Blow jobs - womans perspective

Terodil · 05-03-2009 9:17pm

Dudess wrote: »

I never argued it couldn't be. That was in response to someone saying hetero guys have it easier than hetero girls. Forgetting about hygiene, if both organs are clean, then the gal's got the tougher job.

I'm not sure. I think getting a girl to the point of coming takes a lot more effort and expertise than to get a man to the point of coming, if that's an appropriate measurement for 'difficulty'. Then again I have never (and will never) go(ne) down on a man, that part is only personal experience ^^

Or maybe getting the other to come always appears more complicated than when it comes to oneself

LegacyUser · 06-03-2009 9:36pm

Blowjobs eh. Would LOVE if I were getting them, but not willing to force the issue. Can be stressful though when a couple not on the same page sexually, whatever the preference is.

barleybooley · 07-03-2009 2:09am

TBH I effing love giving them, they're super hot! AND my bf loves getting them so it's win-win. But, it probably only works if both parties enjoy them

banquo · 07-03-2009 2:14am

barleybooley wrote: »

AND my bf loves getting them

I can personally vouch for this.

It's relevant!

LegacyUser · 07-03-2009 8:59pm

Try by only giving it to the guy you love that should make it easier and nicer for you cause he is enjoying you will enjoy.

Affable · 07-03-2009 10:33pm

I don't bother asking for them because women I've been with do them so robotically you can tell they don't like it, their soul isn't in it .I on the other hand love giving oral to someone I fancy.

ManOfMystery · 07-03-2009 10:50pm

I've probably had oral from just about every woman I've ever gone out with or slept with, be it a casual or long term relationship. However my current gf isn't a huge fan of it, although she has done it a few times, and unfortunately for me (joke!!) she's the one I want to be with for keeps

lol. I don't really care though - in the grand scheme of things, whether she's into giving oral or not isn't really important when she's the perfect person for me in so many other ways.

Affable · 07-03-2009 10:51pm

ManOfMystery wrote: »

I've probably had oral from just about every woman I've ever gone out with or slept with, be it a casual or long term relationship. However my current gf isn't a huge fan of it, although she has done it a few times, and unfortunately for me (joke!!) she's the one I want to be with for keeps lol. I don't really care though - in the grand scheme of things, whether she's into giving oral or not isn't really important when she's the perfect person for me in so many other ways.

Very magnanimous of you.:rolleyes:

Silverfish · 07-03-2009 10:54pm

Affable wrote: »

Very magnanimous of you.:rolleyes:

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ManOfMystery · 07-03-2009 10:59pm

Affable wrote: »

Very magnanimous of you.:rolleyes:

I'm glad it's appreciated :rolleyes:

I'm merely making a point. Some men can get hung up on the oral thing and start to get peeved off because their partner won't do it. I love it as much as any other guy, but things have to be kept in perspective - if you have a loyal partner who loves you, is affectionate, will always be there for you, etc - then whether you get oral or not should not be the be all and end all.

LegacyUser · 08-03-2009 2:37pm

As a man, I absolutely enjoy giving oral to women and I do it for longer than I get it myself. It's something that excites me and makes up for a great warm up. I like the taste of it and sometimes even the smell (as long as hygiene concerns are in place) I like the fact that she's enjoying it. Unfortunately, the only partner I had up to now, is just dumping me... so I guess I will have that feeling in my head for sometime, as I don't believe there's a chance to come back and on the other hand, I don't believe I will find someone in the coming time (I'm not even going to try it out, to be honest). As for receiving, my ex-partner was not a big fan of giving... which sucks, because since I started imagining what it would be like and watching porn that it always been the thing I liked the most and which unfortunately I got the less. I understand that not everyone is actually into it. I consider myself a very hygienic guy, but almost everyday's when I get home, it just doesn't smell that good at all, maybe it's the way how I "wiggle" the lad, but... I really would like to find the cause, because before I started having sexual activity, I never noticed it. Maybe because my hygiene concerns were less than they are now?

