For womens in their 30s, how young is too young?

Loada_Bo11ocks · 11-08-2009 7:26pm #1

Well? With regard to men obviously..

Nevyn · 11-08-2009 7:37pm

Age is but one factor there are many others.

shellyboo · 11-08-2009 7:44pm

Every woman, once she hits the age of 30, is suddenly hit with the realisation that they can never again date anyone under the age of 25 years and four months.

Or maybe I made that up, and it varies from woman to woman. There is no norm.

11-08-2009 7:46pm

Anything under 40. At that stage they need an older man to take care of them as they're pretty much over the hill. Preferably rich too. And prepared to have the hordes of children the 30+ women inevitably want.

lin lin · 11-08-2009 7:50pm

personally i would consciously try to not get involved with a younger man, simply because i was in a relationship for 5 years with a 4.5 years younger guy and it didn't work out, and i honestly feel that it was partly because of the age difference

having said that, if you are already involved with a younger guy which i gather you are from your post, then id say go for it by all means, i did it, i dont particularly regret it and if it didn't work for me or for other people it doesn't mean it won't work for you

Khannie · 11-08-2009 9:06pm

Half your age + 6 is the golden rule. The engineer in me loves it.

amacachi · 11-08-2009 9:09pm

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Half_Plus_Seven_Graph_2.JPG Fairly sure that's the law.

GodSaveTheQueen · 11-08-2009 9:11pm

What ever you are happy with. You are the important.

Don't break laws.

Wibbs · 11-08-2009 9:25pm

bluewolf wrote: »

Anything under 40. At that stage they need an older man to take care of them as they're pretty much over the hill. Preferably rich too. And prepared to have the hordes of children the 30+ women inevitably want.

I lolled.

Silverfish · 11-08-2009 9:27pm

amacachi wrote: »

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Half_Plus_Seven_Graph_2.JPG Fairly sure that's the law.

Yeah I prefer the +7 rule than the +8 rule personally.

Woden · 11-08-2009 9:34pm

You must round up though of course!

Khannie · 11-08-2009 9:41pm

Half + 6, rounding up. That'd be my rule. 7 is cack. I don't see any problem with a 30 year old dating a 21 year old for example ((30 / 2) + 6).

Nevyn · 11-08-2009 9:50pm

Again age is only one factor, and sure when I was 30 I dated a 18 year old for 9 months. :P

Khannie · 11-08-2009 10:05pm

You go girl! (fu maddison!)

Very impressive that. Not sure if I would have gone as low as an 18 year old at 30*

*complete lie

Magic Eight Ball · 11-08-2009 10:17pm

Thaedydal wrote: »

Again age is only one factor, and sure when I was 30 I dated a 18 year old for 9 months. :P

Teach me!

Nevyn · 11-08-2009 10:38pm

Khannie wrote: »

Very impressive that. Not sure if I would have gone as low as an 18 year old at 30*

*complete lie

I don't get what is impressive about it
He was exceptional in many ways and with expectational people, who are adults, age is just an number
and when I was 19/20 I was involved with a 37 year old.

12-08-2009 12:50am

An 18 year old bloke would wanna be pretty desperate to be gettin' involved with an auld wan.

TelePaul · 12-08-2009 12:54am

Rojomcdojo wrote: »

An 18 year old bloke would wanna be pretty desperate to be gettin' involved with an auld wan.

Some of us are EXACTLY that kinda desperate, so back off! :mad:

HAPPYGIRL · 12-08-2009 12:59am

Rojomcdojo wrote: »

An 18 year old bloke would wanna be pretty desperate to be gettin' involved with an auld wan.

You think a 30 year old woman is an 'auld wan'. You must be around 12 or maybe thats just your mental age.

kumate_champ07 · 12-08-2009 2:59am

lin lin wrote: »

personally i would consciously try to not get involved with a younger man, simply because i was in a relationship for 5 years with a 4.5 years younger guy and it didn't work out, and i honestly feel that it was partly because of the age difference

having said that, if you are already involved with a younger guy which i gather you are from your post, then id say go for it by all means, i did it, i dont particularly regret it and if it didn't work for me or for other people it doesn't mean it won't work for you

It lasted 5years!

kumate_champ07 · 12-08-2009 3:34am

so if shes too young wait a few years for her to fall into the right part of the graph?

Xiney · 12-08-2009 8:23am

Alright, let's hear less from the lads' perspectives please.

The OP wanted fellow ladies' experiences and opinions, if she'd wanted jokes about "auld ones" she could have just as easily posted in AH.

Ghost Train · 12-08-2009 9:01am

Xiney wrote: »

The OP wanted fellow ladies' experiences

don't think Loada_Bo11ocks is a lady... from one of his other posts

Im 19, male

Xiney · 12-08-2009 9:05am

Well, in that case.

*moved to After Hours*

Ladies' Lounge is not a focus group

Nerin · 12-08-2009 9:08am

Xiney wrote: »

Well, in that case.

*moved to After Hours*

Ladies' Lounge is not a focus group

When the guy is the op...

blinding · 12-08-2009 9:14am

I think it should be compulsory for older women to take young men uder their sexual wing and educate them.

This would lead to much improved sexual performance by the young men with all future partners.

Younger women do not normally have the knowledge, confidence or experience to guide young men to their best performance.

I really regret never having been given good guidance from a more experienced female when I was a young man.

Ah too late now.

Ghost Train · 12-08-2009 9:15am

Nerin wrote: »

When the guy is the op...

when a woman asked something similar yesterday in AH it was moved to TLL so these threads get moved both ways :pac:

Nerin · 12-08-2009 9:17am

Ghost Train wrote: »

when a woman asked something similar yesterday in AH it was moved to TLL so these threads get moved both ways :pac:

We can have a thread moving war \o/ ^_^

UrbanSea · 12-08-2009 9:22am

What 18 year old have you ever come across that said they wouldnt like a milf?

