how do you know the date

cliona8969 · 25-10-2011 1:07pm #1

i see people posting in different forums saying "oh it's my boyfriend and my anniversary today" how do they all know when they're anniversary is?
is it really a clear date when they got together? met for the first time or what?
i know roughly when i met my significant other but not an exact date..

Ickle Magoo · 25-10-2011 1:15pm

I would presume it's the date they got together, rather than the date they met...it's the anniversary of their relationship they are referring to isn't it? Perhaps there was a specific birthday or event which makes the date easy to remember? Or maybe they just have good memories?

I met my other half at an annual ball so there's a specific date...which I'd have to look up but himself has a good memory for things like that.

sarahbro · 25-10-2011 1:19pm

I know the date we first talked and the date we first met (though we met online so easy to check back!)

PCPhoto · 25-10-2011 1:20pm

yeah ... had the girlfriend mention to me (casually) yesterday.

next monday will be 6 years ago that we met !!

We're together almost 2yrs .... (have no idea on when specifically).... to me it doesn't matter WHEN we met but that we are together ...why complicate it by setting markers of dates ?

just enjoy being together instead of focusing on an "anniversary"

ElleEm · 25-10-2011 1:27pm

I remember the date we met and had our first kiss, as it was a friend's birthday.
It's nice to celebrate the milestone in your relationship. We will probably get married on that date too

RedXIV · 25-10-2011 1:28pm

The day we met was also the day we kissed and we pretty much hit it off from the get go

makes it nice and easy to remember

Malari · 25-10-2011 1:55pm

We met on his birthday. We got together several months later. I remember the date because it falls on another birthday of a friend and because he asked me out and went on a date that day, so there was a defined starting point. But we really don't do anything more than "oh look, we've been together X years today!"

Acoshla · 25-10-2011 2:06pm

We met at a wedding, spent the whole night chatting, didn't kiss until a week later and didn't become officially a couple until a few months later but as we were both mad about each other from the night of the wedding onwards we count that as our anniversary, there was no friendship stage so to say it started at a later date wouldn't have made sense to us.

dammitjanet · 25-10-2011 3:05pm

We've two anniversaries- when we first kissed and when we first said we love eachother.
Our official anniversary is when we first said we love each other.
We don't really celebrate the first kiss because it is also the anniversary of my grandfathers passing. Instead, every year on that date we visit his grave and then spend the rest of the day watching films and eatting ice cream.

OP, there's no rules to choosing an anniversary. If you can't remember when you met/kissed/etc maybe choose a day with importance to you? It could have already happened or it may be in the future, just have fun with it!

tatabubbly · 25-10-2011 3:10pm

I'm the same as dammitjanet, my granda passed on our first anniversary so its an odd type of day. Can't remember the date that we went on our first anniversary so we just stuck with it!

cdaly_ · 25-10-2011 3:46pm

First kiss.

Lying on the grass in Stephen's Green one April afternoon 27.5 years ago...

daenerysstormborn3 · 25-10-2011 7:03pm

First date.

Frankie's Steakhouse in Temple Bar, followed by a night of boozery in The Foggy Dew.

Jack B. Badd · 25-10-2011 8:24pm

Not a clue - we've a vague notion of the time of year (to within a few months) that we got together. We do know what year it was though... Christ, we're a bit rubbish :rolleyes:

The Big Red Button · 25-10-2011 8:29pm

We had our first kiss at midnight New Years Eve - no excuse really for forgetting that one!

Princess Peach · 25-10-2011 8:31pm

I count mine from when we had our first date, which was also the first time I met him in person and we had our first kisses

Didn't have "the talk" till a while later but I count it from our first date because we were pretty much a couple from then, just unofficial if you get me!

Can be different for everyone.

dizzymiss · 25-10-2011 9:19pm

Don't remember the exact date we met but there is a specific date for our first official date which was nearly a year after we met. That's over five and half years ago now. Have talked about getting married on that same date.

x Purple Pawprints x · 25-10-2011 9:36pm

To be honest we haven't really had that talk, there's a couple of dates that are important. 11th December was when we first met properly after originally meeting for a couple of mins on the night of my grad about 6 weeks before. Our first kiss was the same day. He asked me out on 30 October (1 year ago this Sunday

) but we didn't really get together until December.

