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Is it disrespectful to walk on people's graves?

  • 28-04-2012 8:13pm
    #1
    SharpshooterTom
    Registered Users Posts: 3,017 ✭✭✭


    Do you think its disrespectful to walk on someone's grave??

    I was in a conversation with a friend who got really annoyed when he heard someone walk over his mothers grave, carelessly. But in reality we are all dead, does it matter? Especially if the grave is over 100 years old?

    I personally couldn't care, the point of humanity is to die and provide nutrients to the soil and the earth to which people walk on anyway. Is this wrong and disrespectful to walk on someone's grave??

    Is It Disrespectful To Walk On Someone Else's Grave?? 259 votes

    Yes
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    No
    100% 259 votes


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  • #2
    Helix
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,661 ✭✭✭✭Helix


    its a cultural thing, here in canada it's not because the gave is just the headstone, people stand over where the bodies are buried when paying their respects


  • #3
    FloatingVoter
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,133 ✭✭✭FloatingVoter


    No pissing, ****ting, or fornicating on my grave or I'll come back and haunt you all.
    Knacker drinking without leaving a tinnie for me is forbidden.
    Other than that, walk on.


  • #4
    Blatter
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12,832 ✭✭✭✭Blatter


    Depends on the intentions. If you're trying to clean it or put flowers on it, no.

    If your doing it to shorten your path or just doing it to be a massive dick, yes.


  • #5
    DEFTLEFTHAND
    Registered Users Posts: 16,500 ✭✭✭✭DEFTLEFTHAND


    Depends on the circumstance really, if it can be avoided then don't.


  • #6
    MisterEpicurus
    Closed Accounts Posts: 588 ✭✭✭MisterEpicurus


    Some people are just ****ing old fashioned..."I wouldn't let them walk all over me alive, certainly don't want it done when I'm dead"


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  • #7
    Jesus Shaves
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,959 ✭✭✭Jesus Shaves


    Who cares, the person under you is dead anyway










































    said the necrophaeliac


  • #8
    Jimmy Iovine
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,416 ✭✭✭Jimmy Iovine


    It all depends on yourself and what you think. I never do it and don't particularly like when people do it. Walking on the borders is fine but walking straight across seems a bit stupid when there are plenty of decent paths running through all graveyards.

    The worst I've seen though is a woman who used to sit on top of my granny and grandads gravestone every year at the graveyard mass. That's the height of disrespect in my book. Told her to eff off one year and she hasn't been back since. Plenty of people bring fold up chairs to the masses, why couldn't she?


  • #9
    stovelid
    Closed Accounts Posts: 27,252 ✭✭✭✭stovelid


    A pile of bones won't get overly offended by it I'm sure.


  • #10
    Fenian Army
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,483 ✭✭✭Fenian Army


    Of course its disrespectful, not to mention annoying, takes ages to get the stones level etc


    I wouldn't walk on someones grave unless I was cleaning it or something


  • #11
    A.Partridge
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 680 ✭✭✭A.Partridge


    Huh ?

    No Atari Jaguar option ?


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  • #12
    Sunnyisland
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,562 ✭✭✭✭Sunnyisland


    I would go out of my way not to walk on peoples graves, People have chosen that spot where they want to be when they die, Out of respect for them people I would not. Its there last place to rest, Do not disturb.


  • #13
    boomkatalog
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,598 ✭✭✭boomkatalog


    With the amount of people that have come and gone before us, there's surely 'graves' everywhere? You can't walk where nobody was ever buried, I highly doubt every body has been put in a marked grave inside a graveyard.


  • #14
    Milk & Honey
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 1,950 ✭✭✭Milk & Honey


    Gnobe wrote: »

    I was in a conversation with a friend who got really annoyed when he heard someone walk over his mothers grave, carelessly. But in reality we are all dead, does it matter? Especially if the grave is over 100 years old?

    ?

    His mother died 100 years ago. What age is he?


  • #15
    charlemont
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,725 ✭✭✭charlemont


    realies wrote: »
    I would go out of my way not to walk on peoples graves, People have chosen that spot where they want to be when they die, Out of respect for them people I would not. Its there last place to rest, Do not disturb.

    That would be my thought on the matter too.
    Although I want some Weed seeds scattered on my grave...


  • #16
    Cybercubed
    Closed Accounts Posts: 79 ✭✭Cybercubed


    realies wrote: »
    Its there last place to rest, Do not disturb.

    They wont know they're dead.


  • #17
    Fighting Irish
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,065 ✭✭✭Fighting Irish


    Nope, not at all!


