Pinched on the butt!

BroomBurner · 28-09-2008 2:45pm

Cremo wrote: »

if i was a girl, i would dislike the pinches, any guy that does it is an asshole in my books, but to say it's sexual assault is a bit OTT tbh

I agree with this. I mean, if it was a full on fanny-grab, then it's assault, 'cause they're delicate lady-bits, but a pinch on the bum isn't that harmful. If you're offended, then just give the guy that did it a little dig, so he learns not to do it again!

Drift · 28-09-2008 6:50pm

Cremo wrote: »

hope you're not serious about the ban.

LOL of course not!!

randylonghorn wrote: »

Tbh, I felt like turning round to them and saying "Well, if that's how you treat them, I'm not surprised you haven't one at home to play with!"

I must remember this one. It's the perfect comeback!

citytillidie · 28-09-2008 10:54pm

if you think the willy groping is bad don't go out in Scotland in a kilt, woman lift it up to see if your wearing it right, now can't see a guygetting away with lifting a girls skirt up

randylonghorn · 28-09-2008 11:20pm

citytillidie wrote: »

if you think the willy groping is bad don't go out in Scotland in a kilt, woman lift it up to see if your wearing it right ...

Ha, I'd actually forgotten that! (Stag / wedding of a Scotish mate)

I think they got a shock, actually, I always believed if something was worth doing it was worth doing right! :pac:

Tbh, I wouldn't mind that half as much as the groping (or usually more accurately, grabbing and squeezing!) ... 'tis just a bit of harmless mischief, really.

citytillidie wrote: »

now can't see a guy getting away with lifting a girls skirt up

Lol, true!

Reku · 28-09-2008 11:34pm

citytillidie wrote: »

if you think the willy groping is bad don't go out in Scotland in a kilt, woman lift it up to see if your wearing it right, now can't see a guygetting away with lifting a girls skirt up

True..., just one of those many things the more outspoken feminists just want us to ignore so we can listen to their adament lectures on how the entire world is stacked against women.:rolleyes:

JemimaPD · 28-09-2008 11:44pm

Yep that happened with me once before. Too bad about his broken nose. I dont tollerate sexual harassment.

stovelid · 29-09-2008 12:31am

jesus_thats_gre wrote: »

Far more women do it to guys tbh...

Dunno if they do it more, but women have done it to me (and friends) in the past. Depressingly, a lot of men see it as a valid come-on, rather than rude and invasive.

Burial · 29-09-2008 10:07am

Blue_Lagoon wrote: »

Have you ever been pinched on the butt by a lad you didn't know? I was in a pub sipping a pint the other night, and standing at the bar cause the place was packed with no seats left, and all of a sudden I felt this pinch! Ouch! I spun around spilling my drink ready to punch someone, and this lad jumped back acting like what he did was OK, holding his hands open and up saying "Whoa girl, it was just a friendly pinch!"

So women, has it happened to you lately, and how did you react? How did you feel and what did you think about it?

OK lads, you can join in if you dare, and tell us if you have ever pinched a girl you didn't know?

Can I just say as a man who doesn't partake in that action, I know of people/friends who do this. They are idiots. Any woman who actually wants to be with them is a joke. Though don't blame the wrong man for someone else's crime! I've been accussed and shouted at for just walking by!

The_Hustler · 29-09-2008 11:05am

A female co-worker was lifted up and spun around while another female co-worker decided to play the drums on her bum. Needless to say when she was put back on the ground she turned around and slapped me in the face, thinking I was the drummer.

A Primal Nut · 29-09-2008 11:13am

smares wrote: »

Why do men do it? do they honestly think your going to be thinking nice one he pinched my ass!! No im afraid not.
I think it's best ignored becuase you turn to say something to them and they have your attention which is what they were after in the first place

Probably its not coz they like your or to get attention. more likely its for a bit of a laugh when he's drunk.

brianthebard · 29-09-2008 11:20am

The_Hustler wrote: »

A female co-worker was lifted up and spun around while another female co-worker decided to play the drums on her bum. Needless to say when she was put back on the ground she turned around and slapped me in the face, thinking I was the drummer.

Wow that sounds like something from Mad men, although in that case it would've been you drumming and you would've gotten laid, not slapped.

