Lets all be anxious/depressed together.

handbagmad · 21-04-2014 7:20pm

Gremlinertia wrote: »

In a heap, my mind is spinning, nothing has happened in particular, just feeling very lost..

Ah well, it'll hopefully go soon, how is everyone else?.

not too bad. Actually pushed myself to go for a good walk.
I too am a bit lost trying to work out the answers to all my questions

Eircom_Sucks · 21-04-2014 7:41pm

handbagmad wrote: »

wow that's tough mate
don't know what else to say.
Keep posting here if you need too
Thinking of you

Ahh its been comming for a bit , just miss my kids so much

Need to get my act together , fitness , finance , anxiety wise , one positive generates more positivity

Killer_banana · 21-04-2014 9:18pm

Surely it shouldn't be so hard to stay alive? Actually scratch that because I've not done much living today, just existing. I forced myself to cook an okayish meal because eating crap makes me so much worse and I almost started crying because of the effort it took to peel a ****ing potato. I'm so ****ing fed up of being sick, especially seeing how easily some people find it to be happy. It's not fair! I know life being unfair is a silly childish thing to rail at but I really don't care right now.

Birdster · 21-04-2014 9:23pm

Eircom_Sucks wrote: »

one positive generates more positivity

That's a good way to look at it.

It will be hard going, but you can do it, you will get things together again. One thing at a time.

Gremlinertia · 21-04-2014 11:10pm

Long night at work ahead. Pain problem is kicking in.. Fun times, still it means I should sleep in morning ok.. It's very tiring..

Worksforyou · 21-04-2014 11:38pm

What do you work at? It's a job that you do at night but it's active. Hmmmm I better not guess what I'm thinking so are you a security gaurd? A lorry driver that lifts stuff? An atm theif? Wait, you're on a computer. Silly me, you're a night time hacker?

Dr. Bre · 22-04-2014 10:05pm

I've no history with anxiety but a very strange thing happened to me a month ago on a plane. I was thinking away and in my mind I started thinking what it would be like to keep remembering in my mind every time that i blink. very strange I know. but in my mind I started freaking out over that and I wasn't well for days. the anxiety moved onto focusing in on things like if I saw a symbol or a person I think of I cant stop thinking of that/them and fear it wont go out of my head.. so I went to a doctor and got a mild enough tablets because I have no history with anxiety. I don't take them everyday unless anxious.

A month later and I still have anxious feelings also weird/intrusive thoughts. Should I return to doctor? Would you recommend something to take.

Rothko · 22-04-2014 10:07pm

Feeling very anxious at the moment. I plan on telling the doctor that I had previously intended to commit suicide. I had planned to tell him before but just couldn't say it or find the right words. Could anyone that's been in a similar situation give me some advice?

Gremlinertia · 22-04-2014 10:31pm

I'm going to say roughly the same thing to the two previous posters - write things down.. Dr bre, perhaps carry a notebook for a week and even just make a mark when you feel like your mind is getting anxious. It'll be a helpful record for both you and your doctor to work from..

Suas, I found myself unable to say certain things to either my doc or the psych team - sometimes it was the fear of their reaction but more often it was because I was nervous and just plain forgot.. So bringing a sheet of my thoughts and reactions to things helped me not to panic as much..

Hope this helps.

Gremlinertia · 23-04-2014 2:53am

Eircom_Sucks wrote: »

Ahh its been comming for a bit , just miss my kids so much

Need to get my act together , fitness , finance , anxiety wise , one positive generates more positivity

How are you getting on?.

margarite · 23-04-2014 8:50am

Suas11 wrote: »

Feeling very anxious at the moment. I plan on telling the doctor that I had previously intended to commit suicide. I had planned to tell him before but just couldn't say it or find the right words. Could anyone that's been in a similar situation give me some advice?

I did find it hard to seek out help but one day I was so bad with depression and anxiety that I had to talk to someone and that was my GP, I just said that I was very depressed and anxious and needed his help and he is still giving that to this day. Good luck take a deep breath and just say what is upsetting you.

stinkle · 23-04-2014 10:42am

Hi everyone, I was on phone internet a lot over the long weekend so following everyone but not necessarily typing! Hope everyone is doing well.

