Facebooking dead people

I guess if I didn't do it myself I would say it is weird. My brother died nearly 2 years ago he was 22. We were incredibly close and always had a laugh on Facebook. I got his page memorialised after he died. I go onto his page maybe once a week but last year I would have been on his page a lot more. It comforts me to see his friends haven't forgotten about him. He went suddenly and accidentally so it's nice to be able to look back on the stuff he would post up as he was hilariously funny and I miss him terribly. I can tell you with all honestly that it's not for attention. It's just a place to go that he used a lot. I go to his grave also of course each week.

Edited to say after my brother died he got about 50 friend requests which I thought was peculiar. I declined every one of them. I also got about 30 friend requests that I declined. Friends of friends.

Whether I think I'd do it myself or not, criticising people for how they deal with the loss of someone close isn't cool. Loads of stuff in the FB thread on here makes me cringe but this is something I won't ever judge someone on.

La_Gordy wrote: »

An acquaintance of mine was murdered two years ago and I had to block his Facebook page as our friends posting on it was so upsetting, and I'd upset myself by looking at things he said, YouTube clips he posted, things he laughed at. What pushed me to blocking it really though was when people posted pictures of his funeral and for fear they'd start tagging his casket I had to. Awful awful this Facebook pish

Yeah - this one got me. Taking photos at a funeral. Is this remotely normal or ok?

A few years ago, I had to stop myself from doing it. I was telling my uncle in Australia who couldn't make it home all about the funeral. I was reading his memorial piece at the church.
Anyway, for some reason, I came out the wrong door of the church, and I was standing half way up to the graveyard watching the funeral procession coming up. I had the phone in my hand, ready to take a few photos for my uncle & then thought 'what the fcuk are you doing? Taking photos at a funeral'. So I stopped.

To me, it seems weird. But then maybe it is ok.

donvito99 wrote: »

Someone could "frape" them saying, "I'm back, bitches" or something along those crude lines.

a vile waster from the UK did that; setting up accounts under peoples names who were killled in difficult circumstances [apologies from the bottom of heart for posting a daily mail link]-
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2036935/Natasha-MacBryde-death-Facebook-internet-troll-Sean-Duffy-jailed.html
thankfuly got jailed for it.


as for this facebook praying thing going on,can understand if it helps people come to terms with it,perhaps help them feel like the person may even see it from wherever they are-if that is their belief and it helps them then so be it.
its common practice on catster;which is like facebook but for peoples cats instead.
its good to celebrate their lives.

Queen-Mise wrote: »

Yeah - this one got me. Taking photos at a funeral. Is this remotely normal or ok?

A few years ago, I had to stop myself from doing it. I was telling my uncle in Australia who couldn't make it home all about the funeral. I was reading his memorial piece at the church.
Anyway, for some reason, I came out the wrong door of the church, and I was standing half way up to the graveyard watching the funeral procession coming up. I had the phone in my hand, ready to take a few photos for my uncle & then thought 'what the fcuk are you doing? Taking photos at a funeral'. So I stopped.

To me, it seems weird. But then maybe it is ok.

I have a whole story about a guy who came to my friend's funeral, took pictures and posted them all on Facebook with the casket tagged as her. I've posted it on here a few times. One of the most self-centered, disrespectful things I've ever witnessed.

Da Shins Kelly wrote: »

I dunno. It might seem strange that it's public, but I know people who still have the phone numbers of dead relatives on their phones and won't delete any messages from them. I know someone who used to call their dead relative's phone just so they could listen to their voice on the voicemail. I doubt she's the only person who's done that. Maybe the Facebook thing is just a newer version of that. I think it's part of the grieving process.

Someone better warn them that the mobile provider recycles unused numbers after about a year, you don't want to be there when the called phone answers!!

I've seen two different sets of open casket photos on Facebook. One was somebody I didn't know but I still found it upsetting and disrespectful. When it was my friend I felt very angry but this was done because none of his family could make it to the funeral. I hated it, hence the preemptive blocking, and I doubt it brought them any comfort but who knows.

I wonder though are these kinds of considerations just current social mores which will fade away as social media becomes more & more integrated into our lives. Years ago when mobile phone use started to become widespread it was frowned upon (by most people anyway) to take a call when out in a cafe/pub, you'd step outside to do so rather than chatting away in front of your companions. Nowadays, unless it's too noisy or the signal is bad people generally seem to be fine with chatting/texting/twittering on their phones while out - ignoring the person/people with them until they're finished.

Will stuff like tagging people's coffins ("John has just checked into Mount Jerome Cemetary"), etc which now seems incredibly crass & stupid become perfectly normal over time, as has happened with previously unacceptable mobile phone behaviour?

PlainP wrote: »

Philosophist???

Psycho something?
Literacy skills are not there anymore, English isn't my first language btw...