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Why is he lying?

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    #32
    *dolly*
    Closed Accounts Posts: 46 ✭*dolly*


    i have a friend who likes to keep all his social circles seperate, including his girlfriend. and there's nothing sinister in it. he just gets different things from each group and doesnt mix them at all. that said we've all met her, several times. she just doesnt socialise with us. she doesnt really socialise much at all tho.
    it could be as simple as that. he doesnt think that you'd blend well with his friends? do they drink and you dont maybe?

    personally, it wouldnt be something that id accept. i wouldnt like being left out of so much of my bfs life. its up to you to decide whether or not its acceptable.


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    #33
    colly10
    Registered Users Posts: 3,003 ✭✭✭colly10


    Everything may be alright, he's over in London with one of his mates so if he wants a bit of space for a weekend I wouldn't see it as a big issue, even if he has to lie to get that bit of space. This does not mean he's cheating on you while he's over there.
    I'd just get a night out organised with his mates over the next while, there is no good reason why he wouldn't introduce you to them now, if not find out why not and see where it goes from there


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    #34
    CherrySugarPlum
    Closed Accounts Posts: 15 ✭CherrySugarPlum


    No offence, but i think your reading into this a bit too much. Maybe he did have coverage in london but told you he didnt because he wanted to spend time with his mates but didnt want to tell you this was the real reason he wasnt keeping in touch as he knew it would upset you, as you've said yourself, you get upset easily by things. He shouldnt have lied to you but to a certain extent its understandable.

    Its very possible the reason he's not introduced you to his family or friends is because he is simply a very private person. You said that sex isnt a major factor, so maybe he is just trying to keep everything at a slow pace and doenst see it as a big deal that he hasnt introduced you to anyone. I suggest that you either explain your feelings to him and talk it out or just take a step back and try not to dwell on it and see if he introduces you in his own time. if you dont think he's cheating and he's not using you for sex then you may just have to accept that he's a private person and does things in his own time. i doubt nagging him about it will help, you may only succeed in driving him away.


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    #35
    Rock Climber
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,034 ✭✭✭Rock Climber


    OP
    The only way you can say for certain if he lied to you about the coverage is if you vitit his friends appartment and check that yourself.
    Otherwise you are just being paranoid.

    As for his "subterfuge" about you-talk to him in a nice manner about it.
    There could be several innocent reasons for this eg; he may not want to hurt someones feelings..someone that mightn't like ye going out for example.

    Let me put a scenario to..Maybe his best friend fancies you and he doesn't want is friend knowing that he has you and he doesn't want to tell you this.
    theres an innocent explanation albeit quirky.

    My best advice to you is to : Number one ,enjoy your boyfriend,he has after all chosen you to spend most of his quality and sext time with and Number two just let it rest or talk to him in a nice way but be relaxed about it as it's probably only a slightly insecure mind/imagination working overtime.

    Hope that helps :)


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