Suas11 - hope you get to a doc. I know it's a very difficult thing to speak about, but remember it's a safe place and they are there to help you. My GP is an older gent and I was worried about telling him my anxiety story esp as I was there for something else too and didnt want to take too much time. I ended up just bursting into tears and even that helped. He took it very seriously and was concerned. My situation at the time was very much triggered by work stress but he took the time to go through other things with me - I think I was so upset he thought there was more to it.

I actually think what prompted me to say something was the fact that a few months earlier I was in the very same room, only with a nurse this time as I was going for a routine cervical check. Not the most pleasant experience, and as I was very stressed about work, money and a very sick relative I ended up crying my eyes out when it was all over cos the nurse was so nice to me - basically being in a safe space with a caring person made me feel like I could open up a bit. At the time my whole family was worried about lots of things and I guess I felt like I couldnt worry them even more. I didnt say much to the nurse, but kinda regretted that and made sure to say it to the doc the next time cos I felt safe there.

Rothko · 23-04-2014 11:26am

I've actually been going to a mental health clinic for the past few months so they know that I've been depressed and have/had suicidal thoughts. They don't know that I had actually been planning to go ahead with it before and that's what I'm worried about telling them. You think it'd be easy once I've told them that I'm depressed but I still find it so difficult to say. I was afraid before that I might end up being institutionalised but I know now that it's very unlikely to happen but I still can't manage to get the words out. I just feel so scared about it for some reason.

Killer_banana · 23-04-2014 11:33am

I'm not sure if keeping busy is helping elevate my mood or just distracting me and allowing me to ignore my emotions.

pinkstars · 23-04-2014 6:29pm

Hi, can anyone help me deal with anticipation anxiety? I freeze up always in places I have had panic attacks before its as if all my muscles tense up and i'm on high alert and then I have to run...or I act weird...

handbagmad · 23-04-2014 8:20pm

Absolutely drained today mentally and physically today.

Mrs grumpy myself

Gremlinertia · 24-04-2014 6:48pm

Went drinking yesterday, how very productive, oh well pack in everything in over next few days then i'm away for a week..

Hugo Stiglitz · 24-04-2014 8:00pm

Gremlinertia wrote: »

Went drinking yesterday, how very productive, oh well pack in everything in over next few days then i'm away for a week..

Do you find that alcohol affects your depression? I can't have two Kopparbergs without the mood crashing down afterwards

stinkle · 24-04-2014 8:25pm

Hugo Stiglitz wrote: »

Do you find that alcohol affects your depression? I can't have two Kopparbergs without the mood crashing down afterwards

me too. Dunno if its more the hangover effect. I can't drink much anyway but feel bad the next day if I'm not 100%. I think that might be a cycle with me - I had a really productive day in work on Tues despite having some wine on Mon, was so distracted I forgot to beat myself up over boozing

Hugo Stiglitz · 24-04-2014 8:34pm

stinkle wrote: »

me too. Dunno if its more the hangover effect. I can't drink much anyway but feel bad the next day if I'm not 100%. I think that might be a cycle with me - I had a really productive day in work on Tues despite having some wine on Mon, was so distracted I forgot to beat myself up over boozing

I'm not much of a drinker either but it's frustrating that when I actually do drink that it affects me so.

Do you find being busy in work is usually distracting you from troubles or stressing you out more?

handbagmad · 24-04-2014 8:50pm

Hugo Stiglitz wrote: »

Do you find that alcohol affects your depression? I can't have two Kopparbergs without the mood crashing down afterwards

im actually very frightened to drink now. I have a very low tollerance the past few years, no doubt due to medication

I really enjoyed a few glasses of wine every now and then but cannot do it anymore

not worth the low afterwards

stinkle · 24-04-2014 8:50pm

Hugo Stiglitz wrote: »

I'm not much of a drinker either but it's frustrating that when I actually do drink that it affects me so.

Do you find being busy in work is usually distracting you from troubles or stressing you out more?

chicken/egg situation with me. If I'm stressed before work or have something stressful looming I'm terrible at focusing and feel worse. Otherwise the work is a good distraction.

handbagmad · 24-04-2014 8:51pm

better day today than yesterday
very proud I managed a good 4mile walk today

Hugo Stiglitz · 24-04-2014 8:58pm

stinkle wrote: »

chicken/egg situation with me. If I'm stressed before work or have something stressful looming I'm terrible at focusing and feel worse. Otherwise the work is a good distraction.

