Do you / would you wear your wedding ring?

skallywag · 20-03-2015 4:52pm #1

I myself will never wear a wedding ring, as I dislike wearing any jewellery whatsoever.

Someone I know well has a similar attitude, he started wearing it after he got married, but quickly found himself fidgeting / playing with it all the time, to the point that he was leaving it behind him in public places! He eventually just took it off completely.

I'd be interested in hearing other opinions on the same.

Faith · 20-03-2015 4:55pm

No

I can't wait to wear mine

. It'll be like my engagement ring, I'll only take it off to sleep and to wash.

Milly33 · 20-03-2015 4:57pm

No

Oh he nearly left it somewhere!! Ohhh..

Must say now I would but then I would also be of the thinking that I would not wear it all the time..

Saying this now the finger I normally have a ring on (right hand) feels like it is missing something... I have my engagement ring on, and I am hoping to get one to fit over that but thinking I might get a new ring also to go on a different finger..

Himself doesn't wear jewellery and I wouldn't expect him to wear a ring unless he wanted to.. I have offered to pierce his nose instead a bull ring would be a nice gesture

lazygal · 20-03-2015 4:57pm

No

We both wear ours but it wouldn't bother me if my husband decided not to. My parents never wore rings so it isn't a big deal. My ring is fancy so I'll always wear it!

littlenubbin85 · 20-03-2015 5:13pm

No

As someone who doesn't wear jewellery often, it took me ages to get used to wearing my engagement ring. I still take it off every time I get home and put it away until the next time I leave the house! I have left without it on a couple of occasions! I can't imagine having to wear two rings! It'll take some getting used to.

PhoenixParker · 20-03-2015 5:15pm

FH has started wearing his already.
We're not even getting married for another three months.

I'll wear mine once we're married.

Sligo1 · 20-03-2015 5:16pm

I put my rings on whenever I leave the house (the odd time I forget tho), but take tjem off whenever I get back home. I just find them uncomfortable or something around the house. My OH only ever wears his if he hoes for a night out. He wouldn't wear it everyday to work etc...

ceekay74 · 20-03-2015 5:17pm

No, never wear it.

I don't like wearing jewellery.

That said, I'd wear it if she wanted me to!

seamus · 20-03-2015 5:19pm

I have worn rings for a long time, so wearing a wedding ring was pretty much a no brainer for me. Though my Dad basically never wore one,k so it's not like I was continuing any family tradition. He lost his in the sea a few years after getting married and didn't get it replaced until his 35th anniversary.

Wedding ring is on pretty much 24x7. The only times I've taken it off are going for a swim.

That said, I refused outright to get a gold band as I just don't like wearing gold.

magicmushroom · 20-03-2015 5:24pm

Before we separated, I didn't really like wearing my engagement or wedding rings as they used to bug me.
I never wear jewellery, especially rings, so having these 2 quite bulky things on my finger wasn't comfortable and I also found the skin underneath used to get itchy if I didn't dry my hands properly after washing them.

I used to just wear them on nights out and special occasions after a while, I didn't wear them in the day.

If I ever marry again I'll either go for no ring at all, or get a very simple and thin band.

lazygal · 20-03-2015 5:24pm

No

Actually I remember now himself lost the first one so I was glad it was cheap. Got a second cheap one that does the job fine. He's not into gold or platinum so the tungsten carbide one did grand.

MarkR · 20-03-2015 5:26pm

I thought it would be weird to wear it, never notice it now.

chocaholic04 · 20-03-2015 6:54pm

No

I never wore jewellery but since engagement and wedding I've always worn my rings. Only take them off when washing. Can't imagine not wearing them, feel strange without them. OH always wears his too though he takes it off everytime he washes his hands. I keep teasing him he will forget and leave it in a public toilet or something.

Frynge · 20-03-2015 7:13pm

MarkR wrote: »

I thought it would be weird to wear it, never notice it now.

I'm the exact same. I'd didn't realise that men actually wore wedding rings as no one I knew wore one. Haven't taken mine off since getting married.

skallywag · 20-03-2015 7:31pm

Milly33 wrote: »

Oh he nearly left it somewhere!! Ohhh..

His wife basically ended up terrified that he was going to lose it (it was a pretty pricey one I think) so came to the conclusion that she was happier with him not wearing it and knowing that it was safe in a drawer. I guess it gets taken out for special occasions perhaps, though I am not sure.

If I wore one myself I think I would also be constantly fidgeting with it, and it would probably drive others mad more than myself!