Abi · 12-08-2009 9:23am

Wibbs wrote: »

I lolled.

I cried =P

lin lin · 12-08-2009 11:19am

Ghost Train wrote: »

don't think Loada_Bo11ocks is a lady... from one of his other posts

aaaahhh apologies to the op i didn't realise youre a 19 yo male.. im new here.. should definitely have picked up on the user name :-)

so youre probably not looking for a relationship, hmm, personally i think 19 is a bit young, try by all means, it shows ambition.. but be realistic and if it doesn't work dont take it personally

DaveSlats · 12-08-2009 11:31am

I went from being with a woman 12 years younger than me to a woman 14 years older than me. A 26 year age swing.

In both cases the relationship had no future because of the age gap.

Take a 15 year age gap.

One is 35, one is 20 - a bit odd.

One is 45, the other is 30. Maybe.

One is 45, the other is 60. Back to odd.

There is a short window where that kind of age gap doesn't matter, but generally speaking you would have to look at other motives beyond the romantic with a big age gap.

And not all of them mentally healthy.

lin lin · 12-08-2009 11:42am

DaveSlats wrote: »

I went from being with a woman 12 years younger than me to a woman 14 years older than me. A 26 year age swing.

In both cases the relationship had no future because of the age gap.

Take a 15 year age gap.

One is 35, one is 20 - a bit odd.

One is 45, the other is 30. Maybe.

One is 45, the other is 60. Back to odd.

There is a short window where that kind of age gap doesn't matter, but generally speaking you would have to look at other motives beyond the romantic with a big age gap.

And not all of them mentally healthy.

wow 26 years, they could have been mother and dau..... omg, they were mother and daughter weren't they?!!..

DaveSlats · 12-08-2009 11:55am

Lin Lin,

No, they were not mother and daughter.

However, the older woman was older than the younger womans mother.

The younger woman was older than the older mothers children.

Very confusing.

Ever heard the song 'I am my own grandpa'?

A bit like that.

DaveSlats · 12-08-2009 11:57am

Got that wrong, it still confuses me.

The younger woman was younger than the older womans children.

One of whom was quite attractive.

It was at that stage that I got my coat.

lin lin · 12-08-2009 12:05pm

thanks, you did right i'd say

DaveSlats · 12-08-2009 12:08pm

Not only was the daughter of the older woman attractive, so was the mother of the younger woman.

Now, I am not normally gay but the half-brother of the younger womans mother did something for me, as did his wife who was a cousin of the older woman.

Too much too young.

SV · 12-08-2009 12:22pm

Rojomcdojo wrote: »

An 18 year old bloke would wanna be pretty desperate to be gettin' involved with an auld wan.

Dunno about that, some of us prefer it to be honest.
Nothing to do with being desperate.

Kiera · 12-08-2009 12:27pm

I was asked out by an 18yr old a while ago (and I’m just 30). Very cute guy but just couldn’t do it. All I could picture was talking about Cascada’s new cd or how many bebo mates he had.

Nerin · 12-08-2009 12:31pm

Kiera wrote: »

I was asked out by an 18yr old a while ago (and I’m just 30). Very cute guy but just couldn’t do it. All I could picture was talking about Cascada’s new cd or how many bebo mates he had.

You're 30?!

Kiera · 12-08-2009 12:34pm

Nerin wrote: »

You're 30?!

Take it to Helpdesk!

Nerin · 12-08-2009 12:36pm

Kiera wrote: »

Take it to Helpdesk!

i don't think the admins can help...unless...hmmm.

ChocolateSauce · 12-08-2009 12:37pm

21 wasn't too young for a number of 30+ women I've met

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Oh The Humanity · 12-08-2009 12:42pm

Night of passion=19+

Relationship=25+

wudangclan · 12-08-2009 1:55pm

Khannie wrote: »

Half + 6, rounding up. That'd be my rule. 7 is cack. I don't see any problem with a 30 year old dating a 21 year old for example ((30 / 2) + 6).

+1

prinz · 12-08-2009 2:59pm

shellyboo wrote: »

Every woman, once she hits the age of 30, is suddenly hit with the realisation that they can never again date anyone under the age of 25 years and four months.

Or maybe I made that up, and it varies from woman to woman. There is no norm.

:eek: Shelllyboo, jackpot just made it, you've got a slim window to make a move, I'll be off the market soon

Nerin · 12-08-2009 3:14pm

wudangclan wrote: »

+1

17? >_>

Dardania · 12-08-2009 3:16pm

Kiera wrote: »

I was asked out by an 18yr old a while ago (and I’m just 30). Very cute guy but just couldn’t do it. All I could picture was talking about Cascada’s new cd or how many bebo mates he had.

Casc-who?!

Oh The Humanity wrote: »

Night of passion=19+

Relationship=25+

This sounds fair...

Turd Ferguson · 12-08-2009 4:18pm

Khannie wrote: »

Half your age + 6 is the golden rule. The engineer in me loves it.

I do half my age - 6....it works for me

mink_man · 12-08-2009 4:27pm

ah i finally can see some of the posts of the famous turd ferguson ive heard so much about!

makehersquirt · 12-08-2009 4:41pm

When I was 24, I met a 42 yo woman who became my lover. She is a good looking woman, thin, fit and very appreciative of my actions. I still meet up with her the odd time to 'catch up'. She did teach me stuff although nearly ate me alive at first!

Also, kinda got it on with a 18 yo spanish girl there 2 years ago. nothing serious though. I was 28 at the time so thats 10 years younger & 18 years older than me, a 28 year swing but isnt as mad as it sounds. I did educate the young wan though.

For womens in their 30s, how young is too young?

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