The life of ridiculously good looking people

Cheerful Spring · 01-01-2013 4:25pm

The King of Moo wrote: »

Supermac's: is there anything it can't do?

If you're meeting her for the first time Supermacs will probably do, though i haven't eat in there about three years. Tend to seek out latenight chicken places ( i need the protein)

Cheerful Spring · 01-01-2013 4:28pm

bohsboy wrote: »

Roofie alert.

Who do you be meeting:)

Cheerful Spring · 01-01-2013 4:32pm

old hippy wrote: »

A couple of my exes were stunners and not up themselves, which was nice. The downside of it was, every time (if we were out) I got up to the bar or loo, someone would be trying to chat the lasses up. You could view it as complimentary but it was also a pain in the arse. I was always amused that the guys would try and hide their surprise that nerdy looking me would appear to be punching above my weight

The main problem was, in their other previous/later relationships, they tended to attract very possessive guys, the sort who felt they "owned" them.

I think women not so goodlooking get chatted up just as much as stunners. Its a strange phenomenon women tend to wait to be chatted up by the right man. Men will chat to most girls..

old hippy · 01-01-2013 4:40pm

Cheerful Spring wrote: »

I think women not so goodlooking get chatted up just as much as stunners. Its a strange phenomenon women tend to wait to be chatted up by the right man. Men will chat to most girls..

It's chemistry. And if you're lucky, physics and biology, too

ITS_A_BADGER · 01-01-2013 4:44pm

old hippy wrote: »

It's chemistry. And if you're lucky, physics and biology, too

and maths if you include buying them a drink

Mr Benevolent · 01-01-2013 4:44pm

The King of Moo wrote: »

Supermac's: is there anything it can't do?

Make edible food?

midlandsmissus · 01-01-2013 6:10pm

I would say I was like this for a while: late twenties now calmed down alot.

Trying to be really honest about how I felt:

I would say I liked the attention, who doesn't like people turning to look at you and thinking you're pretty. You have power over every man in the room and it is a thrill to have any kind of power I'm sure.
Being told you're good looking all the time can definitely make you slightly bigheaded (about your looks - I'll talk about my personality later)

Negative side, women automatically hate you, you get judged the minute you walk in, women with boyfriends would physically glare at you. Groping - groping by older sleazebags, perving on a young girl. Men calling you a bitch when you sometimes did not want to talk to the fourth man trying to get you into bed that night.
Knowing men only saw you as something hot and attractive. It's weird to be liked for something that is nothing to do with you really, I didnt do anything special to look liked the way I looked so it all felt very superficial and false.
As a result of the above I was able to flirt with men but I was extremely shy about getting intimate with men. I thought they were all a bit predatory and all saw me as this sexual plaything. So even though I had a weird kind of confidence about my looks, I had terrible low self esteem about my personality.
I actually used to think I was terribly boring, and read all these things saying 'looks dont matter, personality counts' and thinking I had a terrible personality and how do you change it. Anyway I was never at ease with myself.
As Ive got older Ive grown alot more comfortable with myself: I know I have other talents and I let them shine,and that Im a nice person,intelligent person who cares about the world (I would never have had the confidence to say that about myself when I was younger):). I'm actually looking forward to being one of those 70 year olds who doesnt give a feck and lets it all hang out on the beach. Just be comfy with yourself

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old hippy · 01-01-2013 6:27pm

midlandsmissus wrote: »

I'm actually looking forward to being one of those 70 year olds who doesnt give a feck and lets it all hang out on the beach. Just be comfy with yourself .

Indeed. The beach is a great leveller. That said, I wouldn't mind being in my 20s again...

Madam_X · 01-01-2013 6:41pm

Brain Stroking wrote: »

I have a wonderful image of what you may be like in my head.

My avatar?

Fox_In_Socks · 01-01-2013 6:44pm

Madam_X wrote: »

My avatar?

