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Whats is the Best Wedding You Have Gone to or The Best Bits

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    #62
    Milly33
    Registered Users Posts: 8,638 ✭✭✭Milly33


    Really why would it be patronising. Sure most weddings you go to you would have your free bubbly and then the bar on the evening so, would it not be the same. I wouldn't be bothered at all by it to be hones (get it haha) sorry I had to.

    But lets say if we went to the bar we would not be paying for all the drink for the night so the same goes for this really. The other option was to bring your own but I can see that being to messing keeping track of who owns what..

    Jes I could imagine the outbreak if one of the aunties took the others brandy!! Entertainment for the evening


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    #63
    lazygal
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    Are you buying and then supplying the drink at the venue? If so either set up a proper bar or provide all drink free. Honesty boxes are a pain because of change, not being able to use a card and I find it patronising being asked to be "honest" at someone's hosted event. It went down like a lead balloon at a family wedding in a marquee where the couple wanted it to see like a free bar but the suggested"honesty" tab was quite expensive for bottles of beer and wine.


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    #64
    Milly33
    Registered Users Posts: 8,638 ✭✭✭Milly33


    No it would be nothing like that now.. There is a bar in the venue but there is no licence (money cannot exchange hands) and you have to stock it.

    So we will be buying all the drink to stock the bar and having a bar man or woman to serve. Now the options are really

    1. you buy tickets from a certain person ,for a certain price, and each time you go to the bar you swop a drink for a ticket with the barman. Flaws that people will be chasing around one or two people for the night looking to buy tickets and then in turn they will be walking around with a pocketful of money..

    2. Is to buy a ticket at the bar - Flaw the bar man cannot take the money

    3. Free bar - Flaw people go mad and just end up drinking too much.

    4. Which is what we were thinking is you have an honesty box at the bar with a price list of drinks nothing crazy something like all pints €3 and then a bottle of wine €10 softdrinks €1. People order their drink and just pop in then what they owe, or even just drop in €20 to go towards what is spent no one will be guarding the box so it is up to people what they put it really...Fine some could take the piss but I think it avoids people going yeah free booze for the night lets get sloshes..

    5. You can ask people to bring their own- flaw others end up drinking others and auntie one, gets auntie b in a headlock for drinking her drink!! Love it..

    thanks for the card reminder too we must put that in the invites to let people know their wont be one


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    #65
    clint_silver
    Registered Users Posts: 2,895 ✭✭✭clint_silver


    Milly33 wrote: »
    No it would be nothing like that now.. There is a bar in the venue but there is no licence (money cannot exchange hands) and you have to stock it.

    So we will be buying all the drink to stock the bar and having a bar man or woman to serve. Now the options are really

    1. you buy tickets from a certain person ,for a certain price, and each time you go to the bar you swop a drink for a ticket with the barman. Flaws that people will be chasing around one or two people for the night looking to buy tickets and then in turn they will be walking around with a pocketful of money..

    2. Is to buy a ticket at the bar - Flaw the bar man cannot take the money

    3. Free bar - Flaw people go mad and just end up drinking too much.

    4. Which is what we were thinking is you have an honesty box at the bar with a price list of drinks nothing crazy something like all pints €3 and then a bottle of wine €10 softdrinks €1. People order their drink and just pop in then what they owe, or even just drop in €20 to go towards what is spent no one will be guarding the box so it is up to people what they put it really...Fine some could take the piss but I think it avoids people going yeah free booze for the night lets get sloshes..

    5. You can ask people to bring their own- flaw others end up drinking others and auntie one, gets auntie b in a headlock for drinking her drink!! Love it..

    thanks for the card reminder too we must put that in the invites to let people know their wont be one

    if theyre the type to drink too much, they'll do it free bar or no.


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    #66
    Milly33
    Registered Users Posts: 8,638 ✭✭✭Milly33


    true


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    #67
    kkcatlou
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    clint_silver wrote: »
    if theyre the type to drink too much, they'll do it free bar or no.

    Another suggestion (what we're doing) - free drink up til dinner that we provide ourselves...not in a bar, just in buckets, wheelbarrows, on tables, etc.

    Then after dinner we have a licensed barman coming in to run the bar for us. He's promised he won't fleece our guests (max €4 a pint and €5 for spirit + mixer). He brings his "license" with him as such and uses their fixtures. Would you look into that? Maybe ask your local publican is it something he can do for you? Or I could give you the number of our guy, but he's based in Dublin so it mightn't be worth his while.


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    #68
    kandr10
    Registered Users Posts: 1,601 ✭✭✭kandr10


    kkcatlou wrote: »
    Another suggestion (what we're doing) - free drink up til dinner that we provide ourselves...not in a bar, just in buckets, wheelbarrows, on tables, etc.

    Then after dinner we have a licensed barman coming in to run the bar for us. He's promised he won't fleece our guests (max €4 a pint and €5 for spirit + mixer). He brings his "license" with him as such and uses their fixtures. Would you look into that? Maybe ask your local publican is it something he can do for you? Or I could give you the number of our guy, but he's based in Dublin so it mightn't be worth his while.

    I've seen the beers in a wheelbarrow thing . It's cool. I think with a free bar you'll get one or two abusing it but that's it. Most people are just honest anyway!