OakeyDokey · 25-10-2011 10:32pm

Have a few dates that are rememberal to us but I remember the date we got together because it was on a friends birthday and we were having a few drinks together.

Catari Jaguar · 25-10-2011 11:04pm

Our anniversary is when we finally kissed each other and admitted we wanted to be more than friends, after months of dancing around it, innocently flirting and cuddling and holding hands...

It was during a house party, watching Spinal tap (!) but can't remember if it was before or after midnight, I just know we settled on the 20th. For some reason I can remember the date we said I love you for the first time, but it's not celebrated, just kinda look back and "awwwh"

We got engaged on our anniversary date, would be nice to get married on the same date too.

bronte · 25-10-2011 11:26pm

I have a bit of a daft habit for paying attention to these things.
Remember the date we met and first date etc.
I suppose I was just paying attention because it was special.
I have cinema stubs and other keepsakes from early dates too.
I'm a sap!

dearg lady · 26-10-2011 10:22am

I count from the date we first kissed n did the deed, cos I can remember that. I don't remember when we had 'the talk' or said I love you, but it was quite soon, and we were pretty much a couple from the first kiss anyway. We'd been friends a while so it felt very easy and natural, I never had the 'will he call' stress from previous relationships.

Contessa Raven · 26-10-2011 1:42pm

We count our anniversary from the day he asked me to be his girlfriend and we made it official. We were seeing each other for 2 weeks before that.

Everyone is different. Some will count the day they met, others the day they kissed and others will take the day they became official. It's really up to the couple.

starlit · 26-10-2011 3:55pm

If there is something significant about the date you will remember whether its when ye met, first kiss or first date or when ye get together. I am good to remember dates, I remembered the date we met, first kiss and went on our first date with my ex and lads I have gone out with the once. Though none of my past loves or relationships lasted enough to remember even an anniversary or any thing significant like valentines day, never been with someone on that day so never really celebrated it.

Good to know that romance isn't dying! Old fashioned courtship still exists!

26-10-2011 3:56pm

if i manage to remember the current date and someone's birthday, i'm doing well

Malari · 26-10-2011 3:58pm

doovdela wrote: »

If there is something significant about the date you will remember whether its when ye met, first kiss or first date or when ye get together. I am good to remember dates, I remembered the date we met, first kiss and went on our first date with my ex and lads I have gone out with the once. Though none of my past loves or relationships lasted enough to remember even an anniversary or any thing significant like valentines day, never been with someone on that day so never really celebrated it.

Good to know that romance isn't dying! Old fashioned courtship still exists!

Actually my current boyfriend is the only one I remember the date for. My ex of a few years ago, I couldn't even remember when we got together, as I had known him for years. I think I had decided it was summer...

Maple · 26-10-2011 7:02pm

I know the date we first met, the date of our first kiss, 8 years ago.

I know the date this year that he asked me to think about a relationship, the date of our first kiss as an official couple.

Given the length of time we know one another and the entwined nature of our lives and love, I know all the dates and am so excited at making more significant dates to remember.

CathyMoran · 26-10-2011 8:55pm

I met my husband the first day that I went to UCD and we both remember meeting one another but neither of us have a clue when that was - remember saying to my late mother that the men seemed nice in UCD

We kept on bumping into one another, yesterday was actually 14 years since we were formally introduced but we count from when he asked me out on our first date/first date which was very close together. As we have been together a lot longer than we have been married we still make a huge fuss over that, having said that we still at least say every 29th of every month.

Ave Sodalis · 26-10-2011 10:06pm

So far, I'm remembering the date my boyfriend asked me out very well!

It was yesterday

cdaly_ · 26-10-2011 10:18pm

CathyMoran wrote: »

As we have been together a lot longer than we have been married we still make a huge fuss over that,

That bit never fades. We're now married almost twice as long as we were going out but that April 26th is still the most important date for us...

