Can you really love someone

qo2cj1dsne8y4k · 24-05-2013 4:15pm #1

You know less than a month?
I ask because I know a girl getting married shortly, together two years (almost to the day they get married) and they were madly in love after about a week.

Now I see on Facebook another adult relationship pretty new, and they're "in love" also.

I may just be emotionally cold but I don't think people can know after that length of time, obviously, and they're just desperate.

Celly Smunt · 24-05-2013 4:17pm

I think its possible.Im an old romantic at heart.

Celly Smunt · 24-05-2013 4:18pm

Oh and she probably has a fine rear end.

Mariasofia · 24-05-2013 4:19pm

Think its more in lust at that stage to be honest.

stefan idiot jones · 24-05-2013 4:20pm

On the rebound.

MurdyWurdy · 24-05-2013 4:20pm

I think it's possible for love to grow that quickly. There's a difference between being madly in love and being able to make a relationship work though. Sometimes you need more than love and I know couples who genuinely really did love each other but it just couldn't work.

So i think it's all well and good being in love after a week but I always think people who get married after such a short amount of time need their heads examined!

Geekness1234 · 24-05-2013 4:20pm

I think (more so hope) it's possible!
However it's entirely possible for one person in a relationship to feign love.

IM0 · 24-05-2013 4:21pm

love is more about hating someone, when you love them you can stand it, when you dont you cant

iMac_Hunt · 24-05-2013 4:22pm

You can't love someone after a week.
These people that think they're in love after a week obviously feel insecure in themselves. If anyone shows them some bit of affection, they fall in "love".

Call Me Jimmy · 24-05-2013 4:22pm

The word is completely devalued and has very little meaning in the context. [robotic voice] 'I am. a. normal human being... I. love you' [/robotic voice]

qo2cj1dsne8y4k · 24-05-2013 4:22pm

IM0 wrote: »

love is more about hating someone, when you love them you can stand it, when you dont you cant

As the Virgin herself would say, come again?

lahalane · 24-05-2013 4:23pm

I think it's possible but I don't think it's common. Lot of relationships I know of are 'this will do' kind of relationships.

Itwasntme. · 24-05-2013 4:23pm

I think you can be madly in lust, infatuation and a host of other emotions after such a short period of time but love? In my opinion, no. But who really knows, maybe it's possible. After all what is love? And isn't it subjective - what is love for me may not be love for the next person.

1ZRed · 24-05-2013 4:24pm

No only freaks do that. Had someone seriously fall in love with me after only a month of casually seeing each other.

To say I couldn't run fast enough was an understatement!

patmac · 24-05-2013 4:25pm

Fell in love with my missus on the first night and 19 years later still in love.

Wacker The Attacker · 24-05-2013 4:25pm

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H_ezMbv2sr4

S28382 · 24-05-2013 4:26pm

Love is a misunderstanding between two fools. So an old man told me one day whilst i was at work.

IM0 · 24-05-2013 4:27pm

LexieOnRale wrote: »

As the Virgin herself would say, come again?

if I wanted to make a completely obvious self explanetry post I would have been typing for ten minutes, so either you get what I mean or dont. obviously you dont so

The Backwards Man · 24-05-2013 4:27pm

No. Unless it's KC And The Sunshine Band. I fukkin love em to bits.

1ZRed · 24-05-2013 4:28pm

patmac wrote: »

Fell in love with my missus on the first night and 19 years later still in love.

You must've fallen into something nice beforehand as well I'd say

iMac_Hunt · 24-05-2013 4:31pm

patmac wrote: »

Fell in love with my missus on the first night and 19 years later still in love.

You're telling me that you fell in love after a few hours with someone? I find that hard to believe.

The only time I fell in love with someone after a few hours, I was after popping a few pills, but the following day, I didn't love them anymore

IM0 · 24-05-2013 4:34pm

iMac_Hunt wrote: »

You're telling me that you fell in love after a few hours with someone? I find that hard to believe.

The only time I fell in love with someone after a few hours, I was after popping a few pills, but the following day, I didn't love them anymore

he fell in lust, this then developed into love when he lusted her so much he didnt want anyone else

S28382 · 24-05-2013 4:34pm

iMac_Hunt wrote: »

You're telling me that you fell in love after a few hours with someone? I find that hard to believe.

