Bigger Girls: Are They More Popular than We Think?

Czarcasm · 29-05-2013 10:21am

--Kaiser-- wrote: »

The broad hips is more important than the legs pointing inward though, as this is also relevant for the hip/waist ration (another indicator of fertility and attractiveness).

I hope I'm not the only one who quantifies why I find a certain woman attractive in this way.....

Well, as weird as this is going to sound Kaiser, the reason it made sense for me at least, is because I was just thinking of the support structure needed to accomodate the pregnancy, it's like say if you took a boiled egg and held it underneath between your thumb, index and middle finger, then turn your hand upside down - which method offered more support for the egg?

The hip to waist ratio is a common enough one though, but again that wouldn't be size related - a girl size eight can have the same hip to waist ratio as a girl size eighteen- it's a ratio, not a set point.

Men and women are attracted to all different sorts and sizes in all fairness, and what one person may or may not find attractive, another person might think seven ways from sunday... generalisations about human beings perception will always be biased when based upon our own perceptions.

Spurtacus · 29-05-2013 10:24am

The type of models we see on catwalks & in Vogue are female models who appeal to females, this is how we imagine we want to look.

The reality is most men prefer curvier women with larger boobs & bum.

Wooden Balloon Game · 29-05-2013 10:24am

ibarelycare wrote: »

You guess it is widely regarded as attractive. Unless you have carried out surveys or studies then you're just making wild assumptions and generalisations.

Would you regard it a wild assumption to assume women prefer usually prefer tall men? I have no studies to back that assertion up, only my life experiences and perceptions, but that assertion is in know way wild, it has my lifetime of experience backing it up. And it just happens to be right too, women usually prefer tall men.

ibarelycare · 29-05-2013 10:26am

Wooden Balloon Game wrote: »

Would you regard it a wild assumption to assume women prefer usually prefer tall men? I have no studies to back that assertion up, only my life experiences and perceptions, but that assertion is in know way wild, it has my lifetime of experience backing it up. And it just happens to be right too, women usually prefer tall men.

IME women tend to prefer guys who are taller than them. As women are generally shorter than men, it's not a crazy assumption to make. I've never ever heard/read anything about the "majority" of men preferring women with a triangular gap between their thighs.

Wooden Balloon Game · 29-05-2013 10:30am

ibarelycare wrote: »

IME women tend to prefer guys who are taller than them. As women are generally shorter than men, it's not a crazy assumption to make. I've never ever heard/read anything about the "majority" of men preferring women with a triangular gap between their thighs.

You have now, I'd gamble my house on this, that's how confident I am, men love the gap.

ibarelycare · 29-05-2013 10:34am

Wooden Balloon Game wrote: »

You have now, I'd gamble my house on this, that's how confident I am, men love the gap.

You'd gamble your house on what? That some men love the gap? That's an incredibly safe bet, I'd gamble my house that some men don't!

Czarcasm · 29-05-2013 10:39am

Wooden Balloon Game wrote: »

Would you regard it a wild assumption to assume women prefer usually prefer tall men? I have no studies to back that assertion up, only my life experiences and perceptions, but that assertion is in know way wild, it has my lifetime of experience backing it up. And it just happens to be right too, women usually prefer tall men.

So... I don't even know how to put this one-

You're putting forward your opinion then as a statement of fact, based on what has to be said is obviously only your own limited life experience, and you can't see an issue with that?

How do you account for the attractiveness of a woman who wears a skirt then or a minidress? The thigh triangle is nothing more than a feature that some men find attractive the same way as ass dimples, eyes, lips, they're all features, the same way as there are hot gingers, and not so hot gingers, not so hot brunettes, and smoking brunettes, blondes who have more fun, and blondes who are boring as fcuk.

You're simply generalising when something fits with your theory. An unbiased and objective opinion doesn't work like that, but you are entitled to your own individual opinion regardless; I'm just saying you'd be wrong to try and pass it off as anything representative of the majority of anything.

Larianne · 29-05-2013 10:45am

What the fuk is this gap yokey that I'm meant to have to make me attractive to men? So my thighs aren't rubbing against each other? Is this a requirement in standing or when lying down? Or both?

They can't see it when I'm wearing a dress so what do they go by then?!

What a load of nonsense!