Change it to Dr Zoidberg and see how much he likes you then.:pac:

http://images2.fanpop.com/image/photos/9000000/Zoidberg-dr-zoidberg-9032706-1024-768.jpg

Eve_Dublin · 01-01-2013 8:31pm

I live in a country where the women can be really stunningly beautiful. I'm often fascinated by the reaction of those around them. I react also and find myself staring at them even though I'm a heterosexual woman. I don't feel any envy, mainly because I wouldn't compare myself to someone so completely out of my league. Like comparing my IQ to Einstein's. And it's funny how accustomed to beauty you become and after a while, it becomes fairly mundane. The Spanish are a good-looking nationality generally imo and I wouldn't look twice now at a guy who could easily go into a career in modelling. I'm just thinking, "Meh!" at this stage whereas I walked around with my tongue hanging when I moved there first.

Earthhorse · 01-01-2013 9:20pm

I know a few ridiculously good looking women and maybe one man who falls into that category (as a bloke it's harder for me to say for sure).

I don't really think it makes much of a difference to their personalities as they are all quite different. The one area of their lives which is obviously a little easier is that of finding someone. They have a lot more opportunities than the rest of us. Having said that, most of these women I know are single and the ones who do have boyfriends are not engaged so the difference hasn't necessarily translated into success in that respect either (most of these women want to be married, afaik).

kowloon · 01-01-2013 10:08pm

Good looking people tend to do better in life, not just getting people into bed. Any negativity they get for it is more than compensated for. There was an article on it posted in here somewhere. Maybe the Samantha Brick thread?

Being good looking is definitely going to have an effect on personality, but it doesn't necessarily follow that someone will turn into an overconfident tool because of it. I see it the same way as someone who has a talent, a qualification, a good job or whatever. You can appreciate your advantages without becoming conceited.

EdenHazard · 01-01-2013 10:23pm

How do we define what good looking is in order to measure how better they do? I mean good looking in a model sense or just good looking in that the opposite sex will consider you to be good looking/better looking than average etc.

The King of Moo · 01-01-2013 10:26pm

EdenHazard wrote: »

How do we define what good looking is in order to measure how better they do? I mean good looking in a model sense or just good looking in that the opposite sex will consider you to be good looking/better looking than average etc, if you catch my drift?

If you look like me, then you're good looking.

If you don't, then you may or may not be good looking, I don't really care.

hadepsx · 01-01-2013 10:39pm

its what matters on the inside, right, right?

--Kaiser-- · 01-01-2013 10:39pm

DaaaaaaaaaaN wrote: »

I'm not one for sweeping generalisations but I'd say at least 97% of them are

In my experience, lack of sexual cachet is more likely to make women horrible people. I do know a beautiful woman with an incredible body who has little else going for her but most of the really attractive girls I have known are actually quite lovely

blacklilly · 01-01-2013 11:09pm

I have a few friends who would be considered very good looking and I agree that a lot of women will take an immediate dislike to them. In saying that though I notice these friends looking other women up and down all the time, as if they are comparing themselves to them. They seem to base their worthiness on their looks alone. I also some times feel sorry for them as men do tend to treat them as objects as opposed to actually wanting to get to know them.
I myself am good looking, pretty but there are pretty, attractive women everywhere. There is a difference between being pretty and being stunning.

Eve_Dublin · 01-01-2013 11:54pm

hadepsx wrote: »

its what matters on the inside, right, right?

Yeah.

Peanut Butter Jelly · 02-01-2013 12:17am

I'm lucky enough to know what it's like to be ridiculously good looking.

I read about it in a book once.

slowmoe · 02-01-2013 12:32am

I have one friend who is really amazing looking, like jaw droppingly gorgeous, she is extremely friendly, fun, reliable and a great person to be able to call a friend. But she has an extremely negative image of herself and very low self esteem, she thinks men try to get her into bed all the time because they don't consider her good enough to be their girlfriend, not because of how attractive she is. She gets horrific treatment by women and left out of a lot of girls nights and excluded from work lunches

EdenHazard · 02-01-2013 1:14am

I guess you could argue that people who are good looking are more positive and do more things because the experience will be healthier for them. I know there's stuff I'm jut not pushed about due to a lack of buzz about myself. For real good looking, its prob easy to be buzzed up about life