Zippie84 · 08-03-2009 6:52pm

haven't read all the responses.

up until a yr ago, i (being 100% honest) was actually very disgusted by the thought of giving a man a bj.

i was going out with someone knew and fancied giving it a try..

i went to ann summers and bought some dick lick, and a book called something like' how to give a mind-blowing blow job'.

i read the book beforehand and it very much got me used to the idea, and some tips and techniques, even though when it came down to it it was just a matter of what i was comfortable with at the time.

the guy knew it was my first time giving a bj, and knew he could prob expect one this particular evening, but that i wasn't to be rushed, and to not mention it that evening, until i initiated it, and to let me go at my own pace.

when i felt comfortable enought with it, i did it and i actually really really enjoyed it. the dick lick made it taste good, and i really enjoyed giving him pleasure, and felt so in control. i really loved the fact that i was doing something that he enjoyed so much. i only ended up doing it a few more times cos i split with him a while afterwards, but for something i never thought i would enjoy, and always slightly repulsed and disgusted me, i was genuinely surprised by how much i enjoyed it.

would definitely recommend using dick lick the first time though to make it that bit more enjoyable (and tasty)

edevelera60 · 08-03-2009 7:23pm

I love going down on my girlfriend, cannot get enough of it.

Teddi · 08-03-2009 7:59pm

Keep it clean to keep them keen....

not being smart but it helps

Affable · 08-03-2009 9:56pm

I think a lot of men think they're not real meh if they say it, but personally I've never enjoyed them. Maybe I've just never had someone that was into it though.

Zippie84 · 08-03-2009 10:17pm

Affable wrote: »

I think a lot of men think they're not real meh if they say it, but personally I've never enjoyed them. Maybe I've just never had someone that was into it though.

i'm a woman who couldn't really be bothered with receiving, so its good to hear a man who feels the same!

Affable · 08-03-2009 10:29pm

Zippie84 wrote: »

i'm a woman who couldn't really be bothered with receiving, so its good to hear a man who feels the same!

Hehe. Could be the basis for a relationsip that. :P

Zippie84 · 08-03-2009 10:58pm

Affable wrote: »

Hehe. Could be the basis for a relationsip that. :P

hehe... i might not wanna receive, but i'd probably wanna give though

lol

ray mears · 08-03-2009 11:17pm

i cannot believe the attitude of the women on this matter.blow jobs are a natural form of sexual gratification for both parties - the man can close his eyes, lean back and imagine, and the bird gets to satisfy a man.what is there not to get?ive done my fair share of jungle operations and by and large i enjoy them, despite the enviroment that, we, men, have top deal with.
if i have one piece of advice for women, grow some balls and suck it up.whatever u do, dont spit or brush ur teeth afterwards...thats very ignorant.

Affable · 08-03-2009 11:20pm

Zippie84 wrote: »

hehe... i might not wanna receive, but i'd probably wanna give though lol

:eek:Why can't British women be like this?!

GuanYin · 08-03-2009 11:25pm

Dudess wrote: »

sucking what is, as you said, an excretory organ..

I'm confused as to what you mean. Your entire epidermis is a secretory organ for waste products. Using that as a point in the debate doesn't make any sense if people enjoy kissing or licking any part of the body.

Much of the stigma with hygiene and oral sex is related to mental conditioning and isn't actually based in fact.

BUT, that said, comfort is the key factor in enjoying any sexual experience. Attaining comfort is the responsibility of both (or all) participants involved in sexual relations.

If the OP doesn't feel comfortable, that isn't really just "her issue". Just because some sexual acts have become more mainstream than others, does't mean they should be automatically assumed as required.

Silverfish · 08-03-2009 11:27pm

Affable wrote: »

:eek:Why can't British women be like this?!

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Dudess · 09-03-2009 1:32am

GuanYin wrote: »

I'm confused as to what you mean. Your entire epidermis is a secretory organ for waste products. Using that as a point in the debate doesn't make any sense if people enjoy kissing or licking any part of the body.

Very good point. What I mean by "excretory organ" is (and I should have explained this better before using the term), to many young, inexperienced girls, it's that thing he uses to urinate, hence a lack of enthusiasm for getting acquainted with it orally.