The only time I fell in love with someone after a few hours, I was after popping a few pills, but the following day, I didn't love them anymore

Haha ah yeah the memories

strobe · 24-05-2013 4:35pm

Course you can. Why wouldn't someone be able to?
Has anyone ever given any kind of explanation for why they think someone couldn't that didn't basically boil down to, "well that wasn't my experience so it's impossible it could be someone elses" ?

patmac · 24-05-2013 4:37pm

iMac_Hunt wrote: »

You're telling me that you fell in love after a few hours with someone? I find that hard to believe.

The only time I fell in love with someone after a few hours, I was after popping a few pills, but the following day, I didn't love them anymore

There was a lot of alcohol involved but the next day we were together and have been since. She was going out with a lad for 6 years at the time. Just happened can't explain it, never happened before or since.

bacon n eggs · 24-05-2013 4:39pm

I think you can be in love with the idea of being in love, which rarely lives up to what you think it should be. I'm not saying it doesn't happen, but I think it happens less. The word love is threw around to liberally. There are fifteen year olds who think they are in love. They can't even decide on what to have for breakfast.

bacon n eggs · 24-05-2013 4:40pm

One of the rare ones patmac.

Uriel. · 24-05-2013 4:40pm

By the time you realise what love is and what you should do with it, you'll be dead.

Now this mountain I must climb
Feels like a world upon my shoulders
And through the clouds I see love shine
It keeps me warm as life grows colder

Specialun · 24-05-2013 4:41pm

This is deep for AH

Morpheus · 24-05-2013 4:42pm

been in 2 serious relationships (6.5 yrs, 4.5 yrs)

First time you think your in love is pure honest animalistic lust.

Some people probably can and do fall in love like that, i prefer to think it develops over a period of time. For some they say "i love you" as commonly as "thanks" for others its seldom said, and if it feels like a huge deal for you to talk about "are we in love" or to tell your other half of x weeks, months, years, that "I love you" then you probably ARE in love - question is though, if they are in love with you, how come they havent said it yet!!!!!

lol, when you can answer this question without your genitals answering, you'll know....

Pop quiz hot shot....
Your [insert family member here] and your significant other are going to die... but you can choose to save one of them... who would you choose to save and why?

There ya go

bacon n eggs · 24-05-2013 4:43pm

This is deep for AH

Don't worry, never lasts long.

BraziliaNZ · 24-05-2013 4:43pm

I think so, but then trying to iron out the aftermath afterwards is the tricky part, innit? You get 50% of that sorted, and we've got ourselves a movie

1ZRed · 24-05-2013 4:44pm

patmac wrote: »

There was a lot of alcohol involved but the next day we were together and have been since. She was going out with a lad for 6 years at the time. Just happened can't explain it, never happened before or since.

It's lust that grew into love over time then. You just think you fell in love looking back because you stayed together when the lust was gradually replaced by genuine feelings of love. You were probably none the wiser to the transition so can't differentiate between the two so it appears as love even though it's pretty much impossible to fall in love in only a few hours.

iMac_Hunt · 24-05-2013 4:45pm

patmac wrote: »

There was a lot of alcohol involved but the next day we were together and have been since. She was going out with a lad for 6 years at the time. Just happened can't explain it, never happened before or since.

Personally, I think love is something that develops over a period of time. The more time you spend with someone, the more you grow together, become best friends etc. Life would be hard without that person in your life.
I find it hard to believe that after one night or a week, you could love someone.
Saying that and as was stated earlier, love is subjective so what you consider love is probably totally different to what I consider love.

The Backwards Man · 24-05-2013 4:45pm

Uriel. wrote: »

By the time you realise what love is and what you should do with it, you'll be dead.

I want you to show me where you got those lyrics. I know it might take a little time, but I want to change this lonely life.

LizT · 24-05-2013 4:46pm

Itwasntme. wrote: »

I think you can be madly in lust, infatuation and a host of other emotions after such a short period of time but love? In my opinion, no. But who really knows, maybe it's possible. After all what is love? And isn't it subjective - what is love for me may not be love for the next person.