  • #18
    MarkR
    Moderators, Regional Midwest Moderators Posts: 11,144 Mod ✭✭✭✭MarkR


    Where my grandmother is buried, it's a very old cemetery. There isn't paths between one row and the next. So yeah, I do.

    Once you have respect.


  • #19
    Blatter
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12,832 ✭✭✭✭Blatter


    stovelid wrote: »
    A pile of bones won't get overly offended by it I'm sure.

    That isn't the point.

    What if a complete stranger took a shit on one of your grandparent's grave?

    Would you be offended?


  • #20
    woodoo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,219 ✭✭✭woodoo


    Yes it most certainly is. Anyone saying otherwise is a gulpin.


  • #21
    stovelid
    Closed Accounts Posts: 27,252 ✭✭✭✭stovelid


    realies wrote: »
    Do not disturb.

    Not much chance of disturbing them in fairness.


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  • #22
    KittyeeTrix
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,239 ✭✭✭KittyeeTrix


    Personally I would find it very disrespectful and would never walk over the grave of a person.......
    Obviously the dead wouldn't know but I'd know and that would disturb me!!


  • #23
    hairyprincess
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,297 ✭✭✭hairyprincess


    Milk & Honey wrote: »
    His mother died 100 years ago. What age is he?

    Exactly what I was thinking!!


  • #24
    GarIT
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,671 ✭✭✭GarIT


    I wouldn't see a problem with it at all. I wouldn't do it though because I wouldn't want to annoy or upset someone else for no reason. I've only ever been to a graveyard once and don't plan on going much at all for at least 50 more years so its not a problem got me.


  • #25
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 3,505 ✭ [Deleted User]


    If you do it with respect, it's fine (e.g. if you have to in order to tend to it or if there's no way around it).

    If you're having and oul' stroll across with no regard for the meaning of the place, you're being disrespectful and incredibly ignorant.


  • #26
    franciebellew
    Site Banned Posts: 148 ✭✭franciebellew


    I farted whilst robbing the flowers off a grave one time.

    Did I stand on it? F*ck no


  • #27
    woodoo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,219 ✭✭✭woodoo


    franciebellew wrote: »
    I farted whilst robbing the flowers off a grave one time.

    Did I stand on it? F*ck no

    Robbing from someones grave is unbelievably scummy.


  • #28
    Awful_Bliss
    Registered Users Posts: 262 ✭✭Awful_Bliss


    It's not disrespectful if it's Charles Haughey's grave. You'd be doing the country a favour!


  • #29
    minidazzler
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,739 ✭✭✭✭minidazzler


    There are ~125 cu ft of dirt between me and the dead person, what difference does it make?


  • #30
    paddyandy
    Site Banned Posts: 2,037 ✭✭✭paddyandy


    If you walk on a grave and you wake in the night with something tugging at yer ankle then it's time to stop it .


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  • #31
    IM0
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,390 ✭✭✭IM0


    only if you dont dance


  • #32
    franciebellew
    Site Banned Posts: 148 ✭✭franciebellew


    woodoo wrote: »
    Robbing from someones grave is unbelievably scummy.

    Not whilst farting tis not


  • #33
    Millicent
    Registered Users Posts: 4,559 ✭✭✭Millicent


    woodoo wrote: »
    Robbing from someones grave is unbelievably scummy.

    You know what's worse? People vandalising graves. I heard of a family who lost their child and vandals kept smashing it up and stealing the teddies and toys off it. I'm not sure I believe in hell but if there is such a place, I hope those fuckers rot in it.


  • #34
    Toby Take a Bow
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,732 ✭✭✭Toby Take a Bow


    Gnobe wrote: »
    the point of humanity is to die and provide nutrients to the soil and the earth to which people walk on anyway.

    I would have a very different understanding of the point of humanity. Unless I'm seriously depressed.
    Blatter wrote: »

    What if a complete stranger took a shit on one of your grandparent's grave?

    Would you be offended?

    I guess it depends on context. If you're walking on someone's grave in order to cause offense, then it's offensive. Similarly, if you're caught in a graveyard, and there are no public toilets (there never are in graveyards) then the act isn't offensive. If it's an angry **** to spite the dead person, however ...


  • #35
    Ciaran0
    Registered Users Posts: 213 ✭✭Ciaran0


    Well it can't be offensive to the dead because they've ceased existing and all, but I would consider it offensive to living relatives or friends of the dead person, seeing as they're the ones who look after the grave and all.

    I'd have no qualms walking over graves that are ancient. If you think about it, because life on earth has been going on for so long, no matter where you stand you're probably over the remains of countless dead organisms. It's kind of how nature works.


  • #36
    aido76
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 614 ✭✭✭aido76


    The title of the Poll is - Is It Disrespectful To Walk On Someone Else's Grave??
    I hope you can't walk on your own grave!