27-10-2011 1:20am

I know the date we first met, but I can't really remember the date we first hooked up, but I also know the date we had our first "date" (lol, we did things backwards). I'm the type of person who remembers dates, but don't really hold any sway for me. Maybe our wedding anniversary will mean something to me, but otherwise those are just dates!

Das Kitty · 27-10-2011 11:21am

I remember the date we first met. November 25th, we got engaged on the same date 7 years later. Next month our fist meeting will have been 12 years ago. I actually can't remember what it was like not to know him.

CathyMoran · 27-10-2011 11:24am

Das Kitty wrote: »

I actually can't remember what it was like not to know him.

I feel the same about my husband...it is as if a switch went on when I met him

Acoshla · 27-10-2011 12:52pm

Das Kitty wrote: »

I remember the date we first met. November 25th, we got engaged on the same date 7 years later. Next month our fist meeting will have been 12 years ago. I actually can't remember what it was like not to know him.

CathyMoran wrote: »

I feel the same about my husband...it is as if a switch went on when I met him

I used to hate when people said "I can't imagine my life without him" etc when I was with my ex, I used to think that while yes I wouldn't like us to break up I would survive just fine (should've been a hint really!!). With my boyfriend now I actually can't remember not knowing him, even though I only know him for 3 of my 26 years, and the thoughts of not being with him is like imagining my life without an integral part of my brain, he's grown on me, like a fungus!

rainshowers82 · 30-10-2011 11:08am

Our " anniversary" is the day we went on our first date .. we got engaged on that date this year and will marry on that date in 18 months

And it is hard to think back on what life was without him ...... Never thought i would be that person

Eve_Dublin · 30-10-2011 2:44pm

Just opened the saved text he sent me when he asked me out for tapas and beers the following night, so it's April the 1st of this year. Never thought back then that the text would mean so much to me now as it does. Didn't think anything would come of us. Glad I kept it now. It's very sweet and in hindsight and I see it's very him. You can tell he was shiitting his load sending it, bless him

Edit: Just realised that our anniversary is April Fools Day! Our relationship is just a wind up! Heh heh.

shinikins · 31-10-2011 3:25am

In my case my boyfriend kind of chose the date.

We had already had a few really great dates, but the one that stood out was the 20th December, thick ice on the roads and both of us made the effort to meet up, and we had the most amazing kiss in the car, neither of us wanting to leave and go our seperate ways. The following year a friend said "you must be a year together now, what's date is your anniversary?" and my boyfriend said the 20th. I asked him afterwards why he chose that date. He told me it was "just magical", possibly the most romantic thing he's said to me.

xoxyx · 31-10-2011 12:57pm

I always remember the date we first met, we first kissed, and we first realised that there was something special about each other. That all happened in one night. Sounds crazy, but that's how it was, and I almost felt like I loved the guy after just one night.

Three years later, I think I was right!

We celebrate the date we met as our anniversary and have always done something special to mark the date. Every time we do this, I'm brought right back to the first night - be it one year, two years, or three years in the past, and I feel so happy! I look forward to celebrating the rest of our anniversaries together.

August 3rd has a whole new meaning to me anymore!

Birdie086 · 31-10-2011 5:25pm

He had seen me at party and about a year later asked my via a mutual friend to go to a wedding with him.

I said I would go but not as a date just for the day out, ya right,, when I saw him that day at the I knew that was exactly where I was supposed to be. cheesy, but thanks to fact its a friends wedding anniversary I can remember the date, otherwise he would have to remind me - I am useless.

LegacyUser · 31-10-2011 10:12pm

We have stayed together since the day we met almost 7 and a half years ago.
Why neither of us forget the date though, is that my boyfriend's friend died that night. My boyfriend didn't find out until the next day.
So it is a very bitter sweet day. Obviously happy that we met, but there is always that tinge of sadness to the day aswell. I did not know the guy at all, he was my boyfriend's friend who my boyfriend had actually been out with just a few hours before he met me. It's a weird kind of feeling when I think about it.
I remember getting the text the next day from my now boyfriend. I was shocked, and wasn't sure how to react or comfort someone who I had essentially just met the day before. We met up that evening and chatted for hours. It wasn't one of his really close friends, but was a person he had been friendly with since school, and they had been in the pub that day together, so he was obviously in shock and very upset.
My boyfriend looks at in a way that on that night his friend's life ended, but that our relationship began. The end of one which was heartbreaking, was also the start of something good and new.
I suppose that's one way to look at it, but we still don't really celebrate anniversaries. Might just have a nice meal at home, no cards or anything.
I prefer to just celebrate birthday's, valentines, and Christmas.

