The Online Dating Thread Part II Mod Warning Read First Post/or Post 7389

managerman · 13-12-2011 12:59am

girl i am chatting to was told she was wasted goods cause she had a kid...

cyrusdvirus · 13-12-2011 8:38am

managerman wrote: »

girl i am chatting to was told she was wasted goods cause she had a kid...

probably by someone who is about 2 years old mentally.

I've dated women with kids before.

My girlfriend doesn't have kids, but it wouldn't be a show stopper for me at all.

stargazer 68 · 13-12-2011 10:15am

ChannelNo5 wrote: »

I'm early forties and feel like there is a very small pool to choose from on most of the sites. I've pretty much tried them all and its been a bit of a disaster really.

I did get a fair few young lads wanting to show me their lads though!!

Im early 40's as well. Seems most of the men our age have come out of long relationships and want to sow their wild oats again!! Yeah I have a few lads with lads too! Maybe we need to go on the pull together lol :eek::rolleyes:

ChannelNo5 · 13-12-2011 10:16am

johnr1 wrote: »

Difficult for guys to answer, I don't look at other guys profiles, so I'd have no idea, but the gals seem to be predominately 25-40 ish, with plenty under and over those ages.
I'd say what you're experiencing is possibly the reluctance of many guys over 40 to put up a profile on a site, - different era etc, and women seem to have adapted to webdating better than us.
I'm 37, and none of my mates have EVER mentioned having a profile up on a dating site. Bit of a 'so you can't score anymore- haha' thing about it even still in 2011. I'm personally not bothered, I can and regularly do meet women in real life, just sometimes use this as an add-on. I'd be unusual among my group of friends though.

edit: Welcome to boards btw.

Thanks Johnr1 Any suggestions on which site would be the best for a smokin hot fox in her early forties?..;)
BooBoo88 Don't mind that c*ck. What all the lads on here said basically. Small man syndrome!!
You're all so positive here i might just give it another go. Eleventy seventh time lucky!!

ChannelNo5 · 13-12-2011 10:35am

Dovies wrote: »

Im early 40's as well. Seems most of the men our age have come out of long relationships and want to sow their wild oats again!! Yeah I have a few lads with lads too! Maybe we need to go on the pull together lol :eek::rolleyes:

Ha yeah maybe you're right! I have no objection to them wanting to sow their wild oats it's just that none of them seem to want to sow them anywhere near me!!

We're obviously smokin hot cougars, mabye we should go on the pull!?

zuroph · 13-12-2011 11:42am

Seen each other 4 days in a row now, think ill be deleting the profile soon!

C.D. · 13-12-2011 11:51am

zuroph wrote: »

Seen each other 4 days in a row now, think ill be deleting the profile soon!

I'm just a wee bit jealous! Was on Facebook checking out an old acquaintance (who I seriously have the hots for, but she is taken) at 1AM and lo and behold I get an unsolicited PoF message (a rare enough occurrence indeed) from a girl with the exact same first name. I of course wonder it is some sign or form of cosmic intervention, but alas she sent me picture and I didn't feel the chemistry. What an odd occurrence though.

13-12-2011 3:08pm

Hm.

grumble grumble grumble grumble @ zuroph's success :P

Just as I was about to give up on the whole online dating scene, I start talking to a really attractive and great girl. Unfortunately she's likely to be busy over Christmas (holy ****, it's just under 2 weeks away) but hopefully we'll get to meet afterwards.

Something I've noticed that in the rarity of girls making first contact, usually when they do it's just "hey, how are you?" messages.

ChannelNo5 · 13-12-2011 3:30pm

Deleted User wrote: »

Hm.

Something I've noticed that in the rarity of girls making first contact, usually when they do it's just "hey, how are you?" messages.

We're just shy and afraid of rejection!

COYW · 13-12-2011 3:52pm

booboo88 wrote: »

grrrr the guys who send messages, and all they say is ..hi..

Yea cause you sound like you'd make great conversation.:rolleyes:

I joined one 2 weeks ago and left after 1 week because of women just like that. You take time to read their profile, put together a message about yourself and all you get back is some ridiculous 1 liner.

liz2 · 13-12-2011 4:03pm

ooh, i nearly panicked when i saw the old thread gone lol

so my date on sat went really well, another one is in the making..:D

stargazer 68 · 13-12-2011 4:12pm

COYW wrote: »

I joined one 2 weeks ago and left after 1 week because of women just like that. You take time to read their profile, put together a message about yourself and all you get back is some ridiculous 1 liner.

You lasted a week! :rolleyes:
1 liner = not interested move on.

booboo88 · 13-12-2011 4:13pm

zuroph wrote: »

Seen each other 4 days in a row now, think ill be deleting the profile soon!