Affable · 09-03-2009 2:00am

Silverfish wrote: »

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I understand, just a bit of fun 'do. You haven't got it in for me I hope.:o

gaeilgegrinds · 09-03-2009 2:30am

God I love them. I think it's about what you're doing, it's so dman sexy...takes practise but I love it. As for the smell, never had a bad smell down there yet, suppose that comes from common courtesy. Only happy with the whole cuming in my mouth part when it's someone I've been with a while, otherwise it's chest all the way. But as has been said, if you don't like it, don't do it.

kaalgat · 09-03-2009 1:17pm

Personally I never used to like giving bjs for the usual reasons i.e. taste etc. I have found though that different people taste differently, and it really feels very good to know you are giving your partner pleasure. The fact that he enjoys it alone is enough reason for me to do it. As for taste, I find that if you let him come in the back of your throat you don't really taste it anyway.

ArphaRima · 09-03-2009 2:11pm

Sorry. I couldnt possibly go out with anyone who couldnt/wouldnt give bj's regularly. Nor would I think it acceptable if it just a case of "taking turns", with no effort. Also I would go insane if it was a case for "special occasions only" like I've heard some people suggest!

I think it's part of normal physical relations.

Any argument based on it being disgusting, I just dont get, especially from women who enjoy their man going down on them. A clean male organ is far far less how shall i put it, (ah yes..) "excretionary" than a female one.

I've never come across a girl who didnt offer, but I do know that such a relationship wouldnt last!

Dudess · 09-03-2009 3:29pm

fluffer wrote: »

Any argument based on it being disgusting, I just dont get, especially from women who enjoy their man going down on them. A clean male organ is far far less how shall i put it, (ah yes..) "excretionary" than a female one.

While I'd agree with you in the case of a more mature, experienced girl and in an otherwise very intimate relationship... seriously, people who think it's unreasonable of a 16-year-old virgin/very inexperienced girl to find it unappealing... are just being disingenuous.

Terodil · 09-03-2009 6:31pm

ray mears wrote: »

i cannot believe the attitude of the women on this matter. [...]
if i have one piece of advice for women, grow some balls and suck it up.whatever u do, dont spit or brush ur teeth afterwards...thats very ignorant.

olol, this made my day, esp. the expert use of 'ignorant'. This post is so full of fail I don't know where to start.

It's your partner who decides if she wants to give a BJ, end of, and how she wants to do it.

Sútalún · 09-03-2009 11:10pm

gaeilgegrinds wrote: »

God I love them. I think it's about what you're doing, it's so dman sexy...takes practise but I love it. As for the smell, never had a bad smell down there yet, suppose that comes from common courtesy. Only happy with the whole cuming in my mouth part when it's someone I've been with a while, otherwise it's chest all the way. But as has been said, if you don't like it, don't do it.

Still give grinds??

On topic..
Eh I love blowjobs.

LegacyUser · 10-03-2009 12:39am

You are not alone

A penis is never clean. It pisses out urine so to speak and lives beside the anus? How can it be clean. I think it is the most discusting thing in the world and giving head too. By all means , if you want your mouth full of germs, bacteria , disease , etc etc, fire away, but for me its not attractive. The penis i do not believe was designed to be put in a mouth, it was designed to be put in the vagina really.

Zaph · 10-03-2009 2:04am

Sútalún wrote: »

Still give grinds??

On topic..
Eh I love blowjobs.

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tony1kenobi · 10-03-2009 2:06am

Unregistered wrote: »

You are not alone

A penis is never clean. It pisses out urine so to speak and lives beside the anus? How can it be clean. I think it is the most discusting thing in the world and giving head too. By all means , if you want your mouth full of germs, bacteria , disease , etc etc, fire away, but for me its not attractive. The penis i do not believe was designed to be put in a mouth, it was designed to be put in the vagina really.

A vagina that is right next to an anus?? That's disgusting surely.......

