What made you smile/frown/mad/sad/cry today-thread for all your emotional needs! V4

Kiera · 27-03-2012 11:51am

She's growing up, Merlie. You just have to get on with it.

cynder · 27-03-2012 11:57am

Just finshed my 10 k walk, need food and a shower....

Sar_Bear · 27-03-2012 11:58am

Stressed and feel like crying!!!

House hunting to move to Limerick next month, & even though I've been looking at houses since January I've only found 2 that suited (needs to be less than 700 a month, and needs a garden for the doggies). Rang about them today and they are both gone. Was on Daft, found a perfect house the was only put on the website 2 hours ago, rang and it was gone

Really getting frustrated now!!! And doesn't help that I got my mothers tendency to stress out way too easily!!! Feels like even though I've been looking for houses for months, and only found 2, how the hell will I find one in the next 5 weeks?!!!

ugh

cynder · 27-03-2012 11:59am

Lola92 wrote: »

My boyfriend was told yesterday that he and the others that work with him will most likely be let go in the next few weeks I don't know how we're going to cope. We pay too much rent to qualify for and benefits to help with it so we might have to move, problem is that any of the places I can find that come within the price limit are all way out in the country and we have no transport of our own. Hoping we might be able to negotiate with the landlord to get him to drop our rent, but chances of him dropping it by more than €50 a week are slim

Oh no.

Hope things work out,,,

Hugs

Eviledna · 27-03-2012 12:00pm

It's tough at that age merlie, but you aren't loosing her, she'll come back when college life calms down or is over. I know I went through the same with my mam when I was in college, but now I'm in my late 20's were back thick as thieves like before. You have a good relationship with her which is the foundation, and part of your gift to her is giving her the freedom to explore her new independence, to grow away so she can choose to come back in a new mature way.

In the meantime try to put new things in your life to fill the gap a little, to distract from the very normal feelings you are having. Take up a book group or a new class, set about making new friends, maybe other mums like yourself who can relate. I know my mam felt it hard when I moved out, she went back to education too, and we could relate to each other through study too.

merlie · 27-03-2012 12:03pm

Kiera wrote: »

She's growing up, Merlie. You just have to get on with it.

Yes I know, but all I just want is her and me to have some quality time together

x Purple Pawprints x · 27-03-2012 12:09pm

Merlie, try and have a chat to her again about it. Tell her exactly how you're feeling and what you would like to happen in the future. I'm sure she doesn't realise how you feel because she's so busy with college and whatnot.

cynder · 27-03-2012 12:42pm

merlie wrote: »

Yes I know, but all I just want is her and me to have some quality time together

If that was me i would ask her to join me for a coffee in the local cafe.

You should tell her how you feel.

I left home at 16 (back before mobile phones) and i would visit my parents at weekends sometimes it would be 2 weeks -3 weeks before they saw me. Im now 31 and my mother lives in the uk, i skype her nearly every day and we chat for over an hour. We talk more now than what we did when i was younger. When she visits or i visit her she crys everytime we have to say goodbye, its normal

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* That said im seeing her in 6 weeks, taking her to Italy (venice) for 5 days, its where her grandmother was from.... cant wait till my holidays....

Kiera · 27-03-2012 12:49pm

grindelwald wrote: »

If that was me i would ask her to join me for a coffee in the local cafe.

You should tell her how you feel.

I don’t think she should tell her how she feels. It will only guilt her into spending time with her and she wont be doing it off her own back. She needs to be allowed get on with her life and come back to her mother when she’s ready.

daenerysstormborn3 · 27-03-2012 12:52pm

I don't think you should tell her how you feel but you should just organise something for the two of you to do together, go to the cinema or go out for dinner, not because you miss her so much but just because she is growing up and becoming her own person and finding her own way in the world.

Sephiroth_dude · 27-03-2012 1:00pm

hardly no sleep again last night,it was way too warm :eek:

Kiera · 27-03-2012 1:07pm

Sephiroth_dude wrote: »

hardly no sleep again last night,it was way too warm :eek:

Yeah I was the same. Time to change to my summer duvet I think

Sephiroth_dude · 27-03-2012 1:08pm

Kiera wrote: »

Yeah I was the same. Time to change to my summer duvet I think

I'm thinking the same :-D

Kiera · 27-03-2012 1:12pm

Sephiroth_dude wrote: »

I'm thinking the same :-D

Get your own :P

x Purple Pawprints x · 27-03-2012 1:16pm

Emailed college re. my application because I had some questions, they got back to me so fast. Needed to know if there was someone I could talk to about grants and I got an email address. Will email later when I figure out what to say.