I can't help but wonder though are there folk about who would take serious offense if their other half refused to wear the ring? I'm sure that it could still be a bone of contention for some?

January · 20-03-2015 7:31pm

I don't wear jewelry normally but my wedding ring only comes off for washing. I have an engagement ring but find it gets caught in everything so never wear it.

My husband never wears jewelry but wears his wedding ring religiously, not at my insistence he just likes wearing it.

spottybananas · 20-03-2015 7:37pm

No

I always wear my engagement and wedding rings, they are quite big and heavy (I inherited them in case anyone thinks this is a stealth boast!) but as I've always worn big jewellery I adjusted to them very quickly. They get caught on the odd jumper and scarf but I've always had rings on the other hand do that anyway so I'm used to it. I only take them off when going abroad and put them in a safe then, otherwise they are on me the whole time. If I took them off to wash things or swim or whatever that's when I'd lose them.

My husband doesn't wear jewellery because he hates it and because he'd lose it...as he proved with his very cheapy wedding ring that we bought just for the day, he lost it the next day going on honeymoon :P

Dolbert · 20-03-2015 8:12pm

I never wore rings before getting engaged but it took no time at all to adjust. I've actually had to stop wearing them in the house while my baby's small as it's too easy to scratch him with it

eviltwin · 20-03-2015 8:31pm

We didn't bother with wedding or engagement rings. Himself was all for the wedding rings until he saw the price

I wear two rings already that go back years and one of those is on my wedding finger and its enough, any more and my hand would feel crowded. I'd also be worried sick as I am always losing the rings I do have.

Toots · 20-03-2015 10:17pm

No

I wear my wedding and engagement rings on my left hand, and eternity ring on my right hand. I never take them off. My fingers started to swell a lot when I was pregnant, so I wore them on a chain around my neck.

My husband wears his wedding ring all the time now. He used to be a plumber prior to the recession, and when he was doing that he had to take the ring off while he was in work because it was dangerous to have it on. Now he works in IT and he wears it all the time. I got him a ring for his 30th this year, it's a piece of meteorite set in titanium, and he wears that on his right hand.

ABajaninCork · 21-03-2015 1:38am

No

Never really wore rings full time until I got engaged.

Now - I have three rings. I have the wedding and engagement rings on the left hand, and my eternity ring on my right. I take off the gem rings when washing up, cleaning and showering, but the wedding ring stays on. Occasionally, I'll go out and forget to put the gems on, so my wedding ring looks a little lonely! I've got a 3mm patterned band, as I'm not a fan of the all-diamond (e-ring, wedding and eternity ring) look.

My husband never wore rings before we married. He wanted a wedding ring though, and has never taken it off except for when it needs to be re-plated.

theteal · 21-03-2015 8:55am

I'm not a jewellery person either. She knows this (its been 9 years!) and I've reiterated that I won't be wearing the ring. She's giving me a bit of jip for my attitude and keeps saying stuff like, "just try it, it might grow on you"

Not gonna happen. This day 5 weeks and counting

Novella · 21-03-2015 8:56am

I absolutely hate the feeling of rings on my fingers so I don't wear an engagement ring or a wedding ring. My husband doesn't wear a wedding ring either. He didn't mind at all that I didn't want to wear a ring and vice versa.

Vojera · 21-03-2015 8:58am

No

I never wore jewellery before but now I feel a bit naked without my rings on. I take them off to shower, to clean our guinea pigs' cages, and if it's a warm night as my fingers swell.

I don't have a traditional engagement ring so there's nothing to snag, and the rings themselves are cheap as chips, but I'd still be upset if I lost them. But what I love more than my rings is my "ring dent" - the mark on my finger from wearing them. For some reason I really love having it.

How Strange · 21-03-2015 9:07am

No

I never wore rings before getting engaged but I wear my rings all the time. I only take them off when putting on hand cream. I couldn't wear them from 6 months pregnant and really missed them. My husband claimed he wouldn't wear his ring after the wedding but wanted quite a pricey one. His choice was a cheap band for the day or a nice one which he would wear all the time. He got the nice one and he wears it everyday.

Roesy · 21-03-2015 9:17am

No

I never wore rings before getting engaged. I loved my engagement ring from the start but it took me a while to get used to wearing it. Now I only take it off for washing and swimming. My wedding ring fits around it so you wouldn't even notice you were wearing it. My husband got me a ring made the Christmas after our first baby was born. It's got all three of our birthstones on it. I love it, it's quite unusual looking and has huge sentimental value but this one took me longer to get used to wearing. Maybe just a less comfortable ring. My husband wasn't sure he'd get used to wearing a wedding ring because he doesn't wear jewellery. He was really surprised by how quickly he got used to it though. I don't think I would have pushed it or been that upset if he didn't though.