--Kaiser-- · 29-05-2013 10:45am

To be fair about this triangular gap thing (while I think it's attractive and I think most men would too) is that it's only apparent when a woman is standing with her feet together, which is not a particularly common stance. So I'll stick with the hip/waist ratio as it's usually a indicator of goof fat distribution (little fat around the waist) and hip size

29-05-2013 10:52am

This is the gap yokey. It's fairly hot - IMO!

Wooden Balloon Game · 29-05-2013 10:55am

ibarelycare wrote: »

You'd gamble your house on what? That some men love the gap? That's an incredibly safe bet, I'd gamble my house that some men don't!

No the vast majority.

Larianne · 29-05-2013 10:58am

Deleted User wrote: »

This is the gap yokey. It's fairly hot - IMO!

I see. Thanks for that.

The Cool · 29-05-2013 11:06am

Is the thigh-gap only sexy because you look at it and see "easy access"??

I think that's kind of bollocks but whatever floats your boat. But it is no indicator of thinness or fatness. I'm a size 16 with chunky thighs and no thigh gap. My sister is size 10 with toned, muscular thighs from cycling and she has no thigh gap. That's genetics and if I were to lose weight I'd probably be as likely to end up with a thigh gap as I would different coloured eyes.

Also worth mentioning - lots of people here seem to equate "big" with "curvy". You can be a size 8 and be curvy. Curvy is about your shape, the silhouette of your body, not your size. If you're talking about bigger girls, that means wobbly tummies, etc.

Sauve · 29-05-2013 11:13am

I'm after nearly creasing myself in the tiny toilets in work trying to see if I have a gap :pac:

Shenshen · 29-05-2013 11:14am

From past experiences, I have come to the conclusion that most guys don't really care either way.

Most of them will happily take home a size 10 or a size 16, as long as there are boobs attached.
And I know a good few who will turn their backs on a size 10 if they spot a well-shaped size 22. Overall, it seems to be more about proportion (boobs-waist-hip ratio) than actual size.

Weathering · 29-05-2013 11:16am

Yeah what classy birds being the bit on the side. It doesn't matter if your fat or not its a bit on the side for the cheater. OP you're deluded

29-05-2013 11:16am

Sauve wrote: »

I'm after nearly creasing myself in the tiny toilets in work trying to see if I have a gap :pac:

:pac:

Based on Kaiser's posts, I should have the right shape for a gap - just need to lose the fat on my thighs first

beks101 · 29-05-2013 11:17am

Triangular what now?
So we're measuring attraction in geometric figures now?
What a load of twaddle

--Kaiser-- · 29-05-2013 11:19am

The Cool wrote: »

Is the thigh-gap only sexy because you look at it and see "easy access"??

I think that's kind of bollocks but whatever floats your boat. But it is no indicator of thinness or fatness. I'm a size 16 with chunky thighs and no thigh gap. My sister is size 10 with toned, muscular thighs from cycling and she has no thigh gap. That's genetics and if I were to lose weight I'd probably be as likely to end up with a thigh gap as I would different coloured eyes.

I've already explained why it's attractive. It's not really down to skinniness

29-05-2013 11:20am

Weathering wrote: »

Yeah what classy birds being the bit on the side. It doesn't matter if your fat or not its a bit on the side for the cheater. OP you're deluded

The girl in the OP probably didn't know she was the bit on the side in fairness.

How Soon Is Now · 29-05-2013 11:23am

Any excuse :pac:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wAzmQbfZoIg

Aint been with a ''Skinny'' girl in years now fook them!!.

chakotha · 29-05-2013 11:32am

Check out Indian actress Namitha.

A big girl who oozes appeal and has a massive following in India. Yes pur-lease.

pickarooney · 29-05-2013 11:32am

Bigger than what? This thread makes no sense without reference points. And don't use dress sizes. Straight men have no earthly clue what they're supposed to represent.