F.A. · 29-09-2008 11:39am

Sooo, guys who think this is just harmless fun and nothing to be offended by... I get that you don't mind women pinching you, but what about other guys, i.e., gay guys, doing it? Still a bit of harmless fun? Just wondering!

fits · 29-09-2008 11:51am

Unwanted contact from a stranger like this is one thing guaranteed to absolutely make my blood boil. I avoid clubs and pubs where there is a likelihood that this will happen as a result.

It is just not acceptable to me at all.

Diamondmaker · 29-09-2008 11:58am

God so many OTT reactions. Girls do it all the time to guys, I have yet to react in an offended manner or known anyone who has.

shoelaceface · 29-09-2008 12:03pm

dont think it has happened to me.... well there was an incident........

was in the pub one night... standing sipping my drink talking to my friends....

pub was packed!!

felt a hand on my bum.. thought must be someone just squashed...

seconds later... a pinch!!! i said im not turning around

seconds after that... my skirt is pulled up from behind..

WELL! i turned and said what the ****!

it was a girl.. she thought i was her friend....

she left the pub with embarrasment!

thats my story :cool:

thank you and goodnight!

fits · 29-09-2008 12:05pm

Diamondmaker wrote: »

God so many OTT reactions. Girls do it all the time to guys, I have yet to react in an offended manner or known anyone who has.

Just becuase some girls do it to some guys, doesnt mean some guys should do it to me.

I feel how I feel. I'm not going to apologise for it.

CatLady1 · 29-09-2008 12:12pm

It happened to me recently while I was I in a lift in a hotel. 5 blokes got into the lift and as I was getting out at my floor, one of them slapped me quite hard on the ass, while the rest of them found this hilarious. Unfortunately the door was closing when I turned around. I felt angry and humiliated!
This is not acceptable whether its a bloke doing it to a girl OR the other way around. Its so disrespectful IMO.

kaimera · 29-09-2008 12:17pm

Got mine pinched by some chic at a beers there a few weeks back.

Needless to say when I asked to return said pinch I got a polite pfo.

wimmen :rolleyes:

ralphmalph · 29-09-2008 1:56pm

I don't know what the big deal is.
I've never had an adverse reaction when patting a girls ass, girls love it.
Well there was one time, but I was trying to slap a different girls ass and I accidentally go some monster.. who had a very bad reaction!

I think its the ones who don't get pinched often that are just a bit jealous
that the hot girls are getting their bottoms slapped.
Its a perfectly valid introduction, like shaking hands,
its just easier when in a club when holding drinks etc...

fits · 29-09-2008 2:22pm

^ charmer

brianthebard · 29-09-2008 2:36pm

F.A. wrote: »

Sooo, guys who think this is just harmless fun and nothing to be offended by... I get that you don't mind women pinching you, but what about other guys, i.e., gay guys, doing it? Still a bit of harmless fun? Just wondering!

Gay guys are much better at letting their intentions be known, plus they have a lot more to risk than women. Tbh ye could learn from them! :P

WindSock · 29-09-2008 4:03pm

ralphmalph wrote: »

I don't know what the big deal is.
I've never had an adverse reaction when patting a girls ass, girls love it.
Well there was one time, but I was trying to slap a different girls ass and I accidentally go some monster.. who had a very bad reaction!

I think its the ones who don't get pinched often that are just a bit jealous
that the hot girls are getting their bottoms slapped.
Its a perfectly valid introduction, like shaking hands,
its just easier when in a club when holding drinks etc...

Banned on the arse for trolling

barbiegirl · 29-09-2008 4:03pm

In Coppers, walking across the dancefloor, about 5 years ago. Guy grabs my ass, I grab his hand and hold it up, and guess what..... he'd one hand on my ass and the other around his girlfriend. She was not a happy bunny :-)
My very last trip to Coppers :-)

fits · 29-09-2008 4:08pm

barbiegirl wrote: »

In Coppers, walking across the dancefloor, about 5 years ago. Guy grabs my ass, I grab his hand and hold it up, and guess what..... he'd one hand on my ass and the other around his girlfriend. She was not a happy bunny :-)
My very last trip to Coppers :-)

yes thats on the list of places I will not go. Along with Flannerys and Tramco.

