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I believe I am a racist. What next?

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  • 27-11-2014 2:02pm
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    cletus van damme
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    Today i was invited to lunch in a restaurant I like a lot by a workmate. He also mentioned another chap who is foreign was coming. The problem is the foreign fellow has a very heavy accent (his english is decent) and I have difficulty understanding him .

    So I refused and ate alone soley on the basis I'd be awkward for the hour making conversation with this lad .
    The foreign lad is a decent chap so it's not that I don't like him.

    Since I refused to go to lunch soley based on his accent (but that is based on his race and where he is from) I made a racist decision. Therefore I believe I am now a racist.

    Based on previous AH threads - I know that all incidents of racism are equal and we can't distingush between them. So I can't pass this off as a minor event.

    What should I do next?
    Tell me AH.


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    #2
    Staplor
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    I think you are just lazy and can't be arsed.


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    #3
    Streetwalker
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    Everyone is racist on some level OP don't worry.


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    dodderangler
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    Eh carry on with your life? Who cares


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    Bio Mech
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    cletus van damme wrote: »
    Today i was invited to lunch in a restaurant I like a lot by a workmate. He also mentioned another chap who is foreign was coming. The problem is the foreign fellow has a very heavy accent (his english is decent) and I have difficulty understanding him .

    So I refused and ate alone soley on the basis I'd be awkward for the hour making conversation with this lad .
    The foreign lad is a decent chap so it's not that I don't like him.

    Since I refused to go to lunch soley based on his accent (but that is based on his race and where he is from) I made a racist decision. Therefore I believe I am now a racist.

    Based on previous AH threads - I know that all incidents of racism are equal and we can't distingush between them. So I can't pass this off as a minor event.

    What should I do next?
    Tell me AH.

    Flog yourself 100 times and then post the video here. At that point you will be cured.


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    Insect Overlord
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    Xenophobic, rather than racist, going by that description.


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    catallus
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    What did you have for lunch OP?


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    #8
    Dave0301
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    Learn to speak his mother tongue and take him out for lunch!


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    kryogen
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    Celebrate good times?


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    #10
    Irishcrx
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    Buy a plantation , buy slaves , whip them for entertainment...speak in a southern American accent , grow a ridiculas mustache, sign up to the KKK , encourage white power , sing anthems for the cause.

    Kidnap Kane West , bring him to said plantation , put him into the sun pit and make him the house ******.


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    cletus van damme
    Closed Accounts Posts: 960 ✭✭✭cletus van damme


    An File wrote: »
    Xenophobic, rather than racist, going by that description.

    doesn't have the same sense of grandure tbh.


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    Day Lewin
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    Can I have Kanye West when you've finished with him?


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    #13
    To Elland Back
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    Had the same problem with a colleague from Ballybay many years ago. Eventually, we managed to tune in to each other's language


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    vicwatson
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    Grow up perhaps?


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    [Deleted User]
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    cletus van damme wrote: »
    Since I refused to go to lunch soley based on his accent (but that is based on his race and where he is from) I made a racist decision. Therefore I believe I am now a racist.

    I would not see it as a racist decision at all. Your decision does not appear to be based on race at all. Rather on social awkwardness caused by complex communication issues.

    I share this with you - and it is nothing to do with race. I feel intensely uncomfortable in social situations where I can not understand other people. That can be accents yes. But it can be slurs or stutters. Language issues. Or even _sound_ issues where I am in a situation that I struggle to make out what a person is saying (I hate night clubs for this reason).

    So if your decision is based on that awkwardness - not actually anything to do with the guys race - I think you innocent of the charge you have levelled against yourself.


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    FullblownRose
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    It doesn't sound liike you are anything 'ist'. I have trouble understanding some unfamiliar accents and pronounciations- e.g Belfast, it's not something you make a conscious choice about


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    anncoates
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    cletus van damme wrote: »

    What should I do next?
    Tell me AH.

    I haven't a klu.


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    cloud493
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    Did you enjoy your lunch OP?


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    cletus van damme
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    Deleted User wrote: »
    I would not see it as a racist decision at all. Your decision does not appear to be based on race at all. Rather on social awkwardness caused by complex communication issues.

    I share this with you - and it is nothing to do with race. I feel intensely uncomfortable in social situations where I can not understand other people. That can be accents yes. But it can be slurs or stutters. Language issues. Or even _sound_ issues where I am in a situation that I struggle to make out what a person is saying (I hate night clubs for this reason).

    So if your decision is based on that awkwardness - not actually anything to do with the guys race - I think you innocent of the charge you have levelled against yourself.

    stop being reasonable - I came here for some fun!

    your social complex didn't stop you pulling two womens....:pac:


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    RoboRat
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    Well this isn't going to plan eh Cleutus...


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    cletus van damme
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    cloud493 wrote: »
    Did you enjoy your lunch OP?

    I did actually. I read the net and munched alone.


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    [Deleted User]
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    It probably wouldn't be enough to stop me going but it annoys me hanging out with people who I can't understand whether they're from abroad or Limerick.


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    Adamantium
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    How about this:

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UsQLWnfWqBs


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    [Deleted User]
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    cletus van damme wrote: »
    stop being reasonable - I came here for some fun!

    I can't help it. It just falls out of me like an overly watery snot.
    cletus van damme wrote: »
    your social complex didn't stop you pulling two womens...

    Mainly because I constructed a social scene for myself that avoid loud scenes like Night Clubs and focused more heavily on places I could communicate well.

    I do not think I ever managed to pull in a night club because I could literally not hear a word girls were saying to me. Even pubs just a bit too loud and I tend to shut down socially. Maybe I should get one of those invisible hearing aid things :)


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    cloud493
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    cletus van damme wrote: »
    I did actually. I read the net and munched alone.

    Well there you go. Don't worry about it.


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    #26
    cletus van damme
    Closed Accounts Posts: 960 ✭✭✭cletus van damme


    RoboRat wrote: »
    Well this isn't going to plan eh Cleutus...



    you are 100% correct. this isn't going as planned.
    I thought I'd have an afternoon of banter, abuse and what not.
    alas


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    #27
    etoughguy
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    No biggie racism is a victimless crime!


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    #28
    sbsquarepants
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    You'll have to get a taxi licence OP. It's the only logical next step.


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    #29
    conorhal
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    Have you considered starting tumblr campaign to disproportionately villify yourself before releasing a sobbing appology and entering rehab?


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    #30
    Cpt Sh!t Craic
    Registered Users Posts: 89 ✭✭Cpt Sh!t Craic


    I'm not a racist... I just hate everybody...


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    Tombi!
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    OP isn't racist or xenophobic. Calling him xenophobic is really stretching it.
    I'd rather not have lunch with anyone I can't understand.


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