Lola92 · 27-03-2012 1:18pm

merlie wrote: »

Omg. Just when I was looking forward to my daughter staying this one night, she just sends me a text saying shes coming over for a couple of hours and is not staying. I feel like although I am grateful for the couple of hours I just miss her a hell of a lot.

This is so tough trying to get used to this, as she is my only one. Since she is staying with her new boyfriend a lot at his family home, I feel like I have lost her in a way. The house is so quiet and lifeless without her. She is such a great young woman and I really admire her for the person she is. I just wish that she would talk with me more and even stay over one night every now and then. But this has not transpired.

She comes over, collects some clothes or her college books and goes. We don't have conversations the way we used too. I am missing out on what is happening in her daily life, but she knows I will always be here for her, no matter what.

I just get upset about this and we used to be so close, go places, have fun, laughs and such. Now we don't anymore and I hardly see her except those moments when she comes down, when she needs something.

Had a cry again this morning after reading her text. I love her a lot and want her to be happy and am glad she is happy but at the same time, I feel like I am in limbo never knowing when or if she will turn up or text me. I just worry about her.

That is tough merlie, I guess my parents probably have felt that way about me leaving home. Maybe ask her if she would like to go for a coffee/cinema/come over for a chinese and a bottle of wine or something. Tell her that you are proud of her and the woman she has become and you want to keep the bond that you have together.

Eviledna wrote: »

@Lola, It is ridiculously low, almost unattainable for most people tbh. I guess that's by design. :rolleyes:

If I were you I'd make an appointment to see your community welfare officer right away, in advance of your partner finishing up. I have found them much more compassionate than the usual sw offices and may be able to give you some advice on leverage for negotiations with your landlord. Many landlords won't want to loose good tenants, and will drop rent into the boundaries. Don't loose hope, there are many in your situation and there are contingencies out there to be explored.

Also, for your oh, I'd say to get into a good recruitment agency ASAP, don't wait for the finishing date if possible, be positive and revisit the CV and see how it can be improved upon. It's a good time of year to be job seeking and the in-between time might be shorter than you expect - it sure was for me!;)

Thanks for the advice. Unfortunately he is in a sector where frankly he has been very lucky to keep his job this long (construction). His Dad is self employed and said he can't even take him on because he only has enough work to keep himself busy. Oh well... things will work out somehow. I will get in touch with the landlord and CWO as soon as I can, hopefully some good will come of it all!

Lola92 · 27-03-2012 1:21pm

Oh Grindelwald, I meant to say congrats on the weight loss! You look fab! I hope your daughter had a nice day for her conformation

I hope you get some good news about the college application and grants and stuff Jane. It can be so complicated sometimes!

Sephiroth_dude · 27-03-2012 1:22pm

Kiera wrote: »

Get your own :P

But but but..............I want your one :-P

Kiera · 27-03-2012 1:23pm

Sephiroth_dude wrote: »

But but but..............I want your one :-P

No! I dont want boy germs on my stuff! :mad::mad::mad:

The Big Red Button · 27-03-2012 1:25pm

merlie wrote: »

Omg. Just when I was looking forward to my daughter staying this one night, she just sends me a text saying shes coming over for a couple of hours and is not staying. I feel like although I am grateful for the couple of hours I just miss her a hell of a lot.

This is so tough trying to get used to this, as she is my only one. Since she is staying with her new boyfriend a lot at his family home, I feel like I have lost her in a way. The house is so quiet and lifeless without her. She is such a great young woman and I really admire her for the person she is. I just wish that she would talk with me more and even stay over one night every now and then. But this has not transpired.

She comes over, collects some clothes or her college books and goes. We don't have conversations the way we used too. I am missing out on what is happening in her daily life, but she knows I will always be here for her, no matter what.

I just get upset about this and we used to be so close, go places, have fun, laughs and such. Now we don't anymore and I hardly see her except those moments when she comes down, when she needs something.

Had a cry again this morning after reading her text. I love her a lot and want her to be happy and am glad she is happy but at the same time, I feel like I am in limbo never knowing when or if she will turn up or text me. I just worry about her.

Kiera wrote: »

She's growing up, Merlie. You just have to get on with it.

^^ What Kiera said, big time!

I do get that, as she's your only child, it must make it even harder for you that she's not around anymore.

But she has her own life to live - as do you, for that matter! You should take this time to focus on yourself, and maybe take up a few new activities or classes, things that you may not have had the time to do when she was younger. Just stay as busy as possible.

It's sort of coming across that you have unfair expectations of her. She should be able to just pop in for an hour or two of casual conversation, without being expected to stay over or to fill you in on every detail of her life!

It might be an idea to suggest things to do with her outside of the house - e.g. book tickets for the two of you to go for a show or something together, and maybe dinner beforehand, something like that.

