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  • 18-09-2008 10:59pm
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    cruzzo08
    Closed Accounts Posts: 24 ✭


    Just looking for a Ladies view on whether they prefer to be wanted or needed by a male when in a relationship or is it a combination of the two. Many Thanks Cruzzo


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    Jemmy
    Registered Users Posts: 3,385 ✭✭✭Jemmy


    cruzzo08 wrote: »
    Just looking for a Ladies view on whether they prefer to be wanted or needed by a male when in a relationship or is it a combination of the two. Many Thanks Cruzzo

    Little bit of both i think! :)


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    Weidii
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    Wanted as opposed to needed. It scares me when someone needs me. Maybe that's just me though!


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    #4
    parnellie
    Registered Users Posts: 27 ✭parnellie


    to be honest i think alot of girls prefer a bit of an arrogant arsehole. treat em' mean , keep em' keen. or is that just me (but i really do think younger ladies prefer a bad ass):P:P:P


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    Sharpshooter
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    l agree with Jemmy , a bit of both but equally ;)
    Wanted and Needed is nice as long as the needy part doesn't take over.:)


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    LolaLuv
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    Wanted, absolutely. Needed would creep me out.


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    Black Swan
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    parnellie wrote: »
    (but i really do think younger ladies prefer a bad ass):P:P:P
    Wrong!

    OP: Wanted (for some reason "needed" reminds me of someone being needy)


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    Kotick
    Closed Accounts Posts: 86 ✭✭Kotick


    Both sure but wanted is better than being needed. When you say needed, it comes off as stalkerish.


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    CathyMoran
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    In the begining of a relationship being wanted would be what I want. I dont think that it is ever a good idea to need someone (maybe I am being cold hearted?)...having said that it has happened with me, both my husband and I want and need each other.


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    Curvy Vixen
    Registered Users Posts: 1,131 ✭✭✭Curvy Vixen


    Wanted all the way!

    For me, I think that a man who stands on his own two feet and is independantly successful (and don't mix that up with rich btw!) and wants to be with me is attractive in every way.

    I think I see someone as 'needing' me as someone who is incapable of making their own decisions and leading their own life. I start to feel suffocated and that's not a good thing!


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    Pigletlover
    Closed Accounts Posts: 968 ✭✭✭Pigletlover


    Wanted, but over time I think it's important to feel needed too, just not too needed, needy is not good.


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    Oryx
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    'Wanted' in a sexual sense.
    'Needed' to have fun.
    Loved above all of that.


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    Maple
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    Wanted. Same that i'd want to have someone around, not need them to be around. Although it is nice to be needed, too much is scary and can end up going horribly wrong.

    Hate clingy where you have to answer for your every breath you took without them being present and constantly reassure them. Grow a backbone ffs. Obviously this applies to both men and women.


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    #14
    GirlInterrupted
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    Ideally?

    Desired enough to be wanted, and loved enough to be needed.


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    AmyG
    Closed Accounts Posts: 157 ✭✭AmyG


    i prefer to be wanted!!! :D
    But its nice to be needed at times if in a long term relationship you know...


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    lostinnappies
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    wanted, needed doesnt = love


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    #17
    AmyG
    Closed Accounts Posts: 157 ✭✭AmyG


    lostinnappies wrote: »
    wanted, needed doesnt = love
    true but when in my experience your in love with someone you tend to need them...


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    lostinnappies
    Closed Accounts Posts: 827 ✭✭✭lostinnappies


    AmyG wrote: »
    true but when in my experience your in love with someone you tend to need them...
    this is ture


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    watna
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,367 ✭✭✭✭watna


    maple wrote: »
    Wanted. Same that i'd want to have someone around, not need them to be around. Although it is nice to be needed, too much is scary and can end up going horribly wrong.

    Hate clingy where you have to answer for your every breath you took without them being present and constantly reassure them. Grow a backbone ffs. Obviously this applies to both men and women.

    Maple - I always miss you when I read your posts. There's always so you! :)

    As was said above, wanted at first then a combination of both. My OH needs me now (in a non clingy way) because he says without me he'd still be drifting and unsettled. I'm pretty sure he still wants me too! ;)


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    click4444
    Registered Users Posts: 82 ✭✭click4444


    want and need
    sounds like your luckey to have gf say the love word or leave her alone. ;)


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