Valentines Day..was it???Ladies

mysterymeme123 · 14-02-2008 11:55pm #1

Ladies , would this annoy you.
Boyfriend of 3 months going well even been on holidays together.Today for Valentines day this is what I got

9.30 am a text saying " x"
10.20 pm an email saying " I'm knackered with work , heading to bed, night. Oh might be free for lunch tmr"

:mad::mad::mad:

14-02-2008 11:58pm

no?
some days i dont bother texting at all

what did you text him?
did you call him? did you say oh happy valentines? or is he supposed to be psychic? if he texted you that any other day of the week would you care?

Alanstrainor · 14-02-2008 11:59pm

ladies lounge?
not a pi

Toots · 15-02-2008 12:10am

If you'd sent him a card or whatever and arranged to go to dinner then I'd be pissed. If you didn't send him a txt or anything then you can't really be annoyed, he might be at home in a huff feeling the same way.

feylya · 15-02-2008 12:14am

Or he mightn't feel the over-riding urge to overpay for flowers and dinner on this, the most inflated price day of the year...

TheDriver · 15-02-2008 12:15am

Its only a day that you didn't mark either. Its about ye getting on well, going on hols together etc, not about him being bright as a button on this particular day or else.....

Lola123 · 15-02-2008 12:34am

Have to say OP, I'd be pretty p1ssed off too. He could have at the very least said happy valentines day!
I don't buy into all that cr@p about it being an overinflated holiday or whatever. It's a day to show the person you're with that you care about them, whats wrong with that?
And I know other posters have said "well you didn't say it to him", but lets face it, on valentines day at least 80% of the female population would like some sort of romantic gesture without having to suggest it themselves!
Ask him tomorrow if ur celebrating it another day and thats why you didn't see him today and see what he says.

Liam Byrne · 15-02-2008 12:34am

VD's a joke and an excuse to charge over-the-odds for flowers and cramped, rushed meals....

If someone's nice to you every other day, then that should be enough.

Plus, how come he texted first ? Would he be likely to post here wondering why he had to show his hand ?

Be glad that you've got someone who's comfortable and not "trying to impress", coz that never lasts.......if you've been on holiday together and survived then that's a good thing.

Don't wreck your own head analysing Hallmark Day......

iFight · 15-02-2008 12:39am

Don't think giving you a card and saying that he loves you on the day that he is told to and extected to really makes a difference. No need to be angry.

StandnDeliver · 15-02-2008 12:39am

Lola123 wrote: »

Have to say OP, I'd be pretty p1ssed off too. He could have at the very least said happy valentines day!
I don't buy into all that cr@p about it being an overinflated holiday or whatever. It's a day to show the person you're with that you care about them, whats wrong with that?
And I know other posters have said "well you didn't say it to him", but lets face it, on valentines day at least 80% of the female population would like some sort of romantic gesture without having to suggest it themselves!
Ask him tomorrow if ur celebrating it another day and thats why you didn't see him today and see what he says.

I agree

buckfast4me · 15-02-2008 12:40am

mysterymeme123 wrote: »

Oh might be free for lunch tmr"

LOL your boyfriend is a legend.

King John V · 15-02-2008 12:48am

Perhaps its just the old romantic in me but its the thought behind the flowers that are appreciated not just the flowers themselves.

Creamy Goodness · 15-02-2008 12:54am

i don't really see the point in valentine's day myself, think it's a creation of hallmark, but tbh you're pissed he didn't put in any effort did you put any in?

a relationship goes two ways tbh.

Buzz Buzz · 15-02-2008 12:58am

buckfast4me wrote: »

LOL your boyfriend is a legend.

LOL +1

BKtje · 15-02-2008 1:05am

It's a day to show the person you're with that you care about them, whats wrong with that?

Why can't you show that you care for them every other day? Why must it be done on valentines day after a hard days work. Why didn't you organise something if it means this much to you?

