2016 02:16PM

Weird that your mother has early dementia but you're so readily rude to an elderly person that may well have been lonely or even suffering from it herself.

daithi7 · 13-11-2016 02:16PM

Ha, ha, the irony of it. Some angry guy posts 'Stranger giving me advice, oh fcuk off', while looking for the advice of strangers......:)

You're hilarious, but I hope I never meet you.

Right now, I'm fcuking off!!

whoopsadoodles · 13-11-2016 02:16PM

Donal55 wrote: »

What are '..gee people?

Gee bags (female) and gee baguettes (male) obviously.

Satriale · 13-11-2016 02:20PM

Lonely old lady tried to compliment you. I bet she's sorry now she worked all her life to educate and give you and your compadres First world problems.
You showed her!

Ted111 · 13-11-2016 02:22PM

paralysed wrote: »

, got talking to me and my mother and I

Are You, in fact the "old woman"
Is she an alter-ego, tormentor, antagonist.

Maybe both of you are projections from your mother's addled mind.

Winterlong · 13-11-2016 02:23PM

Bit harsh OP. She is just a chatty old woman. She has likely forgotten more about life than you will ever know. You can learn a lot by listening to the elderly.

clairewithani · 13-11-2016 02:30PM

paralysed wrote: »

This older lady, who was by herself, got talking to me and my mother and I one day outside a cafe. She came over uninvited and since my mother (who's early dementia) talked away to her, I said I'd leave it. She then started complementing me on my looks. She then went on to say that "he'll go far - he's the sort that doesn't need to brag". She then started complementing my mother acting like a psychic: "and you're not the kind who'd be arguing with people" etc.

I then said "well it was nice meeting you" hoping she'd realise she was being told to go. She then went in for the hand shake to make a big deal out of the goodbye, which gave me the impression she manipulative. I realised she didn't care whether I wanted her to leave or not. She gave me the fingers handshake and starting talking more. I eventually said "look, we'd like some time to ourselves" and she fcuked off.

When I went in to pay she was at the bar. It was just me and her, and after a moment of silence I new she'd have to say something. "You know, you'll go really far in life". I said to her "how to you know I haven't already?". "Because you're young, but don't worry it'll take time". "Really, and what makes you the expert?" I said to her. "oh I'm not claiming to be an expert... blah blah" as I took the change and walked off.

Didn't hear the end of her retort, but gee people like that annoy me. It's be naive to think she's just some kind stranger. She was arrogant and didn't care that she was imposing. Wouldn't trust her as far as I'd throw her.

Fascinating, can't wait for the film.

paralysed · 13-11-2016 02:31PM

Clarebelly wrote: »

I'm sensing a pattern..........

You heard this one before OP?......

"If you run into an asshole in the morning, you ran into an asshole. If you run into assholes all day, you're the asshole." -Raylan Givens, Justified.

You must be spending too much time on boards if you recognised my username and remembered that post. Not to mention it's unfair to use it against me.

r93kaey5p2izun · 13-11-2016 02:33PM

I'm the biggest loner going and avoid pointless social interactions if at all possible. I hate situations like this where you end up chatting with a stranger. But I'm not so precious that I can't deal with a bit of silly chit chat with an old lady for the sake of not being ignorant and rude. And what about your mother? Is she not entitled to engage in conversation as she chooses without you stepping in to control things? You sound like a very difficult personality OP.

Advbrd · 13-11-2016 02:33PM

paralysed wrote: »

You must be spending too much time on boards if you recognised my username and remembered that post. Not to mention it's unfair to use it against me.

Boo Hoo

wakka12 · 13-11-2016 02:33PM

When I read this it reminded me a lot of that short film 'Caca Milis' . Granted ,old Brendan gleason is annoying af in it but doesn't make the young woman any less of a rude gee bag aka you in similar sounding situation.

R P McMurphy · 13-11-2016 02:33PM

paralysed wrote: »

You must be spending too much time on boards if you recognised my username and remembered that post. Not to mention it's unfair to use it against me.

What happened with the taxi?

Stranger giving kind advice - oh fcuk off

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