no karen millen or coast at weddings?

lso · 19-09-2008 4:21pm

Has anyone actually received an invite that said "No Coast or Karen Millen Dresses"?

I'm beginning to think this is a bit of an urban myth - I've often heard of a friend of a friend getting one, but have never received an invitation like this or met someone who has received one themselves.

Also re Cash Gifts, again I've never explicitly seen a Cash Gifts only in an invite. Sometimes people will send out a discreet message that cash would be appreciated - as in if I ask the bridesmaid/bestman if they have ideas for gifts, then they might say that they think cash would be appreciated.

My bridesmaids wore Monsoon dresses and if someone had shown up in the same dress we would all have got a good giggle out of it - maybe staged some extra "wedding party" photos with the third bridesmaid;)

luvlylady · 19-09-2008 4:34pm

I've seen an invite (my cousin received, not me) with "Presents in envelopes please" on it. Can you get an envelope to fit a kettle?!

Toto Wolfcastle · 19-09-2008 5:09pm

luvlylady wrote: »

I've seen an invite (my cousin received, not me) with "Presents in envelopes please" on it. Can you get an envelope to fit a kettle?!

The sad thing is they probably sat down to plan out the 'nicest' way to ask for money!

barbiegirl · 19-09-2008 5:27pm

We're married 3 weeks. The bridemaid dresses were from Monsoon and we just put "The bridesmaids are wearing marine green" on the invites. Therefore no-one in the same dress.
We had no wedding list and if anyone asked we said that if they had something special or personal they wished to give we would be grateful. We got some presents, some vouchers and some cash, and appreciated everything we got, big or small, as they are meant as symbols to wish us good luck in our future lives, and every couple needs plenty of that.
Everyone was invited, kids and all. We had a fantastic very relaxed day that everyone enjoyed including me. Bridezillas don't enjoy the day their too caught up in controlling everything.

CathyMoran · 19-09-2008 7:59pm

Can understand about the Karen Millen or Coast request...2 of my sister in laws wore the same Karen Millen dresses to their civil ceremonys (they had their church weddings in Portugal so had to do it that way).

In terms of money being asked - well, that is rediculous. We did not have any list for ours, we were getting married for us in front of the people that we cared about, that was all that mattered. We did actually get a fair bit of money considering but we did not care about it.

ncmc · 20-09-2008 10:39am

Sowra wrote: »

just read in an irish sunday mag that some brides are putting on wedding invites;
'no coast or karen millen dresses'

whats that all about? is there something wrong with those shops

This is the crazyest thing I have ever heard, firstly you're just a bride, not the dictator of a small country, people are going out of there way to spent your special day with you and you have the nerve to tell them what to wear!

Secondly, imagine if you had a Coast or KM dress already in your wardrobe that you planned on wearing again. You get this invitation, what do you do? Does the bride expect you to go and buy a new dress for every wedding you go to? It is beyond vulgar and rude.

Thirdly, if you have bought your bridemaids dresses in KM or Coast, well you have to expect that there is a possibility that someone will be wearing the same dress. If you are worried about this happening, then you would be better to buy the dresses in a smaller boutique where you are more likely to get an original dress. By the way, kudos to the bride who told the guests what colour the bridesmaids were in, none of this secrecy bullsh1t, just a nice polite way of telling people not to wear the same dress.

As for the cash only thing on an invitation, well, I always give cash (too lazy to shop) but if I was 'told' I had to, then I would seriously reconsider going to the wedding at all. People that put that on an invitation are not people I want to consort with.

I got married 5 years ago and we didn't have a bean, we really appreciated that most people gave us money. But the people that didn't? Well, we have a few nice presents that we got that we will always have as a memento. As for the bad presents, they were few and far between and didn't bother me at all. At the actual wedding itself, I couldn't have cared less if people turned up in jeans and a t-shirt. It was the happiest day of my life and I was just happy to have all my friends and family there to celebrate with me. I didn't care what they wore or what gifts they gave, I appreciated that they took a Friday off work and travelled to be there. If that isn't enough for brides, then the should really be looking at why they are getting married. *

*Sorry for the rant, this thread really made my blood boil!