I can never understand why some people feel this worked up over a day. Same with mother's/fathers day. If i want to do something for my parents then i'll do it when i can and when i feel like it not cos some day tells me to. Just cheapens the gesture imo.

My 2 cents.

KKer · 15-02-2008 1:08am

buckfast4me wrote: »

LOL your boyfriend is a legend.

Cmon guys this girl needs our help, lets all come in for the big win yeah?

Bottle_of_Smoke · 15-02-2008 2:16am

OP, sounds like he likes you but feels awkward about showing his feelings. The "x" text suggests he doesn't want to come across too over the top but certainly wanted to show he remembered.

The email is so over casual he's pretending he thinks its perfectly normal to behave this way

Did you plan to do something tonight? What did you text him?

It's pretty poor form but maybe you just need to make him more comfortable around you.

PS it doesn't surprise me at all that you're getting cynical responses these last few hours!

Bottle_of_Smoke · 15-02-2008 2:19am

B-K-DzR wrote: »

Why can't you show that you care for them every other day? Why must it be done on valentines day after a hard days work. Why didn't you organise something if it means this much to you?

I can never understand why some people feel this worked up over a day. Same with mother's/fathers day. If i want to do something for my parents then i'll do it when i can and when i feel like it not cos some day tells me to. Just cheapens the gesture imo.

My 2 cents.

"I wish it could be christmas every daaaay"

Humans make a point to celebrate things on "speacial" occasions, in our nature or whatever. if we did them every other day it would become familliar & boring.

dudara · 15-02-2008 9:46am

Buckfast4me and Buzz Buzz Please take the time to read the charter and abide by the rules laid down for this forum. Helpful posts only please.

dudara

RxQueen · 15-02-2008 9:51am

valentines imo is just a commerical rip off, if you say everything is going well up to this point and that you have even been on holidays together, i wouldnt leave something as silly as a valentines day get in the way, affection anyother day of the week means way more than getting a bunch of flowers or whatever on VD when some people think there obliged to.
Dont hold it against him.

Canis Lupus · 15-02-2008 9:52am

Why are you angry OP? It's just another day in the year.

What did you get or do for him?

Beruthiel · 15-02-2008 9:55am

mysterymeme123 wrote: »

Ladies , would this annoy you.
Boyfriend of 3 months going well even been on holidays together.Today for Valentines day this is what I got

9.30 am a text saying " x"
10.20 pm an email saying " I'm knackered with work , heading to bed, night. Oh might be free for lunch tmr"

:mad::mad::mad:

Tell us, if V Day is so important to you, what did you do for him?
Also
If everything is going so well with ye, why do you allow this one day dictate how you should behave towards each other?

CrazyNoob · 15-02-2008 10:28am

Lola123 wrote: »

I don't buy into all that cr@p about it being an overinflated holiday or whatever. It's a day to show the person you're with that you care about them, whats wrong with that?
.

Try buying flowers on valentines day - then the commercial reality that they are in fact inflated prices on VD should ring home!
You shouldnt need a seperate day to show you care, this should be done year long

OP what did you do for him on VD day? - you've no right to be pissed off in my opinion

Mighty_Mouse · 15-02-2008 10:48am

happy valentines day!
I don't buy into all that cr@p about it being an overinflated holiday

Contradiction?

How Strange · 15-02-2008 10:52am

OMG, why do gf's turn into gfzillas on vd? It is pure marketing hype and so many gf's fall hook line and sinker for it. I know girls who insist that the bf's send the biggest most expensive bunch of flowers to the office so all the other girls can see them.

It has less to do with love and more to do with ostentatious oneupman(woman)ship and commercialism.

Personally me and the bf don't do anything and we consciously made that decision after the first vd. I'd much prefer that he do nice, thoughtful and considerate things for me throughout the year and me for him of course than spend an extortionate amount of money on a crap bunch of flowers.