    Personnally I think it is unless it can't be avoided.


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  • #37
    Stinicker
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 7,102 ✭✭✭Stinicker


    Nothing wrong with it, especially if it was a corrupt Fianna Fail traitor.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pifibs_q7ec


  • #38
    monkeypants
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,386 ✭✭✭monkeypants


    Gnobe wrote: »
    I was in a conversation with a friend who got really annoyed when he heard someone walk over his mothers grave, carelessly.
    Wow, his hearing is really good!


  • #39
    El Inho
    Registered Users Posts: 3,655 ✭✭✭El Inho


    I don't think it is, but I avoid it when possible.

    I am a funeral director myself, and understand this is the belief among the majority. So I've been brought up not to tread on a grave, while also knowing mourners would expect me to avoid this when possible.

    Sometimes it is unavoidable in my trade, but it doesn't take that much effort to 'walk the tight-rope' along the side of graves!


  • #40
    Novella
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,713 ✭✭✭✭Novella


    I wouldn't walk on someone's grave. I've never been in a cemetery where it wasn't possible to walk around graves so I see no need for it. I've only been in cemeteries where there are paths so yeah, to see someone walking on a grave in that instance would, to me, be disrespectful.


  • #41
    Jimoslimos
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,930 ✭✭✭Jimoslimos


    Disrespectful to the dead person? No
    To their relatives/friends/etc? Perhaps yes, especially if they're present.

    BTW, you're all free to dance, drink, fornicate or whatever on mine, should I be buried:pac:


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  • #42
    paddyandy
    Site Banned Posts: 2,037 ✭✭✭paddyandy


    I'll have to wait a while to get some respect.....i don't get a lot now .


  • #43
    Tom Cruise
    Closed Accounts Posts: 124 ✭✭Tom Cruise


    I was told by my elders it is bad.And that the person may haunt you.


  • #44
    secretambition
    Closed Accounts Posts: 192 ✭✭secretambition


    I wouldn't intentionally walk straight over someones grave. There aren't always sufficient paths and in old graveyards the graves may not be clearly defined anymore, but I would certainly try to keep to the perimeter.


  • #45
    Badly Drunk Boy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,699 ✭✭✭Badly Drunk Boy


    The thing about it is...some older graves aren't very solid (for want of a better word) and sometimes you might find your foot going through the surface of the grave. (I don't mean down to the coffin but I think over time, the soil under the surface can sink). I've a few graves where this had happened and my father accidentally did it to his father's grave so he had to get it fixed.


  • #46
    MyKeyG
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,282 ✭✭✭MyKeyG


    I'd be very conscious not to do it myself and I'd notice if someone did do it but I don't think I'd look at them as if they were being disrespectful. For me it's just not the done thing.


  • #47
    1hnr79jr65
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 916 ✭✭✭1hnr79jr65


    I love how people go all "its about respect" when respect is earned and being dead does not automatically qualify you for that.

    Too many use respect as an excuse these days to get their way or to shame others and the meaning is lost.


  • #48
    Mr.Biscuits
    Closed Accounts Posts: 750 ✭✭✭Mr.Biscuits


    Beside the Bronze Bull down in Wolfe Tone Square (alongside Jervis St) there are graves and headstones in the ground all along one side of the park and people walk over them all the time, most of them unbeknownst (to them or the dead).


  • #49
    MyKeyG
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,282 ✭✭✭MyKeyG


    Sour Lemonz wrote: »
    I love how people go all "its about respect" when respect is earned and being dead does not automatically qualify you for that.

    Too many use respect as an excuse these days to get their way or to shame others and the meaning is lost.
    I think the point is that you just don't know.

    Yes the person you could be walking all over might have been a wife beating child abuser but then again they may be someone who deserves not to have their grave trampled on.


  • #50
    Galwayguy35
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 16,669 ✭✭✭✭Galwayguy35


    I would be annoyed if I saw someone walking over my parents graves. It's a persons final resting place and should be respected.


  • #51
    Weylin
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 273 ✭✭Weylin


    Gnobe wrote: »
    Do you think its disrespectful to walk on someone's grave??

    I was in a conversation with a friend who got really annoyed when he heard someone walk over his mothers grave, carelessly. But in reality we are all dead, does it matter? Especially if the grave is over 100 years old?

    I personally couldn't care, the point of humanity is to die and provide nutrients to the soil and the earth to which people walk on anyway. Is this wrong and disrespectful to walk on someone's grave??
    where/how did you come up with this,that is the most ,dumbest,ignorant conclusion that ever explains the existance of humans.please go back to your x-box,toys :pac::pac::pac:


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