Not jealous at all...

aww, i think it may be a done deal

timmy880 · 13-12-2011 5:08pm

Met a girl from POF on Sunday night and she is perfect! The only problem is the distance but I don't mind driving to see her

Bobby42 · 14-12-2011 12:50am

Not getting any replies, not sure what I'm doing wrong. I think the messages I send are OK but maybe its my profile that's my downfall.

finipops · 14-12-2011 1:00am

How long should you chat to someone online before meeting up? Going to quickly and it can seem like you're desperate and to slowly it'll just fizzle out. So what would be the best time?

El_Drago · 14-12-2011 4:55am

finipops wrote: »

How long should you chat to someone online before meeting up? Going to quickly and it can seem like you're desperate and to slowly it'll just fizzle out. So what would be the best time?

Anymore than 2 weeks and I begin to lose interest with each day passing.The last two that I've met have both been within 3 days,which is ideal but I can understand how some may think that's too soon.

stargazer 68 · 14-12-2011 10:27am

El_Drago wrote: »

Anymore than 2 weeks and I begin to lose interest with each day passing.The last two that I've met have both been within 3 days,which is ideal but I can understand how some may think that's too soon.

Yeah have to agree - if you want to meet them then organise it. Nothing worse than conversation dragging on and on. Snooze you lose!

stargazer 68 · 14-12-2011 1:26pm

Bobby42 wrote: »

Not getting any replies, not sure what I'm doing wrong. I think the messages I send are OK but maybe its my profile that's my downfall.

Have you got pics up?
Get someone on here to review it for you - noone has any problem doing that.

uglyjohn · 14-12-2011 2:28pm

finipops wrote: »

How long should you chat to someone online before meeting up? Going to quickly and it can seem like you're desperate and to slowly it'll just fizzle out. So what would be the best time?

gotta strike before you run out of things to say or before someone else swoops in! 4/5 emails each and then i'd bring it up. nothing worse than having the conversation peter out with someone great and you just know you missed your chance. remember that they're there for the same reason you are.

Pembily · 14-12-2011 2:58pm

uglyjohn wrote: »

finipops wrote: »

How long should you chat to someone online before meeting up? Going to quickly and it can seem like you're desperate and to slowly it'll just fizzle out. So what would be the best time?

gotta strike before you run out of things to say or before someone else swoops in! 4/5 emails each and then i'd bring it up. nothing worse than having the conversation peter out with someone great and you just know you missed your chance. remember that they're there for the same reason you are.

Or before the person meets someone else! I had been messaging a really nice guy for ages and we couldn't meet for a few reasons and them I started seeing a guy so we never got a date... Gotta get in quick while the interest is there!

liz2 · 14-12-2011 4:11pm

Pembily wrote: »

Gotta get in quick while the interest is there!

i def agree!
if you leave it go too long, someone cud nab them or the conversations cud dry out. i was chatting to my date a week when he asked me out..but because we both had things on it was another 2 weeks before we met.. you wouldn't want to leave it any longer than that

den87 · 14-12-2011 7:32pm

Rejigged the ol POF profile, changed a few pictures. Getting a bit of attention now

. I'll bask in my 15mins of fame.

G-Money · 14-12-2011 8:25pm

zuroph wrote: »

Seen each other 4 days in a row now, think ill be deleting the profile soon!

Nice one zuroph.

I have to admit I haz a bit of a jealous.

Larianne · 14-12-2011 8:37pm

Oh loving the good date stories!

Otis Driftwood · 14-12-2011 8:42pm

Maybe its something to do with the magic of Christmas?

:pac:

Larianne · 14-12-2011 8:46pm

Otis Driftwood wrote: »

Maybe its something to do with the magic of Christmas?

:pac:

Magic my ass! :rolleyes:

Or are just desperate for a few more presents!

Although I do think people mellow a bit more around now..

Otis Driftwood · 14-12-2011 9:05pm

You've got a magic ass?

What does it do?

parker kent · 14-12-2011 9:07pm

Otis Driftwood wrote: »

You've got a magic ass?

What does it do?

Talks like Eddie Murphy

Otis Driftwood · 14-12-2011 9:11pm

Better than laughing like Eddie Murphy I guess.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X37m2AyuoKs

Larianne · 14-12-2011 9:20pm

Otis Driftwood wrote: »

You've got a magic ass?

What does it do?

parker kent wrote: »

Talks like Eddie Murphy

:cool:

You lads stil on the online dating scene??

Otis Driftwood · 14-12-2011 9:31pm

Dipping in and out tbh,more just chatting to people than anything.Did have a date last week,bored to frickin tears I was.

Larianne · 14-12-2011 9:33pm

Otis Driftwood wrote: »

Dipping in and out tbh,more just chatting to people than anything.Did have a date last week,bored to frickin tears I was.

Oh no!

Here's a question - how do you end a bad date? or do people just stick them out??

Otis Driftwood · 14-12-2011 9:40pm

I had a breakfast meeting at 8 the next morning.

>.>

Larianne · 14-12-2011 9:44pm

Otis Driftwood wrote: »

I had a breakfast meeting at 8 the next morning.