OP, what did you do for your bf? As other posters have said did you send him a card or do you expect that the bf is the one who must spend money on you?

watna · 15-02-2008 10:56am

How Strange wrote: »

OMG, why do gf's turn into gfzillas on vd? It is pure marketing hype and so many gf's fall hook line and sinker for it. I know girls who insist that the bf's send the biggest most expensive bunch of flowers to the office so all the other girls can see them.

It has less to do with love and more to do with ostentatious oneupman(woman)ship and commercialism.

Personally me and the bf don't do anything and we consciously made that decision after the first vd. I'd much prefer that he do nice, thoughtful and considerate things for me throughout the year and me for him of course than spend an extortionate amount of money on a crap bunch of flowers.

OP, what did you do for your bf? As other posters have said did you send him a card or do you expect that the bf is the one who must spend money on you?

+1.. is your bf good to you normally? My bf didn't do anything for Valentine's day except say happy valentine's day as we were brushing our teeth in the morning. However, I was sick for four days last week and he took time off work to look after me and made sure I didn't have to get up to get myelf something once. That means far more to me than a bunch of flowers. If your bf is thoughtful and treats you well normally then you should be happy with that. He was tired from work and shouldn't be forced to be good to you because of Valentine's day.

Did you discuss what you were going to do beforehand? That might have been a good idea. Do you know his opinion of VD? Did you give him anything?

15-02-2008 11:06am

Well how about this one. I ordered flowers and a teddybear for a girl i have been seeing for a few months now.

On valentines day i got a text from her saying " whos Susan " I replied saying i dont know . I heard nothing . I got a delivery notification on email. So i was waiting to get a call or a text to say thanks . I hear nothing .

So that evening i decided to call her as i thought she might not have got them.
She was very short with me and asked me again who Susan was . I hadnt a clue what she was talking about . She then told me that she recieved flower's to her house and the card says to susan, "happy valentines day, from me" Problem is , this is what i said but her name is Eva. I dont even know a Susan. This was a mistake on their end.

In the end i had to send her the order slip i had. We didnt go out that night, i stayed in my place and she stayed in her's. Things are still cold. Very big complaint going to the company i ordered from .

Lawless_Samurai · 15-02-2008 11:08am

Second all what emo said. St. V day is a load of crap. If you are in love with someone there shouldn't be one day where you have to express it. You should just express it everyday.

Lola123 · 15-02-2008 11:52am

CrazyNoob wrote: »

Try buying flowers on valentines day - then the commercial reality that they are in fact inflated prices on VD should ring home!
You shouldnt need a seperate day to show you care, this should be done year long

OP what did you do for him on VD day? - you've no right to be pissed off in my opinion

I'm not saying you have to buy flowers or chocolate or whatever. It's about making the person you're with feel that extra bit special than every other day. this can be as simple as making a point of sitting down with no tv/distractions and having a bottle of wine together.
Point is, people don't go out of their way show each other they care this all year long, and as another poster said, humans celebrate things on specific occasions so as far as i can see, the people that do not want to celebrate are just uncaring to their OH!!

Op, has he said anything since??

muppetkiller · 15-02-2008 11:54am

Deleted User wrote: »

Well how about this one. I ordered flowers and a teddybear for a girl i have been seeing for a few months now.

On valentines day i got a text from her saying " whos Susan " I replied saying i dont know . I heard nothing . I got a delivery notification on email. So i was waiting to get a call or a text to say thanks . I hear nothing .

So that evening i decided to call her as i thought she might not have got them.
She was very short with me and asked me again who Susan was . I hadnt a clue what she was talking about . She then told me that she recieved flower's to her house and the card says to susan, "happy valentines day, from me" Problem is , this is what i said but her name is Eva. I dont even know a Susan. This was a mistake on their end.

In the end i had to send her the order slip i had. We didnt go out that night, i stayed in my place and she stayed in her's. Things are still cold. Very big complaint going to the company i ordered from .