Yeah the lack of focus can be disastrous at work.

handbagmad wrote: »

better day today than yesterday
very proud I managed a good 4mile walk today

Way to go with the walk. I had a walk myself too today. Felt good to be out in the sun.

Killer_banana · 25-04-2014 1:01am

I quit drinking recently. Didn't find it affected me but just didn't enjoy at all anymore. Also once or twice I did drink because I felt **** and that's never good.

Hotale.com · 25-04-2014 1:03am

Can I just ask what being anxious actually means? I think I've a different idea of what it is than the true meaning. Sorry if this is the wrong place.

Gremlinertia · 25-04-2014 8:14pm

Trying to convince myself that today was a relaxing day, not a lazy did feckin nothing day. Back to work tomorrow, two shifts and off for a week..

Gremlinertia · 25-04-2014 8:20pm

Hotale.com wrote: »

Can I just ask what being anxious actually means? I think I've a different idea of what it is than the true meaning. Sorry if this is the wrong place.

That's a difficult question, different things, and sometimes no things can make a person feel anxious, tense up and feel on the verge of panic. It's not something that can be easily described as it's fairly personal, but with me for example, i freak out if i have to go for a meal with a group of people i don't know well.. Generally i get physically tense, my arms in particular, i breath faster and get a tightness in my chest and feel like running away.. I have made many, many excuses over the years to avoid these situations because i can get physically sick with nerves over it, but that's only one time i feel like that, a lot of situations can rattle me like that..

Hugo Stiglitz · 25-04-2014 8:24pm

Gremlinertia wrote: »

Trying to convince myself that today was a relaxing day, not a lazy did feckin nothing day. Back to work tomorrow, two shifts and off for a week..

Any plans for the week off G?

Gremlinertia · 25-04-2014 8:36pm

Hugo Stiglitz wrote: »

Any plans for the week off G?

No not really, just chill out. Might pop over to england to see a mate.. Reading and walking mostly..

Hugo Stiglitz · 25-04-2014 9:08pm

Gremlinertia wrote: »

No not really, just chill out.

I'm fond of just chilling out myself too.

Gremlinertia · 25-04-2014 11:02pm

That's the plan if i can manage it.. Have a pile of books on the kindle, full box of teabags. Hopefully my brain won't derail me too much..

Graces7 · 26-04-2014 8:03am

Gremlinertia wrote: »

That's the plan if i can manage it.. Have a pile of books on the kindle, full box of teabags. Hopefully my brain won't derail me too much..

sounds healthy although i have coffee bags as i hate tea and library books. no kindle.

champing at the bit to get some craft work done. has been a month since the broken wrist now. maybe something simple today...was managing until the k wires slipped

but hey; winter is back so can snuggle down with a book or a film here on youtube.
enjoy and heal...

sud1 · 26-04-2014 8:49pm

I have been signed out of work for the past number of months and I now have to go for a review with illness benefit doctor..have any of ye been in position and how did it go..did ye get you benefit get stopped or were ye declined..I have been reading that they decline nearly everyone to get them to appeal..
thanks in advance

cloud493 · 26-04-2014 8:52pm

I have my psych appointment on monday at 10.30am as usual but I'm supposed to have an exam starting at 10am. I could reschedule it but i haven't seen her in 3 weeks and I'm really not feeling good at all so id like to see her so i don't know what to do.

colrow · 27-04-2014 8:07am

sud1 wrote: »

I have been signed out of work for the past number of months and I now have to go for a review with illness benefit doctor..have any of ye been in position and how did it go..did ye get you benefit get stopped or were ye declined..I have been reading that they decline nearly everyone to get them to appeal..
thanks in advance

Hello Sud, I had to go for one a few years ago, I was nervous about going, but my GP said its just the normal course of things, nothing changed afterwoods.

In Ireland I think its all fair and above board, in the uk you hear of terrible stories, where they have private companies doing the health checks, and they get paid for disallowing claims.