PingO_O · 02-01-2013 1:16am

slowmoe wrote: »

I have one friend who is really amazing looking, like jaw droppingly gorgeous, she is extremely friendly, fun, reliable and a great person to be able to call a friend. But she has an extremely negative image of herself and very low self esteem, she thinks men try to get her into bed all the time because they don't consider her good enough to be their girlfriend, not because of how attractive she is. She gets horrific treatment by women and left out of a lot of girls nights and excluded from work lunches

That's pretty rough, no one is safe from that kind of bull**** in life are they? Looks or no looks. Just goes to show that as horrible as that is, we may think other people are having a better time of it than us based on how good looking they are when it's probably not the case at all.

Brain Stroking · 02-01-2013 1:23am

Madam_X wrote: »

My avatar?

No. My imagination

Brain Stroking · 02-01-2013 1:26am

Fox_In_Socks wrote: »

Change it to Dr Zoidberg and see how much he likes you then.:pac:

http://images2.fanpop.com/image/photos/9000000/Zoidberg-dr-zoidberg-9032706-1024-768.jpg

I like the way you watch me from afar Foxx. It's comforting.

* leaves curtains slightly ajar

slowmoe · 02-01-2013 1:27am

PingO_O wrote: »

That's pretty rough, no one is safe from that kind of bull**** in life are they? Looks or no looks. Just goes to show that as horrible as that is, we may think other people are having a better time of it than us based on how good looking they are when it's probably not the case at all.

Yeah it is a bit rubbish alright, but even more so as she's such a great fun person and the kind of person who is always there for others too and has no idea at all that she is considered so attractive. She's so far from the hot b!tch stereotype its a joke. But she's always been treated like that

She's had the same as previous posters about being accused of making eyes at someones boyfriend or husband or tempting them away etc, really horrendous stuff

shrewd · 02-01-2013 1:57am

slowmoe wrote: »

I have one friend who is really amazing looking, like jaw droppingly gorgeous, she is extremely friendly, fun, reliable and a great person to be able to call a friend. But she has an extremely negative image of herself and very low self esteem, she thinks men try to get her into bed all the time because they don't consider her good enough to be their girlfriend, not because of how attractive she is. She gets horrific treatment by women and left out of a lot of girls nights and excluded from work lunches

wow, dated a girl like this in the past. had a difficult time believing her.
she had more male friends than females.

overall, i will say women like her still have it easy especially when they master how to use their appearance for their own good or purpose.

irish son · 02-01-2013 2:20am

EdenHazard wrote: »

I'm not good with engaging though, like with close people yeah I can talk but when it comes to acquaintance or girls in clubs haven't a clue what to say. Loads of times in a club I'd kiss a girl or whatever but then after that initial stage I wouldn't know what to do haha. Only once have I actually talked to a girl that i met in a club real weird when you think of it.

My looks whatever they are is prob my strong point, mixed with being 'nice'. Not like I'm Zac Efron or anything but if a girl was to like me it wouldn't be for my personality I wouldn't say. But then I get down about my looks when I realize they mightn't be enough to save me, its kinda weird. I have a high opinion of myself, but at same time then its like reality hits and I get down(more used to, I'm just not bothered with girls anymore haha) *Sorry going off topic and PI is thatta way!*

You might as well be describing me, Im an above average looking guy but I get it hard to chat women up, I think a lot of it's down to a combination of lack of confidence, shyness and fear of rejection. I do okay but should be doing a lot better.

tomthetank · 02-01-2013 2:31am

I was a chubby child, overweight teenager and then in my early twenties managed to shed it all over a number of years.

It didn't transform me into some impossibly beautiful swan or anything, but it did bring me from invisible to quite a pretty, cute, petite girl, all of a sudden on people's radar.

I'm still bemused by the transformation, not of myself but of other people - men who went from ignoring me/looking at me dismissively or insulting me to all of a sudden chasing me around clubs, staring, looking me up and down, opening doors for me, starting conversations with me in public places.

