Is it disrespectful to walk on people's graves?

xflyer wrote: »

A lot of graveyards are very busy so it's hard to avoid other people's graves. When I went to show my sons their granny's grave. Not my Mother (she's still alive) but hers. I had no choice and they could give a damm. We stamped all over other people's graves.

But I don't think they care and frankly I wouldn't either being dead and all. So it's not an issue. If dead people were aware of anything they'd be glad anyone came near them.

It's not that the dead would notice but that living family members would and frankly it shouldn't even need to be said to anyone who had any cop on.

PickledLime wrote: »

To all the thundering gobsheens saying 'they're just bones lol!' have you had the grief of burying a loved one in the last few years? Thought not, because your attitude would be very, very different.

As for walking on them, well if there's no way around it (as is the case in certain parts of old cemeteries) and you have to walk within the grave's demarcation, so be it, but try to disturb it as little as possible. As for someone who'd deliberately walk on someone's grave, they should probably look up the terms 'morals' and 'respect' because they clearly have neither.

So I'm a gobsheen am I? That's nice. I think you should get off your high horse of respect before you start calling names.

Stop presuming how other people will think. I buried someone very close to me just over a year ago but I still think its a pile of bones in a wooden box in the ground. I know that the dead person won't notice so it doesn't bother me in that respect. To quote another poster I don't "show respect to silly religious beliefs". Although I wouldn't walk across a grave not out of respect but just not to offend anyone or cause myself trouble. Maybe that is respect, but for the living, not a corpse.

As for posters who go and call names and make presumptions without reading into the situation "they should probably look up the terms 'morals' and 'respect' because they clearly have neither."

Stiffler2 wrote: »

No it's not disrespectful depending on the age of said grave.

To make some money tho I enjoy strealing headstones, sanding them down and re-selling them on......

What is this "strealing" you speak of? If it involves a swag bag count me in.

Also as a rule I wouldn't walk on a grave as a mark of respect.

Personally? Yes I think so, but primarily a sign of disrespect to the family, relatives, friends etc of the dead rather than the dead person themselves.

I would avoid it when at all possible, there's no real need to be walking over the graves of others.

Jeez it's hard to believe that 88 people would just trudge over the graves of other peoples family members. Would ye jump on the coffin when it is in the funeral parlour as well I wonder?

It is either disrespectful or is it isnt. Like in the way, saying "You're a cnut" is universally seen to be disrespectful.
But in the his case, walking alone through a graveyard taking shortcuts is disrespectful, but on the day of a packed funeral, 100s of people climbing all over graves is no bother at all.

It doesn't matter, it's primitive superstition. Akin to those people who say they'd donate certain things, but they wouldn't donate their eyes. As if the use of ones eyes is something that will matter when you are dead.

true-or-false wrote: »

Respect and good manners aren't physical absolutes, they're tactful, good sense, and show interpersonal skills. If it's a superstition, so what? It shows respect to the people who do care and it takes no terrible effort.

It takes less effort to not care one way or the other. It isn't as if I go out of my way to walk on graves. Hell, it isn't as if I find myself near them all that much, so don't lose sleep over it.

If you think you need a reason like "because the dead will rise up and kill you and be all angry and stuff", then there's something you're seriously overlooking. You shouldn't need a reason to be considerate when it's not going to cost you anything.

I think one should treat others as they themselves would like to be treated. So, when I see a topic that is vacuous, I tend to treat it as such.

It depends on the intent. It doesn't bother me that someone might walk on my grave (at some point in the long distant future), but I would not deliberately walk on someone's grave, its sort of 'their - or their relatives' - space'. If you are inside an old church there is every chance you are walking on bodies as important (or rich) people were often buried within the building.