The Backwards Man · 29-05-2013 11:35am

All these years I looked for a glowing personality, a friendly smile and nice eyes, when I should have been looking at fannies instead.:(

whatdoicare · 29-05-2013 11:36am

Pffffffft all this thigh gap stuff is a load of ****e. I'm a big lady, I have no thigh gap, I have big boobs and a brain.
I haven't been single since I was in primary school. I've never looked for a boyfriend, guys have always pursued me. Good looking guys who also have a brain. They find me attractive and then find out I'm fun be around and talk to.
I've been happily in a long term relationship for ten years and married for three of those. My husband still finds me attractive and I'm flipping huge and pregnant! (right now he's loudly brushing his teeth in the hopes that I'm awake and maybe in the mood

)

Everyone finds different things about different people attractive, it's a load of crap that only one body type is more attractive than another. The only thing in the world that will turn a guy off is a whinge bag, who the hell wants to stay with someone with a face like a slapped arse all the time but in saying that, there'll be at least one guy who'll chance it for a one nighter.

--Kaiser-- · 29-05-2013 11:37am

pickarooney wrote: »

Bigger than what? This thread makes no sense without reference points. And don't use dress sizes. Straight men have no earthly clue what they're supposed to represent.

Ain't that a fact. Guys have inside leg measurements, collar measurements, waist measurements, chest measurements etc.....yet girls have just one?

How Soon Is Now · 29-05-2013 11:37am

pickarooney wrote: »

Bigger than what? This thread makes no sense without reference points. And don't use dress sizes. Straight men have no earthly clue what they're supposed to represent.

Everyone has a different opinion on what ''Bigger'' is classed as these days.

Thats the issue really size and shape and all that ****e is an arseways subject for everyone men and women because you have one section telling you its wrong to be bigger then average then another telling you its ''Real''.

Czarcasm · 29-05-2013 11:39am

whatdoicare wrote: »

Everyone finds different things about different people attractive, it's a load of crap that only one body type is more attractive than another. The only thing in the world that will turn a guy off is a whinge bag, who the hell wants to stay with someone with a face like a slapped arse all the time but in saying that, there'll be at least one guy who'll chance it for a one nighter.

:pac:

29-05-2013 11:43am

pickarooney wrote: »

Bigger than what? This thread makes no sense without reference points. And don't use dress sizes. Straight men have no earthly clue what they're supposed to represent.

Yep - even dress sizes are not a real indicator. 7 people could stand in front of you wearing a size 12 dress - some of them will be bigger than others, some will have bigger hips, some will have a bigger tummy!

I don't know what "bigger" means tbh. I'm probably bigger, but without a baseline I don't really know.

blacklilly · 29-05-2013 12:04pm

No wonder some women are totally consumed with their body image. We shouldn't really care what anyone's preference is, if a slim or bigger women is one man's preference, so what, do you really care? It doesn't effect us.
I'm not skinny, I don't have the "gap" and I know it may sound shocking but I get plenty of attention from men.
Also if you're talking about ons etc, looks are usually the only thing someone is interested but if you're looking for a relationship, although attraction is important, in the past I've fallen in love with men who I wouldn't have initially deemed good looking.
There are lots of men who like bigger women as there are lots of men who like slimmer women, it's not that difficult to comprehend.

29-05-2013 12:10pm

blacklilly wrote: »

No wonder some women are totally consumed with their body image. We shouldn't really care what anyone's preference is, if a slim or bigger women is one man's preference, so what, do you really care? It doesn't effect us. .

I genuinely think a thread like this is a good thing for body image, it's good to read that you don't need to be a certain way - that different men find different women attractive. Women's magazines try to force us to believe that unless we're "perfect" then we're not, well, perfect.

Maybe in my naivety I'm missing the negative, but I'm only taking positive from it and I feel a lot better about my wobbly bits after reading this thread I have to admit.

bumper234 · 29-05-2013 12:10pm

How did these 2 songs not make it into this thread already????

How Soon Is Now · 29-05-2013 12:13pm

bumper234 wrote: »

How did these 2 songs not make it into this thread already????

Jesus i ****ing hate that Mika song nice one for reminding me !!.

blacklilly · 29-05-2013 12:18pm

Deleted User wrote: »

I genuinely think a thread like this is a good thing for body image, it's good to read that you don't need to be a certain way - that different men find different women attractive. Women's magazines try to force us to believe that unless we're "perfect" then we're not, well, perfect.

Maybe in my naivety I'm missing the negative, but I'm only taking positive from it and I feel a lot better about my wobbly bits after reading this thread I have to admit.

