no karen millen or coast at weddings?

Sowra

just read in an irish sunday mag that some brides are putting on wedding invites;
'no coast or karen millen dresses'

whats that all about? is there something wrong with those shops

dudara

The problem is that most women will go to those shops and hence there is a good probability that you could have two or more women at one wedding wearing the same dress.

supermouse

Also, a lot of the brides now buy their bridesmaid dresses in Coast and Karen Millen so id say its to save the guests from looking like they're part of the wedding party!

Saw an invite recently that said ''no karen millen or coast dresses. cash only presents'' thought it was awful cheeky!!!

xzanti

:eek:

supermouse wrote: »

Also, a lot of the brides now buy their bridesmaid dresses in Coast and Karen Millen so id say its to save the guests from looking like they're part of the wedding party!

Saw an invite recently that said ''no karen millen or coast dresses. cash only presents'' thought it was awful cheeky!!!

WHAT?? I know what I'd do with them lol... "Sorry I'm washing my hair that day" :cool:

Pigletlover

supermouse wrote: »

Saw an invite recently that said ''no karen millen or coast dresses. cash only presents'' thought it was awful cheeky!!!

Really? :eek:

I could kind of understand the request if the bridesmaid dresses were bought there...Actually, no I can't, get your bridesmaid dresses somewhere else or tip your guests off, but don't tell them what they can or can't wear!

stovelid

Even if well-intended, it's an unbelievably cheeky thing to put on a wedding invite.

John Mason

LOL, so pennys is okay then

Sowra

now i get it

I thought it might have been incredibly snobby brides saying karen millen/coast wasnt posh enough or something!

that 'cash only presents' thing, extremely cheeky alright :eek:

stovelid

Perhaps all the guests should take a picture of their dress and send it to the bride or bridesmaid, so they can correlate who is wearing what..

Anything is better than telling people what to wear.

viv2

Some of the coast stores are keeping notes of which dresses are being used for which wedding so it might be an idea to ask first.Nothing worse than turning up in the same dress as somebody else even worse if its the bridesmaids as there would be a few of them anyway
I dont think the bride is being rude by asking guests not to shop there but i hate the cash only gifts.

supermouse

Yup - very bad isnt it! And like the girl who's getting married isnt exactly law-de-daw nor does she have a massive posh lifestyle. She's just a general run of the mill girl with a down to earth fella so where they get their airs and graces i'l never know! Mad isnt it!

tinkerbell

I think it's a bit much saying no Karen Millen or Coast at weddings. If they don't want people wearing the same dresses as the bridesmaids, then they should tell their guests what colour dress the bridesmaids will wear so that nobody ends up getting the same thing.

Also, on the "cash only" on invites ... I don't think that's that cheeky ... It is normal to give presents at a wedding and I would rather give someone cash than pay the equivalent amount for some present that they might never use. A lot of couples these days already live together and have all their household things. I'd rather see my present going towards something the couple want to buy after than deciding on what they should have and let it sit in a box and gather dust!

And yes, weddings these days do cost a lot and sometimes it helps out the bride & groom financially to get cash rather than an actual present. Anyway that's my 2c.

xOxSinéadxOx

i don't get why a bride would give a ****e if two people turned up wearing the same dress though. at least you could get your dress in coast and not worry about anyone else wearing it :cool:

Toto Wolfcastle

I think that the 'no coast dresses' thing has become the norm in recent times. We were discussing this at work and someone told me that her friend had written 'This wedding has cost us a lot of money, so cash presents only' only it was put in a much more rude way.

Stheno

xzanti wrote: »

:eek:

WHAT?? I know what I'd do with them lol... "Sorry I'm washing my hair that day" :cool:

janeybabe wrote: »

I think that the 'no coast dresses' thing has become the norm in recent times. We were discussing this at work and someone told me that her friend had written 'This wedding has cost us a lot of money, so cash presents only' only it was put in a much more rude way.

Why not send out invitations to purchase tickets to attend the wedding if they have that sort of attitude??

ffs they are supposed to be celebrating the happiest day of their lives

They sound like two kids doing their confirmation for all the cash they will collect on the day

Toto Wolfcastle

nouggatti wrote: »

Why not send out invitations to purchase tickets to attend the wedding if they have that sort of attitude??

ffs they are supposed to be celebrating the happiest day of their lives

They sound like two kids doing their confirmation for all the cash they will collect on the day

Yeah it's ridiculous. No one is forcing them to spend loads of money on the wedding or event to buy the bridesmaid dresses in Coast or Karen Millen!

Pythia

I think it's innocent enough in that they just don't want people to turn up wearing the same dress.

Cash only presents, however, is appalling.

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kizzyr

Pythia wrote: »

I think it's innocent enough in that they just don't want people to turn up wearing the same dress.