>.>

after how many drinks?

Otis Driftwood · 14-12-2011 9:58pm

3 pints in about an hour and a half.

She was nice and all that but we just had nothing to say to eachother.She was a couple of years older than me so maybe that was it.We had been chatting for a couple of weeks online and she suggested meeting up.I wasnt really feeling the chat anyway but decided to give her the benefit of the doubt.

Ah well,nothing ventured and all that!

That_Guy · 14-12-2011 10:08pm

Next time you have a bad date Otis, you should show her beer cat. :pac:

Otis Driftwood · 14-12-2011 10:11pm

Beer cat is a special occasion cat.

Beer dog made an appearance Saturday night in the 12th pub of my 12 pubs.

My mate's band were playing and I kept barking at him,poor hoor trying not to laugh.

I suck as a friend.

:cool:

The Big Red Button · 14-12-2011 10:12pm

Larianne wrote: »

Oh loving the good date stories!

Otis Driftwood wrote: »

Maybe its something to do with the magic of Christmas?

:pac:

Well I don't know if it's the magic of Christmas or something else, but I had the most amazingest perfectest funnest date EVER Saturday night!

That_Guy · 14-12-2011 10:23pm

My current headline on my profile is "Why doesn't glue stick to the inside of the bottle"

Half thinking of changing it to "Just sticking my rod out there" :pac:

EDIT: Changed

MudSkipper · 14-12-2011 10:59pm

That_Guy wrote: »

My current headline on my profile is "Why doesn't glue stick to the inside of the bottle"

Half thinking of changing it to "Just sticking my rod out there" :pac:

EDIT: Changed

hope you put a pic of your fishing pole up as well or the ladies might think your one of them penis pic sending weirdos :P (or they msg you asking for said pics :pac: )

Larianne · 14-12-2011 11:34pm

That_Guy wrote: »

My current headline on my profile is "Why doesn't glue stick to the inside of the bottle"

Half thinking of changing it to "Just sticking my rod out there" :pac:

EDIT: Changed

I'd defo message someone with that tagline.

ladylost · 14-12-2011 11:36pm

So I am trying out OKC. Chatting with a few guys at the moment. There are a few guys who I would be interested in contacting and show as good matches but I see I'm outside their requested age bracket. Should I contact them anyway?

One bug bear I do have is a lot of guys I have seen have the age limit set so they are willing to go about 10 years younger and only 1 or 2 years older. I have +-10 year limit. Maybe I'm unusual

That_Guy · 14-12-2011 11:36pm

Larianne wrote: »

I'd defo message someone with that tagline.

Then message me biatch. :pac:

Larianne · 14-12-2011 11:44pm

ladylost wrote: »

So I am trying out OKC. Chatting with a few guys at the moment. There are a few guys who I would be interested in contacting and show as good matches but I see I'm outside their requested age bracket. Should I contact them anyway?

One bug bear I do have is a lot of guys I have seen have the age limit set so they are willing to go about 10 years younger and only 1 or 2 years older. I have +-10 year limit. Maybe I'm unusual

Sure what have you to lose? They'll either reply or not.

That_Guy wrote: »

Then message me biatch. :pac:

I'm off to search so.. :pac:

murhatchi · 15-12-2011 1:47am

Most of the messaging Im getting back are one liners back despite being chatty

Only one engaging in conversation which is going grand but wont be meeting until after Xmas the time of year that is in it and another who for all the world appears to psychoanalysing me in depth and starting to scare me!
Anyone recommend other sites? I have had two dates from POF all grand but dead ends?

Anyone want to give my profile the once over if ye have time for objective view?

Otis Driftwood · 15-12-2011 1:51am

I think if you are only getting one liners back despite making an effort yourself then the person/s you are messaging arent interested and are just trying to be polite.

murhatchi · 15-12-2011 2:11am

Otis Driftwood wrote: »

I think if you are only getting one liners back despite making an effort yourself then the person/s you are messaging arent interested and are just trying to be polite.

That sir is very much what i was suspecting, thank you very much for your reply

Any thoughts on the shrink?? Should I abandon that one politely? She seems nice and all and whilst I have nothing special to hide the interrogation is starting to feel "intense" !! New at this so I do appreciate the replies.

eilo1 · 15-12-2011 12:10pm

So I went on my first date (second time round) on Monday night. I thought it all went well, he seemed really nice and we chatted over tea for about two hours.

Now its Thursday and apart from the obligatory "I had a good night" text I haven't heard from him.

So I was about to ask is there any point in texting him but I just bit the bullet and did it! lol

Its not a good sign he hasn't got in touch but Iv nothing to loose.

Wish me luck!

on a separate note is texing not a word yet? Weird

stargazer 68 · 15-12-2011 12:34pm

I have a date tonight! :eek::eek:

Currently doing the 'OMG what am I going to do?' dance

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