sarahbro · 02-11-2011 7:24pm

Feeling soppy cos our anniversary is coming up

We starting talking online on the 12th of November. Spoke on the phone on the 14th. Said I love you on the 23rd and met on the 27th!
He thinks i'm mad for remembering it all but those dates changed my life and 2 years later i'm the happiest I've ever been, all because he said hello to me on the 12th!

Chinafoot · 02-11-2011 8:20pm

We started chatting via boards in the March then we met in person and got together on the 4th of June. Thats our anniversary. Its also exactly a week before my birthday so its easy to remember

Over 6 years now. Feels like much longer and much less, if you know what I mean.

How so Joe · 05-11-2011 1:56am

We were friends for about a year before, but the 28th October was the first time we kissed and also when we knew we were an official couple. So that's when we celebrate it.

Although this year we didn't do anything because he's in Ireland and I'm in France.
Still, we noted the day.

EmptyWithMe · 06-11-2011 3:33am

I could easily rattle off a few dates about our relationship. I think it's just a woman's thing! First time we met, for "i love you", the date we started seeing each other, the day he asked me out, first kiss, first date..
God, I make it sound like we're an old married couple! I'm only 17! :P Nearly four years together.

XxMCRxBabyxX · 06-11-2011 3:58am

not really a celebration for us wrote: »

We have stayed together since the day we met almost 7 and a half years ago.
Why neither of us forget the date though, is that my boyfriend's friend died that night. My boyfriend didn't find out until the next day.
So it is a very bitter sweet day. Obviously happy that we met, but there is always that tinge of sadness to the day aswell. I did not know the guy at all, he was my boyfriend's friend who my boyfriend had actually been out with just a few hours before he met me. It's a weird kind of feeling when I think about it.
I remember getting the text the next day from my now boyfriend. I was shocked, and wasn't sure how to react or comfort someone who I had essentially just met the day before. We met up that evening and chatted for hours. It wasn't one of his really close friends, but was a person he had been friendly with since school, and they had been in the pub that day together, so he was obviously in shock and very upset.
My boyfriend looks at in a way that on that night his friend's life ended, but that our relationship began. The end of one which was heartbreaking, was also the start of something good and new.
I suppose that's one way to look at it, but we still don't really celebrate anniversaries. Might just have a nice meal at home, no cards or anything.
I prefer to just celebrate birthday's, valentines, and Christmas.

Do you mind me asking why you prefer to celebrate valentines over your anniversary? Though I do understand that circumstances that you mention would affect that.

5 years on January 13th for my boyfriend and I. First day that we kissed and he asked me to be his girlfriend. Back when we were just naive little 15 year olds! He still notes the date way more than I would. He'll mention something every so often on the 13th of the month. Think he remembers other dates that I don't as well.
The only other date I remember is the day we first officially talked which was November 17th, though that anniversary is dedicated to the first time I saw My Chemical Romance a year later! We sort of met a few days/weeks before that as we were in a joint school musical. We said I love you about 6 months into the relationship.

Scarinae · 06-11-2011 2:33pm

We count the day we first kissed, as that was the start of everything... We weren't on a date, it just happened. Although thinking about it now, we count the 7th as our anniversary but really it should be the 8th cos it was in the early hours of the morning... I suppose I think of it as the 7th because I hadn't gone to bed yet.

We didn't go on a 'date' until later in the week. I still remember the excitement the first time he referred to me as his girlfriend.

He started the anniversary thing... A month after we got together, he brought a rose into college for me. We just mark the yearly date now though, but unfortunately I wasn't able to see him on our 3rd or 4th anniversaries due to the distance thing.

spurious · 06-11-2011 2:42pm

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

Just realised that our anniversary is April Fools Day! Our relationship is just a wind up! Heh heh.