Cash only presents, however, is appalling.

I couldn't disagree more. There are more shops that Coast and Karen Millen in the country and ordering guests not to shop there is no guarantee that two people won't wear the same thing. Also why one earth would any bride and groom give a damn?
To be honest I've gotten really really anti wedding of late as more and more brides are behaving like divas and everyone is scared that if they don't toe the line the bride will throw her toys out of her pram in a tantrum. People get married to make a commitment to each other because they love each other. Its not about how many thousands you spend on your dress, where you have your wedding, where you go on honeymoon, what your guests wear, what they give you as a present etc.

kittex

Weddings are just getting vile.
A lot of people forget the day is supposed to be about celebrating with the people you love, not showing off and making yourself into a superior being.

Toto Wolfcastle

kizzyr wrote: »

Also why one earth would any bride and groom give a damn?

Because a lot of people get bridesmaid dresses in Coast or Karen Millen and don't want guests to wear the same dress. Really though, if they insist on doing so, they could maybe give the name or style number of the dress to the guests and ask them to avoid that particular one.

Still, it's a bit ridiculous.

rainbow kirby

Meh, the invite doesn't specify whether or not pants are required...

G&T

We were broke and in debt when we got married but didn't
ask for money,

We did get some money,some lovely presents and some brutal presents
(ainsley butterfly peanut dish):eek:

Now that time has passed i love looking at the things around the house that we recieved and the memories of the people who gave them becaue some of them have since died.

My regal cat eats her dinner off the ainsley:D

Glowing

That is UNBELIEVABLE! How disgusting are weddings getting? WHO CARES if your guests are wearing the same thing, honestly, WHAT DOES IT MATTER! (sorry I'm shouting)

Not only are brides now dictating what their 'guests' (if you could call them that) can wear, they're also stating what presents to bring! (I have heard of an invitation stating "no cash gifts less than 150")

The newest fad is to get your engagement ring 'upgraded' if you think the original wasn't bling enough, or didn't make you look elite enough.

What happened to a bit of appreciation and graciousness these days? All I hear is 'I want, I want, I want'.

MayMay

People are forgetting the true meaning of marriage. Brides are turning in to monsters. It's sad.

LolaLuv

nouggatti wrote: »

Why not send out invitations to purchase tickets to attend the wedding if they have that sort of attitude??

ffs they are supposed to be celebrating the happiest day of their lives

They sound like two kids doing their confirmation for all the cash they will collect on the day

Ha, how about it! I don't know about Ireland, but in the states it's become common for people to say no children are allowed at the reception. That always broke my heart because my little brothers had to sit out several family weddings. They do it to save money; personally, I'd rather have a less fancy wedding where everyone was welcome.

Glowing

Yeah it's common to do that here to. Can't say I disagree with it though ... it's an adult celebration, and tripping over kids and listening to them screaming when you've had a few is not fun

What I hate is guests bringing kids when they weren't invited in the first place!

JaneyMc

Ok, when I first read the no coast or karen millen dresses, I thought it was ridiculous, but I can sort of understand were the brides are coming from.
There are better ways of going about it though! I would not put it on my wedding invite. I would rather ring every guest (even if the numbers were in the hundred's) and casually drop it into conversation.

If I seen the "cash only" thing on an invite, I would be disgusted and would seriously consider whether or not to bother my arse going.

Clare Bear

If I saw the no Coast or Karen Millen Dress on the invite it would probably make me want to wear one of those dresses to the wedding even more so....and I would! As for the no money, they're gonna get a sh1t present if I get an invite with that written on it. The cheek!

Girls (and let's face it, it's mainly the women!) are forgetting what a wedding is all about. Everyone's turning in to big Diva's when they get married now, it's really sad. It's actually put me off ever wanting a big wedding, it won't be good enough anyway probably. I'm gonna feck off to an island somewhere and leave all that crap behind me.

miles teg

Would it be bad if the couple gave option of charity donation, travel voucher or cash? I'd prefer to give cash than go shopping for something useless... people already have everything these days.

Creamy Goodness

jesus thank god this doesn't happen for guys (or if it does, i haven't seen it).

if it said on a invite no x type of suit, i would actually shove the invite back at them and tell them to **** off, if they are going to be ignorant giving me an invite like that, i'll reply ignorantly back.

enda1

Clare Bear wrote: »

If I saw the no Coast or Karen Millen Dress on the invite it would probably make me want to wear one of those dresses to the wedding even more so....and I would!

So would I and I'm a guy!!

Was at a French wedding in the South of France there a few weeks ago. Because we were travelling from the other end of the country, the bride and groom paid for a room for us for the night + the wedding was the best I've ever been to for food, drink, fun and plain and simple happiness. And it was full of children too which in my opinion are one of the most important attributes to a wedding. The contrast between the grannys and babies is very important (especially when they start dancing together!).