I'm sorry Dre but that woman needs a P45 pronto !
As for the OP any update from last night ?

watna · 15-02-2008 11:55am

Deleted User wrote: »

Well how about this one. I ordered flowers and a teddybear for a girl i have been seeing for a few months now.

On valentines day i got a text from her saying " whos Susan " I replied saying i dont know . I heard nothing . I got a delivery notification on email. So i was waiting to get a call or a text to say thanks . I hear nothing .

So that evening i decided to call her as i thought she might not have got them.
She was very short with me and asked me again who Susan was . I hadnt a clue what she was talking about . She then told me that she recieved flower's to her house and the card says to susan, "happy valentines day, from me" Problem is , this is what i said but her name is Eva. I dont even know a Susan. This was a mistake on their end.

In the end i had to send her the order slip i had. We didnt go out that night, i stayed in my place and she stayed in her's. Things are still cold. Very big complaint going to the company i ordered from .

If my bf sent me flowers and there was another name on it I'd think it was hilarious! I'd laugh myself sick and then tell everyone my funny story! I can't believe she's got so huffy about it! You have to laugh about these things.

15-02-2008 11:58am

I thought she would have dound the funny side of it too. I laughed but then had to explain myself. Making me think different about her to be honest.

Sparky · 15-02-2008 11:58am

Maybe he has something nicer planned for lunch tomorrow (today)??

Beruthiel · 15-02-2008 12:03pm

Lola123 wrote: »

Point is, people don't go out of their way show each other they care this all year long, and as another poster said, humans celebrate things on specific occasions so as far as i can see, the people that do not want to celebrate are just uncaring to their OH!!

So totally untrue.
Anyone in a healthy relationship will go out of their way to show their OH they care.
This could be a romantic weekend away in a hotel or a dinner in a nice restaurant just for the hell of it. I do that on a regular basis.
That means an awful lot more than putting someone under pressure to perform on a certain date or else s/he's in trouble.

Meathlass · 15-02-2008 12:14pm

Deleted User wrote: »

I thought she would have dound the funny side of it too. I laughed but then had to explain myself. Making me think different about her to be honest.

Well I'd want the explanation first but then I'd laugh, otherwise I would be wondering who the hell 'Susan'.

My boyfriend gave me my card and chocolates on Tuesday night. I told him it was only the 12th and he grabbed them back off me, looking mortified! Very funny though.

RxQueen · 15-02-2008 12:25pm

Lola123 wrote: »

I'm not saying you have to buy flowers or chocolate or whatever. It's about making the person you're with feel that extra bit special than every other day. this can be as simple as making a point of sitting down with no tv/distractions and having a bottle of wine together.
Point is, people don't go out of their way show each other they care this all year long, and as another poster said, humans celebrate things on specific occasions so as far as i can see, the people that do not want to celebrate are just uncaring to their OH!!

Op, has he said anything since??

But what i dont get is why does it have to be the 14th of feb, why cant you show somebody you care about them on a random day of a random week, rather than sticking to the calender or when companies wanting to make a profit says its fit to be.

as for sitting down like you say to have a bottle of wine without the distractions of the tv, if your OH suggested that you do this today or two weeks down the line, would it make is any less special than if it was to happend on VD? The answer is no cause, like i said before valentines day like christmas and easter is becoming a commerical rip off. Affection when shown to be geunine and not just bowing to the pressure in case you get upset, is so much more meaningfull

Wibbs · 15-02-2008 12:30pm

Beruthiel wrote: »

So totally untrue.
Anyone in a healthy relationship will go out of their way to show their OH they care.

Exactly. It's simple good manners if nothing else.

I had a girlfriend who loved all that sentimental schlock that I am mildly suspicious of. I still got her roses, choccies and a card etc on valentine's day.

Even though it did nothing for me and was buying into the "bullshít of the day". She took pleasure from it. I like fishing and she would come with me although god love her she was bored out of her mind, though valiantly tried to hide that(plus she was a right on veggie type). She did it for me, not for her.