Flannerys was the worst place I've ever been in. Was in there for less than ten minutes one time and it was just constant as I walked through the place. I was fuming by the time I got out of it, and havent been back since.

stovelid · 29-09-2008 4:13pm

The_Hustler wrote: »

A female co-worker was lifted up and spun around while another female co-worker decided to play the drums on her bum. Needless to say when she was put back on the ground she turned around and slapped me in the face, thinking I was the drummer.

You were just the cymbal at the end of the drum-roll. Stop being paranoid.

citytillidie · 29-09-2008 4:20pm

barbiegirl wrote: »

In Coppers, walking across the dancefloor, about 5 years ago. Guy grabs my ass, I grab his hand and hold it up, and guess what..... he'd one hand on my ass and the other around his girlfriend. She was not a happy bunny :-)
My very last trip to Coppers :-)

Thats the way to get back embaress the pest.

Cmol · 29-09-2008 9:01pm

Ha! When we were younger.. say, 13, we used to have competitions on who could pinch the most guys asses's on a day / night out

Don't ask.... it was funny at the time!

Esel · 29-09-2008 9:28pm

13 year-olds have nights out? Where? :eek:

Kotick · 29-09-2008 11:05pm

Pinching a random person you don't know is unacceptable. It's sleazy, pervy and just plain gross. Keep your damn hands to yourself. If it had happened to me, I'd tell my boyfriend and he can deal with the guy in his own way. He has a rule for guys that they can look but never touch. Or else...

One of my bf's friends tried to kiss me on the mouth. I freaked out and grabbed his ear and some how slapped him all at the same time. I'm not a touchy feely person, so leave me be.

randylonghorn · 30-09-2008 12:30am

F.A. wrote: »

Sooo, guys who think this is just harmless fun and nothing to be offended by... I get that you don't mind women pinching you, but what about other guys, i.e., gay guys, doing it? Still a bit of harmless fun? Just wondering!

Well, I wasn't one of those who thought it was "harmless fun" for a man to do this to a woman he didn't know well, anyway, though I did say I wouldn't take much notice myself of being pinched by a woman.

But it's still a valid question ... and given that one of my best friends for ever and a day grew up to include pole vaulting in his hobbies, the answer is that I've had my ass pinched and indeed worse by him and his mates over the years, and never took much notice of that either.

I think the real point is that there is a fine line between eejiting among friends, or at least people who know each other at some level, and purely sleazy behaviour. Most of us (either gender) know the difference. Unfortunately, some don't, and give the rest a bad name.

Perfect example below ... I would prescribe a quick knee to the plums (although, given the level of behaviour, wizened raisins are probably more likely!)

CatLady1 wrote: »

It happened to me recently while I was I in a lift in a hotel. 5 blokes got into the lift and as I was getting out at my floor, one of them slapped me quite hard on the ass, while the rest of them found this hilarious. Unfortunately the door was closing when I turned around. I felt angry and humiliated!
This is not acceptable whether its a bloke doing it to a girl OR the other way around. Its so disrespectful IMO.

5 guys in a herd, doing this to a woman on her own ... very hard to pass that off as "a joke" tbh. Completely out of order in my book.

Drift · 30-09-2008 12:20pm

I slapped a girl in the bum leaving a lift in a hostel once - but I did know her, albeit for only a few hours!

She bought me breakfast the next morning so it obviously was considered appropriate in the circumstances

:pac:*

It was nothing like CatLady's example though. In her case it was a group of men she didn't know basically using her as the butt of a sexist joke. In my case it was a playful thanks for the fun night of dancing and partying we just had.

*Note to self must tell story in this way in future and leave out the part where we went to back to bed in our own seperate rooms!!

Cmol · 30-09-2008 5:37pm

esel wrote: »

13 year-olds have nights out? Where? :eek:

School disco's ftw

stovelid · 30-09-2008 5:45pm

esel wrote: »

13 year-olds have nights out? Where? :eek:

Slumber parties. More for your money.

Dragan · 30-09-2008 5:58pm

Personally i am not a big fan of uninvited contact.

Would assume anyone else was either.