And women - many of whom were my own friends, looking at me with hostility, jealousy, telling me I had lost 'too much weight' (definitely not the case), accusing me of flirting with guys I hadn't even spoken to (was once accused of having sex 'in the toilets' with a guy I just happened to be sitting beside and had a brief conversation with at a wedding!!)

In general the reception to me changed, from one of 'not there' to worthy of being stared at. As a social experiment it would've been massively interesting, but as someone who always struggled with self esteem issues and body image issues it was a bit terrifying, unsettling, really made me feel as though I was out in the cold.

And I'm not stunningly beautiful but I do make an effort with my appearance and would be considered pretty.

It makes me feel for those people who are exceptionally attractive, in a way - especially those - and there are many - who wouldn't have always been considered to be that way - those who grew into their looks.

As midlandsmissus excellently illustrated in her post, good looks don't always go hand in hand with self worth, confidence, high self esteem and I'd imagine it can be incredibly frustrating and saddening to feel so over-valued for your looks, something which really has nothing to do with the real you, and so undervalued for everything else which you may have to offer.

cantdecide · 02-01-2013 2:31am

When my mates and I were in our early 20s there was a particular girl who hung out in our group who was exceptionally good looking and wouldn't believe you if you told her. Even her friends would drop the odd catty remark. You couldn't meet a more shy, sensitive, genuine, humble, down to Earth girl. Just a good upbringing. Her siblings were all just the same. Other girls could wear her good looks better and deal with the attention she gets but I really felt she took all the negativity to heart.

Conceitedness is one of the ugliest trait there is, IMO.

Doyler92 · 02-01-2013 2:36am

whiskeyman wrote: »

I usually have to wear wellies whenever I go out as the woman get so wet for me.

I'd say you end up knee deep in clunge.

Cardex · 02-01-2013 4:43pm

Just going on the general trend here, it appears to work out better for guys than girls. I don't notice it so much now as I'm pretty settled and don't go out so much but I used to get an insane amount of intention when I was younger. As a result, I grew up with no idea about how to chat someone up. Strangers would tell me I should be a movie star, older women used to hit on me (sometimes with their husband in the room), I'd get calls at my desk from girls I met at the weekend having casually told them where I worked. I tended to sit back and let things unfold with the result that I'd be targetted by fairly confident and assertive girls who had no problem making the first move. I only clocked this in my late 20's after a string of relationships with fairly bossy women. I also grew up thinking that some girls really disliked me. I didn't realise it at the time but some of them have since told me that they were intimidated by me. I found it difficult to have casual relationships as most girls wanted to be serious with me and they would get really upset when they realised that they had been reading too much into a fling or one night stand. I hurt a few people before I learned early on that it was best to be really straight and up front from the start. I've gotten at least one job on account of how I look where my boss subsequently admitted to me on a drunken messy night that she fancied me. I kind of became the laughing stock of the place cos she was known as a bit of a man eater and people assumed I was sleeping with her like some toy boy. I was conscious afterwards that whatever career I chose, I'd do it on merit so I've always worked hard since then getting through college and getting qualified and so on. Otherwise, there's no down side to it for a guy.

leahyl · 02-01-2013 4:52pm

Cardex wrote: »

Just going on the general trend here, it appears to work out better for guys than girls. I don't notice it so much now as I'm pretty settled and don't go out so much but I used to get an insane amount of intention when I was younger. As a result, I grew up with no idea about how to chat someone up. Strangers would tell me I should be a movie star, older women used to hit on me (sometimes with their husband in the room), I'd get calls at my desk from girls I met at the weekend having casually told them where I worked. I tended to sit back and let things unfold with the result that I'd be targetted by fairly confident and assertive girls who had no problem making the first move. I only clocked this in my late 20's after a string of relationships with fairly bossy women. I also grew up thinking that some girls really disliked me. I didn't realise it at the time but some of them have since told me that they were intimidated by me. I found it difficult to have casual relationships as most girls wanted to be serious with me and they would get really upset when they realised that they had been reading too much into a fling or one night stand. I hurt a few people before I learned early on that it was best to be really straight and up front from the start. I've gotten at least one job on account of how I look where my boss subsequently admitted to me on a drunken messy night that she fancied me. I kind of became the laughing stock of the place cos she was known as a bit of a man eater and people assumed I was sleeping with her like some toy boy. I was conscious afterwards that whatever career I chose, I'd do it on merit so I've always worked hard since then getting through college and getting qualified and so on. Otherwise, there's no down side to it for a guy.