E.T. · 20-09-2008 9:42pm

I can't imagine getting an invitation that said no Karen Millen or Coast. I'm 5 foot feck all, and size 16. I know I can walk into KM or Coast and get a dress that's going to make me look good - don't know of many other brands that can do the same! It's too hit and miss to get a dress off the internet for something as big as a wedding, and I can't afford to get a dress made for every wedding I'm invited to. Someone posted about an invitation that told people the colour the bridesmaids were going to wear - that makes a lot of sense. If someone was really vetoing KM or Coast so people wouldn't wear the same as their bridesmaids they'd be better off doing that instead.

Talliesin · 20-09-2008 11:16pm

irlrobins wrote: »

Another thing people put on their invite: "No boxed gifts".

Give them cutlery. Keep the box.

Scarinae · 20-09-2008 11:43pm

My mother received an invitation to her goddaughter's wedding which also had the wedding list in the envelope, and we thought that was a bit rude. But asking straight out for cash is incredibly rude! I would NOT be impressed!

muinteoir1 · 20-09-2008 11:53pm

OMG that is the tackiest thing I have ever heard! Would they prefer if we all showed up in outfits from Dunnes and Pennys?????:eek:

marti101 · 21-09-2008 9:00am

Would you not think that half the joy in seeing your presents were all different shapes was wondering what was in them.Theres no fun in only getting cash as you will never get that truly terrible present that at least one bride and groom seem to get.You will have no things to look at and think of your day after aall the money wont last long.

Daithi McGee · 21-09-2008 9:10am

Sowra wrote: »

just read in an irish sunday mag that some brides are putting on wedding invites;
'no coast or karen millen dresses'

whats that all about? is there something wrong with those shops

Just lol. That is shocking. Did it mention if the last names were Ward?

:pac:

Laurs_civic · 21-09-2008 11:02am

oh i know few invites that had no coast dresses because alot of ppl buy dresses from there and are usually the same.

Scarinae · 21-09-2008 9:04pm

Laurs_civic wrote: »

oh i know few invites that had no coast dresses because alot of ppl buy dresses from there and are usually the same.

Even if a lot of people do buy dresses in Coast, do you not think it's a bit rude putting it in the invitation? Also, I have a pink dress from Coast I got a while back, would I not be allowed to wear that? I think the whole Bridezilla thing is a bit ridiculous

giggles · 22-09-2008 9:44am

I'm getting married next year and got our bridesmaid dresses in Monsoon, but it would never even cross my mind to say 'No Monsoon' in the invites!!! It's ridiculous, not everyone buys a brand new dress for every wedding they go to and shouldn't be restricted to where it comes from!

Also, don't agree with asking for cash presents. It may be what you'd *secretly* hope to get, but to actually ask for it is just acting like a spoilt brat in my opinion!

marti101 · 22-09-2008 9:50am

giggles wrote: »

I'm getting married next year and got our bridesmaid dresses in Monsoon, but it would never even cross my mind to say 'No Monsoon' in the invites!!! It's ridiculous, not everyone buys a brand new dress for every wedding they go to and shouldn't be restricted to where it comes from!

Also, don't agree with asking for cash presents. It may be what you'd *secretly* hope to get, but to actually ask for it is just acting like a spoilt brat in my opinion!

At last somebody with a bit of sense.:D

Malari · 22-09-2008 11:50am

I'm going to a wedding early next year where the bride has already verbalised that she only wants cash from me. I can't wait to see what she puts on the invite. :rolleyes: She justifies it by saying that having a wedding is really expensive, and they need cash gifts so they can afford a honeymoon! Don't have a big wedding if you can't afford it! I honestly feel more like a customer than a friend at this type of wedding, it's mercenary.

Glowing · 22-09-2008 11:55am

muinteoir1 wrote: »

OMG that is the tackiest thing I have ever heard! Would they prefer if we all showed up in outfits from Dunnes and Pennys?????:eek:

God ... you're nearly as bad!! :rolleyes:

What's wrong with wearing outfits from Penny's or Dunnes? Very respectable, dunnes in particular can be really smart ... and costs a fraction of a dress from Coast etc.