You just need to give her the time and space to let her get used to her own independence. I know that's what happened with me anyways ... for the first couple of years that I was living away from home, I barely spoke to my parents (we never fell out, it just wouldn't occur to me to ring home, and they rarely rang me either.) Whereas, now, I'd say my mam is sick of me ringing her for random chit-chats.

I would've felt horribly guilty, though, if I'd ever gotten the impression that my mother felt the way you do now. However it was very different in my case, as I'm from a large family and my mam had plenty of other younger kids to keep her distracted!!

Just try to enjoy the time you have with her, and keep yourself as busy as possible the rest of the time.

And do bear in mind that, in a couple of months/years, she'll probably have gotten over the initial buzz of the "freedom" of being away from home, and will visit a lot more frequently!

Sephiroth_dude · 27-03-2012 1:27pm

Kiera wrote: »

No! I dont want boy germs on my stuff! :mad::mad::mad:

:eek:

krudler · 27-03-2012 1:36pm

Sar_Bear wrote: »

Stressed and feel like crying!!!

House hunting to move to Limerick next month, & even though I've been looking at houses since January I've only found 2 that suited (needs to be less than 700 a month, and needs a garden for the doggies). Rang about them today and they are both gone. Was on Daft, found a perfect house the was only put on the website 2 hours ago, rang and it was gone Really getting frustrated now!!! And doesn't help that I got my mothers tendency to stress out way too easily!!! Feels like even though I've been looking for houses for months, and only found 2, how the hell will I find one in the next 5 weeks?!!!

ugh

where in Limerick are you looking to move?

x Purple Pawprints x · 27-03-2012 1:37pm

Think I may have a way to get to both days of my event in Mullingar. My bf said I can stay in his and his brother could drive me. He's going to ask him today and it should be okay if his brother isn't busy.

TeletextPear · 27-03-2012 1:45pm

Back doing driving lessons as my test is just over two weeks away :eek:

Instructor reckons I'm a lot more confident (which is great, because I used to be a nervous wreck on any road, knees would literally be knocking for the entire drive and ten minutes after it!) But I'd slipped into bad habits like never using the handbrake at traffic lights and my judgment is still as ropey as it ever was. Have another lesson on Thurs so hopefully I'll be able to iron out the creases before the big day! :rolleyes:

Kiera · 27-03-2012 1:49pm

krudler wrote: »

where in Limerick are you looking to move?

Trying to fob your old place off on her? :P

awec · 27-03-2012 1:58pm

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Kiera · 27-03-2012 2:00pm

awec wrote: »

Well that's a lie. :pac: :pac:

Get back in your pond you! :P

awec · 27-03-2012 2:04pm

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cynder · 27-03-2012 2:28pm

Sephiroth_dude wrote: »

hardly no sleep again last night,it was way too warm :eek:

I was as snug as a bug, for once the duvet wasnt keeping my husbands b*lls warm.......

He has a bad habit of having on leg in and one leg out and the duvet keeps his bits warm

and my back is frozen....

men:rolleyes:

TeletextPear · 27-03-2012 2:34pm

There's a very angry wasp in my garden. I've been trying to take in the washing but he's been doing circuits of my socks for the last ten minutes!

x Purple Pawprints x · 27-03-2012 2:39pm

My tummy is rumbling and gurgling. I'm afraid to eat anything.

cynder · 27-03-2012 2:39pm

TeletextPear wrote: »

There's a very angry wasp in my garden. I've been trying to take in the washing but he's been doing circuits of my socks for the last ten minutes!

im armed with a tin of wasp spray

keep on coming threw the open doors, my little guy is terrified of them ever since the middle guy got stung in Majorca 3 years ago.

Kiera · 27-03-2012 2:44pm

Jane_LS_88 wrote: »

My tummy is rumbling and gurgling. I'm afraid to eat anything.

It's telling you to eat something :P

Daisies · 27-03-2012 2:54pm

Can someone ring my boss and tell him that it's criminal to be working on a day like today?
I wanna go frolick in the sun!

herisson · 27-03-2012 3:07pm

EmilyO wrote: »

I've found the cries of retail thread.

Bye bye, productivity.

EmilyO....i hate you so much right now!

why did you mention R&R??!!! Im suppose to be doing an essay!!

but cries of retail.......bahahahahaha

Sephiroth_dude · 27-03-2012 3:33pm

grindelwald wrote: »

I was as snug as a bug, for once the duvet wasnt keeping my husbands b*lls warm.......