AvonEnniskerry · 21-03-2015 9:21am

My husband doesn't wear his during the week (Due to work) But does if we're/he's going out.
I didn't for the first 2 or 3 years until my husband asked why I didn't wear it.

I pointed out that he didn't wear his. And he pointed out that he'd chosen to very a tattoo with our wedding date on it. Couldn't argue with that. My rings now stay on. ..

secman · 21-03-2015 9:32am

Never did wear jewelry, so the wedding ring was a nuisance, kept fiddling with it and was forever looking for it when it fell. Lost it in sea in Tramore doing a triathlon after about 3 years. It was irreplaceable ! So didn't get another one. As it happens.... 34 years married today.

helimachoptor · 21-03-2015 9:58am

Married 3 years nearly, still take it off a lot and fidget with with

Princess Peach · 21-03-2015 10:17am

No

I used to be like Phoebe wearing about 8 rings at a time :pac:

I mostly only wear my engagement ring now, it's a bit flashy and hard to find jewellery to go with it. Looking forward to getting the wedding ring so I'll have one more to wear, though I wish it were for another finger. My hands feel so naked

monkeysnapper · 21-03-2015 11:00am

I hated mine when I first got married, kept rolling it and pulling it on and off , my knuckle started hurting , I thought I was going to do perminant damage unless I either stopped messing with it or took it off .

I just got used to it , I don't even know it's there any more .

I tried the same with contact lenses , tried for weeks. Not a hope .

Horses for courses

FactCheck · 21-03-2015 10:33pm

I've never taken it off.

solerina · 21-03-2015 10:36pm

No

I take mine off going to bed every night...my OH hasn't taken his off since I put it on at the alter the day we got married !!!

MistyCheese · 22-03-2015 12:50am

No

My husband doesn't wear his. He doesn't generally wear jewellery and finds the ring uncomfortable. He tends to wear it on special occasions though, if we're going out.

matrim · 22-03-2015 2:00pm

I can't stand wearing rings so wouldn't wear one. However, I used to wear a silver chain with a wooden pendant that had alot of meaning to me. I lost it a couple of years ago but plan on remaking it and using that instead of a ring

pwurple · 23-03-2015 10:36am

No

I wear the wedding band all day. Take it off for sleeping and washing.

Engagement ring I wear when I'm not at work. Only plain bands are allowed in most of the places I work, so rather than leave it in lockers, I just don't bring it.

Gatica · 23-03-2015 12:49pm

No

Always wear my engagement ring and wedding ring. I only take them off at the gym so they don't get damaged and when house cleaning.
I've also got a cheap set for taking with me instead for holidays that involve lots of outdoor activities.

An Bhanríon · 23-03-2015 1:15pm

When I was single (well into my thirties!) I really appreciated wedding rings because they were an indicator of what men were totally out of bounds and what men I would have to make further investigations about to find out if they were attached or not!!!

Now that I am married I wear my engagement ring and wedding ring every day. They feel like part of me now and when I ocassionally run out the door without them I feel totally bare. My rings also remind me of my husband and our wedding day, which puts a big smile on my face.

My husband hasn't removed his wedding ring (at all!) since we got married. And for some reason I think that's really romantic...

MadDog76 · 23-03-2015 8:40pm

No

skallywag wrote: »

I myself will never wear a wedding ring, as I dislike wearing any jewellery whatsoever.

Someone I know well has a similar attitude, he started wearing it after he got married, but quickly found himself fidgeting / playing with it all the time, to the point that he was leaving it behind him in public places! He eventually just took it off completely.

I'd be interested in hearing other opinions on the same.

I don't wear jewellery, never have but since getting married I've always worn (except in the shower and when I'm asleep for some reason?) it .......... I have a strange sense of pride (the ring is a symbol of this for me) about marrying the woman of my dreams I guess.

John Mason · 23-03-2015 9:23pm

No

my husband lost his at the wedding reception.

after 30 mins of panic, it turned up on the sink in the bathroom:eek:

hoodwinked · 24-03-2015 6:44pm

No

nether my husband or i wore rings before we got engaged/married,

when we picked out or engagement/wedding rings they key thing we went for (as unromantic as it sounds) was comfort, i wanted an engagement ring that wouldn't catch my hair as i brushed it or knock out the diamond everytime i bashed into something.

now i wear my rings all the time (with the exception of washing) and he does likewise, we wouldn't notice they are there unless we are looking at them.