That's a fair point but it just seems that women's bodies are discussed so much and the thread title suggests that it's shocking to think some men prefer bigger women. It is good to see so many men commenting positively on this thread (about slim and bigger women)

Wooden Balloon Game · 29-05-2013 12:19pm

People are free to have whatever size body they want, but equally people are free to have their own preferences in terms of physical qualities that a potential partner would have.

It just so happens there are certain physical signals which the majority of men prefer. Smooth skin for example just like a nice gap are physical signals of fertility and health. This doesn't mean most men aren't attracted to bodies without all these signals, but the more signals the higher the chance a man will be attracted and he greater the intensity of attraction.

29-05-2013 12:19pm

--Kaiser-- wrote: »

To be fair about this triangular gap thing (while I think it's attractive and I think most men would too) is that it's only apparent when a woman is standing with her feet together, which is not a particularly common stance. So I'll stick with the hip/waist ratio as it's usually a indicator of goof fat distribution (little fat around the waist) and hip size

I'm going to only wear skirts from now on.

Keep 'em guessing like.

Czarcasm · 29-05-2013 12:23pm

bumper234 wrote: »

How did these 2 songs not make it into this thread already????

Fat bottomed girls was posted already, but thanks for the Mika...

*plugs in headphones*

whatdoicare · 29-05-2013 12:28pm

"Wood wrote:

people are free to have whatever size body they want, but equally people are free to have their own preferences in terms of physical qualities that a potential partner would have.

It just so happens there are certain physical signals which the majority of men prefer. Smooth skin for example just like a nice gap are physical signals of fertility and health. This doesn't mean most men aren't attracted to bodies without all these signals, but the more signals the higher the chance a man will be attracted and he greater the intensity of attraction.

The coveted hour glass is the symbol of fertility and health not the thigh gap. No matter what size you are, the hips and breasts being bigger than the waist is what traditionally draws men looking to procreate. It's why the corset was so popular for so long.

The thigh gap was created by and is what's looked for in the fashion industry in recent years.
It has nothing to do with fertility or health.

laoch na mona · 29-05-2013 12:31pm

blacklilly wrote: »

That's a fair point but it just seems that women's bodies are discussed so much and the thread title suggests that it's shocking to think some men prefer bigger women. It is good to see so many men commenting positively on this thread (about slim and bigger women)

it is a bit of a joke I've never seen women talk about mens bodies as much, but Id like to know what size women men are talking about when they say bigger. healthy sizes are whats attractive not overweight people of either gender imo

Wooden Balloon Game · 29-05-2013 12:32pm

whatdoicare wrote: »

The coveted hour glass is the symbol of fertility and health not the thigh gap. No matter what size you are, the hips and breasts being bigger than the waist is what traditionally draws men looking to procreate. It's why the corset was so popular for so long.

The thigh gap was created by and is what's looked for in the fashion industry in recent years.
It has nothing to do with fertility or health.

The thigh gap wasn't created by the fashion industry, it's always existed and it's always been attractive.

Wibbs · 29-05-2013 12:37pm

Juniorhurler wrote: »

Are you calm when you are constantly starving? I know I'm not.

Eh no, naturally thin women aren't constantly starving. They just have smaller appetites. I'm a skinny man and I'm rarely hungry, never mind starving. At the other end of the scale I've mates, men and women, who seem near obsessed with food. All things being equal and unless they exercise like crazy they're going to carry more fat.

It's also cultural. I would say Irish men are far more into and accepting of bigger women than say the Latins and some eastern Europeans among others. In those cultures what they'd see as fat would have a much lower bar than in Ireland IME. I knew a Spanish lass whose "mates" called her gordita(little fatty) and she was a size 12, if even that.

Personal taste? Known all sizes, but personality aside(if one ever can) I'd be a fan of a similar body shape to me, thin basically. I don't dg chunky TBH, but I'd be rare enough in that IMHO and IME.

Shenshen · 29-05-2013 12:37pm

Wooden Balloon Game wrote: »

The thigh gap wasn't created by the fashion industry, it's always existed and it's always been attractive.

I'd never heard of it until today, and on checking neither had my husband.
I had to describe it in some detail and his reaction was "Women have a gap there? What on earth for?"

I've no doubt that some women have always had it, but I somehow doubt many men are even aware of its existence.