....and a mouth will always have a lot more germs than a penis.

sam34 · 10-03-2009 2:07am

Unregistered wrote: »

You are not alone

A penis is never clean. It pisses out urine so to speak and lives beside the anus? How can it be clean. I think it is the most discusting thing in the world and giving head too. By all means , if you want your mouth full of germs, bacteria , disease , etc etc, fire away, but for me its not attractive. The penis i do not believe was designed to be put in a mouth, it was designed to be put in the vagina really.

the penis is not right beside the anus

seacláid-te · 10-03-2009 9:47am

sorry there, but did you know that there is 100 trillion million bacteria living on your body at any giving moment, you are the ultimate buffet for them, they live on you and in you! Then there is also the air that surrounds you, it is full of bacteria, and then there is also public trasnport, toilets ect so if thats whats stopping you...

LegacyUser · 10-03-2009 12:52pm

seacláid-te wrote: »

sorry there, but did you know that there is 100 trillion million bacteria living on your body at any giving moment, you are the ultimate buffet for them, they live on you and in you! Then there is also the air that surrounds you, it is full of bacteria, and then there is also public trasnport, toilets ect so if thats whats stopping you...

Yes , I did know this, doh!!!!

LegacyUser · 10-03-2009 12:56pm

sam34 wrote: »

the penis is not right beside the anus

Yes It does!!! It lives in the same underpants, practically the same thing. They are pretty near each other!!!! Do I have to give exact measurements, they are VERY NEAR!!!!!!

Zaphara · 10-03-2009 7:34pm

I really cant understand people on here saying she has 'a sexual phobia'

Get over youselves people.

Some people will do it, some people won't. I know lots of girls who find it disgusting.
I have done it once and never again.

Men havent a clue what its like. Theres a difference between licking something and having something shoved forcefully into your mouth, and trying not to get sick.

And especially when theyre not happy unless you look like you're really enjoying it.

Oooohhh trying not to vomit and they want you to look like you love it, no wonder alot of people hate it. It's a big lie.

I don't like receiving it either. It's everybody's personal opinion. some girls have really small mouths, which makes it very uncomfortable. Do you really want your partner to be in pain?

sam34 · 10-03-2009 8:06pm

Unregistered wrote: »

Yes It does!!! It lives in the same underpants, practically the same thing. They are pretty near each other!!!! Do I have to give exact measurements, they are VERY NEAR!!!!!!

i repeat, the penis is not "right next" to the anus.
they are near each other, but nonetheless not right next to each other

Terodil · 10-03-2009 8:15pm

Zaphara wrote: »

I really cant understand people on here saying she has 'a sexual phobia'

Get over youselves people.

Some people will do it, some people won't. I know lots of girls who find it disgusting.
I have done it once and never again.

Full agreement up to here!

Zaphara wrote: »

Men havent a clue what its like. Theres a difference between licking something and having something shoved forcefully into your mouth, and trying not to get sick.

Several points here:

1. If you got it 'shoved forcefully' into your mouth even though you let him know that you were new to that entire thing, then I'm very sorry that you had to go through such an unpleasant experience. The guy must have been a real a*. You cannot do that to somebody who is trying out something totally strange with a high 'yuk' potential.

2. That said, I pretty much have a clue of what it's like. It's called 'empathy', and contrary to what some people would try to make us believe, even men can have it.

Zaphara wrote: »

And especially when theyre not happy unless you look like you're really enjoying it.

Yeah, correct for most men. But look at it this way, many men wouldn't get any pleasure from it if their partner didn't enjoy it. I personally would crumple up xD

Zaphara wrote: »

Oooohhh trying not to vomit and they want you to look like you love it, no wonder alot of people hate it. It's a big lie.

I would hope not. Lying about such stuff in a relationship is silly IMO and serves neither man nor woman. I would be mortified if I learnt that my OH did it only because she believed it would please me but actually hated it.

Zaphara wrote: »

I don't like receiving it either. It's everybody's personal opinion. some girls have really small mouths, which makes it very uncomfortable. Do you really want your partner to be in pain?

No, that's just my point. Full agreement here.

Blow jobs - womans perspective

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