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Do You Like Being Single?
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My BF just told me to try giving him some space every one in a while. We are in an LDR at the moment, only seeing each other at weekends, so I MAY have gone a teensy bit overboard on the texting front.
So right now, I am ambivalent towards relationships. :pac: 0 -
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guitarzero wrote: »Do we not exhibit any characteristics that make you feel a sense of unfulfilled romance, intimacy, sex, etc? What about sex drive?
That's certainly something i miss about being single! I think you are right about how we are separated through school we don't really get the notion of being friends.
I'm fairly happily single although I've just met someone recently that might develop into something. However I had a toxic 10 year relationship so i'm just finding my feet now. Thankfully it was never very intense and i kept all my own friends and used ot socialise alot on my own so it hasn't been that much of a transition.0 -
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Yep, love being single. Not a relationship person at all. Much prefer being alone.
I never really get too close to people (anymore) because I have a bit of a fear of relationships. They turn me mad! Some people are so obsessed with finding the perfect partner and don't think they can be happy single. I personally find that outlook bizarre. But that's just me.
Yeah I'm sort of on the same page.
Not that I don't get close to people, but to date it's been pretty exclusively family and friends that have fulfilled that role, which works because I pretty much know they'll be there unconditionally.
To date in my life I've not been a relationship person and don't feel this pressing need to share my life with someone, though I'm aware it could change at any moment. I have great friendships, an amazing family, a cool job and I meet guys and get laid, works for me
Some day, maybe someone will inspire that leap of commitment in me, but this idea that I'm half the person I could be or that there's some big void in my life...perplexing.0 -
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guitarzero wrote: »Do we not exhibit any characteristics that make you feel a sense of unfulfilled romance, intimacy, sex, etc? What about sex drive?
I certainly don't feel like that. It's probably just me but I am way more likely to feel that sense of unfulfilled romance and intimacy whilst in a relationship because that's when I'd expect it. I mean, in my last relationship, I definitely felt like that. Sometimes it was like living in a house with a stranger who just happened to sleep in my bed at night.
I know my experience there is completely on the bad end of the spectrum but overall, for me, relationships have often emphasised loneliness.
As for sex? Again, I could be alone here, but I think sex is something that the more I get, the more I want so out of a relationship and getting it less, I guess I just want it less. Not that I don't have a sex drive but I don't miss sex as much as I thought I would. I'd like to have it, sure, but only with someone I like.Like when I see a woman that I find attractive in some way I'm immediately reminded of being single and how it sucks. For a lot of women they seem fairly immune to this here.
Immune to what? Feeling that being single sucks? I never feel like that 'cause I don't think it does suck.I know women are now money earners so that aspect of dependency is gone, so was it mostly down to the wallet in the end?
:eek: I can honestly say that for me money never was and is not a factor whatsoever.0 -
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I like the company, the getting to know each other bit, the giddy meeting someone new part, but I hate the stupid sh1t you wind up fighting about, the silent treatment, all the crap that goes along with relationships, right now I'm not in the place to find someone, nor am I looking, yet strangely women like this, the past few times I've gone out with a "I'm not bothered" attitude I've gotten chatted up, its mental!
You're going out just for the night out without any inclination toward meeting someone ergo you're probably relaxed and confident in yourself. That's an attractive vibe to give off to the Laydeez hence the attention.
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Seomra Mushie wrote: »How very specific!:P
Well I've always said I would like to go out or marry an American lady.
I remember going to the head masters office and say that.0 -
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I only like women between the age of 27 and 34½, in middle management, weigh between 9½ and 11 stone, natural blonde hair, over 5ft10 but below 6ft, full set of good teeth, well proportioned calf muscles, an IQ over average but not higher than mine (narrow window).
Can't understand why I'm single.
Na, but seriously.... Male opinion alert.
In my view a strengthening aspect of a good relationship is the room to be 'single' in it. Now I'm not talking about going out and having sex with strange women.
What I mean is that if you don't have room for your own thoughts, a little time alone, or with friends outside of the relationship then you're asking for trouble.
Haven't had a relationship of any substance for a couple of years now and I'm usually okay with it but do get the odd time when I think 'this moment would be nice to share with someone special'.0 -
Do I like being single? wow... I don't know, I honestly haven't decided yet. I'm only single about 18 months now after a long marriage and I go through so many different emotions I'm not sure what I am
Some days are desperately lonely, most definitely. Some days are great and I feel like a new woman and able for anything. Other days I look in the mirror and think "well hun, you had your day, thats it for you now" and end up severely depressed thinking there will never be any guy on this planet that would even look at me sideways let alone come near me lol
I'm not looking though, I don't feel ready to even think that way, so maybe I'm just still settling into the single life. Anyone have any ideas on how long this will take???