Wow, you must be a knockout!!

curlzy · 02-01-2013 4:52pm

I don't think ridiculously good looking people are any different to "ordinary" people. I have one gorgeous friend who is just the nicest person, a total sweetie as well as totally yummy. I've another gorgeous friend who I've totally gone off because she treats men really badly and is just generally really shallow. But I'd see the same qualities in other uglier friends. So yeah don't think there's any generalities that hold any truth. Some gorgeous people are bitch/bastards/selfish etc, but so are some mingers.

TheUsual · 02-01-2013 4:54pm

slowmoe wrote: »

I have one friend who is really amazing looking, ... blah blah blah ... and very low self esteem

You had me at "low self esteem".

Gauss · 02-01-2013 5:04pm

curlzy wrote: »

I don't think ridiculously good looking people are any different to "ordinary" people. I have one gorgeous friend who is just the nicest person, a total sweetie as well as totally yummy. I've another gorgeous friend who I've totally gone off because she treats men really badly and is just generally really shallow. But I'd see the same qualities in other uglier friends. So yeah don't think there's any generalities that hold any truth. Some gorgeous people are bitch/bastards/selfish etc, but so are some mingers.

What about how ridiculously good looking people are treated? That must be didifferent I'd surmise.

Potatoeman · 02-01-2013 6:12pm

slowmoe wrote: »

I have one friend who is really amazing looking, like jaw droppingly gorgeous, she is extremely friendly, fun, reliable and a great person to be able to call a friend. But she has an extremely negative image of herself and very low self esteem, she thinks men try to get her into bed all the time because they don't consider her good enough to be their girlfriend, not because of how attractive she is. She gets horrific treatment by women and left out of a lot of girls nights and excluded from work lunches

It does make sense even though it’s mean. Quite a few Irish girls won’t approach a guy, they try to send eye signals or bump into guys and a very good looking girl would get more attention. Guys are still expected to do most of the approaching so it’s not such a big issue for us.
I was out with a friend that would be considered very good looking, he had a girl dance near him and step on his toes to initiate contact. For the love of God don’t do this.

Fox_In_Socks · 02-01-2013 9:33pm

curlzy wrote: »

I don't think ridiculously good looking people are any different to "ordinary" people. I have one gorgeous friend who is just the nicest person, a total sweetie as well as totally yummy. I've another gorgeous friend who I've totally gone off because she treats men really badly and is just generally really shallow. But I'd see the same qualities in other uglier friends. So yeah don't think there's any generalities that hold any truth. Some gorgeous people are bitch/bastards/selfish etc, but so are some mingers.

"She's a total sweetie as well as totally yummy".

Are you a professional taster?:P

It's interesting to note that you refer to "other uglier friends".

I'm picturing you introducing your friends:

'Hi there, have ye met? This here is Aoife, who is a total sweetie as well as totally yummy. Here is my other uglier friend, Claire.'

Sorry, curlzy, just struck me as funny.:pac:

PingO_O · 02-01-2013 9:39pm

Fox_In_Socks wrote: »

"She's a total sweetie as well as totally yummy".

Are you a professional taster?:P

It's interesting to note that you refer to "other uglier friends".

I'm picturing you introducing your friends:

'Hi there, have ye met? This here is Aoife, who is a total sweetie as well as totally yummy. Here is my other uglier friend, Claire.'

Sorry, curlzy, just struck me as funny.:pac:

FOXES CAN TALK?!?!! :eek:

Sorry

Fox_In_Socks · 02-01-2013 9:40pm

PingO_O wrote: »

FOXES CAN TALK?!?!! :eek:

Sorry

We bark, I'll have you know.

PingO_O · 02-01-2013 9:53pm

Don't worry, we humans know all about your kind, stay away from my chickens and we'll get on just fine

The life of ridiculously good looking people

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