He has a bad habit of having on leg in and one leg out and the duvet keeps his bits warm and my back is frozen....

men:rolleyes:

Haha Tmi

x Purple Pawprints x · 27-03-2012 3:44pm

Ate a doughnut and had some 7up. Hope I won't need to

run to the bathroom

Tried on a gorgeous dress in TK Maxx. It was purple and green with a really nice embellishment sort of thing under the bust and it was too small. If I lose a stone it would fit, so I was told. No more doughnuts for me.

mariebeth · 27-03-2012 3:53pm

Really need to concentrate and get working on this literature review for college. It's due Friday, it's our last assignment and it's not even worth that much, but I've managed to get all the other ones finished before the due date, so I want to have this one finished as well. But...I'm getting distracted looking at cars on the internet. I got the call to say they're going to write off my car and give me the market value for it, so it's time to go car shopping

Bubblefett · 27-03-2012 4:02pm

Sorry about your boyfrined Lola, I hope it all works out- maybe to offer the landlord that you'll paint the entire house/say you hope it'll only be temporary (which I'm sure you do) so he doesn't think it'll be a permanent thing, anything to help him drop the rent.

Found out that now absolutely everywhere I've worked before has closed down/positions have become redundant.
My CV looks like a CV of death.

tatabubbly · 27-03-2012 4:28pm

La la la sillyily happy atm!
had a fab afternoon with mammy at her house for a whil. then i came home and made some healthy food!! trying to get bikini ready!!

gots to pack tonight for heading away!!

x Purple Pawprints x · 27-03-2012 4:41pm

No more food for me today.

Kiera · 27-03-2012 4:44pm

Gonna go for a walk on the beach after work then home to a yummy chicken salad. I adore the sun

cynder · 27-03-2012 4:48pm

Loving my new ipod touch, my old one got nicked from the car a few months ago.

Hating teaching my son to ride his bike without stabilisers, driving me insane, his useless. Anyone got any tips, he either leans from side to side and when he dose get it he forgets to steer and ends up in a bush

My eldest could ride her bike at 4, took her 3 days of cuts and scrapes and falls, she was determined, my guy in 7 in July and he still cant get it and is so scared of getting a boo boo.

The difference between siblings never ceases to amaze me.

cynder · 27-03-2012 4:50pm

Jane_LS_88 wrote: »

Ate a doughnut and had some 7up. Hope I won't need to
run to the bathroom

Tried on a gorgeous dress in TK Maxx. It was purple and green with a really nice embellishment sort of thing under the bust and it was too small. If I lose a stone it would fit, so I was told. No more doughnuts for me.

Love jam doughnuts, my little guy has at least 3 a week. i have 1 every 2 or 3 weeks. I never thought i would lose the weight but i did, just one more stone to go and this one is the hardest.

Going for a 10k cycle tomorrow

Kiera · 27-03-2012 4:51pm

grindelwald wrote: »

Loving my new ipod touch, my old one got nicked from the car a few months ago.

Hating teaching my son to ride his bike without stabilisers, driving me insane, his useless. Anyone got any tips, he either leans from side to side and when he gets it he forgets to steer and ends up in a bush

My eldest could ride her bike at 4, took her 3 days of cuts and scrapes and falls, she was determined, my guy in 7 in July and he still cant get it and is so scared of getting a boo boo.

Try youtube, I’m sure there are some videos on how to teach your little boy? I head there anytime my nephew needs teaching (like tying his shoelaces)

cynder · 27-03-2012 4:53pm

tatabubbly wrote: »

La la la sillyily happy atm!
had a fab afternoon with mammy at her house for a whil. then i came home and made some healthy food!! trying to get bikini ready!!

gots to pack tonight for heading away!!

Enjoy, i havent worn a bikini in 7 years, have hol coming up soon (6 weeks) hoping that i will be bikini ready but if not i have a tankini

Sar_Bear · 27-03-2012 4:58pm

krudler wrote: »

where in Limerick are you looking to move?

Hopefully in or around the city. Both myself & the OH work in Limerick city and we haven't our own transport so somewhere with buses into the city.

Honey-ec · 27-03-2012 4:58pm

grindelwald wrote: »

hoping that i will be bikini ready but if not i have a tankini

I really, really don't see the point in these. My sister-in-law wears them all the time. Why not just wear a swimsuit

x Purple Pawprints x · 27-03-2012 4:59pm

grindelwald wrote: »

Love jam doughnuts, my little guy has at least 3 a week. i have 1 every 2 or 3 weeks. I never thought i would lose the weight but i did, just one more stone to go and this one is the hardest.

Going for a 10k cycle tomorrow

I know I can lose it too, I lost nearly a stone and a half before and it's stayed off for the most part. I'm just finding it very hard to get off my arse and do something about it.

My tummy doesn't feel good. I'm not eating any more today.

herisson · 27-03-2012 4:59pm

Jane_LS_88 wrote: »

No more food for me today.

nonsense woman....its 5 o clock!

wait nevermind...i just read your post above this!

What made you smile/frown/mad/sad/cry today-thread for all your emotional needs! V4

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