Good luck, though I'm sure you'll be ok

Temaz · 27-04-2014 6:33pm

My latest diagnosis is Type 2 Bi Polar. I am on Epilim and have to say I am doing really well. Hang in there people.

ellavin · 27-04-2014 10:12pm

Gonna make a doc app this week hope I can get it tomorrow because the way I am I wont sleep tonight thinking on it.. I am actually going to doc to see when's a referral for op on throat. . But I know shel ask why I kept putting off app for councillor while am there.

norwegianwood · 27-04-2014 10:29pm

It's my 21st birthday tomorrow, instead of looking forward to it all I can do is remember how I wanted to kill myself on my 18th and I hoped that things would be better by now but they're not.

Gremlinertia · 27-04-2014 10:34pm

norwegianwood wrote: »

It's my 21st birthday tomorrow, instead of looking forward to it all I can do is remember how I wanted to kill myself on my 18th and I hoped that things would be better by now but they're not.

Add a few years and you sound much like me.. I'm trying to make room for the thoughts in my head without paying them too much attention. Have decided that trying to banish a thought before it happens is a bit like trying to stop water flowing.

Stay posting on here if you feel down, no sleep for me tonight so you'll have company if you're feeling on your own.

ellavin · 27-04-2014 10:36pm

My best friend committed suicide 2 days after my birthday nearly 4 years ago she was 19 I missed her call.. my birthdays are never good aswell Am 23 this year.. happy birthday to you and try enjoy it

norwegianwood wrote: »

It's my 21st birthday tomorrow, instead of looking forward to it all I can do is remember how I wanted to kill myself on my 18th and I hoped that things would be better by now but they're not.

handbagmad · 27-04-2014 11:24pm

Hmmm. I feel confused, mood is down today. Even though im doing exercise. Though it is supposed to help!!!

Trying to keep the goodside out.

Fighting like f*ck.

Gremlinertia · 28-04-2014 3:00am

handbagmad wrote: »

Hmmm. I feel confused, mood is down today. Even though im doing exercise. Though it is supposed to help!!!

Trying to keep the goodside out.

Fighting like f*ck.

If only there was a reliable 'go to' thing we each had to disperse lows or confusing moods. We are finicky creatures though so it seems impossible..

Graces7 · 28-04-2014 5:11pm

pinkstars wrote: »

Hi, can anyone help me deal with anticipation anxiety? I freeze up always in places I have had panic attacks before its as if all my muscles tense up and i'm on high alert and then I have to run...or I act weird...

that is common and normal ...just the memory and the associations. nothing bad or sinister. breathe deeply and evenly. clench fists and relax them,,,it will fade and ease.

lukesmom · 28-04-2014 6:58pm

Mood is down today so annoying.

HistoryMania · 29-04-2014 2:02am

Dont post in here much, but just really need someone to talk to right now.

Don't know if I've ever mentioned my story on here, so mods feel free to delete post if I have.

I have major depression and GAD. For the past four years everything seemed fine, even finished off a college course.
Things were looking up but then I started to get rejected from one uni course that I wanted and then another... and then another.

Sigh, I don't even know what to write. I just feel so so down.

Wickers26 · 29-04-2014 2:11am

@historymania, don't give up hope... You're only a failure if you stop trying. That's great you finished one course. Have you spoken to a career guidance professional or someone that could give you some direction? I don't know what you're planning on studying in uni but there are ways around these things. Don't beat yourself up over it... Hope it works out for you.

HistoryMania · 29-04-2014 2:14am

Wickers26 wrote: »

@historymania, don't give up hope... You're only a failure if you stop trying. That's great you finished one course. Have you spoken to a career guidance professional or someone that could give you some direction? I don't know what you're planning on studying in uni but there are ways around these things. Don't beat yourself up over it... Hope it works out for you.

Thanks very much for your reply. I know, it was just a put down when they said no, I put all this year into the application. I guess its just one of those days.

Hope everything is well with you

Wickers26 · 29-04-2014 2:19am

I know that feeling too well. I've been experiencing the same way you feel right now but in relation to my job, finished with college thank god. I try not to take it personally but it's very difficult not to. Just got to keep on trying and hoping, what else can we do?

stinkle · 29-04-2014 8:39am

Sick with anxiety. Haven't been this bad in ages and nothing major is even bothering me. Just a few small things piling up.

Lets all be anxious/depressed together.

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