SuperGrover · 29-05-2013 12:41pm

Deleted User wrote: »

This is the gap yokey. It's fairly hot - IMO!

AKA the Toblerone Tunnel

Wooden Balloon Game · 29-05-2013 12:41pm

Shenshen wrote: »

I'd never heard of it until today, and on checking neither had my husband.
I had to describe it in some detail and his reaction was "Women have a gap there? What on earth for?"

I've no doubt that some women have always had it, but I somehow doubt many men are even aware of its existence.

Yes just like many men aren't aware of the precise waste hip ratio they prefer, but their body has adapted to notice it subconsciously and respond to it.

Shenshen · 29-05-2013 12:47pm

Wooden Balloon Game wrote: »

Yes just like many men aren't aware of the precise waste hip ratio they prefer, but their body has adapted to notice it subconsciously and respond to it.

Ah, of course. They don't know, they've never seen it, but you know that they respond to it anyway.

*lol

Czarcasm · 29-05-2013 12:48pm

Wooden Balloon Game wrote: »

The thigh gap wasn't created by the fashion industry, it's always existed and it's always been attractive.

In your opinion.

To me the girl in the pic whoops posted earlier, while she'd a great set of hips, the thigh gap looks like just that- a weird gap, the poor girl looks bandy legged IMO, I mean, again- it's purely subjective, it just doesn't do it for me, but it does for you, but to try and say your opinion is in the majority based on your own experience, well, that's just wrong.

Shenshen wrote: »

I'd never heard of it until today, and on checking neither had my husband.
I had to describe it in some detail and his reaction was "Women have a gap there? What on earth for?"

I've no doubt that some women have always had it, but I somehow doubt many men are even aware of its existence.

Exactly. Of course it's always existed, but it's only in recent years more people have become aware of it as an internet phenomenon moreso than anything actually realistically encountered on a daily basis, the very same as the ass dimples or camel toe phenomenon- it's an internet fad.

EDIT: After looking at that pic again, it looks like they photoshopped the hell out of it too!

ShadowHearth · 29-05-2013 12:51pm

My sister is on a bigger side now... So her husband was on like this: " I love bigger girls, hate skiny woman, I need some flesh! "

So one day he left his portable SSD at my place by mistake. While I was getting stuff I need off it, I could not miss out on a 60gb Folder filled with Porn. I like his taste, but he is clearly full of **** about "bigger Girls"... :rolleyes:

Its a shame I did not did a copy of that folder, there was some really awesome stuff

Wooden Balloon Game · 29-05-2013 12:51pm

Shenshen wrote: »

Ah, of course. They don't know, they've never seen it, but you know that they respond to it anyway.

*lol

Yes I do know they more than likely are effected physiologically by seeing a nice gap.

whatdoicare · 29-05-2013 12:55pm

Wood established Balloon Game wrote: »

Yes just like many men aren't aware of the precise waste hip ratio they
, but their body has adapted to notice it subconsciously and respond to it.

I just Googled "The history of the thigh gap" and all that comes up is "new craze" "new obsession" "new dangerous obsession amongst teens" so I have to call bull**** on this being an always thing.
Whereas googling "hour glass figure in women in history" comes up with pages and pages of documentation in history.
It's not a fertility thing, it's a symbol of starvation and control in the fashion industry. How could it possibly be a symbol of fertility, women wore skirts and covered this area for centuries!

The Cool · 29-05-2013 1:01pm

Wooden Balloon Game wrote: »

The thigh gap wasn't created by the fashion industry, it's always existed and it's always been attractive.

To be fair, the attractiveness of the thigh gap is completely relative to your personal tastes. It is not a universal. But then is anything??

Reading through this thread I'm struck by how important women's appearances seem to be to us. Don't get me wrong, I'm not the most body confident myself either, but surely there is more to us than having space between our thighs or a bit extra wobble on our belly? I don't judge men's attractiveness based on their muscles or height, I look for someone who is compassionate, easy to talk to, makes me laugh... Why don't we rate our own attractiveness in the same way?
Let's face it, physically attractive traits like toned legs or perky boobs aren't going to be sticking with us for very long anyway, in 20 years it'll be their personality that makes you love them, not how they look.

Bigger Girls: Are They More Popular than We Think?

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