Clare Bear

miles teg wrote: »

Would it be bad if the couple gave option of charity donation, travel voucher or cash? I'd prefer to give cash than go shopping for something useless... people already have everything these days.

Yes but that's the point, it should be your choice if you want to give money or not, you shouldn't be forced to.

JaneyMc

Clare Bear wrote: »

Girls (and let's face it, it's mainly the women!) are forgetting what a wedding is all about. Everyone's turning in to big Diva's when they get married now, it's really sad. It's actually put me off ever wanting a big wedding, it won't be good enough anyway probably. I'm gonna feck off to an island somewhere and leave all that crap behind me.

Yeah, same here!! No big white wedding for me at all, very small in some tropical island somewhere with my close friends and family.

I tend to not follow the crowd with most things, and the idea of having a wedding just like everyone elses and paying an incredible amount for the pleasure, just ain't me.
I think the commercialism is ridiculous and I'd feel like a fool for spending that much money on one day.

jasonb

Anyone you invite to your wedding should be allowed to wear what they want ( assuming it's not a big white wedding dress, that might clash! ). If the Bridesmaids are wearing a particular dress that you don't want anyone else to wear, I'd let people know over the phone. Even if someone does turn up wearing the same style of dress as a bridesmaid, you'll be able to tell the Bridesmaids apart from them, as the bridesmaids sit at the top table!

As for 'Cash only presents', I think that's very rude. Myself and my fiancée have invited people as our guests to share our day with us. While we understand we will get some presents ( and we already have, both money and gifts ) we don't expect anything from our guests, other than to be there if they can and enjoy the day with us! They're our friends and family, they don't owe us anything.

I think telling someone what not to wear, or what presents to give, is just rude.

J.

kizzyr

[QUOTE=JaneyMc;57284762]Ok, when I first read the no coast or karen millen dresses, I thought it was ridiculous, but I can sort of understand were the brides are coming from.
There are better ways of going about it though! I would not put it on my wedding invite. I would rather ring every guest (even if the numbers were in the hundred's) and casually drop it into conversation.

If I seen the "cash only" thing on an invite, I would be disgusted and would seriously consider whether or not to bother my arse going.[/QUOTE]


Why the hell should any bride give a damn about what another woman wears to her wedding? So what if it happens to be the same dress as another woman / bridesmaid, honestly if that is the worst thing that happens they'll be doing well.
As others have said if I got an invite with you must/ must not wear a,b,c I'd either refuse to go to the wedding or go head to toe in Karen Millen and Coast just to be contrary and find the ugliest piece of china I could get my hands on and give that as a gift.

JaneyMc

I said SORT of. The wedding album pictures would be a bit silly if you had a picture with 3 women from the same family in the same dress.
It's not something I would do anyway.

kizzyr

JaneyMc wrote: »

I said SORT of. The wedding album pictures would be a bit silly if you had a picture with 3 women from the same family in the same dress.
It's not something I would do anyway.

I wasn't having a go at you, not for a second:) Over the last few years weddings have become more and more vulgar in my opinion. They have become less about the celebration of two people choosing to do something important to them and a desire to share the occasion with those they love and care about and more about the money, glitz and glamour. I've found it all very off putting and this latest stunt of money only, nothing less that €150.00 and please don't shop in X,Y, Z is just a bridge too far for me.
I think if you can count on two hands the people you really love and care about, people who really matter to you, then they are the only ones who should be invited. The others get lost in the crowd.........then again I'd be opting for a wedding party of immediate family only.

Sugar Drunk

If anyone sent me an invite with 'cash only' or 'no cash gifts less than X' pure and simple I would refuse to go . who in the hell can demand that especially now that so many people are struggling to make ends meet? Surely people should be happy that guest came to celebrate their day regardless of the gitft they brought or the dress they wore?

personally i would rather get married abroad with a small group of friends and family!

The 'no kids' thing I do understand though. Its fine if your a kid person. Im definately not, i don't even want to have kids so having a rake of kids at a wedding reception would not be my idea of fun

stovelid

Women eh?

Two lads end up at wedding with same suit/tie/shirt: sly wink, laugh, followed by brief discussion on absurdity of partner-imposed formal wear regime before hitting the bar.

Two women end up at wedding with same outfit: civilization ends.