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im in a relationship and im very happy much prefer being in a relationship than being single tbh.
if your in a right relationship then it shouldnt feel by any means restricting. and if someone is unhappy in their relationship there's no point being in that relationship if they're unhappy, even if they're scared of being single. best to more on and find one which makes them happy.0 -
I love it, tbh. Love my own space, my own bed, getting up/going to bed when you want, FULL control of the remote, no empty milk cartons in the fridge
The only times I feel like I am missing out is maybe on those cold nights when curling up on the couch with a guy watching a dvd is just lovely, or when you get a wedding invite for 'twirlagig & friend' etc.... But still, I'm happy enough as I am, thank god
A bit off thread, but I wonder how many people have 'friends with benefits' 0 -
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this might sound like a silly question, but how EXACTLY would one go about obtaining ones own 'friend' with said 'benefits'?
haha well in some of my friends cases its guys they started goin on dates with and told them they werent really lookin for a LTR.... and shall we say it blossomed from there!0 -
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Way ahead of you here. I'm thinking I might have to put some of these theories to the test before I report back to my friend.
Here's what I have so far...
1. tell prospective subject that LTR is not being catered for at this time and assume blossoming position.
I'll add other suggestions and theories to the list before I report my findings 0 -
candy-gal1 wrote: »exactly,
two things i was never into as a child, baby born and princess bride barbie :pac:
i prefered my barbies with the great apartment and tons of outfits, or my movie character models.
i mean id never rule anything like that out, but so far im still just meh about all that stuff
That sounds so wrong.0 -
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Way ahead of you here. I'm thinking I might have to put some of these theories to the test before I report back to my friend.
Here's what I have so far...
1. tell prospective subject that LTR is not being catered for at this time and assume blossoming position.
I'll add other suggestions and theories to the list before I report my findings
You know, I happen to have a 'friend' who would really like a copy of your completed work!0 -
this might sound like a silly question, but how EXACTLY would one go about obtaining ones own 'friend' with said 'benefits'?
Fairly easily in fairness, the market is pretty big for them! You'll find if you introduce the sexual element pretty early on with a guy it follows suit in a pretty straight forward fashion.
Actually the one thing I don't enjoy about being single is the sexual frustration. I'm well-passed the fcuk buddy stage, as fun as they are I find them emotionally confusing and ultimately damaging. And there's only so long I can go without sex, so every so often I find myself tearing up beer mats and pulling my hair out in frustration! Or jumping into bed with someone I find vaguely attractive, which isn't all that healthy for me either. But I'm not willing to get into a relationship solely just for sex, I need a lot more than that to make the sacrifices that are involved so hey, I guess you just get on with it.0 -
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Diamond_Ninja wrote: »I genuinely love being single.. I hate sharing my bed!
Haha, that is the one thing I hate about a relationship! I'm not good at sharing a bed, I'm naturally a very warm person, and when it comes to sharing a bed I get too hot and often have to go to another room to sleep :P I also toss and turn alot, and like to sleep on my face, diagonally, with my arms wrapped around the pillow and my legs wrapped around the duvet! I do not make for a good bed-sharing partner 0 -
Haha, that is the one thing I hate about a relationship! I'm not good at sharing a bed, I'm naturally a very warm person, and when it comes to sharing a bed I get too hot and often have to go to another room to sleep :P I also toss and turn alot, and like to sleep on my face, diagonally, with my arms wrapped around the pillow and my legs wrapped around the duvet! I do not make for a good bed-sharing partner
I know exactly what you mean! Nobody I know will share a bed with me they know it's a terrible idea! I'd be totally up for the whole separate beds in a marriage thing lol 0 -
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going to update this, my 2nd post in this thread, but fcuk yeahi love being single!
imho i think you need to already experience a long term relationship and/or be in your 20s, so much to do, so many choices, nothing to worry/think/care about except maybe cash and that kinda thing but thats everyone anyway, and just feeling good! 0 -
candy-gal1 wrote: »going to update this, my 2nd post in this thread, but fcuk yeahi love being single!
imho i think you need to already experience a long term relationship and/or be in your 20s, so much to do, so many choices, nothing to worry/think/care about except maybe cash and that kinda thing but thats everyone anyway, and just feeling good!
Exactly! I have friends from school that have been in the same relationships for 5 or 6 years now, all through their late teens and early 20s and if theyre happy fine but thats not for me at all! Far too much fun to be had 0 -
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