AvonEnniskerry · 25-03-2015 9:19am

hoodwinked wrote:

when we picked out or engagement/wedding rings they key thing we went for (as unromantic as it sounds) was comfort, i wanted an engagement ring that wouldn't catch my hair as i brushed it or knock out the diamond everytime i bashed into something.

Exactly. We did the same thing. I couldn't face it getting caught every time I was getting dressed etc. All my rings are flat and while they don't look flashy I wouldn't have it any other way as they're so easy to wear.

blackbird 49 · 25-03-2015 9:24am

I rarely wear my engagement ring, wear my wedding on and off, my husband has his on all the time, he probably would take it off every now and then but can't get it over his knuckle

Inspector Coptoor · 26-03-2015 12:29am

No

I don't wear any jewellery at all, but since getting married, I only take my wedding ring off when going to the gym.

I wear it on my right hand though

clint_silver · 27-03-2015 7:33am

Is op male or female. I don't know any married women who don't wear their rings. I do know some men who dont though.
Poll is non representative of this.

As a man, I just never wore jewellery so just didn't see the point. I gave it a go at the start as we talked about it and she said she'd like to see me wear it but I really wasn't comfortable with it and was always taking it off. Haven't seen it in years.

seventeen sheep · 27-03-2015 8:03am

When I was engaged (it didn't work out) I found it very hard to get used to wearing the ring. I'd put it on last thing before leaving the house and take it off as soon as I got in the door. It wasn't that it was uncomfortable, I'd just never worn rings, so I couldn't get used to it.

If I were to go again, I doubt I'd bother with either an engagement ring or a wedding ring.

skallywag · 27-03-2015 10:11am

clint_silver wrote: »

Is op male or female. I don't know any married women who don't wear their rings. I do know some men who dont though.
Poll is non representative of this.

That's a good point, and I'm male by the way. I would hazard a guess that all those voting no are most likely also male.

Sunny Dayz · 27-03-2015 11:15am

No

I'm surprised at the amount of people who don't wear their wedding rings or only wear them out in public!

I think the only times I have taken off my wedding ring is when we go to the bog and when we were doing up the house last year. And also when I am putting on fake tan! And when I send it to the jewellers to be cleaned. That's it I think. My engagement ring is a little bit looser than my wedding ring. I take off when having a shower, when at the pool and for the reasons above re my wedding ring. I wouldn't really be a "ring" person, I have very small fingers (size H/I) so the only rings I can buy off the shelf to wear are from the kids section in claires accessories! I wear a claddagh ring on my other hand and that's it.

My husband always wears his wedding ring, it only comes off when going to the bog, in hospital, and I think that's it. He was looking forward to getting his wedding ring and wearing it but he doesn't own or wear any other jewellery bar a watch.

Greenmachine · 27-03-2015 11:25am

I am really surprised at the number of folks in here who don't wear theirs rings. I always took it as a given that once, you were married the rings stay on practically full time, with the exception of the engagement ring coming off for cleaning etc.

Frigga_92 · 27-03-2015 11:37am

No

My husband wears his wedding ring and a similar ring on his right hand all the time, including when working on his motorbikes and doing things around the farm so they usually end up quite dirty so anytime we visit his friend who made our rings he gets her to clean them up.
Our rings mean an awful lot to my husband, they mean a lot to me also obviously but they are very very important and very symbolic to him and I know he would be really upset if either of us lost our rings or they were stolen. We have them insured but our rings were custom made for us.

I wear my rings anytime I leave the house, as soon as I get home I put them in a special jewellery box where I keep all my fancy jewellery. We have 4 dogs and live on a farm so there's always some bit of cleaning to do or cooking so I got into the habit of taking them off rather than getting half way through a job and then taking them off with dirty hands.

Vojera · 27-03-2015 11:45am

No

Greenmachine wrote: »

I am really surprised at the number of folks in here who don't wear theirs rings. I always took it as a given that once, you were married the rings stay on practically full time, with the exception of the engagement ring coming off for cleaning etc.

I think it depends on your job as well. When I worked in a lab we were strongly discouraged from wearing any jewellery at all and in some lab/pharma environments it's outright banned. Then anyone who's a plumber/mechanic etc., it's safer not to wear them. And if you don't wear them all day you probably won't bother putting them on when you come home.

I love wearing mine but I wouldn't be upset if my wife didn't wear hers.

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