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Is it disrespectful to walk on people's graves?

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  • #102
    PickledLime
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,061 ✭✭✭PickledLime


    GarIT wrote: »
    So I'm a gobsheen am I? That's nice. I think you should get off your high horse of respect before you start calling names.

    Stop presuming how other people will think. I buried someone very close to me just over a year ago but I still think its a pile of bones in a wooden box in the ground. I know that the dead person won't notice so it doesn't bother me in that respect. To quote another poster I don't "show respect to silly religious beliefs". Although I wouldn't walk across a grave not out of respect but just not to offend anyone or cause myself trouble. Maybe that is respect, but for the living, not a corpse.

    As for posters who go and call names and make presumptions without reading into the situation "they should probably look up the terms 'morals' and 'respect' because they clearly have neither."

    Well if you think it's okay to just trundle across people's graves then the answer to your question is a resounding 'yes'. In my book people who do not display respect in the first place have no right to expect to be shown any, so i'm quite happy to sit on my high horse.

    I feel the exact same way, it is just a pile of bones in a wooden box (i'm a staunch atheist, so the religious meaning and connotations have zero weight with me). But you know what? That pile of bones was someone's mother/father/sister/brother/whatever, and the grave is special to those people, so it's not acceptable to walk across it for no reason.

    I clearly hit a nerve with you, much like the thread title did with myself.


  • #103
    LH Pathe
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,515 ✭✭✭LH Pathe


    If you have the utmost respect and consideration for who's buried there, you can dig the corpse up n defile it for all I care


  • #104
    Galwayguy35
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 16,673 ✭✭✭✭Galwayguy35


    PickledLime wrote: »
    Well if you think it's okay to just trundle across people's graves then the answer to your question is a resounding 'yes'. In my book people who do not display respect in the first place have no right to expect to be shown any, so i'm quite happy to sit on my high horse.

    I feel the exact same way, it is just a pile of bones in a wooden box (i'm a staunch atheist, so the religious meaning and connotations have zero weight with me). But you know what? That pile of bones was someone's mother/father/sister/brother/whatever, and the grave is special to those people, so it's not acceptable to walk across it for no reason.

    I clearly hit a nerve with you, much like the thread title did with myself.


    + 1

    I totally agree, this is nothing to do with religious beliefs. It's someones family member(s) and it baffles me that some people can't see that.


  • #105
    cowzerp
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,549 ✭✭✭✭cowzerp


    Gnobe wrote: »
    Do you think its disrespectful to walk on someone's grave??

    If you do it to cause offense it is disrespectful, If nobody is around to get offended then once your not wrecking plants etc then no it is not disrespectful.

    Rush Boxing club and Rush Martial Arts head coach.



  • #106
    IRISHREDSTAR
    Registered Users Posts: 74 ✭✭IRISHREDSTAR


    Awful_Bliss wrote: »
    It's not disrespectful if it's Charles Haughey's grave. You'd be doing the country a favour!

    Is Charles Haughey in there on his own I think they have might stuck his bit Terry Keane (the one That looked like colonel gaddafi) in there with him to suck his little bit like in the old days, but walking on his grave might be a bit disrespectful to his kids although they probably don't all know that he is their dad.


  • #107
    DEFTLEFTHAND
    Registered Users Posts: 16,500 ✭✭✭✭DEFTLEFTHAND


    IRISHREDSTAR wrote: »
    Is Charles Haughey in there on his own I think they have might stuck his bit Terry Keane (the one That looked like colonel gaddafi) in there with him to suck his little bit like in the old days, but walking on his grave might be a bit disrespectful to his kids although they probably don't all know that he is their dad.

    In fairness we all know what Haughey was like but I don't think that his grave should be disrespected. No human being, no matter what they did in life should have their final resting place interfered with.


  • #108
    GarIT
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,671 ✭✭✭GarIT


    Why do people call it a resting place? There is nobody resting in there they are dead.


  • #109
    PseudoFamous
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,514 ✭✭✭PseudoFamous


    I can't see *walking* on a grave to be disrespectful, but if I'm in a graveyard, I try not to unless there isn't another path.


  • #110
    AudreyHepburn
    Registered Users Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭AudreyHepburn


    I would never do it personally.....but I suppose it depends why you do.

    If it's because you are tending to it or you have no choice then it's not disrespectful.

    However you are doing because you just don't care how you treat the dead or are too lazy to use the path or just to be disrespectful then I would have a problem with it.

    I find it disrespectful to the deceased who made a point of choosing that spot to be laid to rest because it meant something to them and to the family of the deceased whose only link to their loved is that little plot of land.

    It may be a pile of old bones or a small pot of ashes to you but to some-one else that was their parent or spouse or child or close friend. I really can't understand how some people are struggling to understand this. Or is it just that they are so cold as to not care?

    And I would most certainly never ever walk over a child or baby's grave for any reason.


  • #111
    SuzyDaFloozy
    Registered Users Posts: 13 ✭SuzyDaFloozy


    only if ur wearin Crap shoes :)


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  • #112
    DColeman
    Registered Users Posts: 106 ✭✭DColeman


    Personally I don't see the big deal. We're all dead anyway. We have our memories of these people so obsesseing over whether somebody walks on somebodies grave is a bit pointless.


  • #113
    Nothingbetter2d
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,037 ✭✭✭Nothingbetter2d


    i wanna be cremated when i die... so i couldn't give a hoot about graves


  • #114
    Ruralyoke
    Closed Accounts Posts: 213 ✭✭Ruralyoke


    I voted yes but only in the sense that if it offends someone, or you think it might, then it's disrespectful.

    In itself, I don't think it is.


  • #115
    Galwayguy35
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 16,673 ✭✭✭✭Galwayguy35


    Nothingbetter2d wrote: »
    i wanna be cremated when i die... so i couldn't give a hoot about graves

    Noone is asking you to give a hoot. Just don't walk on other peoples graves because they probably would give a hoot.


  • #116
    Dudess
    Closed Accounts Posts: 37,214 ✭✭✭✭Dudess


    I don't think it is. My friend had sex in a funeral parlour once though - I thought that was a bit much.


  • #117
    Ghost Buster
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 5,172 ✭✭✭Ghost Buster


    Dudess wrote: »
    I don't think it is. My friend had sex in a funeral parlour once though - I thought that was a bit much.
    Oh yeah..Your 'friend';)
    And i avoided all 'stiff' jokes.


  • #118
    FloatingVoter
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,133 ✭✭✭FloatingVoter


    Dudess wrote: »
    I don't think it is. My friend had sex in a funeral parlour once though - I thought that was a bit much.

    Was it with a corpse ? That would be taking the piss a little.


  • #119
    Dudess
    Closed Accounts Posts: 37,214 ✭✭✭✭Dudess


    Ghost Buster wrote: »
    Oh yeah..Your 'friend';)
    And i avoided all 'stiff' jokes.
    It was my friend honestly - my limit is a graveyard. :pac:


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