Baby don't hurt me
Don't hurt me... no more.

Cody Pomeray · 24-05-2013 4:47pm

patmac wrote: »

Fell in love with my missus on the first night and 19 years later still in love.

What do you mean by 'love' though? Would you have married her on the spot? rescued her from a burning building? give up your vital organs for her, a few hours after meeting her?

(I'm using the typical/ Hollywood implications of love as the test; not saying all are universally necessary)

BraziliaNZ · 24-05-2013 4:47pm

The Backwards Man wrote: »

I want you to show me where you got those lyrics. I know it might take a little time, but I want to change this lonely life.

In before the Haddaway reference

Edit: Dammit

Uriel. · 24-05-2013 4:47pm

The Backwards Man wrote: »

I want you to show me where you got those lyrics. I know it might take a little time, but I want to change this lonely life.

Did you just grab my ass?

Itwasntme. · 24-05-2013 4:47pm

Specialun wrote: »

This is deep for AH

I know!! I am not sure I can handle it. I might need to schedule an appointment with my therapist so he can help me deal with the anxiety attack that has come about as a result of this thread. What if I have never been in love?:eek: What if I will never be in love?:eek: Have I ever been loved?:eek::eek:

sbsquarepants · 24-05-2013 4:48pm

patmac wrote: »

Fell in love with my missus on the first night and 19 years later still in love.

I'm in almost the same situation. Not exactly love at first sight, but within a couple of days - together 7 years now, just had a baby daughter - alls going well!
I'm not in any way the romantic, love at first sight type so i was more surprised than anyone!

So to answer your question OP, yes of course you can.

monkeysnapper · 24-05-2013 4:50pm

I was told by a intelligent old man once, before you get married its matrimony , but after a short time it turns to a matter of money (matterofmoney)

The Backwards Man · 24-05-2013 4:53pm

Uriel. wrote: »

Did you just grab my ass?

Are you old enough? Will you be ready when I call your bluff?

IK09 · 24-05-2013 4:55pm

I was in love the missus after about 3 days. Told her after a week, she got freaked out and broke up with me. 10 years later....Im marrying her next year..boom boom, persistence home boy!

antodeco · 24-05-2013 5:02pm

LizT wrote: »

Baby don't hurt me
Don't hurt me... no more.

Argh I was coming on to post that!!

/shakes fist

Bodhisopha · 24-05-2013 5:05pm

No. You can't hurry love. You just have to wait.

The Backwards Man · 24-05-2013 5:08pm

Bodhisopha wrote: »

No. You can't hurry love. You just have to wait.

It don't come easy. It's a game of give and take.

Like tennis.

Morpheus · 24-05-2013 5:11pm

IK09 wrote: »

I was in love the missus after about 3 days. Told her after a week, she got freaked out and broke up with me. 10 years later....Im marrying her next year..boom boom, persistence home boy!

Are you going to let her out of the basement after that or will she be rescued by a black man who kicks in your front door!??:pac:

NothingMan · 24-05-2013 5:12pm

I think people saying real love can only grow over time with someone are completely missing the point. Love is a feeling and that feeling can come upon someone any time. I could fall in love tonight and out of love tomorrow. If you get with someone and like them well enough and that bond grows and you realise you'd be lost without the person isn't necessarily love, although it could be, but a reliance and dependancy that has grown from mutual trust and care.

I'd be more inclined to say that those who fall quick fall harder, even though it probably won't work out because all the practical crap you need to actually live with someone may not be there, no matter how much you love someone. You could have a life with someone with all the practical stuff and no real love easier than all the love and none of the practicalities.

Mr.Prodston · 24-05-2013 5:13pm

LizT wrote: »

Baby don't hurt me
Don't hurt me... no more.

"woaaaaaaahohwoaaaaahowoaaaaah"

Damn it's stuck in my head now :eek:

AnonoBoy · 24-05-2013 5:14pm

Announcing sh*te like that on Facebook is for teenagers.

Any adult who starts spouting off with that nonsense on social media should be smacked around the head.

Can you really love someone

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