Anxiety and/or depression discussion.

first time crying since starting my meds properly in march/April
horrible

No idea where to go from here. I am more or less homeless not in the most awful sense but I have to rely on the kindness of others, my pride has taken a massive hit. Everything seems so simple to other people I get criticized and it is implied that I'm not employing my best efforts to get out of the situation. Other people seem unable to empathise unless they find themselves in a similar situation. I know I'm not happy here but there is no other choice.

Gremlinertia wrote: »

Can you contact Threshold perhaps? I was briefly homeless myself, and relying on other people at the time made my mindset worse, so went to Simon charity instead who helped out. One step at a time..

Thanks for the advice. When I said not in the most 'awful sense' I meant that I'm not under threat of being on the streets but I still have to live with others until I'm am financially secure enough to move out. Those charities do tremendous work.

Relatively okay last two days. Now I have to work and I'm struggling to get out of bed. I was feeling so decent yesterday decided not bother with the go like I planned. I really hope I don't have to go go me early again. I even had a panic attack in a dream. I am so ****ed up.

Roquentin wrote: »

turn your anxiety into something positive

Fear and Anxiety are different.No???

Relevant lyrics right now:
Hold on, baby, you're losing it
The water's high, you're jumping into it
And letting go... and no one knows
That you cry, but you don't tell anyone
That you might not be the golden one
And you're tied together with a smile
But you're coming undone

kronsington wrote: »

Anyone in here practice meditation? Been reading up about it and keen to give it a try

In one way it is a bit like exercise / running / going to the gym / learning to play a musical instrument - for it to work, you have to keep at it.

A simple method I find very effective:

Sit comfortably somewhere quiet. Close your eyes. Breathe naturally but maybe a bit slower than usual. Use your diaphragm (this bit is important). Counter-intuitively, when breathing in (your belly goes out if you are using your diaphragm) mentally say the word 'out'. Then, when breathing out, mentally say the word 'in'. So, when belly goes out, think 'out' and when your belly goes in, think 'in'.

Thoughts will intrude, always, for everyone. When you notice this, just return to your breathing, silently saying 'out' and 'in' as you breathe in and out.

The above paragraph is the important one! Don't be discouraged by the distraction, just return your focus to your breathing. This bit is very important - even crucial.

Ten to twenty minutes twice a day is often recommended, but even a minute or less when you can is great. You don't even have to close your eyes sometimes! You can do it in work, on the bus, walking down the street, waiting in a queue, etc.

A single cycle of slow(er) breathing using your diaphragm can work wonders in helping you to relax.

Breathing using your diaphragm is the thing. You can do it after getting into bed to sleep, and it can help a lot in falling asleep.


As I said above, keep at it. Don't be discouraged if it is difficult at first.

Edit: If doing the 10/20 minute version, loosen anything tight around your waist so your diaphragm can do its job.

Diaphragmatic breathing is what we should use all the time tbh - unless we need a major inhalation for some reason, in which case use the upper (think rib cage) muscles as well.

Non-diaphragmatic breathing does not promote relaxation, imo.

Using your diaphragm to breathe, and the benefits it brings, are well worth the effort - again imo.

Also added: the sentence in bold above.

Breathing so hard today..so shallow..a midst of anxiety over me. Got to take the first step towards freedom again and never look back (exercise..diet..exercise..diet)

Roquentin wrote: »

have to admit i share similar views. was asked to go over to spain this summer and turned it down, purely because i cant hack that heat. Ok in the day time you can be in the pool, but ****ing hell at night it gets serious, even with air con.

have to admit i love the winter. escpecially the cool summer days that merge into the cool starry nights

Yeah I feel from here on in the weather has lots of character about it too...it just feels more interesting :D