I do remember watching a friend of mine slap a guy full in the teeth for pinching her ass once. I remember not wanting that to happen to me.

Red Hand · 30-09-2008 6:06pm

Dragan wrote: »

I do remember watching a friend of mine slap a guy full in the teeth for pinching her ass once. I remember not wanting that to happen to me.

Your friend was my Great Uncle Paul? Well, it didn't hurt him much since his teeth were in a glass of water at the time...Boom boom!:pac:

I have not been harassed by anyone yet. Women usually use mace if they get within 5 feet of me.:)

pinkmonkey · 01-10-2008 4:12pm

I'm a GUY and some girl kept pinching my ass on Saturday night even though I was kissing another girl at the same time!!! I kept turning around and she would look away...like wtf!!

Cathmandooo · 01-10-2008 4:15pm

pinkmonkey wrote: »

I'm a girl and some girl kept pinching my ass on Saturday night even though I was kissing another girl at the same time!!! I kept turning around and she would look away...like wtf!!

She must have been jealous!

I got my ass pinched on the train on monday, but the train had two train loads of people on it and I believe the woman was just trying to move her bag from one hand to the other and ended up giving me a pinch, to which I reacted to by bumping into some guys ass

Gotta love the jam packed trains

pinkmonkey · 01-10-2008 4:19pm

pinkmonkey wrote: »

I'm a girl and some girl kept pinching my ass on Saturday night even though I was kissing another girl at the same time!!! I kept turning around and she would look away...like wtf!!

whoops edit!!! I said I was a girl by mistake....temporary moment of insanity

I am indeed a guy (and have proof for those who want it....jokes!!!) but the rest of the post is 100% true

biko · 01-10-2008 4:24pm

liah wrote: »

Am I the only girl who doesn't honestly see it as that big of a deal? It's happened to me a lot and I don't care one bit.

Big whoop, he pinched your ass, mountains of molehills much?

Life's too short.

Piste wrote: »

Yip I'm the same. While I hate strangers touching me (even trying to hug me pisses me off) I wouldn't make a big deal about it. A filthy look at best is all they'd get.

Peared wrote: »

So what, men should be able to touch women wher they want, how they want and when they want?

Where is the line?

How about if they pinch your breast, is that ok?

Would that be a mountain or a molehill?

I've been pinched (am a guy) and it's not nice. No way in hell would I do this to a stranger. Peared for decency prez

Esel · 01-10-2008 4:50pm

pinkmonkey wrote: »

whoops edit!!! I said I was a girl by mistake....temporary moment of insanity
I am indeed a guy (and have proof for those who want it....jokes!!!) but the rest of the post is 100% true

With a nick like yours, you can see how we would be confused! Did you mean purple?

Raiser · 01-10-2008 5:17pm

kaimera wrote: »

Got mine pinched by some chic at a beers there a few weeks back.

Needless to say when I asked to return said pinch I got a polite pfo.

wimmen :rolleyes:

[?] Great arse but with a face like one too?

- I've got heavily calloused forefingers and thumbs from arse pinching, have never gotten a bad reaction yet, but then I'm handsome, sexy, funny and smart* :cool:

* Not all of the above statement is actually true.

Katie23 · 01-10-2008 7:36pm

This had happened to me when I was 21. I grabbed his hand and twisted it backwards until he apologized. I hope he was not a fool and tried it on another girl.

anonymous_joe · 01-10-2008 7:39pm

Happens to me (a lad) a fair amount of the time in town. Wimminfolkz seem convinced it's a ok to grab a lad's arse. Now I don't really mind, but I can understand why you don't want to be felt up by random strangers.

Ronan Raver77 · 01-10-2008 7:46pm

Happens to me nearly every week where i DJ on a friday drunk women!!!

...I have seen it happen to a number of the lady floor staff and always run down and grab the fella and give them a fair warning (if the security don't see it) .I personally don't mind it (receiving pinches) but i never have done it to a woman i wouldn't know.

randylonghorn · 02-10-2008 1:01am

pinkmonkey wrote: »

whoops edit!!! I said I was a girl by mistake....temporary moment of insanity

0_o

I've had many temporary moments of insanity, but I can't say I've ever transgendered myself during one!! ~_^

Pinched on the butt!

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