If I was getting married, I couldn't care less if my guests were in plastic bin liners, once they were there ....

LiloDB · 23-09-2008 2:19pm

supermouse wrote: »

Also, a lot of the brides now buy their bridesmaid dresses in Coast and Karen Millen so id say its to save the guests from looking like they're part of the wedding party!

Saw an invite recently that said ''no karen millen or coast dresses. cash only presents'' thought it was awful cheeky!!!

Well, I was thinking that the bride bought the brides made dresses there and she is making sure that no on will buy a similar one or something.. Well i am getting married next year and I wouldn't really have the nerve to tell my guests what to wear or what not to wear... so don't know what that is all about..

About the money thing.. A lot couples who are getting married these days live together already, and anything they need they prob have got already, so people buying pressies that they have already is a bit of waste.. and weddings do cost so to be given cash is way more beneficial then pressies.. and I just think its easier to give cash instead of running around trying to get a present that they might like and hope that they don't have already...

Having said all of this, I don't know if I would dare to specify that in my invitations... :cool:

marti101 · 23-09-2008 2:49pm

But if their after cash to help pay for their wedding its just not on,if you cant afford it dont have it.Be grateful there are people willint to travel and spend money to go to your wedding.I dont know how anybody would have the nerve to tell people what to wear and also ask for cash.They have some necks.

Pigletlover · 23-09-2008 3:15pm

I think it's insulting to put cash gifts only (or anything that implies that) on a wedding invitation. It should be up to the guests what to give, if anything. Most people give cash nowadays so asking for it is just cheeky. The 'weddings are expensive' argument doesn't justify it, if you can't afford a big wedding then don't have one, don't be depending on yur guests to fund the day. Any wedding we've ever gone to we've always given cash -1 because most people now live together and have everything they need and 2 because it makes more sense to give something that you know will be used. I'd hate to think I'd be spending a fortune on a set of crystal glasses for them never to be used. However, if the invitation specified cash only I think I'd go out of my way to find the tackiest gift I could.

Malari · 23-09-2008 3:17pm

LiloDB wrote: »

Well, I was thinking that the bride bought the brides made dresses there and she is making sure that no on will buy a similar one or something.. Well i am getting married next year and I wouldn't really have the nerve to tell my guests what to wear or what not to wear... so don't know what that is all about..

About the money thing.. A lot couples who are getting married these days live together already, and anything they need they prob have got already, so people buying pressies that they have already is a bit of waste.. and weddings do cost so to be given cash is way more beneficial then pressies.. and I just think its easier to give cash instead of running around trying to get a present that they might like and hope that they don't have already...

Having said all of this, I don't know if I would dare to specify that in my invitations... :cool:

About the bridal party dresses, I would be more embarrassed if I turned up to a wedding wearing a bridesmaid dress than the bride should be. I mean, any I've seen have been a completely different style of dress than what most guests show up in.

But the money thing is what really makes me sick. I mean, saying that you live together therefore have everything already is not an argument, as far as I'm concerned. You know, I've been working and earning money for 10 years now, I don't want birthday and christmas presents anymore...just give me cash!

G&T · 23-09-2008 4:13pm

Malari wrote: »

She justifies it by saying that having a wedding is really expensive, and they need cash gifts so they can afford a honeymoon! Don't have a big wedding if you can't afford it! I honestly feel more like a customer than a friend at this type of wedding, it's mercenary.

Ask for hoilday vouchers,

My oh say's he would prefere to see
a summons than a wedding invite coming in the letter box.lol.

With the cost to attend a wedding so high i would only
go if it was someone i really cared about.

Malari · 23-09-2008 4:20pm

I know a guy who always goes to the wedding first before giving a present. He then decides on the worth of the present based on the quality of the meal, whether there was free wine, and the general enjoyment derived from the night. Inspired!

no karen millen or coast at weddings?

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