LolaLuv

Sugar Drunk wrote: »

The 'no kids' thing I do understand though. Its fine if your a kid person. Im definately not, i don't even want to have kids so having a rake of kids at a wedding reception would not be my idea of fun

That makes sense, if you aren't really kid-oriented it's understandable. But my whole family is pretty big on kids. The really insulting thing is that the brides at a couple of the weddings (the brides were marrying into my family) wouldn't let our side bring their kids, but some kids from their sides were there. That's just beyond rude in my opinion, makes for bad blood from the start.

irlrobins

Another thing people put on their invite: "No boxed gifts". Which is a polite way of saying "cash only".

Personally I think that it's a bit cheeky asking for cash. I understand some couples might have a property each coming into the marriage and therefore don't require household gifts that typically are bought as wedding presents. But I still wouldn't be impressed by being told to pay cash only. Neither do I like the idea of couples looking for cash to cover the cost of the day. That's not what the event is about!

Asking for travel vouchers, donation to charity or a having a wedding register is all fine by me.

As for turning up at a wedding wearing the same outfit, it can be embarassing if the other person is part of the bridal party, but among guests I think it's best just to laugh it off and just make sure you don't stand together for the photo.

Was at a wedding last Sat where two guests had the same green (Karen Millen funnily enough) dress. They had a laugh about it and that was that. No diva antics required!

kizzyr

irlrobins wrote: »

Another thing people put on their invite: "No boxed gifts". Which is a polite way of saying "cash only".

Personally I think that it's a bit cheeky asking for cash. I understand some couples might have a property each coming into the marriage and therefore don't require household gifts that typically are bought as wedding presents. But I still wouldn't be impressed by being told to pay cash only. Neither do I like the idea of couples looking for cash to cover the cost of the day. That's not what the event is about!

Asking for travel vouchers, donation to charity or a having a wedding register is all fine by me.

As for turning up at a wedding wearing the same outfit, it can be embarassing if the other person is part of the bridal party, but among guests I think it's best just to laugh it off and just make sure you don't stand together for the photo.

Was at a wedding last Sat where two guests had the same green (Karen Millen funnily enough) dress. They had a laugh about it and that was that. No diva antics required!

How tempted I'd be to get some monogrammed towels and take them out of the box and give them like that:D

Gaspode

Weddings- when you are expected to pay a fortune to behave like a lunatic.

kizzyr

deswalsh wrote: »

Weddings- when you are expected to pay a fortune to behave like a lunatic.

........and be grateful for the privilage:rolleyes:

phasers

no boxed gifts eh? I'd just stick a tesco kettle in a bag then.

"cash only" is the height of rudeness, there's no way I'd go to a wedding that had that on the invitations! And I'll wear what I like as well.

Toto Wolfcastle

phasers wrote: »

no boxed gifts eh? I'd just stick a tesco kettle in a bag then.

That's what I was thinking too!

Larianne

It must mean vouchers or money!!! The cheek.

marti101

xOxSinéadxOx wrote: »

i don't get why a bride would give a ****e if two people turned up wearing the same dress though. at least you could get your dress in coast and not worry about anyone else wearing it :cool:

Exactly it shouldnt bother her the only thing that should bother her if somebody turnd up in her dress that would give her something to complain about.:D

aidan24326

stovelid wrote: »

Even if well-intended, it's an unbelievably cheeky thing to put on a wedding invite.

+ 1
It's just cheeky full stop. Giving a present at all is discretionary, if I knew a guest at my wedding was a bit hard up I wouldn't be expecting a big present. Something small and genuinely thoughtful can be just as nice. Most people will give money now anyway but to ask for it straight out is plain rude. You're basically throwing a party and then asking the invited guests to pay for it.

tinkerbell wrote: »

I think it's a bit much saying no Karen Millen or Coast at weddings. If they don't want people wearing the same dresses as the bridesmaids, then they should tell their guests what colour dress the bridesmaids will wear so that nobody ends up getting the same thing

Well that would be the smart thing to do. It's easy enough to make sure nobody buys the bridesmaids dress, after that if any two women are wearing the same dress then so what.

Also, on the "cash only" on invites ... I don't think that's that cheeky ... It is normal to give presents at a wedding and I would rather give someone cash than pay the equivalent amount for some present that they might never use.

It is a person's individual choice to give a present though, it is not an obligation. A waiter in a restaurant can't say "that'll be 57 euros for the meal plus a tenner for my tip", it's a discretionary thing, as is giving someone a present.

And yes, weddings these days do cost a lot and sometimes it helps out the bride & groom financially to get cash rather than an actual present. Anyway that's my 2c

Yes they are expensive but if the couple can't afford a big wedding then don't have one. You can't have a bride (it's always the woman) going way over the top and oredering loads of expensive stuff then expecting the guests to pay for it.

I simply can't believe that some people were actually putting 'no cash gifts less than 150' on the invites. That is incredibly rude.

marti101

Well if it was only cash and if the couple has all their stuff from living together then id donate it to charity.Give them something to talk about.