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Graveyards.

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  • #52
    jimgoose
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,180 ✭✭✭✭jimgoose


    Oink wrote: »
    When I was a kid they removed bones from the grave, to make space for my grandmother. They put them respectfully in a garden bin type of container. So much for eternal rest.

    I only realised recently that it must have been my grandad. Dont know what my mam thought of that.

    I would go to my granny's grave but I don't know what bin she's in now.

    Wish I hadn't seen that.

    Man I don't read AH to to hear about sh!t like that ffs!!!

    That's quite normal In old graveyards. The artefacts are re-buried afterwards, treated with the utmost respect.


  • #53
    crockholm
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,448 ✭✭✭crockholm


    I like going to graveyards,Pere lachaise in Paris,Skogskyrkagård in Stockholm and The one in Boston common are my favourites.Hippies and ghouls had taken away the bust of Jim morrison all that remained was a greek inscription and lots of Candles,Wilde had too many drawings of erect penis' and kisses to be enjoyed.

    I have worked on graveyards in Sweden and perhaps it would be nice to take a few inspirations from how it's done there,they all tend to have areas of reflection and meditation.


  • #54
    r93kaey5p2izun
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,962 ✭✭✭r93kaey5p2izun


    No I never go. I feel it's pointless. When/if I am responsible for upkeep of a grave I will go to ensure it is kept nice to respect familiy members' wishes though.

    I'd like to be cremated and scattered so as nobody needs to worry about any of that but I'm not sure on the legalities of ash scattering here.


  • #55
    kerry4sam
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,127 ✭✭✭✭kerry4sam


    kneemos wrote: »
    Are you a graveyard visitor?
    Not casting dispersion on it just curious as to the normal protocol.
    Is it visit for a while and gradually forget about it?Is there a benefit to be gained?or is it just expected?
    I've visited graves but am never really sure as to what I'm doing there. I often see people attending graves but again what is it you're meant to do?

    A Daily Visitor to my Late Loving Dads grave. Dad passed away on 20th Dec 2013 and all but 3-days since Dad passed away, I have visited his graveside.

    ~ some days I'm in tears before I reach Dads grave
    ~ some days I only stay to ensure all okay with flowers and arrangements on Dads grave
    ~ some days I go and sit/kneel and the time goes so fast as my mind just wanders

    I've kept a candle lighting everynight, started out as an artificial candle with batteries but more recently I light a new candle every second day. Truly like the idea of some light on Dads grave, so as not always in darkness! Dad would always light a room with laughter and conversations so keeping some light going now seems right to me :o

    Regularly visit other graveyards also out of habit tbh.

    You said you not sure what you're doing there:
    ~ pondering about the times past perhaps?
    ~ pondering about your current life and what the person you're visiting would say to you?
    ~ pondering about everything that person has done for you in the past and everything they endured throughout their life?

    Everyone would be different. I visit as I miss my Late Loving Dad terribly and to keep a candle lit.

    Just my thoughts,
    I tend to think alot!
    kerry4sam


  • #56
    Spanish Eyes
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 16,003 ✭✭✭✭Spanish Eyes


    kerry4sam wrote: »
    A Daily Visitor to my Late Loving Dads grave. Dad passed away on 20th Dec 2013 and all but 3-days since Dad passed away, I have visited his graveside.

    ~ some days I'm in tears before I reach Dads grave
    ~ some days I only stay to ensure all okay with flowers and arrangements on Dads grave
    ~ some days I go and sit/kneel and the time goes so fast as my mind just wanders

    I've kept a candle lighting everynight, started out as an artificial candle with batteries but more recently I light a new candle every second day. Truly like the idea of some light on Dads grave, so as not always in darkness! Dad would always light a room with laughter and conversations so keeping some light going now seems right to me :o

    Regularly visit other graveyards also out of habit tbh.

    You said you not sure what you're doing there:
    ~ pondering about the times past perhaps?
    ~ pondering about your current life and what the person you're visiting would say to you?
    ~ pondering about everything that person has done for you in the past and everything they endured throughout their life?

    Everyone would be different. I visit as I miss my Late Loving Dad terribly and to keep a candle lit.

    Just my thoughts,
    I tend to think alot!
    kerry4sam

    Lovely sentiments there. I hope you get comfort, and it seems you do. Condolences on the loss of your Dad, I know what it's like believe me.

    Each to their own.


  • #57
    Gael23
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,123 ✭✭✭✭Gael23


    Only from time to time and usually around any anniversaries or at christmas to bring in fresh flowers or if the weather had been unusually wet or dry and I knew the flowers would need replacing. All our family graves are a distance away so might take a notion to drop in if I was around there an extra time in the summer.


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