If I'm with someone and they as an example like ballet or something I absofugginlutely hate, I will treat them to that or go with them, for them, not for me and I would expect the same courtesy from them. That's the bloody point.

Anything else is unbelievably self centered and indeed selfish. It speaks of a person who assumes the rest of the world thinks like them and if they don't well tough. A very immature worldview. Not a good recipe for a healthy relationship, either friendship or more. It worries me that so many are so self absorbed and then they wonder why the other half takes a hissy fit. :rolleyes:

This is not rocket science.

LaVidaLoca · 15-02-2008 12:32pm

we all know that.

In just the same way that we know that "it's inner beauty that counts." and "love is more important than money."

However, even if you have one of those really cool girlfriends, who says she hates Valentines Day, doesnt like shopping, and never wears pink or makes jokes about being a 'chocoholic', in short, isn't merely the standard Irish walking bag of oestregen-fuelled consumer appetites. Sadly, some deeper part of her is still pissed off that other women are getting treated well on V-Day. Might as well hedge your bets.

halfinch · 15-02-2008 12:39pm

Just be happy you have someone at all OP

I went to bed holding a pineapple

Kenjd · 15-02-2008 12:39pm

Married for 4 years now and we don't do valentines. Although I did the 1st VD we were together , she liked it but said there was no need for expensive flowers! I think when people get married they tend to see the reality of life...
My wife asked me yesterday morning what did i get her? To which i replied "for what", then we both had a good laugh. She knows i love her and thats that, some crappy card made in china isnt going to reaffirm mine or her feelings.:rolleyes:

hahaha "Sadly, some deeper part of her is still pissed off that other women are getting treated well on V-Day"..... the reason my wife doesnt like it is cos it is shallow!!! Shes a lot deeper so VD isnt going to piss her off

Wibbs · 15-02-2008 12:56pm

halfinch wrote: »

Just be happy you have someone at all OP

I went to bed holding a pineapple

Off topic or frankly daft posts aren't tolerated around here. Read the charter.

TheDriver · 15-02-2008 12:59pm

Dre: P45 isn't enough, she needs a whole redundancy package with it! Maybe a tshirt saying "My alter ego is Susan" written on it

aye · 15-02-2008 1:03pm

halfinch wrote: »

Just be happy you have someone at all OP

I went to bed holding a pineapple

lol, brilliant.

i think she has a right to be annoyed.
valentines is a comerical day, and all that jazz, but at the same time it doesnt take much to write happy valentines in a text and go to the shop and get a card for a fiver.

there is nothing wrong with going the extra mile on valentines day to make your gf smile.
valentines day has always been about the girls, i wish lads would stop making ****e excuses "she can text me first".

relationships shouldnt be about playing a game, who contact who first, and that goes both ways.
but i think valentines day is a day when you treat the lady a bit, sure you'll get your rock'n'roll after anyway

also as for prices of flowers, chocolates etc. being over inflated, i can tell you they are over inflated at christmas too, yet no one seems to mind, and people treat they're OH at christmas more than normal but its ok. but come valentines day, its all "why should i make a big deal out of it", it's a cope out.

geminilady · 15-02-2008 1:11pm

i wouldnt take it personally he probably is wrecked from work. you shouldnt just focus how nice or romantic on one day of the year. If he is usually nice and thoughtful than it doesnt matter that he didnt meet at least he sent u a text

15-02-2008 1:12pm

aye wrote:

there is nothing wrong with going the extra mile on valentines day to make your gf smile.
valentines day has always been about the girls, i wish lads would stop making ****e excuses "she can text me first".

relationships shouldnt be about playing a game, who contact who first, and that goes both ways.

Exactly. So waiting around for him to text first and say "happy valentines" instead of getting up off your backside to tell him that is a load of nonsense.
V-day is not/should not be an excuse for girls to throw strops when they dont get what they demand. Or didn't demand and expected the bf to magically know.