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    #69
    Milly33
    Registered Users Posts: 8,638 ✭✭✭Milly33


    Yeah I have the beer thought in barrows aswell. Himself does a bit of homebrewing so we were thinking of having a few of these free to anyone who wants and then for anyone who wants to pay there is that option too.. Was thinking homebrew beer, homebrew elderflower cordial for the kids. Wed have it free alright or well we will have champers before the meal and then wine at dinner and then after the pay for your own will come in.. I really didn't think twas a bad idea


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    #70
    kandr10
    Registered Users Posts: 1,601 ✭✭✭kandr10


    Milly33 wrote: »
    Yeah I have the beer thought in barrows aswell. Himself does a bit of homebrewing so we were thinking of having a few of these free to anyone who wants and then for anyone who wants to pay there is that option too.. Was thinking homebrew beer, homebrew elderflower cordial for the kids. Wed have it free alright or well we will have champers before the meal and then wine at dinner and then after the pay for your own will come in.. I really didn't think twas a bad idea

    That seems reasonable cos it's the usual wine/ reception drink followed by paid bar. I think it's a lovely touch to have home brew . People will appreciate it.


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    #71
    Neyite
    Administrators, Politics Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 25,947 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭Neyite


    Milly33 wrote: »
    Yeah I have the beer thought in barrows aswell. Himself does a bit of homebrewing so we were thinking of having a few of these free to anyone who wants and then for anyone who wants to pay there is that option too.. Was thinking homebrew beer, homebrew elderflower cordial for the kids. Wed have it free alright or well we will have champers before the meal and then wine at dinner and then after the pay for your own will come in.. I really didn't think twas a bad idea

    Homebrew craft beer and cordial are a lovely lovely touch!

    And balancing the free bar with a barman later is both generous and sensible. Yours sounds like a lovely wedding. Are you doing a marquee or outdoor venue?


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    #72
    Milly33
    Registered Users Posts: 8,638 ✭✭✭Milly33


    Yeah!! I was getting worried there for a while when a few were saying no not to do it.. We are having I suppose a rented estate type wedding there is lots of room outside so we are hoping to take full advantage of this and have things indoors and outdoors, but mostly outdoors as it will be fun...

    The home brew if any of ye ladies are into it or men would be interested in it. It is actually not that difficult, himself makes it not me but the most time tasking part of it is putting it into bottles.. Nice stuff you by a pack boil it up leave for a while, bottle and hello beer.. Its great!!


    I never thought of the bar man being licenced that is the first time now kkcatlou we were told that the local bar would have contacts for people to work on the night but nothing like you mentioned. Might be another option thanks if it all gets too much


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    #73
    amdublin
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    Milly33 wrote: »

    1. you buy tickets from a certain person ,for a certain price, and each time you go to the bar you swop a drink for a ticket with the barman. Flaws that people will be chasing around one or two people for the night looking to buy tickets and then in turn they will be walking around with a pocketful of money..

    Why not have someone sitting at a table/booth "selling" the tickets i.e. someone goes to the booth to buy their tickets.

    Obviously you don't want one person sitting there all night so ask friends to cover it for an hour each - arrange a schedule, and one person to co-ordinate it all night.

    Suggestion you do a flat rate of a fiver a drink.
    Plus a bar I was at that had that used "casino chips" as the tickets - felt cool kind've like a coin.

    Do not do an "honesty box". I've never heard the like of it :rolleyes: And it'll be a nightmare counting it up the next day (a) you're going to get loads of ten cents and 20 cents and 50c's, not to mention the 1's, 2's and 5's!!!! and (b) chance's are it won't add up to what you are expecting and you'll be all mad and it'll become an issue for you and your husband to sort.

    Frankly though do you really want to be "collecting money" on your wedding day. I think you should either do a free bar or a regular bar.


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    #74
    Milly33
    Registered Users Posts: 8,638 ✭✭✭Milly33


    Were not doing it for the money so that side doesn't bother me, defo sticking with €3. €5 id be like feck that and be bringing my own vodka haha.. I could not bring myself to ask someone to sit in a corner selling tickets for the an hour or a few hours would feel like I am overasking, for a kids party maybe but for a wedding nope defo not..


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    #75
    amdublin
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    Milly33 wrote: »
    Were not doing it for the money so that side doesn't bother me, defo sticking with €3. €5 id be like feck that and be bringing my own vodka haha.. I could not bring myself to ask someone to sit in a corner selling tickets for the an hour or a few hours would feel like I am overasking, for a kids party maybe but for a wedding nope defo not..

    If you're not doing it for the money then don't do it all!!

    Why would you charge if you don't need the money?!


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    #76
    Milly33
    Registered Users Posts: 8,638 ✭✭✭Milly33


    To stop people going crazy, ah tis grand was just looking for a few tips that's it...


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    #77
    amdublin
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    Milly33 wrote: »
    To stop people going crazy, ah tis grand was just looking for a few tips that's it...

    Are you are underestimating your friends?


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    #78
    Milly33
    Registered Users Posts: 8,638 ✭✭✭Milly33


    Nope not in the slightest but I would prefer to see them up doing the duckie dance than sitting behind a table for a few hours :)


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    #79
    amdublin
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    Milly33 wrote: »
    Nope not in the slightest but I would prefer to see them up doing the duckie dance than sitting behind a table for a few hours :)

    Agree. Just do the free bar I reckon.


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    #80
    Gatica
    Registered Users Posts: 3,299 ✭✭✭Gatica


    Best wedding was in the US, short 20 min outdoor ceremony, no boring mass to sit through, personal and meaningful... Glorious sunshine helps I'm sure.
    Food wasn't of note but for once didn't feel stuffed after dinner and but the atmosphere was great. Outdoor seating and dancing, free drinks. Shame it ends earlier than here. Stayed up late though singing and drinking.
    It's a shame it's difficult to do that here.


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