Another April 1st anniversary here. (2010)

x Purple Pawprints x · 06-11-2011 6:40pm

CathyMoran wrote: »

I feel the same about my husband...it is as if a switch went on when I met him

I feel that way about my bf too and we're not together a year yet.

psycho-hope · 07-11-2011 2:01am

we go by the date we first met in person, we met on a dating site, so had know each other for a while before that, like not really a celebration our anniversary is kinda bitter sweet for my bf as its the same date his first serious girlfriend died 4 years before we met.

LegacyUser · 11-11-2011 11:32am

XxMCRxBabyxX wrote: »

Do you mind me asking why you prefer to celebrate valentines over your anniversary? Though I do understand that circumstances that you mention would affect that.

5 years on January 13th for my boyfriend and I. First day that we kissed and he asked me to be his girlfriend. Back when we were just naive little 15 year olds! He still notes the date way more than I would. He'll mention something every so often on the 13th of the month. Think he remembers other dates that I don't as well.
The only other date I remember is the day we first officially talked which was November 17th, though that anniversary is dedicated to the first time I saw My Chemical Romance a year later! We sort of met a few days/weeks before that as we were in a joint school musical. We said I love you about 6 months into the relationship.

Well I suppose "celebrating" Valentines day was maybe a bit of an exaggeration on my part.
We don't really do a huge lot for Valentines day either, it's no big deal really. We do always get each other a Valentine's card though, which we don't with the anniversary, or we might get each other some small cute little trinket, nothing extravagant or anything.
Birthday's we make the biggest deal of, and we both go all out to spoil each other on these days, alot of the time they might not be objects but actually going away somewhere for a few days, or else doing some type of adventure activity that we wouldn't usually do often.
Christmas will be very thoughtful gifts of things that we both know the other really wanted for ages, or would have a huge interest in. Christmas gifts tend to be objects.
Valentines is usually just a card, and maybe a fillet steak steak for dinner! :-)

XxMCRxBabyxX · 11-11-2011 7:07pm

not really a celebration for us wrote: »

XxMCRxBabyxX wrote: »

Do you mind me asking why you prefer to celebrate valentines over your anniversary? Though I do understand that circumstances that you mention would affect that.

5 years on January 13th for my boyfriend and I. First day that we kissed and he asked me to be his girlfriend. Back when we were just naive little 15 year olds! He still notes the date way more than I would. He'll mention something every so often on the 13th of the month. Think he remembers other dates that I don't as well.
The only other date I remember is the day we first officially talked which was November 17th, though that anniversary is dedicated to the first time I saw My Chemical Romance a year later! We sort of met a few days/weeks before that as we were in a joint school musical. We said I love you about 6 months into the relationship.

Well I suppose "celebrating" Valentines day was maybe a bit of an exaggeration on my part.
We don't really do a huge lot for Valentines day either, it's no big deal really. We do always get each other a Valentine's card though, which we don't with the anniversary, or we might get each other some small cute little trinket, nothing extravagant or anything.
Birthday's we make the biggest deal of, and we both go all out to spoil each other on these days, alot of the time they might not be objects but actually going away somewhere for a few days, or else doing some type of adventure activity that we wouldn't usually do often.
Christmas will be very thoughtful gifts of things that we both know the other really wanted for ages, or would have a huge interest in. Christmas gifts tend to be objects.
Valentines is usually just a card, and maybe a fillet steak steak for dinner! :-)

Fair enough! Was just curious I suppose! :-)
Valentines doesn't really mean a huge amount to me personally (though again I think my boyfriend takes it more seriously) so I was interested in another view
You guys sounds like great present givers! :-)

Lorrs33 · 14-11-2011 4:28am

My boyfriend and I never officially dated because we've known each other since we were kids. I marked our anniversary on the day of our first kiss. But I have a friend who marked his anniversary with his girlfriend (same day as mine actually!) as the day he first asked her out. Each to their own, I suppose.

how do you know the date

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