How Strange · 15-02-2008 2:13pm

Lola123 wrote: »

I'm not saying you have to buy flowers or chocolate or whatever. It's about making the person you're with feel that extra bit special than every other day. this can be as simple as making a point of sitting down with no tv/distractions and having a bottle of wine together.

No its not, VD is about lining the pockets of all the card manufacturers, florists, restaurants and any one else that can profit out of this ostentatious display of 'love'. Sit down tonight and switch the tv off and talk to each other but don't do it once a year on 14th Feb because Mr. Hallmark says you should.

Point is, people don't go out of their way show each other they care this all year long, and as another poster said, humans celebrate things on specific occasions so as far as i can see, the people that do not want to celebrate are just uncaring to their OH!!

Point is people DO go out of their way to show their care all year so why bother with a display which means very little in terms of sincerity and is more to show the world he loves me, he got me a big bunch of flowers delivered to my office to prove it.

IMO, its a farce and I'd prefer a year full of caring than a bunch of flowers and a tacky card once a year. My bf hates going to my family do's (we have quite a lot of them) and at first he used to bitch and moan but now he goes along with no protest. That to me shows he cares because I know he still hates those situations.

How Strange · 15-02-2008 2:16pm

LaVidaLoca wrote: »

we all know that.

In just the same way that we know that "it's inner beauty that counts." and "love is more important than money."

However, even if you have one of those really cool girlfriends, who says she hates Valentines Day, doesnt like shopping, and never wears pink or makes jokes about being a 'chocoholic', in short, isn't merely the standard Irish walking bag of oestregen-fuelled consumer appetites. Sadly, some deeper part of her is still pissed off that other women are getting treated well on V-Day. Might as well hedge your bets.

Not me!

DaDa · 15-02-2008 2:53pm

Deleted User wrote: »

Well how about this one. I ordered flowers and a teddybear for a girl i have been seeing for a few months now.

On valentines day i got a text from her saying " whos Susan " I replied saying i dont know . I heard nothing . I got a delivery notification on email. So i was waiting to get a call or a text to say thanks . I hear nothing .

So that evening i decided to call her as i thought she might not have got them.
She was very short with me and asked me again who Susan was . I hadnt a clue what she was talking about . She then told me that she recieved flower's to her house and the card says to susan, "happy valentines day, from me" Problem is , this is what i said but her name is Eva. I dont even know a Susan. This was a mistake on their end.

In the end i had to send her the order slip i had. We didnt go out that night, i stayed in my place and she stayed in her's. Things are still cold. Very big complaint going to the company i ordered from .

Jeez... have to agree with other posters... what's her problem!?

Offer to take the flowers back since they have offended her.

Then you could return them to the florist and ask for your money back as you did not recieve the service you paid for.

See what she thinks of that.

RuailleBuaille · 15-02-2008 3:17pm

halfinch wrote: »

Just be happy you have someone at all OP

I went to bed holding a pineapple

ROFL

My BF got me a teddy. I hate teddies! It was a nice gesture but very unneccessary, I don't buy this sh1t and neither does he but I guess he was hedging his bets also!

Placebo · 15-02-2008 3:56pm

bluewolf wrote: »

Exactly. So waiting around for him to text first and say "happy valentines" instead of getting up off your backside to tell him that is a load of nonsense.
V-day is not/should not be an excuse for girls to throw strops when they dont get what they demand. Or didn't demand and expected the bf to magically know.

u have to be a daft, un appreciative man to not bother with valentines with your g/f. People actually booking flowers in advance are not finding money growing on trees, its a nice way to show your partner how much you appreciate them.

i took day off work and made my gf dinner, now shes getting me a ferrari for my bday, score

chris_oc · 15-02-2008 4:18pm

buckfast4me wrote: »

LOL your boyfriend is a legend.

haha think so too!!:D

ever occur to you that you mighta done somethin wrong and hes pissed of at ye?!?! thats what id probably think. maybe its just me nd the fact that im usually the one who does somethin wrong:rolleyes::rolleyes:

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